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"Aloha!"

It's officially my very last day here in Honolulu...

And I've just successfully finished wrapping up the very last series of events that I'm going to be running with Tyler this year!

I'm going to be heading over to Portland right after this and I'm excited to be able to make the announcement that I'm going to doing an impromptu RSD Free Tour (hosted by the local lair) for ANYONE who's interested in attending!

It's going to be running from 8pm to 9pm this Friday August 10, 2012.

Here's the address:

Marriot City Center, 520 SW Broadway Portland, OR 97205

I've also been excessively updating my Twitter and Facebook accounts these last couple of weeks with all sorts of funny and interesting anecdotes, pictures and PICKUP LINES that you can use as of RIGHT NOW to drastically improve your results with women.

I highly recommend that you quickly take the time to check them out if you haven't already!

***WWW.TWITTER.COM/RSDJULIEN***

***WWW.FACEBOOK.COM/RSDJULIEN***

Let me know what you think and please subscribe to them if you'd like to keep receiving DAILY updates and of course, to show your support as I'm always much more inclined and motivated to keep doing this if I know that a lot of people are getting a lot of value out of it... ;]

Here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp dates...

August 9 - 11, 2012: Portland
August 17 - 19, 2012: Las Vegas
August 23 - 25, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
August 30 - September 1, 2012: Toronto, Canada (taught with
 Jeffy)
September 6 - 8, 2012: Montreal, Canada

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com


You can also check out all of the cities that I'm going to be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.


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On that note, let's crack into today's topics of discussion...

NOT CALIBRATING BEFORE THE FACT, BUT CALIBRATING AFTER THE FACT INSTEAD.

And more importantly...

EXACTLY HOW TO CALIBRATE AFTER THE FACT!

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT REVEALS WHY IT'S CRUCIAL THAT YOU DO NOT CALIBRATE BEFORE THE FACT, BUT THAT YOU CALIBRATE AFTER THE FACT INSTEAD:



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oq_SttAJRE0

This is one of the most important realizations that anyone could ever make for themselves when trying to achieve true success with women...

Realizing that there's always going to be an element of randomness.

Realizing that whenever you're dealing with actual human beings, that there are always going to be certain elements in the interaction at hand that are going to be completely out of your control...

Realizing that you're not dealing with constants, but that you're dealing with variables instead.

Too many guys FAIL to make this realization and they take way to much responsibility for literally EVERYTHING that's happening in the interaction at hand!

They ultimately FAIL to ever be able to actually feel at ease and relax whenever they're interacting with women which is something that is absolutely CRUCIAL to your success in general...

Stop trying to control what's going to happen as there's no way of ultimately ever knowing what's going to happen and start accepting that a lot of what's happening in the interactions that you're having is completely out of your control...

Instead of calibrating before the fact by worrying about what's going to happen and by trying to predict the future, why don't you just go and actually find out what going to happen and calibrate AFTER the fact instead?

Now this is something that's easy to say, but without actually KNOWING EXACTLY HOW TO CALIBRATE AFTER THE FACT, then it's going to be something tha'ts a lot harder to actually accept...

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT REVEALS EXACTLY HOW TO CALIBRATE AFTER THE FACT AND HOW TO GET AWAY WITH ANYTHING BY SCRAMBLING HER "RAS":



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzdMKgqxZKk

Once you're able to realize just how easy it is to actually calibrate AFTER the fact and that this is something that's expected during the interaction, then you're finally going to be able to actually relax and enjoy yourself when interacting with women.

And once you're able to cultivate this skillset of calibrating after the fact, then you're pretty much going to be UNSTOPPABLE...

It really doesn't matter what you say or what you do, as you can ultimately get away with it all. ;]


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I also quickly thought that I'd share this other video as well that I recorded while I was on my annual hike on the Napali Coast in Kauai and that offers a new perspective on the right way that you should be viewing your progress with success with women.

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT UNVEILS A NEW INSIGHT ON HOW YOU SHOULD MEASURE YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN:



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qicXWNoRayM


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PS: Let me know what you think of this video and if you have any specific topics that you’d like to hear me cover in any future RSDNATION article!

PPS: Don’t forget to check out the Hot Seat 2 event dates over at www.rsdhotseat.com as well!

