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Welcome to the now seemingly consistent sleepless nights of Sao Paulo, Brazil…
I've just successfully finished wrapping up my very last series events here and I'm excited to let you know that I'm going to be based back out of the United States for the next two months!
So as always, if you're located anywhere that's nearby and if you're interested in checking out the very last Live Programs that I'm going to be doing there this year then make sure that you DO NOT miss out on any of these events...
July 5 - 7, 2012: Los Angeles
July 12 - 14, 2012: New York
August 2, 2012: Honolulu (taught with Tyler)
August 17 - 19: Las Vegas
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
You can also check out all of the cities that I'll be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.
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On that note, I thought that I’d take advantage of some the free time that I have here to share with you and expand on one of the brand new perspectives that I’ve recently had on my own game as well as explore into further depth one of the more recent articles that I wrote, entitled:
HOW TO CREATE MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF DRAMA TO MAKE WOMEN FALL PSYCHOTICALLY IN LOVE WITH YOU!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eFuMi36mg2k
So…
As we all already know by now, women crave DRAMA…
It’s my own personal belief that women probably crave this more than anything else in the world!
It’s literally like a DRUG to them and they will do just about anything in order to get their next hit of it.
And when I say anything, I mean ANYTHING!
I took the time to explain all of the principal mechanics that are at work behind all of this in the article that I previously here above, but one of the most recurring questions that really stood out and that a lot people have been asking me since then has been along the lines of:
“Julien, I understand what you are advocating here but what are some of the practical ways that I can apply this new concept for myself?”
Or…
“Are there any guidelines that I can follow to proactively infuse women with DRAMA?”
And what I’m excited to finally be able to say to you here today, is that the answer is “YES!” to all of the above! ;]
THE PRACTICAL WAY TO HOOK A GIRL FOR LIFE!
Before we plunge into the deeper aspects of this concept, I would like to start off by saying that one of the most important things to remember all throughout this article and especially if you’re planning on applying this for yourself is that this is a ROLE-PLAY.
It’s nothing more than a role-play!
This is by no means the basis of your own game, and nor should it be.
It’s simply a role-play that you let the women that you’re interacting with bask into without any repercussions, at all…
It’s similar to how one would set a certain frame back in the day where they would accuse the women that they were interacting with of making them attracted to them, for example.
“Why are you doing this to me?”
“Why do I like you so much, stop whatever you’re doing to me!”
However!
What I’m advocating here is taking all of this to a whole other level that is deeply ingrained into the female psyche and reaching a whole other level of attraction that was previously inconceivable to you.
So, let’s get started:
The general frame of mind that you should always be coming from when applying all of this and the main reason that it all works so well in the first place, is that you’re a self-actualized and naturally attractive man who has implemented all of the core fundamentals of game BUT you also have a vulnerable side to your personality that only she can bring out of you.
No-one else can!
It’s the female fantasy of TAMING THE WILD STALLION and making him her own…
It’s the female fantasy of “domesticating” you from your previous ways that made you so attractive to her in the first place…
And this is the type of frame that you can start setting from the very start of the interaction and then easing her into it or that you can use all throughout a more long-Tterm type of relationship as well, if you chose to.
All of this really comes down to being a self-actualized and naturally attractive man and then showing her that EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITY.
It really comes down to letting her experience the feeling of bringing that more vulnerable side out of you and affecting you in a special way that no other woman previously ever could have.
So, what are some of the practical ways of doing this?
I would say that the most practical ways of setting all of this is by establishing the classic “I love you” / “I hate you” PUSH-PULL type of frame.
Playing the whole interaction in a very “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde” type of way.
On one side of the coin you’re a self-actualized man who’s on his own path and who’s following his purpose in life.
But on the other side you’re letting her break through your rough exterior by bringing out the true feelings that you have for her to the surface and ultimately distracting you from your own path and your purpose.
This is a concept that David Deida originally talks about in his book “The Way of The Superior Man” where he advocates that women will unconsciously try to distract you from your own path and your purpose in life, similar to the sirens in “The Odyssey”, and that they will gain in attraction for you every time that you don’t stray away from it.
And this is something that can proactively hint at all throughout the interactions that you’re having by giving her that opportunity that she’s always wanted but without ever falling off of your own path and your purpose as a man.
