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Julien
 
"How's it going?!"

"Greetings from Stockholm..."

Woah...

I've just arrived here a couple of hours ago and I wanted to quickly let you know that I've just realized that we're now slowly approaching THE END of the Hot Seat 2 tour, with only a few more months to go!

So, as always, if you're interested in attending one of the very last events that I'm going to be running featuring mind-blowing INFIELD FOOTAGE of Tyler and myself then I highly recommend that you DO NOT miss out...

www.rsdhotseat.com

United States
October 6, 2012: New York, New York, USA
October 20, 2012: San Diego, CA, USA
November 3, 2012: San Francisco, California, USA
November 17, 2012: Albuquerque, New Mexico, USA
December 8, 2012: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
December 22, 2012: Orlando, Florida, USA

Europe
September 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 13, 2012: Edinburgh, Scotland
October 27, 2012: London, United Kingdom
November 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
November 24, 2012: Kiev, Ukraine
December 1, 2012: Moscow, Russia
December 8, 2012: Budapest, Hungary
January 26, 2012: Gothenburg, Sweden
February 2, 2012: Helsinki, Finland

Middle East
December 15, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
January 5, 2013: Dubai, United Arab Emirates

South Africa
January 12, 2013: Cape Town, South Africa
January 19, 2013: Johannesburg, South Africa

www.rsdhotseat.com

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY SEEN THIS OFFICIAL PREVIEW FOR THE EVENT:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlWrFgIR6CU)

Here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp dates as well…

September 27 – 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden (taught with Alexander~)
October 4 – 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway (taught with Alexander~)
October 11 – 13, 2012: Edinburgh, Scotland
October 25 – 27, 2012: London, United Kingdom (taught with Ozzie)
November 8 – 10, 2012: Rotterdam, Netherlands
November 15 – 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com


You can also check out all of the cities that I'm going to be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.


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So...

On that note...

Let's crack into it... ;]

What Makes Me An Elite Player: Training Yourself To Be Unreactive

CLICK
 ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT REVEALS ONE OF THE BEST KEPT SECRETS IN THE GAME AS WELL AS THE ONLY REASON WE'RE ULTIMATELY ABLE TO DO WHAT WE DO WHEN IT COMES TO ACHIEVING TRUE SUCCESS WITH WOMEN: 


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4GPSfH9F1Ug)

Click HERE to view the "Tenacious D" photo mentioned in the Youtube video here above.

This is what achieving true success with women is really all about...

PROGRESSIVELY DESENSITIZING YOURSELF THROUGH MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF REFERENCE EXPERIENCES.

The REAL SECRET to the game, if you will. 

And this is the only reason that we're ultimately able to do the things that we do.

THROUGH MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF REFERENCE EXPERIENCES.

I wrote an article about this a while back that I'm sure will spark your interest as well, titled:

What Is Game? REFERENCE EXPERIENCES

Check it out right now!

Now, one thing that I would like to add to this video in order to avoid any kind of misconceptions is that breaking out of your comfort zone and getting new reference experiences isn't always what you think...

It's quite common for some guys to misinterpret all of this and think that breaking out of your comfort zone and getting new reference experiences just means boldly throwing yourself into all sorts of crazy situations over and over again hoping that at some point everything is just going to click for you...

Well, it's not.

If you think that you're going to achieve true success with women by solely by saying or doing crazy things over and over again while approaching and interacting with women, then you're going to be in for a rude awakening...

What you have to realize is that there is a DEEPER layer to it all.

And this is where the misconception stems from...

Getting good at game doesn't mean doing the next crazy thing or learning the next crazy tip or technique.

That's just the SURFACE layer of it all. 

It's a necessity, yes... But you have to focus on the deeper layer of it all as well.

You can't just be expanding your comfort zone while solely focusing on the outer game without letting the inner game catch up to it. 

You have to be growing on both levels.

Instead of working expanding your game, start working on densifying it instead.

Getting Good At Game... Not What You Think...

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT EXPLORES THIS CONCEPT INTO FURTHER DEPTH AND REVEALS WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO EXPAND YOUR COMFORT ZONE:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cdUM0FoJszU)

Let me know what you think of the videos and if you have any specific topics that you’d like to hear me cover in any future RSDNATION article!


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#1
dave7-

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 I heard you will be in San Diego for Tyler's FT/HS. Is that true? :)
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Manu Frio

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Wowzers
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Julien

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Ah, unfortunately not...

