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Things have been pretty crazy during my stay here... The product outline that I've been working on these past few months is officially FINISHED (!!!) and everything's already set in motion to start recording as soon as I get back to Los Angeles next week!

Oh, and I've also finally decided on a name... ;)

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CONTENT


A BIG Part Of Getting Girls Is NOT CARING: A Simple Method I Use To Let Loose Quick

How to be the better party? Simply give less of a FUCK than the girl. 

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT EXPLAINS WHY MOST GUYS ARE THEIR OWN WORST ENEMIES WHEN IT COMES TO EXPRESSING THEIR TRUE PERSONALITIES, AND A COUPLE OF EXERCISES TO TAP INTO IT NIGHTLY:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QudfCVdU64c)

PS: Since we're on the topic of NOT GIVING A FLYING FUCK, I thought that I'd also throw up an oldie but a goodie...

How To Stop Being A "Permission Boy" And Put On The Big Boy Pants

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT REVEALS HOW TO SNAP YOURSELF OUT OF BEING A “PERMISSION BOY” AND STRAP ON THE BIG BOY PANTS:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iULxmr2je8w)

Enjoy!

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EXTERNAL RESOURCE OF THE WEEK

THE ANGRY VIDEO GAME NERD!!! ;)

Check it!



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PODCAST


Pull O'clock #2 - Q&A: The Obama Game Trifecta: 3 Things That Make You Irresistible To Girls (And Possibly The Masses)

http://traffic.libsyn.com/pulloclockwithrsdjulien/pod2.mp3 (Right Click, Save As!)

---> iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/pull-oclock-with-rsdjulien/id741522115?mt=2

As always, if you want to be featured on NEXT WEEK's episode, please post your questions in the "COMMENT SECTION" here below and I'll be sure to answer them! 

***ONLY QUESTIONS RELATED TO THE TWO VIDEOS HERE ABOVE WILL BE ANSWERED***

“Until next time!”





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#1

choochoodetrain

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"Japan aka land of do whatever the fuck you want!" vs the image that says dancing in Japan is prohibited... another one of your self-serving selective blindspots :D
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Kid_Ink

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thanks for evolving pickup, and bringing it to the next level dude.. 

some real shit
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Kid_Ink

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these podcasts r pure gold too
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#4
Burton

Burton

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I just spent 20 minutes watching a bible video game review. Fucking internet....
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#5
Resmat

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Question about the video:

What is the difference between being totally obnoxious and annoying when you're not giving a fuck versus being the party?

In your specific video you seem like you're the party when your going up to girls but when I let loose I think i'm being annoying to the girls.. is that normal?
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Matrim

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Fucking amazing man!
Suck my shiny long cock!
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#7

Teodontcare

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HI julien, great video as always!
One thing that hit me as i was watching the video. Two days ago i approached a girl at a table. It was a mixed set but it went really well(guess your amog video helped!), one guy kept telling me that i had to leave because his friend was coming. I kept my cool and said sure i´ll leave when he gets back.
 And as i was holding really strong eyecontact and felt the  vibe and was extremly present to the moment, the guy ruins the moment again. And as i was so present i just let loosed and screamed ok and left. Im usually a very calm guy and i never scream , so it suprised me alot but it felt good to not hold back. Although should i have reacted different?  I dident pull or #close. Im refering to the screaming part in the video.
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#8

Teodontcare

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HI julien, great video as always!
One thing that hit me as i was watching the video. Two days ago i approached a girl at a table. It was a mixed set but it went really well(guess your amog video helped!), one guy kept telling me that i had to leave because his friend was coming. I kept my cool and said sure i´ll leave when he gets back.
 And as i was holding really strong eyecontact and felt the  vibe and was extremly present to the moment, the guy ruins the moment again. And as i was so present i just let loosed and screamed ok and left. Im usually a very calm guy and i never scream , so it suprised me alot but it felt good to not hold back. Although should i have reacted different?  I dident pull or #close. Im refering to the screaming part in the video.
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#9

makaunlister

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-------------------------- QUESTION --------------------------

In the video you talked about being unapologetic towards girls in the club/party, but would the same work if it is a girl within your social circle that you see every day?

To what extent should I be unapologetic/carefree towards girls within my social circle?
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#10
Resolute

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I love letting loose. The only time I can be myself is around peope ill never see again. I have more trouble with social circle game
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#11

kamyk

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Essence of pick up. Simply and clever.
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Yunzei134

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Exactly. Nice video!
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#13

Mr. S

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Question - 

I am interested in the self love trance. this is probably one of the most important things for game in my opinion. I differentiate it from state in that it is seems more self induced and more subtle than when you are just pimping the girls and are full on.  Do you think there is a difference?  Do you think you can get into that self love trance without pimping? Also More importantly - What are some of the best selective blind spots or things you say to yourself to get to the self love trance quicker?

thanks. 