It could be as basic and as a simple “I love you” / “I hate you” or as dense as “I’ve never felt this with anyone before and I really want to open myself up to you right now” / “No, I can’t and I’m afraid of being emotionally hurt if I do.”
Start experimenting around with this frame.
Try it out!
Another way of amplifying this kind of attraction is by framing her as being the ONLY person who understands you and who you can go to in times of need.
This is something that feeds deep into her fantasy of finding a man that ONLY she can emotionally move and really connect with on an emotional level.
And this also something that takes care of a lot of the “qualification” aspect of the interactions that you’re having.
Who doesn’t want to find their soul mate?
One of the main ways that you can constantly and proactively do this by creating what I like to call “conspiracy theories” between yourself and the women that you’re interacting with in general.
Reinforcing the fact that you both share a little secret that no-one else know about.
One of the main frames that you want to establish in the interactions that you’re having is the whole “you and her” bubble, where ultimately nothing else that is external to that matters, at all.
“It’s weird because even though we know nothing about each other, I really like you. And I’ve never actually told this to anyone before because it’s kind of personal but…”
“Me and you” VS. “The world”
Another great way to generate drama all throughout the interactions that you’re having and amplifying the points that we’ve already established here above is by:
THROWING EMOTIONAL TANTRUMS AND GIVING HER THE OPPORTUNITY TO CALM YOU DOWN AND ULTIMATELY FIX YOU.
And these tantrums or emotional fits can pretty much be about anything!
They don’t have to make any sense at all, for example:
YOU: I’m sad.
HER: Why?
YOU: No, nevermind it’s fine.
HER: No tell me! What’s wrong?
YOU: Why are you always like this?
HER: Like what??? What did I do?
YOU: I don’t know, it’s weird.
HER: Did I do something to upset you?
YOU: No, I’m sorry. Nevermind what I said before, I was just tired… I love you.
HER: I love you too!
Throwing any kind of random emotional fit and then giving her the opportunity to bask in the new emotions that you’re providing her and then concluding it by giving her the opportunity to feel as if she was able to make everything better for you again and ultimately fix you.
This is something that taps very deeply into the female psyche of being the NURTURING type.
It’s one of the most primal needs of every woman to want to be with a man whom she can take of and nurture.
In a way, it’s her own way of excreting power.
Picture back in the day, a brave warrior who’s wounded from the battlefield and who’s coming back to his woman to take care of him and nurture him…
It’s the ultimate female fantasy and desire!
Now, make no mistake:
She wants to nurture the WARRIOR.
She want to take care of and soothe a self-actualized naturally attractive man who’s on his own path and who’s following his purpose in life.
Not some inept and emotionally needy man who is coming from a “value taking” type of frame.
Try viewing it more in terms of letting her help fuel your own drive as a man who’s on his own path and who has all of the core fundamentals of game already handled for himself.
And this something that also shows a certain amount of vulnerability on your part by letting your emotions get the best of you and not being able to emotionally control yourself when you’re around her.
She makes you lose all of your rational senses, which is ultimately a sign of weakness as a man.
This will reinforce the fact that she is unique to you and that she has a certain power over you that no-one else has, which also taps deep into her female psyche.
FRAMING THE INTERACTION IN A WAY WHERE ALL OF THIS IS NEW TO YOU AND YOU CAN’T CONTROL IT ALL OR UNDERSTAND IT.
Framing the interaction in a way that gives her the opportunity to feel as if she’s your anchor in the newfound emotions that you’re experiencing and that are unknown to you.
Give her the opportunity to feel as if she’s the one who’s ultimately guiding you and providing you with all of these new emotions that you’re not yet accustomed to and that confuse you.
Some of the different ways that you could do this for example, could be by saying things along the lines of:
“I hate that I’m feeling this way for you, it’s weird.”
“I hate that I like you so much, I’ve never feel this way before for anyone else… I’m usually kind of an asshole, actually.”
“I’ve never taken a girl on a date before, really. I know that this sounds stupid but it’s actually new to me and I want to be nice and romantic with you. I really like you.”
These are some of the most effective types of frames that you could ever set when interacting with women in general and that they actually DREAM about hearing a man say!
It doesn’t get any better than this.
STUMBLING AND SHOWING EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS OR VULNERABILITY.
Stumbling and acting as if you’re overwhelmed by the emotions that she’s making you experience for the first time.
