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January 18th, 2017
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BerlinCity

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 but the reason I have the success at all is because of stepping up.

true.....good luck on your journey
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Matt281

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Monday

Went out. Met up with Adjunkie who I haven't seen in forever. Dude is killing it in life. I don't know if it's pickup that gives people this mentality, or if it's just really awesome motivated dudes who are driven to get good at pickup -- but either way, all these dudes who have been through the trenches and gotten GOOD at this stuff, all these guys are really going somewhere.

The club is dead. I don't do too much. Miss a couple I should have done. Again: there is never any better time to approach then NOW.

Txting with this girl from Saturday. She is super cool. What I love so much about pickup is that it's never a fluke. Even if you lose a girl you really like, you'll meet another one a month later because YOU'RE JUST ON THAT LEVEL.

Cheers :)
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matt281
you a beast
peace
P.s: i want a girl for me too :( .. lulz
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Matt, you're right about the connection between highly motivated go-getters and pickup.

The wings who i have been with for over a year now have not only got better in game, but improve all other areas of their lives too. It's really cool to see that - holistic character growth. It takes a friend to notice it sometimes because you're too busy doing it.

And i agree about the girls thing - cop 'n blow is so true. There are so many variables that get thrown at you that you have to enjoy the chaos/process. I've lost a lot of girls I liked, and then go on to gain a few which are just like them or even better. Old girls suddenly crop up out of nowhere but it's always because you are on your path...keep beasting and opportunities will continue to fall at your feet.
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Matt281

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Thanks for the comments everyone. Funny how the FR forum is all the cool, dedicated guys and the main forum is currently a shit show.

Friday

Meet up with Sunshine, Knoxville and a civilian friend. A couple other guys who Knoxville met at the Alexander free tour show up at some point too.

We get there early and chat and fuck around while it's pretty empty. Start to hit it up around 10:30. I do 2 back to back and start to feel good.

About 10 minutes goes by and I wonder why I'm still feeling momentum like I just got out of set two minutes ago. The I realize I DID. I got blown out by some girl with a lot of makeup on. I had to laugh, because of how my extreme my not acknowledging rejection has become. Three minutes later, I literally don't even remember it happening. Crazy.

I hit up a few more and hit a semi-sate. Still target hunting a bit too much, but I'm feeling really good. Big shows up (who is never, ever, ever out of state) and we fuck around. I wing a big group with him, hook one of them really hard, and proceed to explain to her how we met in kindergarden when we started taking animal growth hormone shots together.

Few more. Still target hunting too much and looking for good times to go in.

I tap a few girls who are walking and they won't turn around. Lesson relearned: with snotty club hoes, gotta go hard or go home, especially after midnight. These girls won't even stop otherwise.

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I beast more. I run into an unusually high number of girls with boyfriends.

Me: *grab* "what's your name?"
Her: ___
Me: stay with me for 2 minutes *pull her in*
Her: are you looking for someone to save you from someone?
Me: no, I'm looking for a cute girl to hit on
Her: hahahaha, I'm sorry I have a boyfriend

Do more.

I leave too much time in between sets and start to come out of it, then get it going again, and back again. Little bit of a rollercoaster but never really get fully out of it.

Funny thing happens near the end. This girl I met earlier, who is now with several stereotypical rich deuchebag guys (who, to their credit, have much better game than the rest of the guys at this club) -- the girl sort of pulls me in and I get her one on one. Kind of blew my mind a little, because I actually didn't even talk to her earlier; just had a decent set with her friend. We swap numbers and seed an afterparty, but nothing comes of it.

In retrospect, I knew that at the time. I knew she'd end up going with the other guys, but I wanted to end on a high note. Boo.

Probably did 15 or so tonight, which is good for me especially recently. I've been doing much more of the ~5 set point and shoot thing on a lot of nights.

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1. Crazy how random it all is. Sure game makes a world of difference, but the same approach one girl will roll her eyes and backturn you and the next will practically jump on your dick. I think that's why it's really important to have VOLUME of approaches under your belt, because you have to have enough reference experiences to see big patterns.

2. I wanna try more different stuff out, rather than trying to solidify what's been working reasonably well. I do automatically when I'm feeling good, but I need more reference experiences trying new things.

3. Tonight was a great process night. Got in state, got out of state, got blown out, hooked hard, and everything in between. I was a little worried since I didn't make it out Thursday and didn't do much on Monday that I'd have trouble jumping into it at a tough club, but after the ball got rolling it went great.

It's really important to keep in mind that all you can control is the process. Sometimes you have sex, sometimes you don't. All you can do is do your thing as well as you can.

Cheers
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 Damn, finally read the first couple pages of your FR. You have progressed like crazy! I still think we should just quit and buy nice cars with booming systems, and  post up in front of clubs. THAT is how to really get girls!
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this is some inspiring stuff!
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LethalLex

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"I think I'm getting better at approaching and more confident. I was excited when the first set of the night hooked and turned into a number."

-Matt281, 2009

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Matt281

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LethalLex wrote:
"I think I'm getting better at approaching and more confident. I was excited when the first set of the night hooked and turned into a number."

-Matt281, 2009

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Hahahaha.

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Saturday

Met up with Cat around 10 and ended up winging with him most of the night. A bunch of the other guys were out too.

