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Friday

lol night.

Out with Knoxville, Brother and Big.

Literally the first girl I talk to is DTF. She's out with a big group on a party bus and she's basically the only single one (other girls brought they're boyfriends). They're all getting ready to go back and she invites me along, so I figure this is a done deal.

She likes me, everyone else is getting fucked or vomiting over the toilet, and she's the odd one out.

I get on the bus with them and head across town. Adventure right?

Anyway, we get there, she flips the switch and randomly decides that she no longer wants to get fucked, and they go into the house frat house and close the door on me.

LOL

Funny how I still try not to be a douchebag when girls will pull shit like this haha. I care way too much.

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Anyway, $15 and 15 minutes later, I'm back over on the hill.

It's still only a little after midnight. I hit up more girls and have some decent interactions, but no one who seems down.

I run into the stunner girl who I had the date with a few weeks ago. We talk for a minute -- it's a little bit awkward.

I kind of get thrown in my head afterwards. Really had an amazing time with this girl and she just randomly stopped txting back.

Nevertheless, I make myself do a couple and get back in the swing of things. Still nothing too solid.

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The night wraps up and we're walking back when we see a group of 3 girls and decide to go back and get them.

Mine is a hot dirty blonde girl... who proceeds to tell me how much she loves jesus and that she wants to be a missionary.

Goddamnit.

lol.

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1. There's really no point in getting negative about girls pulling dumb shit. Live and learn.

2. Results have been, let's say, less than optimal lately. My sex life is as good as ever, but nights out have been surprisingly unsuccessful for the most part. Kind of wondering what I'm supposed to learn here. I know that I have a few sticking points, but there are people with a lot more issues that pull way more than I have been.

I feel like a lot of the big sticking points I had a year ago (running out of things to say, dates, pulling) have completely disappeared, but I'm not getting the easy ones like I used to.

It's weird having the mindset I have now, where I keep feeling like getting frustrated, but catching myself and realizing there's no point. Just not quite sure why results haven't been up to par lately, or what the next step is.

Cheers :)
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Matt281

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Saturday

On my way back to visit my parents for the weekend, I stopped by to see the cute black girl I've been hanging out with (her house is on the way). We grabbed food and then went back to her place.
Tried for sex and got bludgeoned by the LMR club again.

Actually got kind of irritated, but played nice. She wanted me to stay over, in which case I might have eventually got it in, but I wanted to see my parents.

Learned a really valuable lesson through something she said though. She asked me why I was so serious when we were getting hot and heavy. Naturally I got a bit more playful with it, but I think the really important lesson here is I HAVE TO BE ENJOYING THIS. That's really big for me.

These days making out with and fingering a girl just seem like obstacles/checkpoints on the way to sex. I need to remember that fooling around with a hot girl is FUN, and it's worth doing within itself.
Really important imo.

Nevertheless, I was a bit annoyed after getting LMR'd twice. Staying level headed, but I'm gonna drop this girl if it happens again. No hard feelings -- just not a good use of my time.

*edit*

Happened again last night lol. She called me from downtown at 11 and asked me to pick her up. We joked around for a little bit, went back to my place and had another 2 hour playful makeout/fingering session with clothes mostly on.

At the end of the night I told her that it seems like we have really different views about sex, and that we should just be friends. Couldn't tell how upset she was -- she hid it pretty well. Oh well, it was the right thing to do. Boundaries.

Cheers
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Wednesday

#1 cherish comes over. This girl is really cool -- I guess it's kind of fucked up that the only reason I wouldn't date her seriously is that she's like 7.5/10. Pretty superficial but w/e.

Probably never consistently had as much fun in bed as with this girl.

She goes down on me, swallows my load, KEEPS GOING until I'm really turned on again, then swallows my jizz AGAIN. Jesus, so good.

Anyway, life is good.

Cheers
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 Friday

Out with Rambo and Brother. Hit it up. Don't remember most of what happened, despite being sober.

Got two numbers from really hot girls. One was a 30 seconds interaction where she told me to take her number right away, not solid though. Should have stayed in longer to solidify it after the number.

Other one was at the very end of the night. Two really hot college girls but we had trouble getting the "bubble of love" thing going because other guys we knew kept coming in and standing around. For most of the time it wasn't even clear who was hitting on who. Eventually though, Brother and I make it a bit more clear that these are "our girls" and the other guys take off. Invite them to an "afterparty" but no go -- actually almost worked, which was surprising cause it was a total longshot. 

