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Just a quick heads up before diving into today's article... Tyler and I have JUST ADDED TWO BRAND NEW BOOTCAMPS in LOS ANGELES and SAN DIEGO!

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So...

It's my last day here in RIO DE JANEIRO... The end of this year's SOUTH AMERICAN TOUR... ;(

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After this, I'm headed back to LOS ANGELES for the next FIVE WEEKS where I'm going to be dedicating all of my time to recording BRAND NEW INFIELD FOOTAGE!!!

I've already been able to record a lot of NEW "DAY GAME" FOOTAGE during my stay in Miami a few weeks back, but this here is going to be on a whole other level...

I've posted a few INFIELD "SNAPSHOTS" on my Facebook page, if you're interested in getting a first glimpse at what's to come:

***www.facebook.com/RSDJulien***

On that note... ONWARDS TO TODAY'S VIDEO!!! :)

Triple Your Results INSTANTLY: How To Be The Guy She Can't Get

So, I've been spending a lot of time reading through some of RSDNation's hidden gems these past couple of weeks (HOLY SHIT at the amount of value that's buried in here!) and I came across a CRUCIAL concept that 99% of people tend to forget...

PRIZABILITY...

BEING THE FUCKING PRIZE!

In this video, you're going to learn:

- How to make the girl you want go INSANE over going home with you...

- Why most guys reek of desperation when they are "Trying To Lead"...

- And lastly, how by simply changing this up in your game, you will be infinitely MORE ATTRACTIVE...

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT REVEALS THE #1 REASON WHY GUYS HAVE A HARD TIME GETTING THE GIRL EVEN IF THEY DO EVERYTHING RIGHT, AND HOW THIS SIMPLE TWEAK WILL SKYROCKET YOUR GAME:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BEkQOIt8l_0)

***IMPORTANT: AS I MENTION IN THE LAST TWO MINUTES OF THIS VIDEO, DO NOT LET THIS CONCEPT STIFFLE YOU BY SIMPLY STANDING THERE EXPECTING THE GIRL TO DO ALL OF THE WORK AS THAT'S ULTIMATELY A FORM OF "CHASING" AS WELL.

INSTEAD, LEARN HOW TO LEAD AND LEARN HOW TO "BE SELF AMUSED" WITHOUT THE GIRL.***

PS: Check out these two other videos that explore this concept into further depth!!!

YOU Are The Top 1%: The Most Powerful Secret To Cultivating Internal Strength

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT REVEALS THE MOST POWERFUL SECRET TO CULTIVATING INTERNAL STRENGH AND THAT INTRODUCES A NEW STANDARD OF LIFE:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAoqvXUG7WQ)

And...

Stop Selling OUT! How To Get Girls To Chase You

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO LEARN EVERYTHING THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT BEING THE BUYER IN THE DYNAMIC OF THE INTERACTION AND ALL THAT IT ENTAILS:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TJ79ypcEiJI)

LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK OF THIS PARTICULAR CONCEPT AND REPORT BACK WITH YOUR EXPERIENCE WITH THE "NO TRYING" EXERCISE!

"Until next time!"

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#1
Mt. Weyland

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 No home-made-porn this time? I'm disappointed.
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#2
bigal101

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Great topic Julien! 

I was talking to my friend about this the other day and 
I was telling him how he should go up to her and start talking and 
hes like " well dude wouldnt that make me look desperate"

and I was like "wtf?! if you come from that mind set hell yeah,
but dude if you think and know that your the fucken champ and 
that your the prize shes gonna love you for it"
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#3

dolph

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 Fucking GOLD
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#4

The_Meister

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 Love Julien's stuff. Haven't heard from Brad lately. Where is he?
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#5

PerelAlon

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Very Distant-Light'esque :).
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#6

Gulisos

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It's important topic. Crucial even, but it was clear that the group that this video was adress to, surely are not advanced guys.
Beeing the prize and not beeing desperate is somehow the core of the game.
If you thinking about all this concepts: beeing outcome independent, being present, process vs. result orientated, let go of the ego - it's all the same:)
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honeybadger