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY SEEN THIS OFFICIAL PREVIEW FOR THE HOT SEAT 2 EVENT:



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlWrFgIR6CU

United States
September 1, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA

Europe
September 22, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
September 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 13, 2012: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
October 20, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
October 27, 2012: London, United Kingdom
November 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
December 1, 2012: Moscow, Russia
December 8, 2012: Athens, Greece
February 23, 2013: Bucharest, Romania
March 2, 2013: Sofia, Bulgaria
March 23, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
March 30, 2013: Birmingham, United Kingdom

Canada
August 25, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
September 1, 2012: Toronto, Canada
September 8, 2012: Montreal, Canada

Middle East
December 15, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
January 5, 2013: Dubai, United Arab Emirates

South Africa
January 12, 2013: Cape Town, South Africa
January 19, 2013: Johannesburg, South Africa

www.rsdhotseat.com


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#1
archy

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Join Date: 08/19/2009 | Posts: 12

Great article julien , PROPS TO YOU!  
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#2

Popsail

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Join Date: 08/29/2008 | Posts: 304

Wow.. I never reply to videos, but the clibration thing... I always thought about it but couldn't put it to words - genius. definately going to apply.
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O'malley

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Join Date: 03/24/2012 | Posts: 108

I liked the video about calibrating after the fact. I cant count the number of times I didnt approach the girl, because it was a logistically hard approach or some other bullshit. Sometimes i've really been suprised when I opened logistacally hard sets and it turned out great.  After this video I've realised I did this more than I thought. Time to focus on it! 
Good delivery of the content. It was very clear.
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#4
LethalLex

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Join Date: 11/20/2010 | Posts: 1093

Man, you're like an evil genius of pickup =P

Which girl in the LMFAO vid did you bang?
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Charles Bukowski

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Join Date: 07/20/2012 | Posts: 59

 fawkin joocy brah. thick solid tight
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Gift~

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Join Date: 02/02/2010 | Posts: 160

Even though I like you, there is no way I am gonna 'like' you on Facebook -everyone would see that I use dating websites!

Hell No!
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Gift~

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Join Date: 02/02/2010 | Posts: 160

Thing is, if a girl keeps going on about something, my "authentic" reaction as you put it, is actually to roll my eyes and just tell her to get the fuck over it. I mean, c'mon, there comes a point where you think, this girl is just a fucking dick. MOVE ON. I think saying "I'm really really sorry..." yeah OK, maybe you overstepped the line but if you've already appolgized and she STILL keeps going on about it, fuck her, move on, find another ho. In my experience, she's probably more headache than it's worth.
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Gift~

Gift~

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Join Date: 02/02/2010 | Posts: 160

Bro, 3 out of these 4 videos we've seen already.

I appreciate these videos an awful lot, but recyling the same videos within days of each other, it's a not necessary.

Thanks

Gift~
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#9
Robert Paulsen

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Join Date: 05/25/2012 | Posts: 41

Straight of the coast you lucky hard working bastard.
Last week me and my buddy pig roasted and legit scrambled this chick on a golf course 330 am.  Sooo much drama and emotions she couldnt handle it and stoped midway through.
Ruthless night, wicked refrence. Thats my expansion. Just tore 3 ligaments in shoulder. Contraction here we go.
See you at Free Tour.
"Untill next time" LOL
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dave7-

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How did u get so tall? Did reading eckhart tolle give you a few inches?
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#11

taipan

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beautiful place, might have to add it to my list of places to visit.

thx for the video.  
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#12
RagaTanha

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 Good videos, I'll try some of these ideas out tomorrow.

Some suggestions for future topics:
Your field reports,
How you handle day 2's
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#13
reed5

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Join Date: 07/31/2012 | Posts: 18

Last friday I used the haha just kidding line after I told a girl her life would be a trail of used condoms and abortions if she didnt go out with me lol. She didn't react well, but now im going out with her on wednesday. and I credit that line for saving my ass. But im pretty sure I learned it from Jeffy.
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pidgeoto

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Join Date: 10/13/2011 | Posts: 115

The calibration thing can be applied in real life situations other than pickup. FEAR = False Estimations Appearing to be Real. You can never know everything about a situation. Just go in and take action. Excellent vid, Julien!
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Reloop

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Join Date: 01/12/2011 | Posts: 37

 Lovely background on the videos, best i've seen so far!
yeah some Day 2 material and phone game stuff would be great in the upcoming videos.
Some questions i have are..

