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January 21st, 2017
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dave7- wrote:
Dude this post is pretty epic, my mind is kinda "blown" from this atm.
Cool man. Always happy when other people can get something from this stuff. Hope you're doing well dude.

@tiger0 - ya man, was good to see you.

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GOALS:

Today wraps the goals for the last 6 months. As it turns out, I failed on 3 of the 4, but I learned a lot, made a lot of progress, and I'm currently extremely happy with where I'm at despite this.
Here's how they panned out.

Goals from the last 6 months:

1. Get a job

Killing it. Considering my field, I have the best job available in my state and have the potential to make an upper-middleclass income doing something I'm passionate about. This allowed me to get an amazing apartment downtown, literally 3 blocks from the middle of the best downtown bars. On this front, I'm extremely please with how I've done.

However, this definitely isn't the end goal. One thing I do not have right now is FREEDOM, which is something that is very important to me. I'm happy with where I'm at for the next 2 or 3 years, but at that point it's essential that I create a means to do long term travel.

2. Fuck 2 stunners or one consistently

No dice. I have fucked a lot of girls in the last 6 months, most of which have been hot, and pulled many others where I didn't quite close the deal. But no stunners yet :( I pulled one a month or two ago and got 2 fingers in, but LMR took over.

Although this was near the top of my list priority wise, I'm surprisingly not really that bothered by this. I took action and did just about everything I realistically could to improve in this area, and it shows. I'm very pleased with where I am game-wise, and the personal growth I've experienced through all of this is perhaps more valuable than anything. Nevertheless, I've got to keep pushing my comfort zone and growing.

3. Read 12 books

Only finished 6. No excuses here. For the first few months of work I felt burned out and lost motivation. I also got about halfway through several books that I didn't want to finish. Definitely should have got this done anyway though. Gotta step up more. I also have to stop reading books that suck rather than trying to finish them for the sake of being a completionist.

Books you should read:

1. Atlas Shrugged - 1200 page tome that will make you want to do something with your life.
2. Perfect Health Diet - Sounds gimicky, but it's straight up the best nutrition-related book I've read. And I've read A LOT.
3. Nineball - Not as entertaining as Tucker Max's stuff, but worth reading nevertheless.
4. Wheat Belly - Interesting if you're into health and nutrition
5. Millionaire Fastlane - If you can get past the first half, there's some gems in there.

4. Make $400 passively online

I got up to a little over $300 a month passively in March, then got raped by the google update in April around the same time my job started. My income dropped steadily and I'm making less than $100 now and haven't worked on my websites since my job started. I did learn a lot here though and made some money. The biggest step is just proving to yourself that it can be done. When I start back up with this stuff in the future, I'm going to go with an income model that isn't so heavily dependent on Google or any other exernal source.

WHAT I LEARNED

First of all, shit will always turn out differently than expected. You'll get busy, you'll get side tracked, etc, etc. Some things will be much better than you expected, and others won't quite meet expectations. However, if you put the effort in, things always seem to turn out well.

The biggest change I have to make continuing with this is to make a commitment to the process, regardless of outside influences. Although I'm very happy with the state of things right now, to get where I want to go I'm going to have to make a point to follow through with my goals more than I did these last 6 months.

It's also important to realize that while the process is 100% under my control, the outcome isn't always. I wholeheartedly believe that you eventually get out exactly what you put in, but not necessarily in 6 month increments. What does this mean? I need to be more committed, but also more focused on the process rather than the outcomes. I need to be committed to taking the right action every day, and the rest will come.

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Goals for January 1st, 2013.

1. Sex with a stunner

Well this one's been on the list in some form or another for quite a while now. Originally I thought it would just eventually fall in my lap or just somehow happen once, but instead -- surprisingly I might add -- it's just been more of a snowball effect leading up to that. In some ways this is a bit frustrating, but what's exciting is based on my experience over the last year, I think that once I become "that guy" it won't just be a fluke, but rather a consistent part of my life. In other words, when it rains, it pours.