This is something that counteracts with the hard exterior that a man ultimately tries to portray for himself and frames the interaction in a way where you’re opening up and letting her in by ultimately trusting her with your weaknesses.
Trusting her with every part of who you are.
FORCING YOURSELF INTO THE “PROVIDER” ROLE AND THEN ACCELERATING THE LOVE PROCESS.
Ultimately, what I’m sure that you’ve already noticed by now is that all of this is something that tends goes against what is most traditionally recommended in this community: “Being the Lover, NOT the Provider.”
Framing yourself as the “fun and loving” guy who she will more likely feel comfortable going home with and sleep with.
And I highly recommend this as well!
However, as I mentioned in the very beginning of this article, this isn’t the basis of your game.
This is something that you can sprinkle into it as long as you enjoy this type of interaction and as long as you’re doing it in a way that isn’t attached to a certain outcome.
It’s ultimately a form of expression.
And being able to frame yourself as the “Provider” and not the “Lover” while at the same time being able to accelerate the “Love Process” by already having all of the core fundamentals of game handled is ultimately a great way to encompass all of this.
Expecting more from her than just sex or even a regular relationship!
And as a last practical way to accomplish all of this, start regularly using “future projections” all throughout the interactions that you’re having.
Accelerating the pair bond effect that two individuals tend to develop when spending a significant amount of time together by telling her that you’re going to take her somewhere on vacation where it’s just going to be the two of you, for example.
Or telling her that you want her to meet your family or that you want to meet her family in order to reinforce that same type of bond as well.
It ultimately comes down to solidifying that it’s just the two of you by using certain “future projections” in order to reinforce that bubble that you’ve now created.
Consolidating that you’re taking the interaction more seriously with her than with anyone else!
Lastly, one of the most important skillsets that you’re ultimately going to have to cultivate for yourself in order to be able to successfully incorporate everything that I’ve mentioned here above:
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH YOUR OWN EMOTIONS!
I just wrote an article about this a few days ago that I highly recommend that you take the time to check out if you haven’t already, entitled:
BEING EMOTIONAL! THE NEW WAY OF COMMUNICATION
Whenever you’re going to set these types of frames it’s important that you try to develop a certain feel for the different types of emotion are going on in order to get a feel for what would make sense and when it would make sense.
You’re going to have to develop some sort of feel for how long to last on which emotion before caving in and giving her the next one.
You’re going to have to develop some sort of feel for when it would make sense to switch things up and not cause an emotional spike that is too high and that you can’t come back from.
There is of course a certain curricular motion to all of the emotional patterns that I advocate in this article, where after a while it just tends becomes the same thing over and over again where you just take it to higher heights and lowers lows.
But ultimately you’re going to have to develop a sense of what MAKES SENSE in the interactions that you’re having.
You’re going to have to develop the skillset of being able rapidly sculpting the vibe of the interaction in a way that quickly switches between different ranges of emotion and that lets her experience stronger and broader ranges than she ever experienced before with anyone else.
This is a skill that mainly cultivated over time through cold approach but you can also try to accelerate the learning process by focusing on getting yourself more in touch with your own emotions!
Once you’ve developed the more emotional side of you personality, you’ll be more attuned to what she’s thinking and feeling at any moment in time and you’ll be able to hit her with the right emotions at the right time.
Become emotional in order to relate to her emotions!
By cultivating this skillset you’re also going to become more familiar with the female psyche and what triggers it in specific ways.
Ask yourself:
"What are some of the basic socially conditioned ways that dramatic movies are structured that make women respond to them the way that they do?"
"Which parts trigger which emotions and when?"
On that note, I thought that I would conclude this article with one of my very own “Text Message” excerpts to really help illustrate everything that you’ve just read and really give you some kind of concrete example of how far you can actually take all of this if you do it the right way and if you come from the right frame of mind.
TEXT MESSAGE EXCERPTS:
This is a text exchange that I had a while back with a Playboy model that I probably saw a total amount of three times over the course of a couple of weeks.
That’s it!
And this text exchange probably happened about two months after that, which should again really help illustrate to which degree women CRAVE drama!
So…
The very first text that you’re about to read here was sent during some of the time that I spent in Miami South Beach on one nights that I failed to pull a girl back to my hotel…
Now again, as a side note, I do NOT recommend taking any of this to such an extent but take this more as an example to really help hammer in these different concepts as well as give you a sense of what “sculpting the vibe of the interaction” looks like:
***CLICK HERE TO READ THE FULL TEXT MESSAGE EXCERPT***
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PS: Let me know what you think of this particular concept and if you have any specific topics that you’d like to hear me cover in any future RSDNATION article!
