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"Kia Ora!"
Greetings from Auckland, New Zealand...
As you've probably already guessed it, I've just successfully finished wrapping up yet another Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp before now heading over to South America this time!
So, if you're located in the area and if you're interested in hearing about all of the latest concepts and theories that I've been working on while touring around the globe, then make sure you do not miss out on any of the events that are listed here below!
Here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp dates...
June 21 - 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 28 - 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
July 12 - 14, 2012: New York
August 2, 2012: Honolulu (taught with Tyler)
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
You can also check out all of the cities that I'll be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.
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On that note, what I'm excited to finally be able to take the time and share with you today is one of the most important realizations that you're ever going to have to make in order to achieve any kind of success in this area of your life, at all!
And funny enough, it's of course one of the hardest realizations to make as well...
NOT TO TRUST IN YOUR FACULTIES.
Let me explain all of this into further depth...
The main realization that you're ever going to have to make in order to make that DEEP IDENTIY LEVEL CHANGE that we so advocate here on RSDNATION for yourself, is realizing that your current perception of reality is ultimately FLAWED.
It's WRONG!
The way that you are currently perceiving everything that's around you isn't in a way that is as beneficial to you as it should be and all of your current emotions and instincts that are associated to that are wrong.
Do not trust them, at all!
SO, WHAT DO I MEAN BY ALL OF THIS?
If you're someone who's already taken a Bootcamp with me or with any of the other Real Social Dynamics instructors then I'm sure that you're already aware of the "number one rule" that we impose all throughout the program, which is:
"Do whatever your instructor tells you to do, no matter what."
This is the one of the most important and crucial frames that we set from the very start of it all.
And I remember back when I was in Berlin a few months ago, one of the clients that I had at the time had told me that he would only agree to do whatever he felt comfortable doing.
If it wasn't something that he felt comfortable doing, then he wasn't going to do it.
And when you think of it, this is something that actually makes perfect sense...
Why would someone ever want to do something that they don't feel comfortable doing?
Well what you have to realize is that, at the time, his perception of reality was FLAWED.
And this is something that you HAVE TO DO in order to make that DEEP IDENTITY LEVEL CHANGE for yourself.
There's no other way around it!
Let me ask you this:
"How do you expect to break out of your current comfort zone if you're only willing to do whatever you feel comfortable doing?"
"How do you expect expanding your current reality if you don't do anything that's outside of your current reality?"
You can't!
In order to break out of your current comfort zone and expand your current view of reality, you're going to have to go against all of your current emotions and instincts that are doing to tell you not to do so.
They are put in place to keep you exactly where you are right now.
And you're going to have to go against all of them in order to make that DEEP IDENTITY LEVEL CHANGE for yourself and achieve success in this area of your life.
What's important to realize is that all of your current "faculties" are associated with the current identity that you've taken on and that you're working on breaking away from.
They are not yet associated with the new one that you're working on taking on for yourself.
And if you start trusting them by only doing what you feel comfortable doing, then you're ultimately never going to be able to break out of it, at all.
You're going to have to start breaking into the unknown of that new identity that you're working on taking on for yourself by going against all of your current emotions and instincts that are telling you not to do so.
You're going to have to start venturing into new situations that you know are going to help you regardless of what all of your emotions and instincts are telling you.
You have to realize that your current perception of reality is flawed and that you're ultimately going to have to break out of it by going against it!
As a side note, this is also one of the main reasons why so many people have such a hard time making any change in their life whatsoever.
Most people are slaves to their emotions...
Most people will only do things that will make them feel positive emotions, even though they might know that those things are ultimately not helping them, at all.
Why do so many people smoke or do drugs, for example?
Break out of it!
SO, HOW DOES ALL OF THIS APPLY TO YOU ON A PRACTICAL LEVEL?
I'm sure that you've probably already noticed that whenever you're approaching and interacting with women in general, your assumptions towards the beginning of the night tend to be more negative and your assumptions towards the end of the night tend to be more positive...
Your assumptions towards the beginning of the night tend to be negative and all of your emotions and instincts are then telling you not to approach.
And as long as you've been taking right action, your assumptions towards the end of the night tend to be positive and all of your emotions and instincts are then telling you to approach.
As a side note, this is why we advocate such things a building Social Momentum as well.
It's the process that you undertake throughout the night in order to break out of your current perception of reality that tends to go against what you're working on achieving and settle into a new one that is more beneficial to you.