How I'm going to do it: go out FOUR nights a week, every motherfucking week for the next 6 months. Including day 2s it should be more like 5. The biggest thing for me to remember here is that I also have to make a point to push myself when I go out. I virtually never have an off night when I a) start approaching early and b) commit to the process rather than deciding to take it easy, which inevitably ends up with me being frustrated. On the flip side, I also have to be focused on other things. It's hard to come from the right frame when you care too much about the outcome.

So yeah,
-100+ nights out in the next 6 months.
-Go Hard
-Start early


2. Gain 10 lbs of muscle while staying at 8% body fat, complete a 44kg Turkish Get-Up.

To be honest, I don't really expect this to have any affect on my results with girls because they really don't care that much. I mostly just want to prove to myself that I can do it. For those of you who don't know what a Turkish Get-Up is, here's a video. It's one of the best functional strength exercises there is; way harder than it looks.



How I'm going to do it: Eat like crazy and workout hard 3x per week. The hardest part of this is going to be eating enough, since I'm going to try to do this while eating as healthy as I can. I'm probably going to do
something like 12 eggs for breakfast, nuts, fruit, vegetables and milk throughout the day and a big piece of meat for dinner. This will probably be the most difficult of the 6 month goals, but I'll get it done.

-Eat like crazy
-Lift hard 3x per week


3. Finish 12 Good Books

Pretty much the same as the last 6 months, but I'm not going to continue reading a shitty book for the sake of completing one. I think reading good books is one of the best things anyone can do with their time, but I often find myself wasting time instead. When you think about it, when you read a good book, you're getting a lifetime worth of knowledge that someone spent years putting into together for your consumption, all for about $10.

Here are a few I'm definitely going to finish:

-Fountainhead
-My Big Toe Trilogy
-Moby Dick
-Psycho-Cybernetics
-The Smarter Science of Slim

How I'm going to do it: Read 50 pages a day 4 days a week (Sat, Sun, Tue, Wed), and a little bit when I have time on the other days.

4. Start doing Jui-Jitsu again


I absolutely love this stuff. It's incredibly fun and like many martial arts, one of the best vessels for personal development. Tapping out Brother during debrief on Thursday night reminded me of how much I like this stuff.

How I'm going to do it: given that I work evenings, I'm probably going to need to free up Saturdays so that I can do this. Within 6 months that shouldn't be that hard. There's a really good place about 15 minutes from where I work where a bunch of pros train, but if I can't make it work with my schedule I'll find somewhere else.

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The biggest change from the last is months is going to be an absolute commitment to the process. So here we go. I'm off to eat 12 eggs, read 50 pages and try to own this day 3 work with a stunner :))
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So much good shit in here. 

You're gonna look fucking beastly with an extra 10lbs. 
I'm gonna check out Perfect Health Diet.  I know a small amount about nutrition, but I'd like to learn more.
Another book you might want to add to your list is Pimp by Iceberg Slim.  Boskap has it right now, but you can take it when he finishes it.
Fuck ya, 4 days a week!  See you out tonight!
I'm gonna have to try a turkish get up sometime.  Never even heard of it before reading your post.
Stunners. Fuck yes.
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Thanks man. Awesome hitting it up with you tonight.

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Monday

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuckkk!!!!!!

Actually it was a really good night, just missed out on a really good one... I'll explain.

Didn't make it out until like midnight. The only goal of tonight was to GET STARTED RIGHT AWAY... So I get in and open this hot brunette girl. Adjunkie comes out of nowhere and wings her blonde friend. Goes well for me but the blonde friend pulls her away for drinks after a minute or two. I go back in with this girl once or twice but I'm not "on" enough.

Couple bad blowouts actually really get me feeling a lot better.

I open a short black girl in the middle of her 4 friends. Turn's out she's deathly ill and drinking a Corona anyway. She won't look at me and looks like she's about to die. Lol, for some reason I felt better after this one.

Also open some really hot tall girl. I stop her and introduce myself as she's walking by and she pushes past me with this a look of disbelief and digust on her face. I find this funny so it's okay :)

Adjunkie and I have a funny exchange surrounding this hot black girl with a tear drop tatoo. I saw her on saturday with some guys who were threatening to shoot the bouncers at one of the posh lounges downtown.

