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December 7th, 2016
Kill Mental Masturbation And Learn The Basics Step By Step
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Zappa

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I want to point out that in the whole article whenever I say "they", "them", "these people" or something similar I ALSO AND MAYBE EVEN FOREMOST TALK ABOUT MYSELF, because at some point or another I was there myself. It's kind of a self-examination article.

Furthermore, consider that English is my second language. If you have questions to clarify (or you just want to correct my English), fire away.

I think a lot (very likely the vast majority) of people on these pick-up forums are not familiar with the concept of taking consistent action (or even action at all). I mean they're born and raised in families and communities which don't promote and support to think outside of the box and really take consistent action based on that. As for me personally that was the case in my family and community. Therefore I became a lot like "them". I'm fine with that because I now know that I can work myself up to the most important mentality of consistent action. The road is hard, time consuming and painful. What's cool about that is that I can be sure that only few people (compared to the quantity of people living on this planet AND even the quantity of people entering the PU community) will achieve what I'm about to achieve. For some weird human psychological reason this fact makes the whole thing more enjoyable (call this the EGO, hate on me and read your fucking Eckhard Tolle ten times a day - while I am out in the field and REALLY grow). More girls for me.

I think lots of principles taught by RSD are very confusing to newbies. That doesn't make them "wrong" or even "not practically applicable". Fact is that they are confusing to them and trigger some sort of mental masturbation buttons in their heads which often leads to annoying KJing on their part.

OK, you might ask, but what's so wrong with these principles being confusing at first? If people would just go out and practice in the field they would figure this stuff out and find that these principles in fact might not be so confusing at all.

Answer: Absolutely right. But, consider this: Lets say I'm new to the PU community and I find RSD. Now I read a lot about stuff like "I don't need to game, I am the game", "girls can like me just for me", "being good with girls is not something I do, it's something I am", "whatever I feel she feels" and so on. Then I read all these motivational posts from other guys (guys who had an epiphany or some other breakthrough in their development which all correlate with RSDs core principles). This is earthshattering stuff for me. I'm walking on clouds now. This shit was all in my head. Lalala..... wonderland.

But now, what seems to happen to a lot of guys is that they develop an ego around the fact that they now know so much and all their chode friends don't. They start to think that they are some kind of superior to other people. That they see the matrix now... These guys live in lala mental headfuck land for too long. Then they might even do some approaches and get rejected hardcore, or not even hardcore, but they realize that approaching and "being oneself" is actually not so pleasent as they imagined it in their heads.

Hmmm... so confusing. RSD says I just have to feel good and the girl will too. RSD says there is no reason to be unhappy, self-esteem is a default state. RSD says I can open with "I like salad".
Hmm.. but I don't feel good, my self-esteem is a complete mess and when I tried to open this girl with "I like salad" she looked at me as if I was weird and I felt like shit. OK, I have to read the power of now again. OK, I have to read some more articles that might explain what I don't understand (subconscious mind thinks: magic pill, yum yum yum). Something is wrong with me. All these other people on the forum seem to make it happen but I'm a complete failure. AA deluxe, self-hate deluxe, KJing deluxe (wanting approval for "my" new beliefes), so on and so forth...

Now, I wanna stress that this is a huge generalization. But I've experienced this in myself and from most posts that I read when I'm on RSDNation I get the vibe that other people go through this too. The mindfuck is that this is easy to understand logically, but very hard to overcome practically. I found the way for myself and by writing about my experience I want to encourage others to find their way out of this mental mess and take motherfucking action. For the most part it's a reminder for myself, though.


Here we go:
Principles are very vague in terms of practical applicability. Especially for newbies. So, what I want to encourage you to do is to forget them. Just don't think about them.

PU is a SKILL. Once you've mastered the different parts you can give the whole pick-up your personal note - call it spirituality if you want, call it being not doing if you want. But the skill is crucial, that's a fact. The skill actually comes motherfucking FIRST!

What does the skill consist of? -voice projection, eye contact, bodylanguage, dominance, kino, humour, closing, attraction techniques, phone game, text game, day2 game, snl game, logistics, etc. - not necessarily in that order.

The point is, you go out and work on ONE skillset at a time. You don't care about the response you get from the girl. You go out and i.e. you work only on your voice. You talk loud, clearly and slowly. That's all you focus on. Yes it is uncomfortable for you, yes other people might hear what you say, ...scary.
Then, one week or two weeks later, you start to give more intense eye contact. That's all. You don't care about the response (in fact you will still care about the response, but with time you care less and that ironically will get you better responses).

You go out and focus on doing the things that are outside your comfort zone. But not all at once. Step by step. Don't forget this: STEP BY STEP! There is no room for impatience. You need all your energy to learn the skill.

