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So... Lately, I've been crafting A SHIT-TON of brand new content!!!

That's right... "Game Theory" that I didn't even realize I was doing until I was practically forced to sit down, dissect it and put it all back together for my upcoming product: #PIMP

---> www.PimpingMyGame.com

After over 7 years in the game, there were things that had become such second nature and that I only become aware of when I actually took the time to break it all down. And the result is exactly what I've been locked up in my apartment in Los Angeles shooting, editing, and tweaking with practically a perfection obsession... 

On February 14th, 2014 at 11am EST I'll be officially releasing my very first PRODUCT here on RSDNation!

This is the most solid and detailed breakdown of what game is to me, explained in the easiest-to-internalize format for you to pull hot chicks day or night. ;)

So... Be sure to get on the VIP INTEREST LIST ASAP, as i've prepared a SICK video series with a TON of free content that'll be released exclusively to you there...

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CONTENT

Even God Begs For My Help: My Personal Way Of Nuking External Validation Forever

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT TEACHES YOU HOW TO MAKE THE GIRL NEED YOU MORE THAN YOU WILL EVER NEED HER:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3odLnYa9fEY)

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How To Make Her Believe You're Awesome + How To Make Yourself 1000% More Interesting


CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT REVEALS THE ART OF REFRAME AND HOW TO MAKE ANY REFERENCE EXPERIENCE POSITIVE: 


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9kOMn5kwII)

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PODCAST

Pull O'clock #6 - Q&A: Out-Game Your Drunk Self: Beer Goggle Game Without Fucking The Fat Chick (Right Click, Save As!) 

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#1
unacat

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one of your best videos in a while! absolutely loved the content and your vibe.
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Matrim

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Good stuff man, cant wait for your product to realese.

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#3
TBird

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Julien! Tim here, the guy that kept bogging you in Vegas this summer to show the video with the girl with the fur collar again! 

Awesome vid, enjoyed it so much! 

So here is my question:

HOW do you ingrain those beliefs into your head?

Do you do affirmations? Do you keep telling it to yourself? Do you have a list taped to your bathroom mirror? How do you do it?
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Leo-~

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Dude this video is absolutely SICK! 

I know and you know that you OWN every other instructor in here. 

The way you manage to put out all these epic videos one after another is just beyond me.

Of course, everytime i see you on cam i think about the person i first met in place de saint francois and i just want to FAINT! Your growth is... Animalistic!!

I had to crack up in the beginning of watching this video because it just blows me away how we all have the EXACT same thoughts... Well, at least i m above 50 lays ,-)

Take care
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#5

spf

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Spot on to what I'm thinking right now.
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#6

Alexander08

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Edit: supposed to a reply to another comment
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TBird Wrote:
Julien! Tim here, the guy that kept bogging you in Vegas this summer to show the video with the girl with the fur collar again! 

Awesome vid, enjoyed it so much! 

So here is my question:

HOW do you ingrain those beliefs into your head?

Do you do affirmations? Do you keep telling it to yourself? Do you have a list taped to your bathroom mirror? How do you do it?


ou want to get rid of all the bullshit. Affirmations doesn't work if you don't believe in them, and you can't start believing in them if you believe in something else that is contradictory that is stronger. So start identify your illusions and focus on getting rid of that shit. Go after what you want and call out the bullshit that your mind is spinning to keep you hesitant.

I don't even know if that was completely on point, anyhow I recommend you to take a look at this page. http://www.calmdownmind.com/working-with-thoughts/
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#8

Nicklaus

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Join Date: 10/17/2013 | Posts: 9

Julien my question is:Will a combination of meditation and reinforcing the beliefs help me achive glory every day help me excelerate the process of transformation ?
And if you have a more efficient way please share.
P.S.
1st video was the best you've ever done until the next ofcourse.
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#9

ValueGuy

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1) What do you think is the main reason WHY (psychologically speaking) not looking for external validation turns women on to such an extent?

2) Have you read the novel Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand and what do you think about it? Man I have to tell you, watching your new vid reminds me so much(!) of the book's hero Hank Rearden and his way of nuking both external validation and the bullshit that is thrown at him.