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT I RECORDED IN SYDNEY AND THAT BREAKS DOWN THIS TOPIC INTO FURTHER DEPTH BY REVEALING A INTERESTING LITTLE INCIDENT THAT RECENTLY HAPPENED TO ME WHILE I WAS IN AUSTRALIA:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhY8RsUXLIA
Make the realization that the way that you're currently viewing everything that's around you is FLAWED.
It isn't as beneficial to you as it should be.
And make the realization that all of your current emotions and instincts that are associated with it are designed to keep you there in place!
"If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got."
Break into the unknown and make that DEEP IDENTITY LEVEL CHANGE into that new reality that is beneficial to you as of TODAY!
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PS: Let me know what you think of the video and if you have any specific topics that you’d like to hear me cover in any future RSDNATION article!
PPS: Don’t forget to check out the Hot Seat 2 event dates over at www.rsdhotseat.com as well!
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY SEEN THIS OFFICIAL PREVIEW FOR THE EVENT:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlWrFgIR6CU
United States
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA (Julien running day 2)
September 1, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
Europe
September 22, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
September 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 13, 2012: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
October 20, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
October 27, 2012: London, United Kingdom
November 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
December 1, 2012: Moscow, Russia
December 8, 2012: Athens, Greece
February 23, 2013: Bucharest, Romania
March 2, 2013: Sofia, Bulgaria
March 23, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
March 30, 2013: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Canada
August 25, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
September 1, 2012: Toronto, Canada
September 8, 2012: Montreal, Canada
Latin America
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
Middle East
December 15, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
January 5, 2013: Dubai, United Arab Emirates
South Africa
January 12, 2013: Cape Town, South Africa
January 19, 2013: Johannesburg, South Africa
www.rsdhotseat.com
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Greetings from Auckland, New Zealand...
As you've probably already guessed it, I've just successfully finished wrapping up yet another Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp before now heading over to South America this time!
So, if you're located in the area and if you're interested in hearing about all of the latest concepts and theories that I've been working on while touring around the globe, then make sure you do not miss out on any of the events that are listed here below!
Here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp dates...
June 21 - 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 28 - 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
July 12 - 14, 2012: New York
August 2, 2012: Honolulu (taught with Tyler)
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
You can also check out all of the cities that I'll be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.
<>==========================================<>
On that note, what I'm excited to finally be able to take the time and share with you today is one of the most important realizations that you're ever going to have to make in order to achieve any kind of success in this area of your life, at all!
And funny enough, it's of course one of the hardest realizations to make as well...
NOT TO TRUST IN YOUR FACULTIES.
Let me explain all of this into further depth...
The main realization that you're ever going to have to make in order to make that DEEP IDENTIY LEVEL CHANGE that we so advocate here on RSDNATION for yourself, is realizing that your current perception of reality is ultimately FLAWED.
It's WRONG!
The way that you are currently perceiving everything that's around you isn't in a way that is as beneficial to you as it should be and all of your current emotions and instincts that are associated to that are wrong.
Do not trust them, at all!
SO, WHAT DO I MEAN BY ALL OF THIS?
If you're someone who's already taken a Bootcamp with me or with any of the other Real Social Dynamics instructors then I'm sure that you're already aware of the "number one rule" that we impose all throughout the program, which is:
"Do whatever your instructor tells you to do, no matter what."
This is the one of the most important and crucial frames that we set from the very start of it all.
And I remember back when I was in Berlin a few months ago, one of the clients that I had at the time had told me that he would only agree to do whatever he felt comfortable doing.
If it wasn't something that he felt comfortable doing, then he wasn't going to do it.
And when you think of it, this is something that actually makes perfect sense...
Why would someone ever want to do something that they don't feel comfortable doing?
Well what you have to realize is that, at the time, his perception of reality was FLAWED.
And this is something that you HAVE TO DO in order to make that DEEP IDENTITY LEVEL CHANGE for yourself.
There's no other way around it!
Let me ask you this:
"How do you expect to break out of your current comfort zone if you're only willing to do whatever you feel comfortable doing?"
"How do you expect expanding your current reality if you don't do anything that's outside of your current reality?"
You can't!
In order to break out of your current comfort zone and expand your current view of reality, you're going to have to go against all of your current emotions and instincts that are doing to tell you not to do so.
They are put in place to keep you exactly where you are right now.
And you're going to have to go against all of them in order to make that DEEP IDENTITY LEVEL CHANGE for yourself and achieve success in this area of your life.
What's important to realize is that all of your current "faculties" are associated with the current identity that you've taken on and that you're working on breaking away from.
They are not yet associated with the new one that you're working on taking on for yourself.
And if you start trusting them by only doing what you feel comfortable doing, then you're ultimately never going to be able to break out of it, at all.