PPS: CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT I RECORDED IN SAO PAULO THAT REVEALS EXACTLY HOW TO GET THE GIRLS ATTENTION BY BRINGING BACK OLD SCHOOL CONCEPTS SUCH AS "BUTTON PUSHING" AND "NEGGING":
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2reDG7UwO4
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Welcome to the now seemingly consistent sleepless nights of Sao Paulo, Brazil…
I've just successfully finished wrapping up my very last series events here and I'm excited to let you know that I'm going to be based back out of the United States for the next two months!
So as always, if you're located anywhere that's nearby and if you're interested in checking out the very last Live Programs that I'm going to be doing there this year then make sure that you DO NOT miss out on any of these events...
July 5 - 7, 2012: Los Angeles
July 12 - 14, 2012: New York
August 2, 2012: Honolulu (taught with Tyler)
August 17 - 19: Las Vegas
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
You can also check out all of the cities that I'll be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.
<>==========================================<>
On that note, I thought that I’d take advantage of some the free time that I have here to share with you and expand on one of the brand new perspectives that I’ve recently had on my own game as well as explore into further depth one of the more recent articles that I wrote, entitled:
HOW TO CREATE MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF DRAMA TO MAKE WOMEN FALL PSYCHOTICALLY IN LOVE WITH YOU!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eFuMi36mg2k
So…
As we all already know by now, women crave DRAMA…
It’s my own personal belief that women probably crave this more than anything else in the world!
It’s literally like a DRUG to them and they will do just about anything in order to get their next hit of it.
And when I say anything, I mean ANYTHING!
I took the time to explain all of the principal mechanics that are at work behind all of this in the article that I previously here above, but one of the most recurring questions that really stood out and that a lot people have been asking me since then has been along the lines of:
“Julien, I understand what you are advocating here but what are some of the practical ways that I can apply this new concept for myself?”
Or…
“Are there any guidelines that I can follow to proactively infuse women with DRAMA?”
And what I’m excited to finally be able to say to you here today, is that the answer is “YES!” to all of the above! ;]
THE PRACTICAL WAY TO HOOK A GIRL FOR LIFE!
Before we plunge into the deeper aspects of this concept, I would like to start off by saying that one of the most important things to remember all throughout this article and especially if you’re planning on applying this for yourself is that this is a ROLE-PLAY.
It’s nothing more than a role-play!
This is by no means the basis of your own game, and nor should it be.
It’s simply a role-play that you let the women that you’re interacting with bask into without any repercussions, at all…
It’s similar to how one would set a certain frame back in the day where they would accuse the women that they were interacting with of making them attracted to them, for example.
“Why are you doing this to me?”
“Why do I like you so much, stop whatever you’re doing to me!”
However!
What I’m advocating here is taking all of this to a whole other level that is deeply ingrained into the female psyche and reaching a whole other level of attraction that was previously inconceivable to you.
So, let’s get started:
The general frame of mind that you should always be coming from when applying all of this and the main reason that it all works so well in the first place, is that you’re a self-actualized and naturally attractive man who has implemented all of the core fundamentals of game BUT you also have a vulnerable side to your personality that only she can bring out of you.
No-one else can!
It’s the female fantasy of TAMING THE WILD STALLION and making him her own…
It’s the female fantasy of “domesticating” you from your previous ways that made you so attractive to her in the first place…
And this is the type of frame that you can start setting from the very start of the interaction and then easing her into it or that you can use all throughout a more long-Tterm type of relationship as well, if you chose to.
All of this really comes down to being a self-actualized and naturally attractive man and then showing her that EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITY.
It really comes down to letting her experience the feeling of bringing that more vulnerable side out of you and affecting you in a special way that no other woman previously ever could have.
So, what are some of the practical ways of doing this?
I would say that the most practical ways of setting all of this is by establishing the classic “I love you” / “I hate you” PUSH-PULL type of frame.
Playing the whole interaction in a very “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde” type of way.
On one side of the coin you’re a self-actualized man who’s on his own path and who’s following his purpose in life.
But on the other side you’re letting her break through your rough exterior by bringing out the true feelings that you have for her to the surface and ultimately distracting you from your own path and your purpose.
