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Greetings from GERMANY.

I just successfully finished yet another Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp here in Munich and I'm about to head over to...


If you're located in Germany and if you're interested in attending an RSD Free Tour event, I'm going to be running a whole 3 hour speech this Thursday MARCH 29th, 2012 at 6pm where I'll also be answering any questions that you may have about success with women in general.


Come and check it out!

I also want to make the big announcement that I'm going to be running the Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp in Paris next weekend in FRENCH. 

I'm actually originally from Geneva, Switzerland and I know that a lot of people out there and especially in France unfortunately don't have access to a lot of this material simply due to the fact that it has not been translated. 

So if you're located in France and if you're interested in hearing about some of the latest RSD principles explained to you in fluent French then come and check it out as well!

My next events are going to be...

March 29 - 31, 2012: Berlin, Germany
April 5 - 7, 2012: Paris, France
April 19 - 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom (taught with Ozzie)
April 26 - 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark (taught with Ozzie)

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

You can also check out all of the cities that I'll be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.


What I thought that I would share with you here today are a few of my own personal thoughts about PHYSICAL GAME.

About “being physical” with the women that you’re interacting with in general...




Is it to establish a man to woman type of interaction?

Is it to set a certain rhythm to the interaction?

Is it to build comfort and physical compatibility?

Well, the answer is NO!

The only reason that you should be physical with the women that you’re interacting with is because you want to.

It’s an expression of your own Intent.

It’s that clarity that you have in all of your thoughts, words and ACTIONS.

You’re not trying to force a certain impression or trying to accomplish anything by being physical with the women that you’re interacting with but instead you’re just purely expressing the fact that you're a man and that you’re naturally attracted to them.

That is it.

If there happens to be a naked model standing right there in front of you and she happens to tell you that you can touch her are you going to say "no" ?

You’re just purely going to do it for you and as an expression of yourself and of your desires as a man.

This is the frame of mind that you should come from in order to be physical with women.

It’s not to accomplish anything but it's just purely doing it for you.

It's only once you start being physical as just an expression of yourself that you will successfully start establishing a man to woman type of interaction, setting the right rhythm to the interaction and building comfort and physical compatibility.

The difference being that you’re solely doing it for you and not to accomplish any of these things. They are just the biproduct of your own Intent as a man.


You should only be physical with the women that you’re interacting with whenever you want to be physical with them.

Whenever you feel like being physical.

If you take the same example that I’ve previously used here above with the naked model that happens to be standing right there in front of you and she happens to tell you that you can touch her now are you going to "no, wait" ?

You should be physically from the very start of the interaction.

If you’re coming from this frame of mind, you're going to be able to set the right rhythm to the interaction as well as establishing it as a MAN TO WOMAN type of interaction.

Ask yourself, why are you there?

It’s because you want her. You’re a man and she’s a woman and just by that fact you’re naturally attracted to her.

That is the only reason why.

This is part of your Intent and if you hold this back she will not feel any kind of attraction for you as your thoughts, words and actions are not going to be aligned.

You want to establish an interaction where it’s assumed by the both of you that you’re both interacting with each other because you’re both naturally attracted to each other. And you want her to be aware of this from the very start of the interaction.

You don’t want to be wasting your time interacting with her as a friend without any kind of sexual polarity and then suddenly and awkwardly trying to shift into being somewhat more physical with her.

You don’t want to be wasting your time interacting with her as a friend and then finding out that she has a boyfriend after having spent over two hours talking to her, for example.

You want to set the right kind of rhythm by being physical with her from the very start of the interaction.

As a side note, women will also always know why you’re there in the first place.

It might not even be consciously, but they will always know that the reason you’re there interacting with them is because you want them.

There’s no need to try to hide this or to try to justify it.


One of the most important old school mindsets that I highly recommend trying to step out of is the “linear progression” mindset.

Progressing the interaction in a linear way which included physicality.

First you can shake her hand, then you can touch her arm, then you can hug, then you can bite her neck, then you can kiss her, then you can finger her and only then can you have sex with her.

If you’re coming from this frame of mind you're often going to tend of have a lot of interactions that lose tension and fizzle out…

What happens if you get a make out in the first five minutes of the interaction?

You will most likely not know what to do after that and you will oftentimes resort to going back to casually talking to her and losing all of the sexual polarity and tension that you’ve both been building together.

What's the solution to this?