P.S thanks for all the content. great stuff!
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Podcast Question:

Jul, lets say every time you entered a new venue (club/bar), if for the first 10 mins you focused on nothing else but having fun like you re having the time of your life, but WITHOUT talking to girls, what would you do to achieve this? Booze and drugs don t count and you re not allowed to talk to anyone for 10 mins. What would you do in the club?!

Please give various personal exemples (stuff you did and/or still do to amuse yourself).

Thanks man ,-)
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Noronha

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~~~~~~~~  QUESTION  ~~~~~~~~~~~

For how long do you keep the frame "Fuck what you gotta say, what Im saying is more important" ? 

Does this apply when you already know the girl for a time? 

 


 
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#16

Nicklaus

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The video was great right on the spot.So on the question is in the vid you talk about the creepy trans so is the trans the only way to let loose and start creating your party and try to be more a playful asshole type of guy ? 
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#17
Tyler

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LOL funny vid.

Great content too.  I wonder if people fully "get it" just HOW LITTLE OF A FUCK you give when you're doing this.

On some level I feel like most guys in the game are still "hanging on".  They want to front like they don't give a fuck, but they do.  And they feel exasperated that they can't get rid of it.

Bottom line is you have to create so much personal momentum, both inside and outside the game, you simply do not give a fuck.  That's where I'm at personally, where the only thing I care about would be impressing a student or getting a good video, but aside from that I'm fully numb and just having my own fun.

Conversely I think when we try to teach this to guys it can produce "mixed results" cause you have a guy who is unable to be SINCERE in his interactions and uses the "I don't give a fuck" as a COVER UP.  And so it doesn't come across like a cool guy having fun, but a guy who is insecure.  This stuff is very hard to teach for that reason, and I think one of the legacies we have to leave behind before we finish all this is to somehow structure it into courses with progression from newbie to advanced.

btw I'm thinking we could catch a few "spoken word" and "poetry slam" type events in Los Angeles, to keep taking our stuff to the next level.
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#18

godone7

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no Korea? why???!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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godone7

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no Korea? why???!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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#20
Climax

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Thanks Julien, great video.

--- Question ---

How do you juggle between extreme self love and keeping your eye on the process? when I start letting loose and having fun I'm often finding it hard to stay goal oriented because I don't actually need anything from one particular girl anymore. then the night end and I didn't pull or capitalize on windows.

thanks mate,
julien
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#21

steppino

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Awesome video.

I have a question.

Could you list 3 exercises that would strengthen the "I don't give a fuck" frame?

Thanks, Julien.
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#22

LOCOVIPER99

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thanks julien
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#23
Vincent.Vega

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LOL, I was literally stand up and yell in my room while watching your video!!

Do push up, yeahh I remember that, even worst, you told me to talk to table, and you call other girl to watch me talk to table. But agree after that, I dont give a fuck anymore. And you pull me back again, no approach for 5 minute, "the party is here"!!

Can't wait to see your new product.

stan the man
sydney crew

 
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#24
Parm

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This really helped me out of the downward spiral ive fallen into, like you and Tyler say The Journey of Game has its ups and downs and for that down was happening recently but after watching this i realized that I simply started giving a fuck again because of the new suroundings and people that sort of made me forget that i can still be me on a side note core confidence really isnt achievable unless you actually do stop giving a fuck. Either way appreciate the help bro and if im missing out on some big picture thing someone let me know hahaha.
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#25

altadee

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Great fucking video dude!!!!!!! At the end you mentioned reprocusssions with gaming your social circle, could you pleae explain about that?? Im trying to game a girl in my social circle and see what i have in store for me. Thanks man.
 
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#26

HamFraIgaar

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#15

You're taking things too literally. The attractive mindset is not necessarily about not giving a fuck what she has to say, but deciding whether you give a fuck what she has to say or not. Fx if it was a stranger you just met in the club and you're just chit-chatting, you might not find what she has to say important if you have something to say, too, but if it's your girlfriend and you're in an argument you might want to hear her out...

Cheers!
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#27

a_l

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Julien aka DavidX
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#28

Emerveillement

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on the podcast topic of cultivating exposure to perceived negative events:

 "Some things benefit from shocks; they thrive and grow when exposed to volatility, randomness, disorder, and stressors and love adventure, risk, and uncertainty. Yet, in spite of the ubiquity of the phenomenon, there is no word for the exact opposite of fragile. Let us call it antifragile. Antifragility is beyond resilience or robustness. The resilient resists shocks and stays the same; the antifragile gets better". (Nicolas Nassim-Taleb, Antifragile)
 
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#29
hawky

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Podcast Question:

In the past Tyler, Alexander, Jeffy and other RSD Instructors have described 'their' process to build momentum and grow toward that nice flow of state flux as the night is progressing. Could you describe your 'process' /steps which you execute to build up to that maximum amount of fun, relaxation and -I don't give a fuck- attitude.

