THE FORUMS

March 26th, 2017
Matt281
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YBP

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Join Date: 12/17/2012 | Posts: 188

Damn, wtf? You, Cat, Dave, and Sooners have some of the sickest journals in the FR section. Almost unreal how you have such a solid crew to hang out and fuck shit up with so frequently.
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SexyMachine

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Yeah, it kind of becomes a big girly swirl, and a single interaction with a girl is not that importand or is it memorable.

Also, I never judge how good some dude is by reading field reports.  Actions speak louder than words, so I have to see the dudes out in the field approaching and taking action.  I've seen way too many dudes that have good field reports but when they're actually out in the field, they're terrified to approach and too scared to take any action and spend all night just hoping that girls will be nice to them or some bullshit like that.  I've been there, done that bullshit.

Pimpin aint easy.

Matt281 wrote:
Friday

It's amazing to me what a change in mindset I've had. Early in this journal I remembered entire conversations. Now I have trouble even remembering what happened a few nights ago.

One thing I've thought while reading through other FRs here is that you can basically tell how good someone in by what they focus on in their field reports.

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@Cat - nah dude that's why I brought it up. It doesn't even cross my mind to care about that stuff. Hope you got that blonde hottie; she wanted it ;)

@YBP - Thanks man. I don't know how we got so lucky with the crew. Seattle isn't really where you'd expect that to happen lol.

@Sexy - Agreed. I've just noticed a trend in mindset/progress when reading other peoples stuff. It's like analyzing individual interactions -> analysing the theme of the night and sticking points -> emphasis on lays -> stories.

Cheers dudes. I'll put up Sat when I get a chance.
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Yo Matt

I just wanted to thank you.

I've been reading your journal for some time now, and, fuck... Keep going :D

Just reading your posts makes me want to go out and crush it.
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Thanks man. I love it when other guys get inspired by this stuff -- or get anything out of it for that matter. I still can't believe more people don't read the field reports forum. I mean, you literally have guys who have been out and approached thousands and thousands of girls writting about each and every experience... and most people are spending their time on the main forum circle jerking.

Good luck with your own journey dude.

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Saturday

Meet up with Cat and Big, walk to the bar next to Cat's place and hit up the first hotties I see.

Mine is a cute burnette girl with darker skin, brown eyes and a somewhat exotic look. Big wings the blonde friend.

We hit it off a bit and Cat takes over for big. It's really like Tyler used to say about him and Julien hitting it up together -- the guy who is even 1% more out of his head will always get the girl. I think in this case Cat is like 100% more unstiffled than either of us lol.

Big joins my convo which kind of breaks our bubble. Cat is busy proposing to his girl (successfully it seems).

Eventually I get her 1 on 1 again and we bounce them to another bar. I buy her a drink, then she buys me one. We have a good, chill, interesting vibe kind of like what you'd expect early on in a good date, but not the raw fucking crazy attraction that Cat has with his girl.

We head downstairs and I'm still in my head. Cat is on fire. On some level, the contrast between our two interactions is a bigger problem for me than anything. It's like my girl is like "well this is good but LOOK AT THAT. THAT'S WHAT I WANT".

So I start to lose it, and I swap numbers with her and leave about 10 minutes later.

Lesson: STEP THE FUCK UP OR LOSE IT :))

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I find some other guys and hit it up some more. I think. I have no recollection of this.

The next thing I remember is that we're at another crowded bar and Cat is back with me. He tells me he's gonna throw me in, and I see a STUNNER in the middle of her group of like 4 girlfriends.

I walk right up in that shit and kill it. Her friends disapear instantly. Strong eye contact. Funny. Smooth. Icy.

One big thing I have to remember is that the most reliable thing for pumping my own state is taking actions that are right on the edge of my comfort zone. My game lights up like you wake up when you jump into cold water. I need to remember this when I'm feeling out of it and looking for easy ones to validate me and get me talking.

Anyway, she has a boyfriend who she lives with. Cat comes in right as I find this out and says we look like we're in love.

We all talk for another minute or so and then I let her go. I pull her in, tell her it was nice to meet her and "break up with your boyfriend soon :)"

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So now I turn around, walk like 10 paces, and grab a cute redheaded girl walking by.

Boom. In like sin.

I dominate it for a minute, then she says her friends have to approve of me. I turn to them, ask them if they approve and they love me.

Back on my girl. I keep killing it and vomitting self amusing BS which I don't really remember. I see the stunner who I approached right before looking over at me longingly. What's crazy even though most hot girls have experienced being swept off their feet, most girls just don't realize that guys who can do that can do it with just about ANYONE. Girls who fall head over heals for you often don't conciously realize that what just happened can be replicated.

10 minutes later we go back to her group (big ~10 person mixed set at a table) and she sits on my lap. I tell her how guys with girlfriends (like the ones at the table) look so docile. Like as soon as they have a girl, they stop being fun and just sit there.