It doesn’t matter in which way or in which direction you take it as long as you’re the one who's leading it.

You can literally go in whichever direction you would like to go as long as you’re the one leading the way and letting her experience you just for you.

You can start the interaction with a kiss and then shake her hand or do it the other way around and it will not matter as long as you’re the one who's leading and not viewing the interaction as some sort of linear progression with different steps that you have to take and in a certain order.


Lastly, you cannot overly escalate in a physical way when interacting with women in general as long as you’re being responsive to them.

You’re dealing with human beings and not every person is going to be reacting the same way to that expression of your own Intent.

You have to be responsive to their own situation and to how it's emotionally affecting them.

If they’re not willing to go in the direction that you want to take the interaction in don’t obliviously force that direction on them but instead just be responsive to them and try to take another course of action that you’re both comfortable being a part of.

When you’re doing this however, you're going to want to be responsive and not be reactive where you're emotionally affected by them.

You cannot base your criteria for success on the reactions that you’re getting from the women that you’re interacting with.

Those reactions are out of your control and by that note you cannot predict them in any way.

You cannot calibrate to what you’re doing beforehand but rather calibrate to what you’re doing AFTER THE FACT.

Start being responsive.


PS: Don’t forget to check out the Hot Seat 2 event dates over at www.rsdhotseat.com as well!



United States
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA
April 28, 2012: Washington DC
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA (Julien running day 2)
May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA (Julien running day 2)
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA (Julien running day 2)
September 1, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA

April 7, 2012: Paris, France (In French)
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark
September 22, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
September 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 13, 2012: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
October 20, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
November 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
December 1, 2012: Moscow, Russia
December 8, 2012: Athens, Greece
February 23, 2013: Bucharest, Romania
March 2, 2013: Sofia, Bulgaria
March 23, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
March 30, 2013: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Australia & New Zealand
May 26, 2012: Perth, Australia
June 2, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
June 9, 2012: Sydney, Australia

August 25, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
September 1, 2012: Toronto, Canada
September 8, 2012: Montreal, Canada

Latin America
June 16, 2012: Bogota, Columbia
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
July 7, 2012: Mexico City, Mexico

Middle East
December 15, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
January 5, 2013: Dubai, United Arab Emirates

South Africa
January 12, 2013: Cape Town, South Africa
January 19, 2013: Johannesburg, South Africa

Asia (presented by Alex)
March 31, 2012: Tokyo, Japan




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Nice video bro your public speaking is getting way better.
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 This video is a slap in the face.  A much needed slap in the face.

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 Every time you post an article, I ALWAYS take something away from it that I can incorporate immediately. jammed with good information with possible tangents that leave me curious. I found myself constantly listening to pieces of it over and over again to try and understand what you were getting at. Great video and article!
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Great reminder video.

This mindset is fundamental, each and every time I've ever gotten laid I Pushed my personal boundaries at first.....like I"l think "maybe i shouldn't kiss herr yet", I Recognise that the thought was there so I JUst DO it and it always goes well

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Makes sense right. We want pussy, they want dick, we just have different ways of going about it
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Join Date: 12/23/2010 | Posts: 12

Ha I was there! This was one of the things, when I heard it, I was like hmm... makes sense, but now seeing it again it really hits home with me. Amazing speech you gave there Julien! Too bad I couldn't make it to the Hot Seat, I'm still beating myself up about that haha
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Stepping up!  Fantastic shit.

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Hey, too bad i dont have the poney to do the french bootcamp! La prochaine fois jespere
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Join Date: 12/23/2010 | Posts: 227

 Great frame for this part. Physicallity has been a sticking point for some time and I must say this makes a lot more sense than 'the 7 steps'. Just do it because you want to do it and it can never be too much, it can only be too little. Now that I come to think of it, hardly ever when I escalate there are negative reactions. Once with this American girl in Dublin, she said: It's about time you kisses me, we have been talking for three hours. It was more like one, but you get the picture.
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Amsterdam represent! nice post!
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Merci beaucoup sebopela!
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Join Date: 04/06/2011 | Posts: 1518

Hey Julian,

Hotseat was sick, especially the second day, great stuff!

In regards to physicality/ kino I think it should also be mentioned that in the beginning you HAVE to do things you don't really want to do in order to get used to them. Like the answer you gave when a guy in Munich asked you if he should still "push his comfort zone when he doesn't really feel like doing it": Do what you feel like doing, but at the same time push yourself... it's one of those paradoxones in game!