You're going to have to start breaking into the unknown of that new identity that you're working on taking on for yourself by going against all of your current emotions and instincts that are telling you not to do so.
You're going to have to start venturing into new situations that you know are going to help you regardless of what all of your emotions and instincts are telling you.
You have to realize that your current perception of reality is flawed and that you're ultimately going to have to break out of it by going against it!
As a side note, this is also one of the main reasons why so many people have such a hard time making any change in their life whatsoever.
Most people are slaves to their emotions...
Most people will only do things that will make them feel positive emotions, even though they might know that those things are ultimately not helping them, at all.
Why do so many people smoke or do drugs, for example?
Break out of it!
SO, HOW DOES ALL OF THIS APPLY TO YOU ON A PRACTICAL LEVEL?
I'm sure that you've probably already noticed that whenever you're approaching and interacting with women in general, your assumptions towards the beginning of the night tend to be more negative and your assumptions towards the end of the night tend to be more positive...
Your assumptions towards the beginning of the night tend to be negative and all of your emotions and instincts are then telling you not to approach.
And as long as you've been taking right action, your assumptions towards the end of the night tend to be positive and all of your emotions and instincts are then telling you to approach.
As a side note, this is why we advocate such things a building Social Momentum as well.
It's the process that you undertake throughout the night in order to break out of your current perception of reality that tends to go against what you're working on achieving and settle into a new one that is more beneficial to you.
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT I RECORDED IN SYDNEY AND THAT BREAKS DOWN THIS TOPIC INTO FURTHER DEPTH BY REVEALING A INTERESTING LITTLE INCIDENT THAT RECENTLY HAPPENED TO ME WHILE I WAS IN AUSTRALIA:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhY8RsUXLIA
Make the realization that the way that you're currently viewing everything that's around you is FLAWED.
It isn't as beneficial to you as it should be.
And make the realization that all of your current emotions and instincts that are associated with it are designed to keep you there in place!
"If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got."
Break into the unknown and make that DEEP IDENTITY LEVEL CHANGE into that new reality that is beneficial to you as of TODAY!
<>=======================================<>
PS: Let me know what you think of the video and if you have any specific topics that you’d like to hear me cover in any future RSDNATION article!
PPS: Don’t forget to check out the Hot Seat 2 event dates over at www.rsdhotseat.com as well!
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY SEEN THIS OFFICIAL PREVIEW FOR THE EVENT:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlWrFgIR6CU
United States
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA (Julien running day 2)
September 1, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
Europe
September 22, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
September 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 13, 2012: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
October 20, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
October 27, 2012: London, United Kingdom
November 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
December 1, 2012: Moscow, Russia
December 8, 2012: Athens, Greece
February 23, 2013: Bucharest, Romania
March 2, 2013: Sofia, Bulgaria
March 23, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
March 30, 2013: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Canada
August 25, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
September 1, 2012: Toronto, Canada
September 8, 2012: Montreal, Canada
Latin America
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
Middle East
December 15, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
January 5, 2013: Dubai, United Arab Emirates
South Africa
January 12, 2013: Cape Town, South Africa
January 19, 2013: Johannesburg, South Africa
www.rsdhotseat.com
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www.twitter.com/RSDJulien
www.facebook.com/RSDJulien
www.youtube.com/RSDJulien
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mortalis
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Dr Feelgood
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If you have gone through the process enough times, you will know for sure that the outcome will be the desired one and you will be able to trust the process!
PS: What's the fun of fucking a girl after a 40 hours flight and some club time...?
Gift~
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Sorry Tyler... ; )
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Julien
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Thanks man!
It was actually quite amazing, I must say.
If you have gone through the process enough times, you will know for sure that the outcome will be the desired one and you will be able to trust the process!
PS: What's the fun of fucking a girl after a 40 hours flight and some club time...?
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Alexander33
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I took this Hot Seat 2 event that you did in Sydney most recently. It was intense, thank you for that! There I realized that my perception of reality is defenetely FLAWED.
I asked you that question on the Free tour, "how do you pull girls in Moscow?". Because I'm from Moscow and I know that not that many girls there speak English. As a I recall You said: "IT doesn't matter, it's all coming from THE VIBE! " Then you referred to THE VIBE many times on the Hot Seat which seemed to be somewhat really important. And this is what I would want you to cover in your next video. How you create it and what it means to you personally in your game. And also it would be really interesting to know how you cope with language barrier, because you are very well-travelled person and it seems like you don't give a fuck about such problems.
drugstorecowboy
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good to remind yourself of the basics of success in this and make sure your doing them
ive just realized im not pushing my comfort zone enough, ive got good at approaching and getting the makeout, now i need to try new ways of doing it and try for different outcomes rather than just settling for the success i have at the moment
pumperinoed!
its cool to know thatt you rsd instructor gods also feel this way sometimes,
goood dayy maaateeee
fosters. sponsers original comedy.
seriously though cheers
Teddy
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Cheers.