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 Can you do a video on dealing with the logical/emotional waves?
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#8

Renegade Grenade USA

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 A light just went off in my head. It's not about learning the tightest game ever.. It's about creating a situation where she is invested and therefore feeling a certain amount of pressure because she doens't want to loose this cool guy. 
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#9

major10

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 great ...
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#10

Shawnn

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 You see shit's still real
Nothin ever changed cause we still in the field
Niggas try to front but the game's too real
"We don't give a fuck bout the way you feel
So fuck what you feel and shit's still real
Nothin ever changed cause we still in the field
Niggas try to front but the game's too real
We don't give a fuck bout the way you feel
So fuck what you feel, yeah"

Mic Geronimo (chorous)

lolll, the song's titled "Shit's Still Real" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ROXYXmMGIQY

"I'm lovin it - the obstacles that I go through
It keeps me real, don't make me have to show you
Fuck you cause I don't know you, and listen dog
If I gots to throw you, you know where you go to"

DMX
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#11
ambiguity

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Is anyone else worried about Julien catching HIV from some big bum latina.

Ambiguity would do it. The black Brad Pitt checking in!

Great video man.
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#12

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 "Challenge all that superficial bullshit."

This is why I love RSD.

You don't have to be ______ to get girls.
You don't need ______ to be successful.
You just have to find your own way.
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ambiguity

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its_starscream wrote:
 "Challenge all that superficial bullshit."

This is why I love RSD.

You don't have to be ______ to get girls.
You don't need ______ to be successful.
You just have to find your own way.
+1

I remember when Tyler first introduced Julien.

Far from the public speaker he is today with the presence and vocal projection he has crafted up till now.

The sites for most pua forums look like some preteen created it, full of people who have never seen a vagina before, and there is practically no content.

There is nonstop video blogs here from a variety of instructors, several different perspectives of game, some even that conflict with one another but, game is an art form, a form of self expression, and there is no way about it.

Its pretty cool to see the transformation Julien has made going back to his first introduction by Tyler on a street which sort of looked like Sean's first introduction by Alex compared to Julien today.

Julien mate, good for you. I am curious about what your thoughts are on your own transformation and witnessing countless students make their own?

You be well!
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ambiguity

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Mt. Weyland wrote:
 No home-made-porn this time? I'm disappointed.
ftw!
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#15

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I was going to say the same thing
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#16
CooperStrikes

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lol clicked on this video while browsing soundcloud and this beat fit so perfectly in synch with the video, hahh.

soundcloud.com/alldayrecess/adr201-inst-85-bpm
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#17
CooperStrikes

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 "go in, go in strong, hook da girl. cut dat shit out, let da girl chase, take a step back relax, assume yo own glory, yep im the prize. have a piece, so cool so enough. im the shit."

its like he's rapping.
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#18

Aaron

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 lol Julien as Christ figure!

Kidding aside, very positive content—and great views! Thanks for the video.
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#19

bowie

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 So true - like David deida says somewhere - if you need her more than she needs you - you are done.
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#20

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 Know your place and suck the fucking dick!
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wow, the view is amazing
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#22
Kool Kane

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Good advice.

I was thinking about this topic recently and almost considered to write something about it in my last post, but I'm not an english native speaker. So, I'm already busy enough with writing my wallposts here and correcting the endless spelling mistakes^^

As I'm doing a lot of daygame I wrapped my head around this issue for a while. How you can convey high status? Or better said, how can you be a challenge for the girl? How can you make her feel just like she earned the dream man of her desire? This is really an issue, because you approached the girl. So, she already know that you are interested in her. You already invested a lot just by walking up to her and chat her up. I'm talking about day approaches mostly on the streets. This is different to nightgame were you naturally approach strangers all the time. So how you can be still a challenge for her? It's in human nature to decline things that are sold to us to easily.