Me: I want to talk to her I think she's gonna shoot me
Adjunkie: Hot though! :)

Adjunkie does it anyway. What a beast.

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There's actually not that many hot girls compared to how Mondays have been lately. Around 1:15 Adjunkie and I decide to bounce around a little. We go to another bar and walk down to the underground area and I see this FUCKING HOT brunette girl sitting with two guys. I stare her down as we walk past and she taps me. I ask her if the guy she's with is her boyfriend, she says no and that she'll meet me at the bar in a minute.

Amazing what shit happens if you just go out enough.

5 minutes later her two guy friends are pulling her out of the bar. I run over and grab her hand and tell her to say her number in my ear. Adjunkie tries to distract the two guys. I don't have nearly enough time to get anything out of her before she gets yanked away.

We go back to the first bar right before lights on. I turn around and leave a few miutes later, walk outside and see the super hot brunette girl again.

I run over and grab her hand again and her short angry guy friend is trying to physically push me away. I tell her to tell me her last name and she does, and tells me to find her on facebook.

Get home and can't find her.

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuckkkkkk!!!!!!!!
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LOL.. good seeing you out tonight man
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@matt haha yoo that is awesome, I LOVE LOVE LOVE when crazy shit like that goes down... Okay, also- with shit like that, i find that being VERY firm and even just standing in one place and NOT moving can help a lot. Like stnad where you are and be firm and yell her name, "SARA" then pause and she'll look back and stop in her tracks and then just be like, "Come here, NOW" and just be VERY VERY demanding.

I did this with a girl who was with her bf... granted she still got pulled away but I think that this is a decent way of handling these situations.

Really look forward to keeping track of your journal man. Really cool shit.
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Wish I had seen you out last night man I headed out early, went out to get some reps in.  Missing your face baby.  

I think your goals are solid and your processes are even better.  I like the "start early, follow the gameplan" idea.  Have you experimented with starting your night out later?  Sometimes heading out at 930 where there simply aren't that many girls to approach can fuck with me and get me going way slower than I want to get going.  

Was sick out last night too, fuck me for leaving early, as we took off some five set we stare at hollers at us "ITS MY BIRTHDAY" and this chick is wearing skin tight red dress with a fucking big sexy ass and god, I'm like "why am I leaving this behind" ahhhh!  Sounds like you guys had a blast too man.  

See you soon sexy man, I miss your warm embrace
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 Those black girls be crazy.
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@matt haha yoo that is awesome, I LOVE LOVE LOVE when crazy shit like that goes down... Okay, also- with shit like that, i find that being VERY firm and even just standing in one place and NOT moving can help a lot. Like stnad where you are and be firm and yell her name, "SARA" then pause and she'll look back and stop in her tracks and then just be like, "Come here, NOW" and just be VERY VERY demanding.

I did this with a girl who was with her bf... granted she still got pulled away but I think that this is a decent way of handling these situations.

Really look forward to keeping track of your journal man. Really cool shit.

That stuff works well when there isn't a guy holding onto them, but when she's being pulled away not so much.

Thanks for the comment though man.



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Wish I had seen you out last night man I headed out early, went out to get some reps in.  Missing your face baby.  

I think your goals are solid and your processes are even better.  I like the "start early, follow the gameplan" idea.  Have you experimented with starting your night out later?  Sometimes heading out at 930 where there simply aren't that many girls to approach can fuck with me and get me going way slower than I want to get going.  

Was sick out last night too, fuck me for leaving early, as we took off some five set we stare at hollers at us "ITS MY BIRTHDAY" and this chick is wearing skin tight red dress with a fucking big sexy ass and god, I'm like "why am I leaving this behind" ahhhh!  Sounds like you guys had a blast too man.  

See you soon sexy man, I miss your warm embrace
Yeah man with the "start early" thing I mean start approaching immediately after I get there. I'm all for getting out after 11 these days.

@adjunkie - ditto. lets do it again tonight.