Thx man ;)
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#10

evident

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I kind of get the idea behind this video. But did anyone notice the blatant contradiction? First he talks about experiencing the girl. Then later he says he doesn't even notice the girl. :/
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#11
Alexanderje

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How about keeping a list for the memories? ;) I sometimes write down stuff about cool interactions I had (regardless of sex) just for that. Just to look through it and smile at the thought. Might be a bit fluffy, but hey, that's me.
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#12

nexthype

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Do you not think its a good idea to keep a "list" for health purposes eg stds?

Also remebering names?

I don't mark one on the list as soon as I get it like you're saying. Its more that I'll add a few names once I've been with a few more girls. 
 
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#13
Resmat

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Julien, recently I read a great thread on the very same idea of not seeking external validation not only from girls but from other sources too, like from your friends;

The author of this said article talks about how talking about your game results to your friends about your conquests, kind of ruins you because it reinforces that sex/women is a big deal in your mind subconsciously and that " you create tension and neediness in your vibe, because subconsciously you know that if you get attention or sex from girls that it will result in validation from others (like other guys giving you props, for example)."

My question is; Do instructors or guys who are really good at game feel the need to talk about their conquests with other guys? or is that simply a newbie paradigm where guys get excited about getting laid or "lucky" as they would call it. 

Because my thoughts on the matter are; if a guy is getting laid, he doesn't need to speak about getting laid because it's just natural, it's not a big deal (kind of like how a rich man doesn't need to claim he's rich, he just knows it). Is this a good mindset to instill?

The article in question:
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/402680
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#14

S-P-777

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ValueGuy Wrote:
1) What do you think is the main reason WHY (psychologically speaking) not looking for external validation turns women on to such an extent?

2) Have you read the novel Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand and what do you think about it? Man I have to tell you, watching your new vid reminds me so much(!) of the book's hero Hank Rearden and his way of nuking both external validation and the bullshit that is thrown at him.

Thx man ;)


I doubt that women do tests consciously (maybe I am underestimating their intelligence) but person X has an internal reality forged by the external senses therefore person X develops values. The values of person X can change with time  ex :  if  acne had to be a sign of divinity then person X would start valueing acne since acne leads to divinity and divinity reinforces the reality of the person that he is somehow different/unique from other people.
Everytime the values of person X are challenged, person X has to either justify those values or throw them away in a simpler way, person X needs to either reinforce his previously established reality or throw it away. If person X values slim bodily figures then if person X meets an obese person then the reality of person X is going to be shaken up unless person X finds another source of value in an obese person.  If the other values of the obese person outweigh his overweight then person X would accept the obese person.
If the woman sees that a guy is bothered with his obesity then it will further prove her reality that being obese is undesirable if the guy is not bothered with his obesity then it will change her reality making her think that being obese is unimportant. She only thinks it is important because external reality makes her think so. If on the other hand the obese guy where to start a conversation with  her and her friends were to whispher to her that he is fat and that she should not talk to him then she will not talk to him but if the obese guy manages to give her value in another way such as : making her feel special, understanding her, complimenting her etc then the woman might decide to keep talking to the guy because she is gaining a surplus of value overall.

I hope the aformentioned hypothesis made sense. If there are gaps or holes you do not understand or some excerpts you did not understand then do not hesitate to reply.
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So, I know you are against the list, but what's your take on field reports?

Thanks dude, sick video!
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#16
Noe

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Cool video thanks!


Really agree with the importance of a vision for yourself to get to the place you decire in basically everything.

I can really recommend 7 Habits of Successful People in this subject.

My vision is basically a super powerful, fearless confident and nurtured guy with total abundance in life in terms of women, work, freedom, friends and does what I I want basically. Escaping the rat race.

So when I go out I am just really happy that I am on the path of my vision and of my heart and soul. I do not stress about aprouching or if I just spend all night enjoying the music and the atmosphere. Well maby a little...

The question I have is then what is your view on abundance with women. Do you think it's more powerful to work on the actions you take every time you go out or simply the enjoyment of freedom to do what you want when you want and being on your path in life?

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#17
Euphoric

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The single best way to get rid of all bullshit thought patterns is to take more action with the following: reading good books, meditation, lifting weights, eating a lot of green vegetables, social circle, and going out and doing cold approach.  If you do these things, there's no way you won't feel like god's gift to the earth.  As Nathaniel Branden says in The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem, healthy self-esteem is the cause of and the effect of taking massive action.
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#18

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Your video's are getting more awesome every time!
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Cutie* Wrote:
So, I know you are against the list, but what's your take on field reports?

Thanks dude, sick video!