 

Even I'm doing this. I decline the free newspaper from the publisher salesman on the street corner, I'm declining sweets from my colleagues at work (mostly due to my diet- and workout plan) and I'm also declined some women and some easy lays in the past. Yeah, I've said it. My first goal is not to bang as many girls as I can, I try to bang the hottest one. When I'm saying the hottest one, than I'm saying the hottest one for me. It's more about the quality as the quantity for me. That doesn't mean that I don't lower my bar from time to time to lay a cute seven when I'm horny enough. I think everybody should have the sex-life that they want to have. If somebody want to lay as much vagina as humanily possible. More power to him, in the same way to the virgin who wants to get a nice woman to marry her.  Wouldn't be the earth a nicer place, when people were more busy to love and fuck each other instead of shooting and killing one another? Sounds like some gay hippie shit, but it's actually the truth.
I hate it when people get judged for their sexuality.

Let's take her for example.

Although, she is far away from being the best rapper alive. She is actually quite decent. Her delivery is a little bit bumby, lyrically nothing special, but that's not the reason why she is the most hated female rapper right now. Just look on the like-bar on youtube... She is not acting like a bitch, she's literally an ex-prostitute who started to rap about being a to get a ticket out from the brothel. You can see how life signed her. The beatings, the drug abuse, spouses who put the child seats in the back of the car so that there is enough room to fuck her, a suitor who raped her while pushing a gun in her mouth. But people hate her. Why? Because of what she symbolizes. She is the kind of woman the regular joe end up fucking because he's too much of a chode to get a mistress for free. Men hate her because she destroys the vision of a holy virgin. Men hate the idea that their women got fucked by other men in their past just like Tyler pointed it out recently. Women hate her because they get betrayed from their spouses for such women. I hate these double-standards. Everybody point the finger at her while not noticing that she is just showing society a mirror. Mainstream loves gangsta when it's glossy. They don't like the truth. She's literally to real for the mainstream. I don't like paying for pussy, but I don't like judgemental people neither.

Anyway, back to topic. We as humans tend to decline things that are sold to us to easily. So how can we play hard to get when we actually already invested a lot in the interaction? Well, we're actually doing exactly this. We play hard to get. On an outergame side of things that means that you lean back, that you cut to be overexcited with everything she says. Be crytical, show it with your face expression and your body language. Repeat words and sentences from her in a way of asking her a question. Question her, question everything she says. Don't be impressed with anything she says. Of course, don't overdo it. Be still nice, smile once in while, crack a joke to reward good behaviour from her for example when she is asking you questions.
But overall your innergame mindset should be: you are the buyer, not the seller. I love the old tv-buyer analogy from Tyler. I think you get a pretty clear idea about this dynamic. At least on a logical level when you're not experienced enough yet. Another analogy that I like is that you always should remember that you are the sun and the women are just the planets that orbit around you.



Don't be the seller is not just an outergame technique, more importantly it's a mindset. Yes, you are interested in the girl at least on her physical appearence at this particular moment. But is she also the right fit for you? Is there a vibe and a chemistry? Is she cool, is she stupid, is she funny or a lunatic bitch. She maybe hot, but she is also an unproven prospect yet. As long as we didn't share the same pillow, I don't overestimate our interaction. This is also the reason why I like to keep such interactions more shortly. In my experience there is not really a great distinction between long sets and short sets. Spending 15 Minutes with a girl on the sreet doesn't guarantee you anything. It can work in the same way as a quick number close in three minutes. More crucial than the time length is that you have a nice little encounter that leaves a vacuum for mystery. Yes, you should exchange some basic facts like name, work, homeplace. But overall just get in, get the number and get out. This should only be a rule of thumb, because the length of an interaction builds normally on it's own way. I just try to avoid to pay too much emotional effort for a random interaction. Numbers often don't mean much, that's why I keep screening more carefully these days. Is she too hesitant to give me her number, is she unsure and is trying to sell me her facebook-address or does she try to get my phone number instead, Im more willing than ever to just leave her alone without any "success". Funnily enough when I'm doing this the girls often times start to try winning me over again. Although I think they often do this because of their pride being challenged. I'm not rejecting girls for fun, but I'm approaching them to get in their pants. So, when she doesn't play along with this idea. Than it's ok honey, just step by side. There are enough other peaches on this tree^^ When you approach enough, abundance is not just a vague concept that you understand on a logical way. It's a lifestyle.

