You've seen it on television. Charlie Harper flirting with women in the grocery store. Barney Stinson picking up women on the street. Will Smith charming ladies in the doctor's office. There is no reason why you cannot do the same!
A lot of people have this assumption that you can only talk to women in places they expect to be talked to, such as a nightclub. However, if you look at this in a positive light and take advantage of this social conditioning, then you can achieve wonders in meeting women anywhere, because everybody likes a pleasant surprise!
Advantages of talking to women during the day:
1. In a nighttime social environment, the woman expects to be hit on and therefore she has options.
2. Talking to a woman during the day goes against the norm, and therefore displays incredible confidence.
3. You don't need to be 'different' from the other guys during the day, so you can use more conventional methods of 'game'.
4. A lot of girls assume that the endless guys that hit on them at night clubs are clones. They might reject you at night for this reason, but will actually give you a shot during the day because you're not going to fall into this category.
You can talk to girls anywhere, but here are some suggestions.
1. The Street
Everybody assumes that nobody wants to be interrupted on the street. This is because people are usually on their way somewhere and therefore must not have the time to talk. You must adopt the mentality of self-worth and delude yourself into thinking, "why wouldn't she want to stop and talk to me?"
Of course, there could be a variety of reasons for why she wouldn't, however, if you think about all these reasons then you will never approach. Ignorance is bliss.
On the street, simply walk up to a girl like you would at night. You don't need the high-energy openers than you would use in a nightclub because you don't need to match the high energy level of the environment.
As you are going to surprise her by talking to her during the day, you can literally tell her, "I just had to stop you right there because you're quite intriguing!"
This might come across as 'lower value' at night because of the endless guys telling her that in the space of five hours, however, there is no competition during the day and therefore, you just come across as confident, but more importantly, you come across genuine
Social conditioning doesn't always have to be seen in a negative light as previously mentioned. She is probably living under the same assumptions that everybody is in a rush. You could actually imply this to her too!
Stop her and tell her, "Look I'm in a massive rush and I wish I could talk to you more, but you're very pretty and I'd kick myself later if I didn't attempt to ask you for your number."
Once again, you're indicating that you are genuine, but because of the time constraint you want to continue the conversation later!
2. The Park
If you see a girl alone in the park, let's say she's going for a walk, simply adopt the same mind-set as the previous example! However, the good thing about a park is that you can also use the environment to your advantage.
A park is a place suited to fun and relaxation. If you're with your mates, you could simply invite some girls to join in on whatever you're doing. It could be kicking a ball, or a picnic or whatever! The beauty in this is that, like in a nightclub, you are simply being fun. This is what girls are attracted to.
3. A Restaurant
This is a tricky one. For me personally, I don't like to interrupt people whilst they are eating. Not particularly because I'm scared that she'll throw her boiling hot soup in my face, but because I know how much I personally like to enjoy a good meal without focussing on anything else. Also, if you interrupt her during a meal, there's a possibility that she might reject you simply because she's too embarrassed to talk to you if she's eating something like garlic or onions!
What I'd do is make my move before she receives her dish, ideally as she enters, or if you're still there as she's leaving, approach her then.
Before: "Hi. I'm going to talk to you now before you get your meal..."
After: "Hi. I didn't want to interrupt you whilst you were eating, but now that you've finished, I had to talk to you..."
Depending on the type of restaurant, I'd say either fast food or a cafe for this one, if you see a girl eating alone then don't be afraid to approach her and just say, 'You look like you hate eating alone. Come join me, I'm X."
Remember to tell to join you, instead of asking if you can join her, because this way it will seem as if you're trying to do a nice thing for her!
4. The Gym
AMOGs and testosterone EVERYWHERE. However, there is no harm in trying. The thing about the gym is that it is a members only environment, so you'll be sure to bump into the girl again if you hit on her. You can't let this become awkward if it fails. You could go about this one of two ways.