I should be back on that side of the globe beginning of February... ;]
dave7- wrote:
 I heard you will be in San Diego for Tyler's FT/HS. Is that true? :)
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#4
MyNameIsRobin

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Julien, post the Tenacious-D picture!
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dave7-

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My dreams are shattered, forever alone.

America needs you. American girls are getting too happy without you to emotionally manipulate and berate them. Looks like I'm going to have to go full gangster until you get here in February, just to cover the slack, keep them Americano ho's in line.
Julien wrote:
Ah, unfortunately not...

I should be back on that side of the globe beginning of February... ;]
dave7- wrote:
 I heard you will be in San Diego for Tyler's FT/HS. Is that true? :)
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MyNameIsRobin

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ps You didn't have to delete all the personal side of your FB to enable subscribe. You can control which updates are posted publicly. And all your other shit remains private from poo-uh dudes if you want. Cheers dude. :D
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#7
Julien

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www.twitter.com/RSDJulien

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MyNameIsRobin wrote:
Julien, post the Tenacious-D picture! 
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#8
MyNameIsRobin

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Nice!
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#9
Brucefast

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Hey Julian; the depth reminds me of something that I utilize; I call it "slowing it down" when I do this I can feel more depth, project more emotion, in contrast to what is  otherwise my anxiousness and scatteredness or self contiousness, I instead  project subcommnications along with my outergame, my dialog with the girl is peppered with emotion, I smile too-nuance but big!!

Nice job! hope your having a blast in Europe. Hope to see you on bootcamp again, this time in miami this  Feb.

FYI: had a question about push pull- drama which I have in a new post and a private message to you as well, if you got a sec.to comment; thanx-Implementing the contrasting "push" or "hate you" to push pull.

Best Regards,

Bruce
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#10
Rodrigo

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Hey Julien! You could have done a list of things to densify ( Like self amusement, draw state from within, ...), I think it's a better way to delivery your content. Sometimes RSD coachs give too much 'abstract' things for us to work on. Just my two cents.

I liked video 2 more than video 1 because of the content, I think that's what I needed to hear at the moment. Although, your delivery was better in video 1 than video 2 (in my opinion).

I loved both of them! I'll be working on a certain part of my personality for a certain period of time. Thanks man!
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#11
Brucefast

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POST SCRIPT:

Loved you comments about guys perception on "to open or not to open"; and that they shouuld be seen as reference experiences,not winning or losing. When opening is looked at from this percective ti much easier, and pleasant
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#12

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lol! bro first video had me laughing my ass off when you start talking about the fields. but on another note im actually suprised that you had to go through all that shit just to bring a girl home. that's some real dedication right there.. anyways this i think was by far one of the best vid's you've put out. I mean if you had to go through all of that just to get laid then there is no excuse anyone should have about why they cant.
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#13
Doge~

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Thanks Julien. Saw that first video last night. I replayed it I think 3 times because what you said about "there is no success or failure, there is only getting new reference experiences."

This was a missing piece in the way I viewed the approach. It makes so much sense now. It's going to help tremendously in the coming weeks.

Thanks!
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Pierre Woodman REPRESENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lmao
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#15

taipan

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humm the last video is interesting...

I am wondering if when Julien talks about inner game he is refering to putting your most genuine and better self out there when pimping in order to hook the set and pull.

So that stepping out of the comfort zone in inner game is being more fun and expressing who you are even better and better everytime without regret?

I wish he would have gone further with this.. I have always thought of "outside your comfort zone" as external things you, in order to gain reference experience. Putting yourself in different situations. But now "outside your comfort zone" can also be with the things you say and how cool you are with it... humm... THis definitely seems like some cool stuff..

THis line of thought take me   here -> 
I wonder how being congruent to your emotions when pimping is not the same as steping out of your inner game comfort zone in order to put the best you out there...  

Arggg overthinking it. nevertheless
It would be great to see this explained further.
peace

thanks
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#16

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 These 2 videos are super on point and pertinant to my current experiences/sticking points in this process. Thanks for sharing.
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#17

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Julien how old are you?
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BeastPirate

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 Welcome to Stockholm, dude! See you at the free tour and Hot Seat! :)

Truth is, I am at that point where I can go and open anyone and I understand that I should be focusing on inner game instead, but what exactly is inner game? What are the aspects of it? From what I understand, I kind of see inner game as this spider-graph with a lot of things to improve or densify, but it's not clear to me what these things are. A little help on this?