Afraid of going out and entering a club on your own? Go and do it. Make this your ONLY goal for two weeks. You don't have to talk to anyone. Just go there and stay for an hour.
Afraid of asking for a number? Make your ONLY goal to open girls and ask for their number. If you've done this you achieved your criterion for success. You are allowed to go home now and jerk off.
Afraid of giving IOIs? Make it your only goal to give IOIs to the girls you talk to when you go out.

You get the point. In fact you've read about this stuff a million of times, but you blended it out of your focus, because it's so much more "nice" to hear things like "you are enough", "girls can like you just for you" and picture yourself being so super cool and smooth with the hottest peace of meat on the planet. You mind loves this shit; addicted to mental masturbation.

You have to accept that you have to put lots of real hard work into that stuff. Only through that will you have days in between which just seem to flow without effort.

Two important quotes from the tactical manual:
-"This is a skill. Put aside all your ideals and fears. First get the knowledge, and then develop it through practice and repetition. Get comfortable interacting & attracting so it becomes who you are; this is the only way to congruently project a non-scarcity mentality. Only through massive repetition of social interaction can you cultivate a noticeably improved level of social intelligence."
-"How to develop [inner game]? It's best to start with your outer game. Experience breeds competence, which in turn breeds confidence."

In that sense, get off of your ass. Take consistent action and use your head. Only you can fix yourself. Nobody really cares whether you bang hotties or not. I don't. I only care about whether "I" bang hotties or not.

Zappa
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Firewater

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Zappa wrote:

Two important quotes from the tactical manual:
-"This is a skill. Put aside all your ideals and fears. First get the knowledge, and then develop it through practice and repetition. Get comfortable interacting & attracting so it becomes who you are; this is the only way to congruently project a non-scarcity mentality. Only through massive repetition of social interaction can you cultivate a noticeably improved level of social intelligence."
-"How to develop [inner game]? It's best to start with your outer game. Experience breeds competence, which in turn breeds confidence."

In that sense, get off of your ass. Take consistent action and use your head. Only you can fix yourself. Nobody really cares whether you bang hotties or not. I don't. I only care about whether "I" bang hotties or not.

Zappa
Best part of the post right here.

Excellence is not a gift given, but a skill perfected.

I look at field reports, other's posts, to identify my own weak points.  I don't need someone else setting a bar for me to jump over, I can do that myself.  This board and this community is a place to clear up some bullshit you might be struggling with.  Not a fucking pissing match.
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Tyler wrote:


Most of them just look like silly retards having a fun time -- which strangely, is ultimately what girls are attracted to.

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The Duck ✘

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This is exactly why I'm signing up for a Bootcamp with Brad

I want the mental clutter to stop and be replaced by hard work..

At this point in my life, I enjoy hard work in every other aspect of my life - Workout, school, work etc.

This is one area where I'm finally realizing that it's time to stop the reading, stop the thinking, pick up my sleeves and go to work.

Reports will hold me accountable for my words..

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Pav

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Thanks a lot for atriculating this man.
Last week I've been stressed as hell, because my mind was on everything BUT action. The result I got was that I've fucked myself over, twice.
Not good.

Read this stuff, it really clarifies a lot for guys who think, a lot.

Surrender to action, have fun, the rest will fix itself automatically.

/ Pav
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      I'll admit I do view myself as superior to chodes but I don't think there's anything wrong with that mentality. I actually get results; and while I still have areas I need to work on, At least I am actively doing something to improve myself. I can see newbies getting caught up in the " I am the game" talk. But when I stumbled upon the new natural-style RSD, I already had reference material from my "pure outer game days". Not being a validation has changed my whole approach to life, not just my game. I must say though, I accredit my improvement equally to my mentality changes and actually going out and gaining references.

You can't grow in one area without applying it to the other.
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Thanks for posting this. It's nice to have a simple clearcut format to go about improving.  Just going out will give you more reference experiences and help you get better as long as you're taking some action, but I think focusing on individual parts of your game at a time would build skills much faster. 
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 I used to (and still do) procrastinate a lot. I think I do this because there are some areas in my life that need attention AS MUCH as pick up do. Must fix it. It will improve my self esteem.
Nice article.
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This post is exactly what I need.

Trust the process (:
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yeah dude very good post....
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Zappa

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Getupa wrote:
I used to (and still do) procrastinate a lot. I think I do this because there are some areas in my life that need attention AS MUCH as pick up do. Must fix it. It will improve my self esteem.
Nice article.
i agree.

i work on my health at the moment. eat healthy food. join a boxing club; pretty hard training. this will give me the necessary energy to push through procrastination.
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A skill is something that you do.
Being attractive, even after the first encounter, is something that you are.



Okay, that again is the RSD mental masturbation stuff that you criticise. BUT, it's the one thing that really makes you natural.

Of course, you have to learn, and to practice. You have to learn to unlearn all the bullshit that covers up what you already are. And that's not RSD, that my very personal experience. The moment I forget all that what holds me back (concerning social interactions and women), I AM what I always wish to be. But only in these moments.
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