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April 19th, 2018
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Matt281

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Didn't go out this last weekend cause I was home for Thanksgiving. Just wanna jot some stuff down quickly. 

Seeing 3 girls now. It's cool. Believe it or not, despite all the success I've had this is the first time I've really had a CONSISTENT harem with really HOT girls. It's a lot more work than I'd imagined -- but lot's of fun. 

Constantly alternating between them has got me thinking a lot more about what I'm really looking for in a girl too. There's really a lot too it; I'm so glad I got into this game and decided to experience all these things before thinking of settling down. You'd never figure out what to expect or what you really want otherwise. 

Here are my thoughts at the moment:

-The first girl, my girlfriend, is an amazing girl. She's the smartest, funniest, highest self-esteem and lowest maintenance of any girl I've ever fucked. She also really likes sex, is okay with me fucking other girls and is apparently down for a threesome. And she's hot. Our relationship eerily reminds me of what everyone says "made their 50 year marraige work" or "what to look for". It's kind of like we could be best friends -- sometimes like we actually are. But that's the part that's weird; the part that I actually kind of don't like. I never feel unneasy around her. I rarely feel like I want to just rip her clothes off and fuck her (although I do, and sex is pretty good). To be honest, I've just never felt that raw, caveman attraction for her. 

I could fall in love with her, but I could never jack off to her.

-The second girl, my stunner cherish who I've been seeing since hotseat, is almost the opposite. I want to lay in bed with her and fuck her for days on end. She's 21 and she's still probably the hottest girl I've ever been with. The last time she came over, we were making out on the bed after I fucked her the first time (and after 2 glasses of wine) and I just had this really weird feeling come over me. I felt like you suspect they do in movies and romance novels -- just this kind of irrational infatuation type thing. I suppose that's the kind of thing people warn you about giving up what I described above for. But fuck, it feels good. I'd hate to miss out on that.

-The third girl, I guess I don't know well enough yet. She's hot and she likes to be choked. I just got done fucking her about an hour ago. 

So anyway, it's all got me thinking about what I really want. My girlfriend kind of fits the bill for everything I thought I wanted, and most of it I do really want and I'm really happy with it.

But I also want a girl who I jack off too. And I want a girl I can fall for, not because she's cool and it makes sense, but because it just happens.

Cheers
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UtopiaFive

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"I just had this really weird feeling come over me" -- whatcha mean, what kind of feeling?  

And btw that distinction of "really great girl I like hanging out with and also even like having sex with" versus "girl I could jerk off to for hours" is a really interesting distinction.  I understand more that "intimacy" aka just having general interpersonal closeness with a girl is a very nice thing...I think it sounds like you have way more of that with your girlfriend and the others are just like physical and flirty.  Like from what you say I'm imagine, you now know you can talk to her about "anything" (or just about?) whereas the others you probably can't go quite as personal?
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Matt281

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UtopiaFive Wrote:
"I just had this really weird feeling come over me" -- whatcha mean, what kind of feeling?


Just what I said in the next sentence. 

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And btw that distinction of "really great girl I like hanging out with and also even like having sex with" versus "girl I could jerk off to for hours" is a really interesting distinction.  I understand more that "intimacy" aka just having general interpersonal closeness with a girl is a very nice thing...I think it sounds like you have way more of that with your girlfriend and the others are just like physical and flirty.  Like from what you say I'm imagine, you now know you can talk to her about "anything" (or just about?) whereas the others you probably can't go quite as personal?


Yeah man. It's not really about "what I can share". I don't need someone to dump on. It's more just the chemistry we have and how comfortable we are with each other. 

I guess the "girl you really like" vs "could jack off to" sounds like a pretty ridiculous distinction when you spell it out, but it's pretty relevant to me at the moment. 

Either way, it's not that I'm trying to decide between these two girls or anything. I'm happy playing the field right now. It's just making me thinking harder about what I really do want when and if I decide to settle down with someone.

