"Ain’t No Good Life, But It’s My Life" –Willie Nelson
I originally wrote this in response to an old Tyler blog post before I started professionally coaching. Mainly for myself because I found as time went on I tended to forget more and more. More than once people had told me I should write a book about my life and things I’d done and seen, so I contributed in order to work on my writing as well. These next 6 articles or so will be meant to be read in whole, so keep reading.
These articles basically say a lot about me and how I’ve lived my life. They should display how "being good with women" is more of a byproduct of who you are than what you do. I think you realize the old days of guys in this industry hoping to seduce
a girl and drag her down to your World of Warcraft dungeon basement are over.
Anyway, many people have found inspiration (and challenged the possibility of all this) and asked me to elaborate and write more. So I’ve made some updates and will write about what’s gone on since I originally wrote this article. Many have said it's just as mind-blowing. Funny, I just see it as how I've chosen to live compounded over the years. Live and learn. I’ve included some pictures I’ve found in a shoe box and scanned, but understand I just bought my first digital camera maybe only a few years ago (and still not really a big photo guy).
2001: Me and Willie on stage for the Annual 4th of July Picnic. Luckenbach, Texas
A true poet, original Outlaw, and inspiration in my life
By the way, so you understand, when I originally wrote this I was at another crossroad in my life and about to make a choice whether to continue with RSD and this industry or help start another business with my brother-in-law back in Texas. At the time I’d learned just about all I could from "the community" and was about to move on and leave it forever. Not much longer, two days before I was moving, I got the call to become a full instructor. And the New Natural Game as we know it today was ushered in. A year later the Blueprint was released.
PART 1: MY LIFE
… Thank you for writing a biography about my life... goodbye investment banking... goodbye search and rescue... goodbye 3 countries... goodbye MTV & Jerry Bruckheimer... I'm working with RSD and UCLA now... solely passionately and intrinsically motivated... Sometimes I miss the money, but I had to figure out the hard way that the way I was doing it wasn't worth it. Internally it was like slowly dying when I wasn't doing what I knew I needed to do. You have to follow your path.
I look back now at all my many life experiences, hard and good, as awesome social and cultural experiences that I LEARNED from. Trust me, some lessons really hurt. But, they all gave me depth and wisdom beyond belief. I feel I can relate to anybody on almost any level because I've been there in one way or another. From hanging and fighting in the streets of Baltimore, to corn husking in the fields of Iowa, to picking my neighbor’s grape harvest in Italy, to riding camels in the sands of Oman, to red carpet events and the social elite of Hollywood. They’ve all expanded my reality to the point where nothing surprises or intimidates me. I’ve made all this my reality.
Here’s just a few other crazy things that’s possible in reality: I’m also a decorated war veteran, been recognized on national TV, was adopted Chinese (I’m white), dated Playboy, Hawaiian Tropic, and Budweiser models, have been kidnapped, worked for the US Embassy in Central America actively fighting Colombian drug traffickers, modeled, was a top ranked wrestler, helped write porn scripts for a friend in Budapest, started businesses, saved a man's life, am an expert pistol shot, cliff dove in 2 countries, managed over $300 million dollars, played stickball in Brooklyn, hang glided over Brazilian rain forest, written my own TV show, graduated from a #1 ranked program in the world, hiked mountains, ATTACKED BY A GANG OF WILD MONKEYS, lived on a boat for 3 years, partied for Carnival in Rio, Venice, and New Orleans, been arrested and put in jail (a couple times--I was found innocent
), traveled to over 30 countries (lived in 4), am fluent in renaissance art, broken too many bones to remember, speak parts of 5 languages, was actually kicked out of a country once and made to fly home (again, innocent), was almost a father and engaged, ran a black market, had sex in 2000 year old plazas where saints were once burned on a stake, thoroughly well read in classical and contemporary literature, met, partied and am friends with famous Spanish bullfighters, been questioned by the CIA, taught at 2 renowned university, stowed away on a train once out of desperation, camped in complete wilderness, traveled to East Germany while under Soviet Union’s control (it was as crazy and depressing as the movies portray it), ran with the bulls in Pamplona, been part of a pit crew in the Mexican Baja 500 twice, been courted by the Russian Mafia (long story), won ski races in the Alps, promoted parties, and also kicked the tree of life. I just turned 30 and have been completely independent since I was 18. Funny thing is, is that I need my friends to really remember some of the crazy shit that’s gone on.
1998: Life saving days, U.S. Navy
2001(?): Someone actually took a picture as the first monkey started attacking me in Gibraltar
I guess the only thing left is to own a monkey, be in a heist, and get shot. Seriously, these are my goals for the next 5-20 years... climb a mountain, write a couple books, start a philanthropic organization, motorcycle around S. America, go on safari, visit the North Pole (before it's gone), buy a home in Europe and in the great state of Texas, get married and have kids, and finally put an end to the mystery and hunt down the Loch Ness monster. Anything’s possible when you’re living your own legend. What's yours?
That said, file this under an experience I wouldn't trade ANYTHING for--college. I don't think it's necessary for everyone to go, but for people who don't know who they are or what they're doing--then GO. When you don't know who you are or what you want, experiencing new cultures is one of the best ways to find out... that's what college is and why it was so awesome for me. Make sure, so you make all the memorized-learning tests bearable, study things that piques your intellectual curiosity!
1989?: Brandenburg Gate, East Germany. This is a COMPLETELY different place today.
This is for the guy who emailed me saying that it was not possible that I had been to communist East Germany before the Berlin Wall came down. I own a piece of that wall and clearly remember having submachine guns pointed at me. Now, I hear they now have gay pride parades here
Live with Passion. Make yourself proud. Be Whom You're Meant To Be
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