We swap numbers at the end. Mine turned out to be solid, Brother's wasn't.

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1. Game really is a wake up call. When you're not going out that much -- even for like 5 days -- you start to get these ideas that if you just focus on your lifestyle, the game will take care of itself. Wishful thinking. The minute you step out and start hitting it up, you realize none of that shit matters.


Saturday

Out with Rambo, Adjunkie and Brother. Told myself I was gonna focus on having fun tonight, but ended up hitting it up really hard.

Adjunkie and I decide the opposite of the "anime eyes" reaction is the "cat face" reaction. We have a competition to see who can get more of those looks:

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Anyway, I had a lot of fun. I think it's really important not to get caught up in pickup being a misson. Nevertheless, results weren't all that great, which is fine. 

At the very end of the night Brother and I both see a stunner at the same time -- probably the hottest girl I'd seen all weekend and we both approach at the same time and fight it out. Was a lot of fun. Turned out she had a boyfriend who was with her, but fun/motivating for sure.

It's definitely true that, while I sometimes have trouble getting myself to approach, when I see a girl who is ridiculously hot, I almost always make a bee line for her. I think that's good.

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1. Really got reminded of how bad I want this. Big thing for tonight that Brother and I talked about during debrief was what it takes to push to the next level. I've kinda been on a plateau lately. Definitely a pretty comfortable, organsm-friendly plateau, but still a plateau. I need to break through to the next level.

That's going to require more effort. What I'm doing now is essentially maintenance. To push to the next level -- really fucking dime pieces and pulling more -- I need to step it up. An appropriate quote would be this one:

"What got you here won't get you there".

Cheers
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Friday

Really fun night.

Bounced around with Sunshine, Knoxville and some other guys. Trying too hard at the beginning -- funny how much of a difference the little things can make.

After I get warmed up a little I grab some little hottie walking by and it's on immediately. We hug it out, I chat her up and we sit down. I make out with her and then turn and see one of the girls from last weekend sitting right next to us. lol. "oh hi!".

We meet up with her friends and I win them over while my girl is in the bathroom, but logistics are bad and I get the feeling it's not happening tonight. I have her number so I tell her I'll catch up with them later.

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I go meet up with the guys again. Get blown out bad 3 times in a row. I notice I'm getting really good at not getting phased by this.

I recover and go hit up other girls. I run into a couple different girls I know throughout the next half hour and end up bouncing between/txting a bunch of different girls trying to figure out what's going to be solid.

At the very end of the night the black girl I wrote off last week is txting me:
"Come back"
"I really want to see you"

I go find her and start pulling her back to my place. She passes some guy she knows on the street who doesn't see her, and she randomly punches him in the stomach. Honestly one of the funniest things I've ever seen.

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Anyway, I carry her most of the way back to the car and we get dropped at my place.

I get LMR'd AGAIN.

Goddamnit.

These last couple weeks have been a good lesson though: it's always easier to go get a new girl than it is to keep trying with girl's who have a record of not having sex.

lol.

Cheers
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Saturday

25th birthday. Had a fucking blast :)

A couple of the guys come over around 9 and we drink. It's awesome. I almost never drink these days, so it's a ton of fun when I do.

I get a good buzz going and we head out downtown. It's pretty dead but we hit it up for a little bit. I run into a really hot girl I was hanging out with over the summer but fell apart because of logistics (she doesn't live in the city). Turns out she works up here now and seems excited about hanging out again. Good stuff.

Downtown doesn't look like it's gonna pop off so we head up to the hill. It's much better.

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Start hitting it up.

The big thing I learned tonight was how much the frame you set at the very start influences how the interaction will go.

Because I'm in my head at all, all the interactions I have are immediately established as fun and physical. It's really amazing how the same girl could seem really standoffish, but if you set the frame from the start, she'll often completely open up right away.

Gotta remember this for when I'm at sober. Girls will really let you set any tone you want.

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Speaking of which, a go in to wing Big and my civilian friend, hug my girl, tell her some 50 cent lyrics and tell her I've never kissed a girl before. Only makes sense that she'd be my first ;)

We hit it off. She is down to fuck. Big is in solid with the friend.

I'm having so much fun though that I decide I want to try my luck and try to trade up. I tell them I'll meet up with them later in the night and go back out hunting. Big is not particularly happy with this, lol.