I chat with her friends a little and then I can hear them a few minutes later telling her she should go home with me. They all go to the bathroom to talk and I chat with some of the other single guys. Cool dudes actually.

They come back and obviously haven't reached a verdict. The friend tells me something like she really likes me but I should take her on a date.

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My translation: get her away from her friends, push harder, take her home now.

So I tell her we're just gonna go to another bar to grab a drink and we'll meet up with them after. So I pull outside and wallslam makeout with her on the street. Then I pull her back to a bar near Cat's house. We build comfort till closing, I tell her I need to show her a youtube video (this excuse to pull is becoming funnier since everyone has smart phones) and walk her to my car.

We get back and she starts acting a bit weird.

I get her into bed, ask her if she wants pajamas (she'll only take the top) and inform her that it's unhealthy to sleep with a bra on (lol I love this).

I feel her up a bit but don't get very far. She has "shut down" LMR which is the hardest to deal with. It's much easier when they're making out with you and letting you finger them, but fucking hard when they just turn over and shut down.

Anyway, I try like 3 more times throughout the night. No luck :(

LMR seems to be somewhat of a sticking point lately hahaha. Guess it could be worse :)

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1. Pumping my own state is all about doing things far outside my comfort zone, not number of sets or validation.

2. Pulling is all about convenience. Just take them one step at a time until it's inconvenient not to come with you.

3. Any tips on shut down LMR? I think this is something I just have to handle earlier on.

Monday was sick too. Will write that up soon too. Trying to get out 4 nights a week again.

Cheers
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roadrally

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Interesting you should ask about lmr.
I know the main forum is full of trash but every once in a while you find a good nugget.
Just read this cool post about lmr today and I found it and linked it for you

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/308673/forum
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"We aren't having sex tonight"

"I can't believe I met someone so fucking cool in such a random way" 

"I think you're beautiful and I'm a man so don't hate me for it" (grab grab grab).

"Sweetie... we haven't even been kissing and I'm hard.. its like just your smell has me going crazy.. I dunno.."

"Don't look at it"

"This is crazy, I feel like I've known you for a long time, I'm excited to go out with you again, I want to go to tea (whatever) next week and steal puppies from the park and make fun of hobos, it will be romantic"

Sounds like she was a "no no matter what" girl so IDK how helpful this is.  Was she into the makeouts majorly?  I would just keep shit super super chilled out and have all the verbals point to like chode boyfriend game with your hard dick rubbing against her stomach, more or less.  

Jelly of Monday, forced contractions BLAH
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iznogold

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Can you expand a little on the mindset/progress thing?
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@Cat - nah dude that's why I brought it up. It doesn't even cross my mind to care about that stuff. Hope you got that blonde hottie; she wanted it ;)

@YBP - Thanks man. I don't know how we got so lucky with the crew. Seattle isn't really where you'd expect that to happen lol.

@Sexy - Agreed. I've just noticed a trend in mindset/progress when reading other peoples stuff. It's like analyzing individual interactions -> analysing the theme of the night and sticking points -> emphasis on lays -> stories.

Cheers dudes. I'll put up Sat when I get a chance.
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You might be right. Still, like Julien said, it's better to have the personal responsibility mindset. And look at the situation as "my game wasn't good enough to handle that situation". So then you make your brain focus on learning about your weaknesses and how you can overcome essentially meaningless obstacles. Agree? :)

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I chase down some hottie on the street. Goes well, but I think I needed Big to leave us 1 on 1 here. Sometimes we'll "double team" girls (which is awesome and something I want to talk about) but in this case it's more of an obstacle. I don't get the number, think I would have if it was just me.

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@roadrally - Thanks dude. That guy's legit :)

@Cat - I definitely need to try some of this more in general (not just with LMR). I think I've taken the non-neediness a bit too far -- It's rare I'll tell girls "I like you so much" or "I really feel like we have a connection" or whatever. I think that's just the result of me trying extra hard to get away from chode game earlier on, or maybe being afraid of rejection. That, and I often DON'T feel like that lol. It's often, "well, you're cute and cool enough that I want to have sex with you", not "wow I really like you".

But yeah, I do think this is a big reason I get LMR. Thanks.

@iznogold - I don't really think it's something that would be helpful in advance. It's just that as the simple stuff becomes automatic, and many parts of game become standard in your interactions, you start to focus on the stuff that stands out. Take a novice vs professional basketball player's thought process: to the novice, things like hand position while shooting, who to mark, and how do do a layup are paramount (and it makes sense for him to focus on those things). But for a professional, it's about the bigger picture of the game, or the tiny details that the novice would be wasting his time getting wrapped up in too early. Make sense?

@Dave - Oh yeah, totally agree. Nevertheless, that's not to say don't be conscious of how your wingmanship can improve :)

Cheers
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