@dave7 - agreed ;)
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Thursday

Funny night. Consider this a guide to how to stay out until 5 am and not get laid :p

I met up with Adjunkie and the rest of the crew at the regular club, hit it up, then head up to the hill at around 1:00. Thursdays have been pretty bad lately. It's surprisingly hard to find hot girls.

Around 2 we end up talking to these 2 girls on the street. The blonde is relatively cute. The other is somewhat hideous. There's some weird hipster guy there too. Adjunkie and Tiger0 leave after a bit and the 4 of us go to a nearby park. The other two sit and talk and the blonde girl and I fuck around on the equipment. I can't seem to slow her down enough to makeout with her. I feel like I'm chasing her around.

This is something I've ran into several times and don't know what to do. I don't particularly like this girl, she's fuckable but not super hot (7 or so) and she's running around wasting my time; aka the situation where there's a decent chance I will get laid if I just hang around but I'm not enjoying myself and she doesn't seem to care much either way. In fact *I* don't care much either way. It really depends on which way you look at it -- is this a learning/plowing experience? or is this a complete fucking waste of my time? Hard to say.

Anyway, I finally stop her on a bench and cant' think of a good transition into a makeout so I just go for it. We makeout for a bit... she does this weird thing where she's trying to tease me with her tongue. It's not as hot as it sounds.

We head back up and meet up with the other two. Her friend -- who is an ugly by the way :) -- puts her on the spot and basically explicitly asks her "are you gonna fuck this guy or can we just go?". And of course, she's not going to go with it in front of the 4 of us. She sort of hesitates like she wants to come with me but is being pressured by her friend being a cunt... sorry, I love women haha, this girl was just a piece of shit.

And yeah, that's that.

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So next thing you know, I'm driving home at 3:00 AM and I get flagged down by these 3 girls. They ask if I'll drive them back home and come smoke with them. One seems cute so I say okay.

/randomadventures

I call Adjunkie to get him to come and wing, and they say they talked to someone with the same name earlier. Turns out Tiger0 and Adjunkie hit them up earlier lol. Adjunkie's already at home though and I don't want to drag him out since the friends aren't hot.

As we're walking back to their place the fat one and the cute one drop behind us a bit and I can hear them wispering about me. Sounds like the cute one likes me and the fat one is egging her on... or it could just be my ego :P

We get back and smoke a little. I mostly just cough and burn my throat. Probably only smoked a dozen times in my life; weed just doesn't really do it for me.

It's about 4:00 by now and we decide to walk to the viewpoint. I walk with the cute girl. She's shy and doesn't seem to have much personality. Nevertheless we talk, get way ahead of the other two and then hit down together for a bit. The viewpoint is pretty cool. We go down below and mess around in the playground.

That's 2 playgrounds after 2 AM in one night. Adventure :)

We get back around 5am. Cute girl walks me to my car.

Me: alright lets do the numbers thing
Her: okay it's ...
*pause*
Me: ... okay we need to get this out of the way too *grab her head for hardcore makeout*

I head home. Probably won't call this girl, but fun night nevertheless.

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1. Like I was saying earlier, I'm trying to sort out when I'm learning/thickening my skin vs when I'm just wasting my time. Like when do you just tell a girl that this is a waste of your time and just leave? Really felt like doing that with the blonde girl a few times. I don't want to "eject" on a possible pull, but when I don't really like her, don't really care, and she's been wishy-washy, I feel like just walking off.

2. I've also been thinking some about getting better at this. Do I just go out and do what I've been doing, be patient, and trust that it will come? Or do I really need to step another level out of my comfort zone, try new shit, and really push myself more? On one hand, I'm enjoying the level I'm at and doing what I'm doing, but on the other hand, if it's not leading to where I want to be, I need to step it up a notch.

Cheers 
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lol 3rd night in a row I've got home at 4:00 or 5:00 am.

Converse and I pulled the last two nights but no dice either time. Definitely getting more consistent with the pulls though... just gotta make sure it's really "on" before you get them back.

Good nights nevertheless. Hitting up hot girls with some awesome friends; what could be better? :)
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