Yeah, I was wondering about that myself as well! Because after interactions I also still think sometimes "another thing to add on my field report"..
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#20

Asher318

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Q) At this point in your game, where you do not care whether you pull or not, what does sex do for you besides for the obvious? 
Also, when you talk about being obsessed with yourself completely, in a hypothetical situation, would you have no problem dating an unnatractive girl if she were magically able to turn you, and you only, on? 
Thanks for the awesome vid! 
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How do you balance this non-needyness with showing intent ? You talk a lot of about your "pull" statements but what about the "push" and how do you balance the two ?
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jlaix

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I had the list, then I got rid of the list, then years later I started the list again. But this time, it's FOR SCIENCE.
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way too advanced for the average rsd chode
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Waffler

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Question: If you're either pushing for a day2 or sex with the frame of it being casual sex or no strings attached and that isn't working, should you back off and reframe it to be about how you and the girl have such a great connection and how aroused she makes you?

I have heard that you (Julien) are like water and will find the crack in order to get the girl home, and changing up your frame when the original isn't working seems like the right thing to do in this situation.
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"Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law. Love is the law, love under will."
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Mark Francis

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Hi Julien,

I'm at a point in my game where I'm getting make outs in the club pretty consistently and able to set up day 2's very solid but I definitely am not able to pull on a consistent basis.

It's seems like it's alluding me but I feel I'm about to break through in 2014. I'm looking to make the jump from intermediate to ADVANCED PIMPETRY. How do I get there?

How do you structure your pulls? What do you drop into the conversation along the way to the pull?
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#27

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I listened to this weeks podcast.  Thanks for answering my question about quitting alcohol.  Really great insight.  
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Euphoric

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Will someone please tell me why it won't let me post a blog.  I have left several comments and still it won't let me post a fucking blog.
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#29

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Massive Contradictions:

1)  Have a vision of how you want to be..... but be be present.  Yeh right, dream of the future but pay attention to the now.  They are incompatible notions.

2)  Drop the ego.... but "be so full of yourself" at the same time.  "I am so awesome even god wants my help", but please...check the ego at the door.

No one else sees this as amateurish apparently.
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#30

Lasse

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Hey Julien,

I get it that the list must be nuked, but I find it hard to set goals without measuring the success I have. Do you have a suggestion on how to measure your success without the list?

Thanks


 
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#31

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Patronus Charm Wrote:
Massive Contradictions:

1)  Have a vision of how you want to be..... but be be present.  Yeh right, dream of the future but pay attention to the now.  They are incompatible notions.

2)  Drop the ego.... but "be so full of yourself" at the same time.  "I am so awesome even god wants my help", but please...check the ego at the door.

No one else sees this as amateurish apparently.


1) Learn how to feel amazing and be happy about being more amazing in the future. If you can't feel it yet, learn yourself.

2) There is a difference between an ego caused by external factors and an ego unaffected by external factors (coming from the inside).

Next time, pay more attention to the video!
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#32

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Julien - my favourite guy from RSD crew !
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Castlemount

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Julien, your content has been steadily improving recently to the point where I've found myself taking notes occasionally (which hadn't happened much before with your content). While this post has some interesting concepts, some of which I will certainly consider, there are also parts that are borderline sociopathic. 

While Julien clearly has some amazing info to share and is a great instructor, I'd caution some of the newbies not to take all of his pro-narcissism advice literally or run the risk of warping yourself and your place in your community.

Consider Julien's more extreme advice as a bay leaf in your pickup soup: it can add an interesting flavor to your broth, but you don't want to swallow that shit. 
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#34

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I enjoy being narcissist and there is couple period of times i conciously exaggerate and having amazing time but it becomes a habit that i do this exaggerated version with my friends and after a point they get irritated thinking i do this for my ego or whatever. Then i totally stop being narcissist uncounciously which sucks. 

How to keep balance in your daily life within your social circle and being the 'Jesus' to girls as internalized at the same time?:)
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#35
Kool Kane

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What... you really read this comment? Get a life son^^
It's new years eve... live life like a movie.
get out, get a bitch, have fun;-)

I've been busy lately, but there are some stories to tell...
I will come back soon.

in the meantime

happy new year to RSDN!




 
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#36

serio

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This whole free tour talk was awesome. Hope Julien posts the rest.
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#37
Mark Francis

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I've got another one for you Julien.