As Julien said this is more of an advanced problem. First of all you have to become consistent with your approaches. You have to consistently chat up girls in order to recognize patterns and also to become emotionally stable enough to experiment with things. Tyler came up with this great analogy once, about jumping in the cold water and splash in it, instead of dipping slowly your toe in. This comes back to the unavoidable topic of taking massive action. 

Intuition vs. Process

Tyler was talking about having fun about the process recently and funnily enough, although I always thought that this is pretty much a strength from me I realized that this is just a halfway truth. Yeah, I enjoy the process of my pick-up journey overall. And yeah, I love the process especially in the night as I'm overall a pretty outgoing guy who loves music, drinking and partying anyways. I like socializing in the night. I think it's fun. Bars and nightclubs are our training-dojo, in the same way they are our social laboratory were we can try new things or just troll around for the lulz. So this isn't really a problem for me. No, the problem is more in the daytime. I've realized that I'm way more outcome dependent in the daytime. Although, I'm consistent with approaching girls in the day for a year now. The reason mostly is because this isn't a fun evironment. You don't have the time to overthink your approaches. You don't party your mind in a good mood, people are busy, you are busy, no alcohol involved to push your fake self confidence. And the girl of your dreams just entered your life to leave it in the same sudden way just 30 seconds later. This can be pretty much frustrating when you not taking action right away. This is the moment of truth were your self development gets tested to it's core. But with taking massive action you become better with time. More competent and therefore more confident as the old saying. You start to recognize patterns. You start to develop a feeling when things running the right direction.
The more reference points you get, the better your intuition become. As Jules once said the Spidey sense^^


Intuition is the art of knowing shit before it really happens and to accordingly respond to it. The friend of your target that you disable by befriending, before it become the obstacle that rips of the possible lay from you. The statement of empathy that you spit towards your target so that she doesn't t get scared of getting approached from a stranger who tries to strangle her, something in the means of  "I know this is random/weird that I approach you right here on the street but..." The more experience you get the more proper ways of dealing with various situations you acquire. But you also get a lot of prejudices. All of a sudden you start to filter your targets and your approaches. You only want to approach the targets that seems to be a pontential lay. You even get a feeling for targets that are already taken. These are just tiny little subtleties, but they can reveal you a lot. The problem with this mindset is the danger of becoming lazy with your approaches and sloppy with your judgements...


Nobody is a mindreader, so you can almost never be 100% sure how an approach will turn out. Of course your gut-feeling is getting better with time and it does make sense to filter a single girl out instead of wasting your time by approaching groups. Were your target most likely feel judged by her friends for giving you her number. But it shouldn't stop you from your process. It shouldn't stop you from taking action, it shouldn't stop you from doing new things, doing "hard sets" once in a while just to expand your comfort zone. You can never know which girl hook up with you in the end. I guess I had this problem recently because I just approached a girl per day. The wintertime was nasty this year...
After watching the "getting laid on the worst night" Tyler video, I've decided to approach three girls a day during my workweek again. I would have done it anyway, but it was a good starter. Maybe It will be five when the weather becomes better and I'm willing to spend more time in the sun after work. But three is a good number. Why I'm not approaching more? The more approaches the better the chances for a lay right? Yes, that's basically true, but you have to find the girls you want to approach first. Yes, there are a lot of women on this planet, but it is also true that your dreamgirls usually don't line up to get approached by you in an one-washing-up type of manner. I actually just approach women that I really like. That give me the butterflies. The women I feel something for. Julien was once stating that everytime you have this nervous feeling in the gut, you have to break through on purpose and approach in order to expand your comfort zone. I think this is pretty true, but I also like how Ozzie reframes such incidents. He said once you have to use the fear as a fuel for the approach. If you feel nothing for her why are you actually approaching her in the first place? It should be exciting. Yeah, the more you become this approach-Hitman the less nervous you are, but you should still have a purpose for approaching her. Just like poker, there should be still something at stake to get excited about the game.
And as I'm sticking more to the process again, I've noticed how I make more progress again. I approach more girls in casual, daily situations. That's actually my goal. Sarging is nice, but my goal is to be confident enough to chat up the woman of my desire in normal and daily situations. Last Thursday I chatted up a cutie in the subway. Normally I don't like doing this, because I don't want to stuck in a situation with a girl for twenty minutes I might don't have chemistry with. But I have enough faith in my social intelligence to deal with such a situation and lead it in a good way. Also, she was cute and she basically made me horny^^ Sadly enough that she flaked me, but she wants to move to Chile to open up a cafe there in a few months anyway. Today I picked up a chick on my way home. Let's see how this will work out.