Do you imediately plan for a date or chat her on text message for awhile ?

Most girls don't text back so how can you get her into a text message conversation and then a date?

How do you deal with her friends during the day?

One funny thing to do is to ask a girl for directiosn when she is on her phone or is listening to music..
Then when she stops doing it and focus one me i say haha joking i just wanted to know you name cause you looked cute.  

Thanks for the cool stuff julien!
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Gift~

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Join Date: 02/02/2010 | Posts: 160

I appologize if my previous comments seemed a bit aggresive - I was a bit high on whisky and having one of those days. Please keep the videos coming... I do love them!

Thanks

Gift~
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#17

Ocean2

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Sometimes the ones overreacting are the girls actually who like you.
Gift~ wrote:
Thing is, if a girl keeps going on about something, my "authentic" reaction as you put it, is actually to roll my eyes and just tell her to get the fuck over it. I mean, c'mon, there comes a point where you think, this girl is just a fucking dick. MOVE ON. I think saying "I'm really really sorry..." yeah OK, maybe you overstepped the line but if you've already appolgized and she STILL keeps going on about it, fuck her, move on, find another ho. In my experience, she's probably more headache than it's worth.
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#19

El_Diego

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 Dude,  after weeks of some drama it hitted me that Identifying with any identity is a way of "calibrating before the fact. 

Meaning, an identity is a form, a categorization, a constraint that limits your behavior in order to fit in a mental picture, wether is yours or someone else´s.

Lately i´ve been feeling shitty cause i´ve was deep immersed in this dynamic of "switching characters", like in work i have to be like this, with this girl i have to be like that (ex: dominant, unreactive, blabla). And i could see how this fucked up my relationship with life in general.

I could notice how when i was killing it, was just because i had no mental picture of me to protect, i was just doing what i wanted and calibrating as things happened aka "calibrating after the fact". But when i started seeing multiple girls and developing the ego of being good with girls or being "alpha", this fucked up my demeanor because i wanted to come across as i saw myself in my head, a cool ass pimp, which really created a huge stress for me and eventually affected my results negatively, and more importantly how i was experiencing life, all because i was "calibrating before the fact", trying to behave in a specific way to validate my mental picture of me.

It might sound simple but this is was a really deep realization for me.

Calibrating after the fact is absolutely KEY for me.

thanks!

 
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#20

SEAN PUA

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Join Date: 11/08/2010 | Posts: 84

 Yo Julien! You're French right? Pierre Woodman!!!!!! REPRESENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO See you at the free-tour in Toronto soon :)

P.S
AWESOME FUCKEN VIDEOS :) THAT'S THE SHIT, YEA!!!!! BOOM!!!! RAS PATTERN-INTERRUPT! BOOM!!!!!!!!! VIBE INSTERED, BOOM, LEADING INTITATED!!!!!!!!! LOL I love how FUCKEN technical all this stuff can sound at times but bheaviourally it occurs at the speed of motherfucken light lol it's fucken genius :) 
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#21

SlowLearner

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Join Date: 08/08/2012 | Posts: 119

Hey, I'm coming to the Freetour and Bootcamp in Gothenburg in January! Hell Yeah!
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#22
Buffalo

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doesn't calibrating after the fact go against baby-stepping?
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#23

LordF

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Join Date: 05/23/2012 | Posts: 20

Julien, I did not like your tips at all a couple of months ago. All the negativity seemed like "dark game" to me, so I used to totally ignore you. I am a very nice person. Lately, however, I have found myself naturally applying a similar behavior than you suggest as the inevitable consequence of being brave and real and expressing my personal limits, always keeping a good happy mood, of course. I still find it scary sometimes when I let that side of me out, but it has given me the most hilarious and intense moments I could imagine. It is hard to explain. I hope my English was good enough. I still kind of think you are an asshole, but maybe in a couple of months I will understand.

Best.
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