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May 27th, 2017
What if she has a kid?
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Firewater

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I  know this may sound pretty petty, and I should be a bigger man than this, but believe me when I say I have the woman's best interests in mind.  I met this girl a few weeks ago.  You might've read my post about my "first" number close.  Talked to the girl 2 minutes in the bar, got the number, called her later.  Texted back and forth, met up on a weekend, makeout int he club, it's good.  Anyway she invites me over for dinner tonight, but I was busy at the moment.  While time didn't allow it to happen it did get me in my head.  It got me thinking, I know she has a boy, and that's cool, but I don't want to hook up with this girl and have her get led on.  I'd like to play it the same as I always do but I really would feel like shit if I "just got what I wanted" and she was crushed because she's looking for something more personal and intimate.

I'm only in my mid 20's so I'm not really looking to get tied down.  What SHOULD I be doing in this situation as far as how I should think.  I know how I should act, and that is like myself.  But I don't want myself to end up hooking up with this girl and breaking her heart.  The expression "don't shit where you eat" also comes into mind as she is a mutual friend of my landlord and she knows people around town.  I just don't want it getting ugly...



So stuck in my head....


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Most of them just look like silly retards having a fun time -- which strangely, is ultimately what girls are attracted to.

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Caligula

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 Hah, make sure you have your place stocked up to handle kids while you bang his/her mother.



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Vic Sage

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Firewater wrote:


I'm only in my mid 20's so I'm not really looking to get tied down.  What SHOULD I be doing in this situation as far as how I should think.  I know how I should act, and that is like myself.  But I don't want myself to end up hooking up with this girl and breaking her heart.  The expression "don't shit where you eat" also comes into mind as she is a mutual friend of my landlord and she knows people around town.  I just don't want it getting ugly...
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Firewater

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Vic Sage wrote:

Firewater wrote:


I'm only in my mid 20's so I'm not really looking to get tied down.  What SHOULD I be doing in this situation as far as how I should think.  I know how I should act, and that is like myself.  But I don't want myself to end up hooking up with this girl and breaking her heart.  The expression "don't shit where you eat" also comes into mind as she is a mutual friend of my landlord and she knows people around town.  I just don't want it getting ugly...
Say this to her
Thank you.

Now that I think about it, I've said something similar to a girl, without a kid, and then she fucked my brains out.  So.  I'm going with that policy of mine: laying all my cards out on the table.
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Most of them just look like silly retards having a fun time -- which strangely, is ultimately what girls are attracted to.

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DonovanVC

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 think it dpeends on who you are (and where you are in life hehe), who she is, how old she is, and how old the kid is. I had a buddy who also hooked up with a girl who had a kid. He's a business man/baller type guy though he is only in his mid twenties. She worked at a coffee shop was really young  (21) and had a 3 year old.

Of course he hooked up with her, but she never expected him to really interact with the kid, probably because all of them were all so young. When things started to get "serious", all she asked was that he take care of HER, and nto the kid, as the kid's care was her responsiblity, until they got to some point in the relationship that he felt like it was time to step in too.

So yeah man if your girl is in her twenties, and your a young guy yourself, I'm sure ALL she is expecting is that you do what normal guys do with normal twenty something chicks. Have fun and hook up.
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crusher~

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Haha, first, you know she puts out, or, has at least once.

Second, you're worried about leading her on etc. Did it ever cross your mind that with the responsibilities of being a mother etc., that she just wants someone to fuck and then to go away until the next time she calls? Read this for another perspective http://www.rsdnation.com/node/93155

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Firewater

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Tom! wrote:
You don't have to be involved with the kid, just do your sexy duty with the girl. It's only an issue if she thinks that you want a relationship, and I'm speaking from personal experience on this.

Single moms like to get laid too.
Yeah that's the thing, I don't want her to think I want a relationship.
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Most of them just look like silly retards having a fun time -- which strangely, is ultimately what girls are attracted to.

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Vic Sage

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Firewater wrote:

Tom! wrote:
You don't have to be involved with the kid, just do your sexy duty with the girl. It's only an issue if she thinks that you want a relationship, and I'm speaking from personal experience on this.

Single moms like to get laid too.
Yeah that's the thing, I don't want her to think I want a relationship.
You have your intention which is to fuck her, and you've also got this stuff in your head making you see her as subtly but fundamentally "different" from other women b/c she has the kid.

Like Tom! says, just do your sexy duty, but if you don't address the stuff in your head, you're gonna hold onto that energy inside your body and its gonna fuck you up and your subcommunications will be full of weird vibes and shit.  Basically, you'll feel "a little weird" and it may or may not be enough to throw you off your game.  The quickest and most efficient way is just to communicate this shit in your head to her -- the words don't matter to chicks b/c they're not listening to what you say, they're listening to how you feel.  Once you get it out and feel liberated again (like you don't have that monkey on your back trying to feed you bad dates), then she in turn feels liberated and free and you can proceed to, as we like to say, "Fuck the shit so far up her ass she's going to taste yesterday's breakfast."
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