To be continued...
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#23

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I think just by leaning back and not leaning in when talking to a girl, that alone will change the frame of the interaction. Also being the one who breaks the conversation and leaves first is powerful.
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#24

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Sup Julien. I love your work, its amazing. I hate your fucking voice though. Its gives me a headache all the damn time. Just kidding # Not. Anyway you wanted a few ideas about your new videos. I just think that it would be great to make a video about love-hate drama, art of seduction. I have seen your 'How To Make Women Fall Psychotically In Love' video and its amazing but not so detailed about 'love-hate' examples.Besides the opening up example, which brings intense emotions could you give more examples about love that bring bliss to a girl then hate phrase you hit her with right after that. It could be the other way round, hate then love.  So that you nail the push and pull from start and she is hooked. Thanks.
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#25

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Respect the cock!
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#26

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the last one with the home made porn kinda took me by suprise. gotta put NSFW on that shit! i watch this stuff while im working with headphones on. usually thats fine. in this case my boss just happened to be walking by while julien was pumping into that chick. a good laugh was had.
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#27
Poowaah

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Thanks Julien! Very good analogy Buyer tv.
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#28

The Hawk

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Sick video and also very funny! This is really on point and ive been living this way for the last month.

In that time I've had one girl want to take on holiday all expenses paid and another want to be my girlfriend. I've watched this vid 5 times to hammer it in more!

My concept is: Don't even want sex
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#29

TheAnchorMan

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I notice how needy for out come I am these days. its my problem I am selling my self to the girl Im not even sure how to get my self out of this head space. I guess the min andset Im trying to be in is abundant but Im,not abundant. I notice Im not fully expressing my self as a man in set Im appollegetic. to get rid of the needy head space I should screen in the bar not just follow the first girl home who will have me. I want approval si bad I will fucking act like a total throwing my self at her o cant belie I Ive I still have this problem after two years
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#30

tyme

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 Would love to hear more about your midgame and what you do to keep the emotions spiked throughout the convo. 

Coming fromt the old teachings of Mystery, a lot of comfort building and DHV spikes. 

Do you take a similar approach to that with obviously different style? Or do you have something completely different. 

Opening is easy now (a lot thanks to your manifesto video) & closing comes with ease if the midgame goes well. Just trying to get that consistency on midgame. 

-Tyme
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#31
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First video is awesome mate!! :D
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#32

Johnmcnutty

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god damn! top 1% "care enough not to care"
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#33
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The problem with being the price is that when you actually end up asking the girl out for a date you get discovered and the whole thing falls down to shit. Then it is very hard to recover from that, and you are stuck with that embarrasment every time you see her.
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#34

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Mindblowing, love your content. 
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#35

talebo

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It is one of the biggest sticking points for the newbies. It takes time to ingrain abundance mentality deeply. What would be the effective ways to ingrain this abundant mentality very, very deeply?
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#36
VinnyMac07

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God damn, the shit test video is fuckin awesome. "Moobs... they're the shit." haha love it.
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