P.S. With Tyler's  personal process I mean  => 1. Approach all / 2. Minimize time between interactions / 3/ Don't judge yourself / 4. Find something funny in everything + joy in the process and action itself / 5. Keep it short and sweet early on, later in the night with momentum burn it to the ground / 6. Add a little more with and into every interaction
 
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#30

ValueGuy

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- Spiritual Question for next Podcast -

I'm a law student and a conservative guy. Relating to your vids about being grounded and unreactive and 'vomiting' your personality on the girl is extremely appealing to me. It comes from a place that is very sincere, masculine and I would even say kind of spiritual, which the girls I interact with mostly love and are very much turned on about (in mormon Utah the chicks at bible courses and choirs are very hot -> main target).
Relating to your newest video is very difficult for me. Doing push-ups in the venue or walking around like a retard I definetely cannot relate to, it would not be congruent to me to 'act' like to be that guy because that's not my way of picturing myself having fun.

How can the ideas in the video relate to me and my dilemma? Does the kind of 'full obnoxious guy' going out get better results than I do and should I change?

Thank you Julien and God bless you. I also have our saviour tattooed on my skin, omg it gets puss so wet to speak to the messiah ;)
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#31
YeahAlex

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Hey, Julian, thanks for video and Q&A podcast.
I couldn't believe it then I first heard my question featured.  I was listening to this podcast at the street and after your answer I literally yell "Yes!" for 3 times VERY loud (lol at people staring at me like crazy, ha) and clapped for about a minute. I was really, really happy. Oh, Julien, what a good boy! 
Let's get serious from now on. 
Question. When I'm talking to a girl, and we are in the loud crazy environment, I can't let it go. Though I don't give a fuck about girl, I give a fuck about place we are at. Can you recommend some exercises for overcoming that? I know, you get this question a lot, but I'm really dumb. Sorry ;).
Oh, by the way, I suggest adding music to your podcast. With good relaxation music it will be more easy to listen to you. 
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#32

makossa13

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Fucktastic video Julien.  Two Questions.
You're infamous for gathering a shitload of reference experiences and going through the pain of the process. How much pain did you personally have to go through before you went all out? Was there a defining moment in your life when you decided to stop giving a fuck?
 
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#33

JJ123

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I remembered something related to knowing how you sound like when you scream.

When I was young, I tried screaming as loud as I can in public, my voice sounded a lot low pitched, ie "not cool". I imagined my voice would be much cooler. I replaced that full letting go with a more manly "cool" thick voice.

I think this is why most people don't fully let go, whether it's in screaming or being themselves in public; when they fully let go they don't look or sound "cool".

However, I don't think you need to fully let go to be your best, this is the contradiction between self-improvement and self-acceptance. If people fully let go they would be a less developped version of themselves. Imagine a singer fully letting go on high notes and releasing his true screaming voice, he wouldn't hit the notes and wouldn't do his BEST.

IMO fully letting go is just a way to have fun from time to time, but NEVER EVER GO FULL RETARD. I've went there by taking what I hear from rsd to the extremes, and trying to go back to self-improvement and being who I want to be in life.
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unacat

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awesome content! haven't seen this quality from you in a while though ;)
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Question 1: How many fights you've been in by doing that obnoxious unstifled thing? From my experience it's very easy to get into a trouble just by approaching taken girl, not to stepping up to her in such over the top way as you showed in the video.


Question 2: Where is the line between sexworthy guy and entertainer guy? I've seen plenty of guys acting all fun getting that attention/good reactions while ending up as a dancing monkeys in the end (which is not strange since people go out to have a good time so being fun/carefree is not something that special).


Question 3: Do you keep your not caring to the core attitude all the way untill the sex or do you tone it down in the second part of the night when it's time to pull the trigger hard?
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#36

SSam

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this really is something that's important but not so easy to actually do at the same time
my question is...

How do you let loose when doing day game?
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#37

pete109

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Great content, thanks.
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#38
hkmt

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Great video Julien...

My question is;


When I go out, I manage to let loose and approach pretty easily. However I just cannot create the fun. In fact I usually get bored. My conversations are pretty dry and this kills my interactions quite fast. I usually end up thinking funny jokes etc to create a bit of fun. What would you recommend in order to be able to create more fun in the interaction

Thanks

 
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hkmt

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Great video Julien...

My question is;


When I go out, I manage to let loose and approach pretty easily. However I just cannot create the fun. In fact I usually get bored. My conversations are pretty dry and this kills my interactions quite fast. I usually end up thinking funny jokes etc to create a bit of fun. What would you recommend in order to be able to create more fun in the interaction

Thanks

 
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This video I think addresses one of the biggest issues that most of us face.

My question:

Sometimes, before the night out begins, I can feel that I'm just not going to have that fire and sexual energy that it takes to go all out.  To some extent, maybe it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, but it's something I've been noticing since I've been making it a necessity to go out a lot.

Is there some way to adjust this and get back to a neutral, more loose frame before the night begins, or a way to combat this in the longer term?

Thanks,

Also, agree with the guy about hitting up Korea.  They clearly have the some of the consistently hottest girls here and are very tricky to game.  Also, lots of amazing clubs that stay open long past dawn.  You guys should come, just to enrich yourselves.  Girls who are 7's here would be 9's in the states.
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