1. Just have some general banter with the girl, not getting too sexual, but obviously show intent;
not enough for her to reject you for that reason anyway. You could build up a friendly, yet flirtatious, relationship with the girl over the next few visits to the gym. Once she gets to know you, you could make plans to meet up.
2. Hit on her straight away. If she rejects you, just like in a nightclub, shrug it off and just re open her the next time you come to the gym. At least the second time, you're not that 'one off guy' who hit on her at the gym. Show persistence!
5. The Grocery Store
Once again, you could open in any way you want, however, here's your chance to be cheesy, if that's your style.
Admittedly I did this when I was tipsy doing a beer run at the supermarket at 9PM. I walked up to a girl, purposely from behind, with two bags of peanuts and asked her, "Excuse me, could you help me with my nuts?"
She turned around looked baffled. "Yeah, I can't pick between chilli or honey roasted... Wait, why are you looking like that? Oh! No! You have a dirty mind!"
With the amount of products available, the possibilities are endless!
6. A Class
No, this doesn't mean go back to school. This means any kind of class that you take, even as an adult. At university, I joined the boxing club. I was expecting to spend two hours every Tuesday and Thursday surrounded by giant guys. However, what I found was that I also met some pretty normal girls who happened to be into boxing, which is rare to find! I didn't try to sleep with them, but the point is that you could meet girls of any kind of interest you may have if you go and take a class on it!
7. The Theatre or Museum
Similar to the point above. The key point about the theatre or museum, is that you in an environment where people share a common interest!
After the play finishes, or as you're looking at a painting, strike up a conversation about it because you're lucky that you already know that you share something in common. Remember though, just like in a nightclub, make sure not agree with everything she says if you do have a different opinion, and obviously, show intent! Otherwise, you're just going to end up with a new friend to see plays with.
Telling you that 'the night club' is a good place to pick up girls is too vague. Let's break it down.
1. The Line
I mean this is in a completely non-rapey way, but take advantage of the fact that in the nightclub line, she cannot walk away from you! Even if you get rejected, keep talking! There is nothing more awkward than standing next to a set of girls for twenty minutes after they've rejected you! You might as well try to recover the set!
2. The Smoking Area
If you like to complain that clubs are too noisy, then you'll love this one. Even if you don't smoke, this is the one part of the club where you can actually have a conversation with a girl without having to yell. Just remember, people are typically a lot more chilled out in the smoking area, and there's usually a lot more light than the rest of the club, so keep in mind that girls will be less prone to high-energy openers! They could still work though, but use common sense!
3. The Dance Floor
Stop complaining that the dance floor is too noisy to have a conversation with a girl. The phrase, 'time and place' could not be more appropriate. Since it's too noisy to talk: Don't!
This is your chance to skip all the dialogue and just be physical straight away! If people are having high-energy fun on the dance floor, you have to match this, otherwise you're not going to grab the set's attention.
Do not go in to a set expecting a conversation. Your opener should be anything physical, whether it's simply dancing WITH them, NOT around them, or taking a girl's hand and pulling her towards you.
4. The Street... Again!
If you notice that before people get into the club at 10pm, they are often crazier than when they are actually inside. Why? People tend to have 'pre-drinks' before entering the club, usually to save money on expensive club prices and, more importantly, to get into the mood for a night out.
When they get inside, they have either sobered up slightly from standing in a queue for ages, or they need to act a little more civilised to avoid being thrown out by the bouncer.
If you approach girls before they get in the club, they may be in a friskier mood, and although they won't home with you right at the beginning of the night, this is a great opportunity to have some fun and create rapport.
Similarly at the end of the night, the street is where people can let loose because they are no longer in a crowded in environment and therefore less self-conscious. They have also built up their 'buying temperature' from the hours of positive emotions from being in the club.
Cheers for reading my article and I hope you found it interesting! - Any comments would be greatly appreciated in the box below.