This is a concept that David Deida originally talks about in his book “The Way of The Superior Man” where he advocates that women will unconsciously try to distract you from your own path and your purpose in life, similar to the sirens in “The Odyssey”, and that they will gain in attraction for you every time that you don’t stray away from it.
And this is something that can proactively hint at all throughout the interactions that you’re having by giving her that opportunity that she’s always wanted but without ever falling off of your own path and your purpose as a man.
It could be as basic and as a simple “I love you” / “I hate you” or as dense as “I’ve never felt this with anyone before and I really want to open myself up to you right now” / “No, I can’t and I’m afraid of being emotionally hurt if I do.”
Start experimenting around with this frame.
Try it out!
Another way of amplifying this kind of attraction is by framing her as being the ONLY person who understands you and who you can go to in times of need.
This is something that feeds deep into her fantasy of finding a man that ONLY she can emotionally move and really connect with on an emotional level.
And this also something that takes care of a lot of the “qualification” aspect of the interactions that you’re having.
Who doesn’t want to find their soul mate?
One of the main ways that you can constantly and proactively do this by creating what I like to call “conspiracy theories” between yourself and the women that you’re interacting with in general.
Reinforcing the fact that you both share a little secret that no-one else know about.
One of the main frames that you want to establish in the interactions that you’re having is the whole “you and her” bubble, where ultimately nothing else that is external to that matters, at all.
“It’s weird because even though we know nothing about each other, I really like you. And I’ve never actually told this to anyone before because it’s kind of personal but…”
“Me and you” VS. “The world”
Another great way to generate drama all throughout the interactions that you’re having and amplifying the points that we’ve already established here above is by:
THROWING EMOTIONAL TANTRUMS AND GIVING HER THE OPPORTUNITY TO CALM YOU DOWN AND ULTIMATELY FIX YOU.
And these tantrums or emotional fits can pretty much be about anything!
They don’t have to make any sense at all, for example:
YOU: I’m sad.
HER: Why?
YOU: No, nevermind it’s fine.
HER: No tell me! What’s wrong?
YOU: Why are you always like this?
HER: Like what??? What did I do?
YOU: I don’t know, it’s weird.
HER: Did I do something to upset you?
YOU: No, I’m sorry. Nevermind what I said before, I was just tired… I love you.
HER: I love you too!
Throwing any kind of random emotional fit and then giving her the opportunity to bask in the new emotions that you’re providing her and then concluding it by giving her the opportunity to feel as if she was able to make everything better for you again and ultimately fix you.
This is something that taps very deeply into the female psyche of being the NURTURING type.
It’s one of the most primal needs of every woman to want to be with a man whom she can take of and nurture.
In a way, it’s her own way of excreting power.
Picture back in the day, a brave warrior who’s wounded from the battlefield and who’s coming back to his woman to take care of him and nurture him…
It’s the ultimate female fantasy and desire!
Now, make no mistake:
She wants to nurture the WARRIOR.
She want to take care of and soothe a self-actualized naturally attractive man who’s on his own path and who’s following his purpose in life.
Not some inept and emotionally needy man who is coming from a “value taking” type of frame.
Try viewing it more in terms of letting her help fuel your own drive as a man who’s on his own path and who has all of the core fundamentals of game already handled for himself.
And this something that also shows a certain amount of vulnerability on your part by letting your emotions get the best of you and not being able to emotionally control yourself when you’re around her.
She makes you lose all of your rational senses, which is ultimately a sign of weakness as a man.
This will reinforce the fact that she is unique to you and that she has a certain power over you that no-one else has, which also taps deep into her female psyche.
FRAMING THE INTERACTION IN A WAY WHERE ALL OF THIS IS NEW TO YOU AND YOU CAN’T CONTROL IT ALL OR UNDERSTAND IT.
Framing the interaction in a way that gives her the opportunity to feel as if she’s your anchor in the newfound emotions that you’re experiencing and that are unknown to you.
Give her the opportunity to feel as if she’s the one who’s ultimately guiding you and providing you with all of these new emotions that you’re not yet accustomed to and that confuse you.
Some of the different ways that you could do this for example, could be by saying things along the lines of:
“I hate that I’m feeling this way for you, it’s weird.”
“I hate that I like you so much, I’ve never feel this way before for anyone else… I’m usually kind of an asshole, actually.”