In the beginning you grabbing her will feel strange, but do it nevertheless - even when everything you want to do is just run and hide under a rock...!
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i swear were always on the same page

my verbal game just got like 10 x better cuz i started throwing more intent out there & your exactly right.. you CANT over escalate.. just say shit n don't react emotionally.. everything goes FINE..

its just the mind fuck where u expect it to all come crashing down lol.. it never does.. 
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Join Date: 09/07/2011 | Posts: 253

 "you're dong it for you...it's not for accomplishing anything AT ALL...you're doing it cuz you want to, it's an expression of yourself"

this line made the entire thing for me. thanks brutha :)
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Julien, why do you speak French but not German? Are you from the French part of Switzerland?
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Hell ya Julien. Great article man.
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Join Date: 01/14/2012 | Posts: 249

It's me....bitches!!!

(the blond beauty on the right)
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Join Date: 01/14/2012 | Posts: 249

So simple, yet so hard if you're coming from a newbie mindset. It's not just with girls. This stepping up mentality holds from 7 in the morning till 11 at night. Or 1pm till 5am if you prefer.
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Join Date: 02/10/2011 | Posts: 272

Getting physical is an expression of who you are. How can you fuck that up? Its me expressing myself physically while still being responsive to her. I loves this!
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Join Date: 03/30/2011 | Posts: 200

thanks man ! The best concept I learned from the video is that there is no "linear progression" on the kino
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just what I needed. this would absolutely make no sense to a person that doesnt approach though
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Your pants are too tight!
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Join Date: 12/01/2008 | Posts: 63

 Are you still coming to Bogota! I'd love to attend the Hot seat and free tour!
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Join Date: 07/26/2011 | Posts: 30

Hey Julien!

The value of this post is amazing, it is really helpfull to me, as it makes me shift my paradigms  in the game and social life radically!

I think this post is TOP stuff to get amazing results with women. :)
I just have a doubt I didnt understand the last bit of the article when you said: "You cannot calibrate to what you’re doing beforehand but rather calibrate to what you’re doing AFTER THE FACT. " If you could just clarify it o me in one line

Looking forward to seeing you at Barcelona´s Hotseat the 17 of November (haha it´s my birthday also, so it will be an interesting way of celebrating it as well ;)

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 Loved it, great video :)
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Join Date: 04/21/2008 | Posts: 189

Thanks, Julien.

I so like the idea of making it perfectly clear that you are interested in her as the object of your desire, not as a gay friend. If nothing else, you get to find out if she's married, has a serious boyfriend, or is actually a lesbian.
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Join Date: 04/20/2011 | Posts: 80

 this forum is amazing
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Join Date: 08/19/2010 | Posts: 255

 Wow. Speechless.
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Join Date: 04/29/2009 | Posts: 44

Hey Julien I've got a question that I haven't heard talked about much lately.  Hired guns.  Is there some role that I can play when trying to isolate a waitress or stripper or barista?  I notice they see so many guys during the day, and these girls love their job for all the validation they get.  So how can i set myself apart enough to isolate her?  Is it solid game to just ask for a date and go that route?  I remember back in the day mystery always talked about his extra cool method for hired guns, but I never heard what that was lol.
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Join Date: 11/19/2010 | Posts: 99

Hey, NDN-Steve...

I'm not sure what Julien's take is on how to game sales/working girls on the clock - I'm definitely curious to hear it -- but I've been volunteering this weekend in NYC with Todd, the RSD instructor. This came up at Sunday debrief. Todd's advice (I'm paraphrasing) is to change up the retailer-customer frame. Say you're at the Gap, and the sales girl is super cute. Todd basically says to flirt/show intent AND get her out of her salesgirl role by saying something like, "Look, you're a great sales girl, but let me talk to the REAL Katie..." He also said you can get conspiratorial with her: "I know your boss is watching, so here, pretend I'm gonna buy this shirt..." and then keep chatting until you close with a number or whatever you can do. 

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Join Date: 06/25/2009 | Posts: 1212

 Very good shit julien, wow. Also rewatched the hot seat video and what really clicked was basically how to truly be present and that is put all focus into your body and voice.  This happens to me when I'm on and you're right the best times you have is when you listen to yourself/your body and are completely in tune with yourself and not reacting to the environment at all, its a beautiful thing.  Gold man. 
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