Cheers 

PS- haven't seen you in a while man. You should come out one of these weekends :)
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Ah I see what you're saying there with "chemistry and comfortableness" vs "what you can share."  I guess to me those 2 things are pretty related, maybe that's a nice entryway to a good insight for me.  I guess you're not ever really feeling that you need a sense of "emotional support" from others, or if you do get that or need that you get it in other relationships in your life.  

I was in Canadia last weekend, will be out in NYC this coming weekend.  Then gots 2 more weekends before out down south for a few weeks (louisiana for xmas then maybe hang out with dave in austin on new years woot).  I'm sure I'll be out 1-2 nights in the next few weeks, you're the one who don't go out foo :-D
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Paris Boum Boum

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I can't believe I missed so many entries of your journal. It's like pornhub, but with text. Awesome stuff there man.

I loved your post about keeping the girls around.

I liked the post about doing almost nothing and getting the girls. It's what I'm experiencing with the last girls I SNLd : be ok to waste time and be smart about logistics instead of trying to be interesting and high octane all the time.

Keep it up. 
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Matt281

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^Thanks man. Glad you still stop by every once in a while :)

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Harem management. 

Went out for tacos with my new cherish on Monday and fucked her. I think I'm going to back off a little now and just try to see her about once a week. Any more than that and everything'll just get too messy.

Girlfriend took me out for a $200 dinner on Tuesday. Got a 50 ounce steak. It was amazing. I love everything about this girl... except the sex. It's not that it's bad. It's really good actually. She loves getting fucked and giving head. It's just that... she just doesn't do it for me to the extent some other girls do. It's kinda weird. 

Stunner cherish freaked out again yesterday over txt, then for some reason just came over late that night to get fucked. She didn't even mention the whole freakout/never wanting to see me again thing. She's apparently coming over again tonight. 

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Anyway, still learning, still getting my dick wet a lot.

Really want to get back out there in the trenches. Want to take things further. 

Cheers
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How old are you? 
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Seeing 3 girls now. It's cool. Believe it or not, despite all the success I've had this is the first time I've really had a CONSISTENT harem with really HOT girls. It's a lot more work than I'd imagined -- but lot's of fun.

That gives me hope and power for my journey! Patience patience and the goal infront of my eyes.....congrats on the hotties Harem ;)
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Matt281 Wrote:
^Thanks man. Glad you still stop by every once in a while :)

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Harem management. 

Went out for tacos with my new cherish on Monday and fucked her. I think I'm going to back off a little now and just try to see her about once a week. Any more than that and everything'll just get too messy.

Girlfriend took me out for a $200 dinner on Tuesday. Got a 50 ounce steak. It was amazing. I love everything about this girl... except the sex. It's not that it's bad. It's really good actually. She loves getting fucked and giving head. It's just that... she just doesn't do it for me to the extent some other girls do. It's kinda weird. 

Stunner cherish freaked out again yesterday over txt, then for some reason just came over late that night to get fucked. She didn't even mention the whole freakout/never wanting to see me again thing. She's apparently coming over again tonight. 

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Anyway, still learning, still getting my dick wet a lot.

Really want to get back out there in the trenches. Want to take things further. 

Cheers


I've been thinking about that. I have had other girls i liked more sexually than my girlfriend, but the one thing that sets it apart, is that she's ok with my lifestyle. The sex and romance can be worked on- those are communicatable. those are things you could probably talk to your girlfriend about (obviously with taste). 
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Matt281

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@luke - 25

@berlin - Thanks man. Good luck!

@Austin - Yeah man, good point. There aren't a lot of girls who are just 100% okay with you fucking other chicks (although she really might not be if she knew the extent of it currently. Fucked all 3 of them at least once in the last 24 hours). 

I think the thing that's gnawing at me a little is that the sex with my stunner cherish is so hot that regular sex almost doesn't even seem that appealling unless I haven't had it in a few day, which never happens. And it's not really something I could talk about or teach them -- it's partially how she reacts in bed (not what she's willing to do) and TBH, mostly that her body is just out of this world amazing.

It's not that I really want to date her or something (has crossed my mind though, which is weird) but more that I'm constantly thinking about wanting to hit it up hard again and get more girls like her.

But yeah, good points. Thanks for the comment :)
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