“I’ve never taken a girl on a date before, really. I know that this sounds stupid but it’s actually new to me and I want to be nice and romantic with you. I really like you.”
These are some of the most effective types of frames that you could ever set when interacting with women in general and that they actually DREAM about hearing a man say!
It doesn’t get any better than this.
STUMBLING AND SHOWING EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS OR VULNERABILITY.
Stumbling and acting as if you’re overwhelmed by the emotions that she’s making you experience for the first time.
This is something that counteracts with the hard exterior that a man ultimately tries to portray for himself and frames the interaction in a way where you’re opening up and letting her in by ultimately trusting her with your weaknesses.
Trusting her with every part of who you are.
FORCING YOURSELF INTO THE “PROVIDER” ROLE AND THEN ACCELERATING THE LOVE PROCESS.
Ultimately, what I’m sure that you’ve already noticed by now is that all of this is something that tends goes against what is most traditionally recommended in this community: “Being the Lover, NOT the Provider.”
Framing yourself as the “fun and loving” guy who she will more likely feel comfortable going home with and sleep with.
And I highly recommend this as well!
However, as I mentioned in the very beginning of this article, this isn’t the basis of your game.
This is something that you can sprinkle into it as long as you enjoy this type of interaction and as long as you’re doing it in a way that isn’t attached to a certain outcome.
It’s ultimately a form of expression.
And being able to frame yourself as the “Provider” and not the “Lover” while at the same time being able to accelerate the “Love Process” by already having all of the core fundamentals of game handled is ultimately a great way to encompass all of this.
Expecting more from her than just sex or even a regular relationship!
And as a last practical way to accomplish all of this, start regularly using “future projections” all throughout the interactions that you’re having.
Accelerating the pair bond effect that two individuals tend to develop when spending a significant amount of time together by telling her that you’re going to take her somewhere on vacation where it’s just going to be the two of you, for example.
Or telling her that you want her to meet your family or that you want to meet her family in order to reinforce that same type of bond as well.
It ultimately comes down to solidifying that it’s just the two of you by using certain “future projections” in order to reinforce that bubble that you’ve now created.
Consolidating that you’re taking the interaction more seriously with her than with anyone else!
Lastly, one of the most important skillsets that you’re ultimately going to have to cultivate for yourself in order to be able to successfully incorporate everything that I’ve mentioned here above:
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH YOUR OWN EMOTIONS!
I just wrote an article about this a few days ago that I highly recommend that you take the time to check out if you haven’t already, entitled:
BEING EMOTIONAL! THE NEW WAY OF COMMUNICATION
Whenever you’re going to set these types of frames it’s important that you try to develop a certain feel for the different types of emotion are going on in order to get a feel for what would make sense and when it would make sense.
You’re going to have to develop some sort of feel for how long to last on which emotion before caving in and giving her the next one.
You’re going to have to develop some sort of feel for when it would make sense to switch things up and not cause an emotional spike that is too high and that you can’t come back from.
There is of course a certain curricular motion to all of the emotional patterns that I advocate in this article, where after a while it just tends becomes the same thing over and over again where you just take it to higher heights and lowers lows.
But ultimately you’re going to have to develop a sense of what MAKES SENSE in the interactions that you’re having.
You’re going to have to develop the skillset of being able rapidly sculpting the vibe of the interaction in a way that quickly switches between different ranges of emotion and that lets her experience stronger and broader ranges than she ever experienced before with anyone else.
This is a skill that mainly cultivated over time through cold approach but you can also try to accelerate the learning process by focusing on getting yourself more in touch with your own emotions!
Once you’ve developed the more emotional side of you personality, you’ll be more attuned to what she’s thinking and feeling at any moment in time and you’ll be able to hit her with the right emotions at the right time.
Become emotional in order to relate to her emotions!
By cultivating this skillset you’re also going to become more familiar with the female psyche and what triggers it in specific ways.
Ask yourself:
"What are some of the basic socially conditioned ways that dramatic movies are structured that make women respond to them the way that they do?"
"Which parts trigger which emotions and when?"
On that note, I thought that I would conclude this article with one of my very own “Text Message” excerpts to really help illustrate everything that you’ve just read and really give you some kind of concrete example of how far you can actually take all of this if you do it the right way and if you come from the right frame of mind.