He ends up losing them before the night is over. Oh well. That was definitely the layup of the night, but sometimes it's more fun just to creep on the street. Plus it's my birthday.

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I get like 5 other numbers.

The night starts winding down and I'm too lazy and/or drunk to follow up on them that night.

Cat comes out for a few minutes at the end, then disappears into the night. Converse and I beast the streets.

I grab the hottest girl of a 21 run group and surprisingly pull off a number, despite the birthday girl constantly telling us all to fuck off. Converse held up his end.

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Last girl of the night -- cute blonde girl who I chase across the street. Really low percentage set, but why not?

It hooks and Converse and Brother wing the friends.

I get the number and it turns out to be really really solid.

Never know which one's gonna work :)

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1. Drinking is a ton of fun. In addition to being a blast, I also think it's cool to do once in a while because it really highlights some possibilities in game that you wouldn't otherwise have seen. Sometimes just seeing what's possible makes a huge difference, even if you can't quite replicate it while you're sober.

2. Along with the drinking, it helps me so much being out with other guys who go really hard and pull like crazy. Our whole crew is awesome, but specifically when I'm out with Converse or Cat or when RSD is running a bootcamp here, it's way easier for me to step my own game up. I hadn't been out with Converse in a few months but it was a blast hitting it up with him. Dude's fucking relentless.

3. Definitely been enjoying just having fun lately, cherishing, and generally just taking it easy and enjoying life. It's been great. I'm hitting it up on weekends, pulling some (along with a nice dose of death by LMR) and still getting better. However, I'm 100% set on going balls deep with this shit again. I'm going to summit this year, so that'll probably be a good time to re-energize.

Funny, I just saw a 10 walk by with her guy as I'm finishing writing this up. Only see a girl like that once every week or two in Seattle. I want that. Not like everyone else on the street who stops and stares wants that -- I want that and I'm going to get it. I think that makes all the difference in the world. Is your mindset "Awe wow I wish I had that" or "Uhhnnn that's for me. There's no chance I won't have that".

Cheers
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Matt281

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Thursday

Date last night.

Had to meet her closer to my work cause I got off late, so bad logistics. Anyway, went super well. Dates going well seems to be the default these days -- like I'd have to really fuck up or the girl would have to be super weird for us not to like each other. We end up walking around and making out a bit.

Interestingly, still didn't feel quite right. I feel like I need to do a better job of expressing myself authentically and letting her know who I am. Felt like I had a better idea of who she was than she did of who I was by the end of it.

Anyway, was good. Will probably fuck this girl soon.

Cheers
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For some reason I had thoughts wrote these up. Guess not. iPhone report:

Friday

One of the worst nights in a while. Literally did one approach. Fortunately I'm always able to just let it go now and start fresh the next day. Lesson learned. The important thing here is just not to identify something like this as an indicator or worth/self esteem etc. it's just like having a bad workout or botching a meal you're cooking. Identify posssible causes and move on.

Saturday

Tons of fun. Big and I play the "stand around and get approached" game (always successful :p). Some girl opens us and then buys us drinks.

We talk to a few other girls and pump our state.

One thing I'm noticing is that I'm very good at playing along and having fun with someone else that is great at self amusing (big, cat, Rambo), but very bad at generating the fun vibe when I'm with someone who is not quite as good in that respect (Knoxville, brother, etc). This applies to girls too. I can kill it with girls who are fun, but often have trouble leading girls who give me nothing.

Something to work on.

We bounce around and hit it up but not all that much with writing about (especially because typing this up on a phone is making me want to gouge my eyes out with a plastic spoon).

One really good one though.

Midway through winging some blonde girl for knoxville, I see a brunette stunner with her two friends.

I turn around and go for it.

She's into it and her friends peel off immediately and leave us alone. I have trouble with not trying too hard, but I stick in there and do my best. It doesn't have to be perfect.

Her drunk girlfriend comes in to take her away and I have to handle that.

They're leaving but I pull off a number. I hug her goodbye mostly because I want an excuse to hold her body. It's insta-boner inducing :)

I txt her the next day and get nothing back. Almost give up, but I call her the day after and she gets back to me. Today we set up a date for tmrw. So so so important to be persistent. She may be the hottest girl I've been on a date with.

Cheers =)
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GOING TO SUMMIT THIS YEAR. HIT ME UP IF YOU ARE GOING OR LIVE IN VEGAS AND WE WILL PIMP IT.
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 Awesome journal man, keep it up.
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