Some stuff I wrote I like to find back:
Comfort + Self acceptance, is better than Congruence, is better than "gaming".
Congruence -vs- Pushing your comfort zone.
One-Itus case study (How to handle it)
High standards? Better not! Appreciation instead of judging.
Little things you say that appear Man-to-Woman but actually are Friend-to-Friend.
Mindfuck to make you more attractive:
"I am not attractive"
How to generate self-love by controlling your own standards.
part 1. Controlling your standards: Knowing
what to value, and
how to value that.
part 2. Unconsciously creating wrong standards for yourself - and how to fix them.
part 3. Applied to approach anxiety.
trick to realize you are enough: based on "no state" game.
Equanimity as positive word for not being outcome dependent.
How to become present
4 ways to deal with negative thoughts.
Escalation; not *because* of attraction, not to *get* attraction, but as expression.
How can you not win? Stop not-winning, instead of trying to win.
Balance thinking and experiences. (And
reacting because you are overwhelmed)
Four stages (chode->zen-monk->entertainer->sexworthy)
Field Report threads (but I keep most of it private)
Field Reports February/March 2011 (looooong posts)
FIeld Reports Summer 2010
Checklists
To see your blind spots and discover why you are failing.
Alexander's
28 points.
Brad's
35 laws of attraction.
My own checklist of 10 points from
june 2010.
Inner game: Unreactive (1) self-esteem (2) with dominant (3) self-amusement (4).
Outer game: eye-contact (5), breaking rapport tonality (6) and escalation (7)
Principles: Something you are, not do (letting go) (8),
Whatever you feel, she feels (9)
Always Be Closing (10).
(But there is always more - no list is definitive: Action is always the answer. Momentum building.)
Relaxed arousal
A graph I drew to find the right level of energy (activity).
It's intensity, not energy.
However, doing less to become more chill is not the only way to stop being try-hard.
You can also try even harder, until your ego get's destroyed by the rejections, or you stop caring about what you want to get. When seen this way, taking action can't turn out wrong!
