30 dc part deux. Yea. One 30 day challenege ended and I wasn't satisfied with that so Ima do em back to back. Some might call me crazy...and they might be right.
Last night I killed it. Party mode motherfuckers. Just party and interact with people as people. Be real. I feel like the mentality of bouncing as soon as you realize a girl won't be down or logisitics won't work out just leads yourself to approaching the next girl wanting something since you were presumably having a perfectly pleasant interaction with the previous girl. It all builds.
And some nights I'm out alone but I've been hittin it hard with my roommate lately
Sweet party method. Sometimes is really helps to change up/reset the mentality.
For sure man. And its pretty awesome because when you're only focused on having fun and your party while still being intentful towards girls (which will eventually come naturally since you're a man and she's a woman) then you can't really have bad nights because you're going to be having fun either way. A few nights last week I went out and got attached to an outcome and I ended up being miserable because of it.
Yah my laptop broke so there's a serious hiatus on field reports now, which I've actually been itching to write again. Thoughts on my mind and new focuses are being chill, centered, and really drawing from your masculine polarity. My roomate the other night pulled a cutie just leaning up against a pool table. Within minutes she was begging him to make out with her. You need to make it a chase for the girl. Too often I feel like I try to go for the makeout too early and then its no fun because it was easy and there's no chase or challenge to the interaction for her.
I think part of this comes from having a painful past of girls rejecting you and whatnot, and so you go out and you want all these girls to give you validation and a bit of sexuality because it makes you feel better, but you end up doing it at the expense of what actually works for taking a girl home and sleeping with her.
Furthermore I can be bouncing around and laughing and dancing and shit and its fun for me and the girls are then obviously interested, but its not playing off a masculine polarity but rather more a feminine one. Versus if you're just standing and chilling but still feeling good and not in your head, that's when you feel so much more in the zone to allow a girl to be in her feminine essence and play around with that and go down on you or whatever.
The tricky part of it is to remain chill like that and hold your state while in the absence of a lot of obvious external validation which you can generate a lot more easily by being more of a social butterfly. But that's just something to work towards.
It's like when Tyler said that self-development is all about creating a new you, and then killing that you, and then creating a new you, and then killing that you, over and over again. Because I definitely did work to become the fun party type guy, but I dont think that's the guy who gets laid as much. We'll see though.
Whatup whatup whatup. Rockin it out hard lately. I was gonna cut my challenge off this past Saturday but then come sunday night I just couldn't go through with it since it was something I said I would do and I had it all marked out on my calender and everything, so I'm finishing it up and that'll be 60 days in a row a week from this coming Saturday. Gonna keep hitting it 5 days a week after that and then I'm all set to go with my Tyler bootcamp in Austin come May 17th. Happy with my current and future perservearnce with this.
Somewhat moved on from the fabled party method as I was kind of alluding to in my last post. I think it can be good for a lot of external validation and whatnot, but it's not being the chill relaxed cool guy and its dissociating you from your masculine polarity.
Just been going out and being chill. Last thurs I went to cowboy lounge solo and just chilled wherever I was, just standing or leaning against a barrel/post, and pulled girls in as they passed. I had 3 failed pulls that night, but just the fact that I had 3 potential pulls is pretty cool.
The next night I went to a show with some coworkers and just chilled dancing and talking to girls who may have come by. After the show was over I started to walk towards the back and this girl who I hadn't talked to at all just opened her arms up to embrace me. Tried to pull her but it ended up not going down.
I feel like often we can waste our time with all this overgaming bullshit because it looks cool and it looks like you're being successful and you're getting blatant external validation, but it is a massive expenditure of energy, and this is something the girls know: if you're putting in a lot of energy then you're trying for something, you're wanting something. Not to mention that in just being more chill I've been a lot more chill and had much less need for validation throughout my days. I haven't had so much need to ping off people but rather am comfortable with myself as I am.
I dunno, def don't want to make this a method or make an identity out of what I'm doing, I'm just trying new things and then making observations about them.
Had a day 2 tonight and this girl came over and jerked me off. Not really too physically attractive, which doesn't bother me as much as the fat girl syndrome where the girl just gets all insecure and annoying. She couldn't leave quick enough. It had been a while since I'd hooked up with a chick so I kind of felt that like I wanted to do it just because I needed to, but really all that it left me with is a gross feeling in my body and a wondering why I still put myself through experiences with girls like this. I dunno, I figure it'll all work itself out eventually.
Alright, been out every night since bootcamp, and it's been fucking awesome. Just a combiantion of so many things that I learned really hammered the point home of being free from outcome, and I've done a really good job of doing that, and just going out and having fucking fun.
Everything that you do needs to be for your own enjoyment. Once you start doing something for the girl instead of you is when you stop having fun and also lose the girl.
Been getting mad phone numbers, I think 2 each day for the past 3 days. And yes, phone numbers are phone numbers, but you're definitely not going to pull every girl that you talk to, and often a phone number is the only option. A bunch of these numbers have come from daytime too, and it's just fucking awesome to be approaching in the daytime.
I'm definitely the kind of guy girls would want to talk to, so that combined with having the balls to approach in the day is instant arousal. Then from there just use the interaction as a platform to express yourself through. To express yourself through the art of picking up chicks. Lol kinda cheesy, but I like it.
Anyways, just following my intention on everything and doing everything for my own enjoyment, i.e. freedom from outcome, is EXTREMELY liberating and it makes this shit incredibly fun. Fuck yea.