Gift~
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In fact, there is only 1 club/bar I like to go now, I go once a week with the same friend or two and although I have tried doing it not drinking it's fucking boring and hard if you don't. So I do. And only when I am pretty damn drunk do I have the balls to maybe beckon over a 5/6 and maybe talk to her a bit before I feel too drunk to say anything else.
It's awesome!
So yes, I am sure you are correct that my perception of reality is flawed but then again, if you were a girl would you pick me as your first choice? I sure as fuck wouldn't!
Still, at least I enjoy watching the RSD videos, they are always top quality.
Robert Paulsen
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Solid reminder to take action, break out, trust in a new paradigmn.
Thanks Julie...n
bellagio
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Extrasauce
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Cheers
PS. I would like to see video(s) on how to amp vocal projection in loud environments. Often times if a bar or club is too loud and I approach, the girl will be attracted just because I approach with confidence and am taking that action, but because she can't hear what I'm saying, the attraction fizzles out quickly. how to fix this?
kleo
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dave7-
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I think it would be sweet if you did an article/vblog about negative experiences and negative emotions being part of the journey.
cyrus80
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I remember my bootcamp with alex I was looking for only one thing :perception shift
at the end, his version of reality didn't sink in ( I'm enough) , or other versions:
"you get good when you don't need the girl"
"assume you will get laid"
I like brad verion, " Game is just reference experiences"
I admit going out isthe only solution to get them, trying to do new stuff , even when I'm shaking in my body
and I wait for a horrible result which usually never comes
I love to be pushed, mentally and physically, that's how I grow .Recently, you have pushed my perception of reality more than other RSD guys, thank you.
gogl~
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this insight is one of the bottom lines in the learning process. the brain has different imprints and it doesnt show you them until you force them out. you have to have the faith - or you are fucked.
even though I know that, it's fucking me over again and again.
Thats why the "going to the venue" is "90%".
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Peace
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my best take on it is to open the first set before entering the club or immediately after entering.
why did you go out solo? is there no local RSD crew in Perth?
Reloop
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While i am traveling with public transport or just riding my bike i always see the hotest girls floating by.
Most of the times i don't take right action and i become stuck in a negative thought loop when i don't aproach.
And often when it gets to annoying and heavy inside my head i just aproach to just prove that my negative thought where wrong. It actually turned out amazing cause after aproaching those negetaive thought where gone cause they where incorrect. I actually begin to start loving to prove my brains thoughts that they are wrong.
I believe meditation helps alot with this, and gets you in a nice flow during a random day.
Do you actually meditate Julian ?
What i would like to see in a upcoming acticle/video is how do you deal with day 2's? When i approach somtimes me or the girl doesn't have enough time to chat (she or me needs to get off the bus at the next stop for example)
What i think about now is that i just need to call her when i have the time to do it and just make a long phone call so she gets to know me the same day i met her. (despite it can cost a high phone bill :D)
Thanks for the content and realization, keep up the good work
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I'm pretty sure I can do this. Just one or two more pushes through the fear and I'll pass the point of no return.
Thanks for the instruction, I think it'll help me out a lot. I hope to take a bootcamp with you guys as an intermediate or better someday.
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Church
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Also, it's really cool to find out how you guys can get stuck in your heads and shit too and how you break out of it. I think I understand now how taking action changes how you feel. It was a hard concept to grasp at first but now that I've felt it it makes total sense.
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thecrochunter
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Just seen some clips of you at Owens hotseat event.
Holy fuck. You are now the New Beastmode
Love you.Nah, i hate you.
Cheers dude!
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But yeah, trust in the process. Go out and approach. Intent + freedom of outcome + momentum = success (sooner or later)
Thanks a lot Julien. Your insights on inner game have been very helpful to me.
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I don't usually comment but something here really hit home with me:
"How do you expect to break out of your current comfort zone if you're only willing to do whatever you feel comfortable doing?"
"How do you expect expanding your current reality if you don't do anything that's outside of your current reality?"
I've been stuck on a plateau for a while now and I think this is the key. As my reality has expanded I'm no longer doing things that are outside of it.
Thinking back I remember how scared I used to be when I went out, I don't feel that anymore.
I need to feel the fear again, by pushing further :)
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Thank ya
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Also, compliments to the camera man. Video looks and sounds great.
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