Where do you feel you are at now in the game, and where are you looking to take your game in the future? What are you going to focus on in 2014?
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Timone

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I'm with the other guy
How do you enforce these beliefs, is it just reframing everything?

E.g.

Bullshit thought
Become aware of bullshit thought
Cut out bullshit thought
Replace with real thought (e.g. I'm fucking awesome (and to make yourself believe it just link statement to rational things which back up the belief?))

Wash, rinse and repeat over and over again, just focusing your RAS on the belief that you are awesome, to the point where you create blindspots to anything competing against that belief??
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#39

Nj

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question (non-nightclub-pulls)
-Is it necessary to pull even when you are having fun talking to her..?... when i conciously think of pulling,escalating,etc..i feel very unnatural and stuck in my head...become outcome dependent and loose my presence...
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NICE SITE
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#41

DarkHorse222

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Thanks julien
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#42

Johnboi

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Julien: speaking of external validation and just caring about your own fun, what would you advise newer guys on how to deal with the fact that some girls will freak out, make ugly faces at you, hit you etc. just for saying hello to them? This fucking sucks and really depresses my state when it happens, especially since I do solo nightgame which can be tough enough!
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#43
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I let this vblog percolate a bit. I started a new field report. It's in practicing non-attachment. I do question the difference between a list of lays and a fr?

I see how far I have come. I see when I get stupid or rant. It does take lots of time.
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#44
Mark Francis

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I got a peice of advice from Julien that really helped me out with this same issue. My advice to you would be to let it happen. Be happy that it is happening to you. And all those bad emotions you feel inside is you changing.

That is yourself changing on the inside and becoming stronger. You're feeling your emotions grow stronger so get used to it. You will learn to love it. Julien has a video blog that he did on this about a year ago.

Johnboi Wrote:
Julien: speaking of external validation and just caring about your own fun, what would you advise newer guys on how to deal with the fact that some girls will freak out, make ugly faces at you, hit you etc. just for saying hello to them? This fucking sucks and really depresses my state when it happens, especially since I do solo nightgame which can be tough enough!
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#45
fishingmule

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I'm a big fan of Julien's videos, but the beginning part fails to achieve any sort of universal advice.  Maybe after I get to a certain level of advancement or something, I could understand it, but it seems dumb to me.  It's basically presuming that guys are keeping their lists, pictures, stories / valuing their time with individuals for validation.  I'm pretty sure most guys on here already realized that they're on the journey for themselves, not for validation.

I don't know about other people, but I for one make my list and am keeping some pictures handy to just appreciate being with the girls I'm being with.

Being too budda-ish and outcome independent is a trap I see a lot of game people fall into.  Meanwhile all my natural friends are horny at the drop of a hat over girls.  The best actions I've seen them or myself have come from seeing a girl that really turns them on and getting them because we already have a narcissistic enough view of ourself to know we're doing them a favor by talking to them.

This video has value, but for a specific audience.  For guys that naturally have always thought they were superior, they need to focus more on actually appreciating the people and interactions that are in front of them--girl, boy, hot, or not.

I think with this caveat, the video can have more value.  This has pretty much been my issue over the past six months leading to even lack of libido, and I've only recently started to truly get anywhere consistently with the hottest girls once I got over it.
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#46

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You mentioned Californication... (Luv this show)

What are the things that we can take/you took (besides the sex is not a big deal) from Hank Moody?
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#47

x360gtav

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what is the main difference in your attitude between the first half of the night and being in state?
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#48

x360gtav

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Do you have any specific way to create attraction or instead you focus in yourslef and create an impact so the girl also focuses on you?
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#49
Castlemount

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fishingmule Wrote:


This video has value, but for a specific audience.  For guys that naturally have always thought they were superior, they need to focus more on actually appreciating the people and interactions that are in front of them--girl, boy, hot, or not.

I think with this caveat, the video can have more value.  This has pretty much been my issue over the past six months leading to even lack of libido, and I've only recently started to truly get anywhere consistently with the hottest girls once I got over it.


You know what, that's a good point, dude, and probably why I didn't like this video that much. For me, pickup has definitely been a transformation into more of a "man" on top of getting better with women, but I guess I've always felt "special" for whatever reason so haven't identified with the need to psyche myself up into thinking I'm "superior." 

I can see how this video might help people who are working on building their self esteem--so long as they don't take it too far.
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x360gtav

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My game has grown tremendously since i watched your Drama videos,could you please tlak more about it
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