We walk out his door and into the bar next door, and walk up to the first table there. Goes terrible hahaha. Total sellers frame. Move on.

I hit up a tall blonde. Goes really well but it gets interrupted after a few minutes.

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Bounce to another spot. Hottie walking by on her way back from work.

Me: "hello. hi there, hi, stop for a second. I'm matt"

I square up and beast for a couple of minutes. We swap numbers and agree to "hang out in real life".

Go catch up with Cat and head into the next bar. We walk straight into a group of sorority girls and Cat locks in with (imo) the cuttest one. There is chaos going on so I end up talking to 3 different girls over the course of like half an hour. I charm the fuck out of all of them independently :)))



I wing long enough for Cat to get the number and then bounce us out of there.

He runs back up to his apartment and I see the other guys right there, and a really cute promoter girl walking towards us.

I go over to her and she offers me her little handout thing and I tell her thanks, but I came over to hit on her.

"Too bad you're a promoter"
"Why?"
"You guys are basically paid to be flirty"
"I'm not too good at pretending"

Anyway, I own that shit and we swap numbers. I think a couple of the other guys take turns winging the friends. Thanks :)

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Cat comes back and and we bounce to some other spots. I see a hottie on her phone and I hesitate.

Cat: "that's you"

lol. So I go over and she hangs up after a few seconds, and I hit on her. Turns out she has a boyfriend. Oh well.

We go into the bar and I hook another hot blonde girl hard. Right up in her face. She's a little standoffish but obviously seriously considering the prospect of taking my dick from behind.

"What are you doing for the rest of the night?"
"I'm never going to see you again. Why do you want to know?" (she's leaving at 9am the next morning)
"...just that. Because you're never going to see me again ;)"

She takes my phone and puts her number in, but she has a friend that doesn't seem as keen on either of them getting fucked. I continue beasting.

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We go back into the original bar and we run into a girl I remember from like a year ago, who is a friend of Sunshine's. One of the first nights Cat was out with us, I hit on her and maybe made out with her or something.... then Cat took her home (she was a virgin at the time so it aparently didn't go all the way through).

So I go over to her and she has total puppy dog eyes. Full on attraction.... then she sees Cat behind me.... aaaaannnddd I'm done.

lol.

One thing that's hilariously awesome now is if I'm not on point, I'll lose girls to Cat and sometimes the other guys in the crew even when they're not trying. Same thing goes the other way too; I'll just come say hi and sometimes girls will latch onto me and immediately bail on whoever they were talking to. With great power comes great responsibility! ... well, sort of :p

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We go back to one of the other bars and run into the sorority girls from earlier. Mine runs up and hugs me and asks me where we've been all this time. Cat's still seems into him too.

The ex-virgin girl who I just mentioned and her non-approving friends are at this bar now too, watching us beast. Kinda funny.

We pull our girls downstairs and each with with them one on one. Mine is ridiculously into me, but I'm not all that into her. Might have been able to fuck them -- kind of feel bad for bailing since I'm sure we could have at least got them back to Cat's house.

BUUUTTT I've got places to be ;)

Around 1:00 I head home and one of the new girls I'm seeing comes over. I fuck her brains out all night. She is ridiculously horny and even when I don't really feel like having sex anymore, she rubs up on me and eventually gets me turned on enough to fuck her again. I am sore and tired in the morning and feel like death, but it was so worth it lol.

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1. This was one of those nights where everything just felt effortless. It's that constant feeling that OF COURSE she's going to be attracted. Like, why wouldn't she be?

2. I read most of a really bad book recently and the one really important thing I took from it was this: most of the stuff that goes on is not about you, or your willpower, but rather the situation you put yourself in. Trying to "willpower through everything" doesn't work well and there's really no reason to do it. Just remove the problem in the first place. If the problem is getting in your head, approach more and earlier. If the problem is AA, figure out a process that helps make it less of a problem. In a lot of cases, people who take the right action over and over again aren't necessarily better people or stronged willed, but simply have created better strategies for avoiding the problem.

The "me" on Saturday and the "me" on and off night are the same person. Whether I kill it or not is based on what strategies I use to get the ball rolling; much moreso than a failure or success in personal drive. It's just like the girl who cheats on her boyfriend. Did she fuck up when she put your dick in her mouth, or when she decided to let herself be alone with a smooth guy when she's had 3 drinks? Same thing.

Again, it's one of those things that you've heard before but it takes on a new meaning when your experiences start to help you really internalize it.

Cheers
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Cat

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Hahaha

Ahhh dude and yeah when we grabbed those two girls back later in the night my girl goes "I think my girlfriend wants to hookup with your friend".

I look over and she's fucking SALIVATING just staring at you.  

I laugh hard and am like "Um.. YEAH.  Yeah I think that's right".

I like that you take credit for us pulling them downstairs when in reality she was walking up the stairs, saw you and SQUEALS LIKE A PIG and is like "We're going back downstairs for drinks!!!" and grabs your arm.  She was fucking all over you dude, jesus.  

My girl and I are just like.. rolling our eyes laughing at the "horny kids having fun".  

How far we've come man.. look at how far we've come.

Can't believe we aren't spending Valentines day together...
-Cat
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