TEXT MESSAGE EXCERPTS:
This is a text exchange that I had a while back with a Playboy model that I probably saw a total amount of three times over the course of a couple of weeks.
That’s it!
And this text exchange probably happened about two months after that, which should again really help illustrate to which degree women CRAVE drama!
So…
The very first text that you’re about to read here was sent during some of the time that I spent in Miami South Beach on one nights that I failed to pull a girl back to my hotel…
Now again, as a side note, I do NOT recommend taking any of this to such an extent but take this more as an example to really help hammer in these different concepts as well as give you a sense of what “sculpting the vibe of the interaction” looks like:
***CLICK HERE TO READ THE FULL TEXT MESSAGE EXCERPT***
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PS: Let me know what you think of this particular concept and if you have any specific topics that you’d like to hear me cover in any future RSDNATION article!
PPS: CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT I RECORDED IN SAO PAULO THAT REVEALS EXACTLY HOW TO GET THE GIRLS ATTENTION BY BRINGING BACK OLD SCHOOL CONCEPTS SUCH AS "BUTTON PUSHING" AND "NEGGING":
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2reDG7UwO4
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Brandisii
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J Dilla R.I.P.
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Tell girl 1 to meet at wherever, and "Accidentally" (or tell her you want her to meet a 'friend' of yours?) tell girl 2 to meet at the same place. Girls see eachother (how to prevent them from running away crying immediately?)
Frame: "Shit, fuck I didn't mean to do this. I've never done this before. I've never felt like this before. You're tearing me apart, I hate this. True love isn't supposed to hurt like this is it? How can I love one of you without hurting the other... This makes no sense, it was a bad idea. If I lose either of you I'll never be whole again. Please don't hate each other.." etc etc.
Reconcile the "feelings" for both girls and move on together...
Obviously non-field tested, clearly won't work if the fundamentals aren't down... There has to be a way!
Any tips?
This roleplay dynamic appears to be very intense, clearly everyone must decide his own "boundaries" - I was wondering if you ever intentionally restrict the roleplay - for any reason? I think if I ever found the need to limit the roleplay I shouldn't have been doing it in the first place.
Thanks for the great article!
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Genius.... Pure Genius!! :)
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Was she a slut or what?? :)
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I'd love to hear your view on dealing with one-itus and catching feelings when it's coming from a place of scarcity and not having a reasonable abundance yet. I know Tyler already has a video about it, but it's way too short and trivial in my opinion and if you think about the negative effects that it has on having consistency in learning game I get the feeling that it's one of the biggest traps for the newbie to not reach their potential and get the girls they actually really want. So I'd love to hear an all out epic rant preferably with showing how the newbies that fall for these traps act like (like in the permission boy vid.) XD
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English Ben
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Funny thing is, I realised I did this 2 days ago almost textbook to a girl...and was helped by your previous article about getting in touch with emotions etc.
Botanica was cranking yesterday...you missed it! Ha ha
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MrCreepGuy
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anyway, great article and thanks for sharing this whole text interaction julien!
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The first one about drama it`s pure gold, really fun.
I used to use drama waaay before but when i talked about with my 'civilian friends' they criticized me heavily, but i knew that this shit works really solid on the girls and I had that - it`s not even me that she likes, but the vibe that i represent - literally, but like I sad, I had no mentors to tell that this is the way to relate to woman, so i quit.
I used to create drama and stop to talk with girl for no reason and they respond quite well ;D
I got to the point that i had no girls to interact with... a little bit depress. and then i realize. shit. I L O V E this game i need to fell all that drama/emotions again!
really thanks by putting the URLs of the videos bellow them, you don`t have idea how this helps me ;)
p.s. I laught every time when i saw the emotional face from the actor that u put on the emotional way of com. topic (i though that u would use personal examples on this one)
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Euhm rethinking about this, yes it would be probably needy from me..
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Nina was a GOOD girl, in fact the best possible "type" of girl imaginable although she was definitely not the HOTTEST chick in our school. The chick wore pajamas most days, never acted or dressed slutty at allllllllllllllll, was the most mature person i ever knew and hung out with mostly her social circle which was kindddd of small but not really... Like she had a strong reality and one of the few chicks in our school who DID NOT GIVE A FUCK about her looks or about dick... Im serious... she wore pajamas and these stupid ass shirts that make her look hidieous compared to now, and she was allways in her own reality having fun, doing her thing, busy, mature... best way I can put it... I don't even know howmany fucken classes I took with her but I never even knew she was famous, like she was on a show called Degrassi and in a movie, and I never even knew till last year of highschool... she might look like some stupid ass slut but she's smart as fuck and has a mature side of her most people cant see... Her "type" of girls are what I like, all though Nina is not hot as fuck in real life... that's the facts...
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I bet all the guys were dieing to fuck her in school!
Was she a slut or what?? :
iRyan
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I'd fuck her anus red raw!! ...... and her twin Victoria Justice :)
Nina was a GOOD girl, in fact the best possible "type" of girl imaginable although she was definitely not the HOTTEST chick in our school. The chick wore pajamas most days, never acted or dressed slutty at allllllllllllllll, was the most mature person i ever knew and hung out with mostly her social circle which was kindddd of small but not really... Like she had a strong reality and one of the few chicks in our school who DID NOT GIVE A FUCK about her looks or about dick... Im serious... she wore pajamas and these stupid ass shirts that make her look hidieous compared to now, and she was allways in her own reality having fun, doing her thing, busy, mature... best way I can put it... I don't even know howmany fucken classes I took with her but I never even knew she was famous, like she was on a show called Degrassi and in a movie, and I never even knew till last year of highschool... she might look like some stupid ass slut but she's smart as fuck and has a mature side of her most people cant see... Her "type" of girls are what I like, all though Nina is not hot as fuck in real life... that's the facts...
iRyan
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I bet all the guys were dieing to fuck her in school!
Was she a slut or what?? :
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This is the most fucked up seminar room ever, looks like a prison cell, ha ha!
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this shit is DANGEROUS, good thing is that not so many guys have an ability to have such a huge emotional influence on girls (or just people on people) :)
but for some strange reason I love it, and for some time Julien has been my favorite RSD guy, maybe because he's just so practical :D
It's emotional, man, keep it going, big fan
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Until now the paradigm approach of RSD to drama was "drama is female, it's just what they do, don't even try to understand it. Your role as a man is to stay icy! You just have to be the mofo pimp!!"
Seems like there's a little revolution going on and some difficulties will arise in merging the "old RSD game", which was kind of directed to positivity and bringing the value, congruence and rooted in male-rational concepts, with this drama-thing.... weird stuff and no one got an idea of how to apply this^^
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To be honest though I feel at my current level of experience this just isn't on my horizon. Sadly.
With that being said I think this is a pretty straight-forward approach to attraction and is easy to figure out when you have the ABUNDANCE of women in your life to see this play out.
I'm excited to get to that point and try it out.
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will experiment with that a little in the near future
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Haha. That's cool.
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One thing I got from RSD is to become Naturally screening... This makes it easier to get the type of girls you want and saves a shitload of time... go after the ones that you're literally uncontrolablly attracted to... doesnt mean you dont socialize, but that actually allows you to honestly socialize cuz ur not "practicing" where it doesn't matter and you can relax learn to JUSt socialize... A chick like Nina, to me she's different from other chikcs only cuz she's rich and famous... other then that, i wouldn't make myself sweat over her or any other girl with status just for fucks sake... I've seen Nina in class when she was sick, having a bad day,etc... Her life was just as plain as anybody elses, which im sure changed with her fame and riches lol one would hope... Still, I mean WTF, I hate sex symbols, they're retarded, because they create the sense of scaracity when in fac there's ALOTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT more hot people in this world then we realize, and most girls are just make-up junkies, that's like giving credit to a drug-addict for being upbeat about life lol No, it's just the drugs that make it like that... It really isint...
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Not hot in real life!?!?LOl
I'd fuck her anus red raw!! ...... and her twin Victoria Justice :)
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Do you ever get verbal confirmation that she realizes it's just a game?
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You da bomb, Julien.
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Julien, maybe you can help me clarify something? I get that girls want that full range of emotions and by creating more and more drama you're giving it to them. However, in doing so, you're also sucking them sooo far into the role play that they forget that it's all just a game. Shit, this makes me think of the method actor Heath Ledger who had to take anti-psychotic drugs to set his mind straight after impersonating the Joker. It is definitely possible to go too far with this shit. So where do you draw the line? Or do you just say "fuck it, if she can't snap herself out of it that's her problem"?
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A 23-year-old is going to tell me how to hook a girl for life!
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Reall enjoyed the article