/Beastpirate
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1st video: The story with that band in the pub is great! In regards to kicking girls out after sex, I have always been doing this just like you, it works like a charm! The only difference is that I don't pretend to have a reason, I often just say: "My wife and my kids are coming now, you have to go!" She will laugh and maybe even be a bit confused if I'm serious, then I go: "No, the wife and kids part was just a joke, but the other part was real - you should get on your way now!"

"The fields", ha ha!

2nd video: Yeah, this is what you need to get good at game: 1. pushing hard, 2. having a plan, adapting; if one of those is missing, you are fucked. With 2., a brain and life experience help a lot.

But writing comments for you hasn't been fun lately cause you rarely look at/ answer any comments...! :)
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#20
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 Julien why your freetour/hotseat/bootcamp in Sofia is not on the schedule anymore?
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#21

Fortyche

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 Question about the dates. You posted you will be in Rotterdam November 8th, but I can´t find a corresponding date on the hotsteat webpage.

Does the mean you will be in Rotterdam for bootcamp but not Hotseat?
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#22

Bergem

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Hello Julian!

There's this girl in my class that I......psssh ;)

Seriously though:

Considering you seem like one of the younger RSD-instructors, I would like to hear your thoughts on college/university game. Most of the time it isn't cold approaching, because of the social circles, but a lot of the concepts you teach have been very useful to me. Just a thought. 
Like, how can I taylor my game to the cest-pit of groupthink that is the university-life. I know RSD doesn't really focus on this, so I undertand this might be something you don't want to spend your time on commentating :)


Big fan!
Norway
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#23

Vini

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 outer game>inner game

like julien let implicit on the video, you can't learn inner game and than do an approach for the 1st time
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#24
Arsène Lupin

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about vid 2... i think i know what you mean but i'm not sure you really nailed it.
would you agree if i describe it as the paradoxical twin of "follow the process"?
like as soon as you think you have anything figured out your growth falters.
if you think you see the way it definately ain't it. it's always hard. you always have to hustle and proactively look for opportunities to get your reality kicked in. be it by girls, peers, the field, clients/the market whatever.
you described one specific example of that but i feel like you actually mean a bigger picture.
imo there's absolutely nothing wrong with expanding your horizont in the way you said not to, but at the same time you gotta to be aware of the other side of the paradox and realize that you haven't figured out shit.

it's like compound hustling is the way to go when ppl by nature tend to do isolation exercises
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#25

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Awesome, so inspiring and usefull! Really enjoy the fact that you are focusing on the fun aspect of game and the real growth and road to more consistency.

These are one of the best video's ever imho!!! 
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this resonates strong with me since its exactly what i'm doing for a long time now: just looking for the next "comfort zone push". but just on the surface level.

maybe you can illustrate the inner game level more with examples in a future video since it's not really clear to me by now...
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Julien, the second video doesn't make much sense to me at all. You haven't defined what you mean by densifying, depth, and surface layer. What do you mean by being able to do anything in outer game?

Without defining the terms you're using in your videos, no one but the few people you've shared the definitions with in person understands what you're saying.
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#28

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 Was Jack Black talking shit too?? thats hilarious 
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Lol. Nice vid. Do you feel bad that you got your personal assistant friend fired?
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#30

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Mountaineer- wrote:

maybe you can illustrate the inner game level more with examples in a future video since it's not really clear to me by now...
There's loads of RSD stuff on different inner game concepts which are basically about how you think rather than act.

Some thoughts about what he might have been referring to about inner game:

1) Making your brain have positive assumptions with regards to how people will react to you, understanding you're enough and having extreme self love
2) Making sure you know who you are and what you value
3) Being the buyer: having standards, not trying to impress and being congruent to the emotions you're feeling
4) Being present in an interaction: not scrambling for past information or looking to a better future
5) Acting through your own intentions(doing what YOU want to do, not what others constrain you to do): Not giving a damn what anyone thinks of you: expressing yourself freely, being irreverent, self-amusing (not pinging off the environment)
6) Offering value rather than taking it: being authentic and expressing yourself freely
7) Drawing state from within: not needing external stimulus or validation to feel good
8) Letting go of the outcome: ridding yourself of the need for validation and results
9) Thinking for yourself and trusting your own judgement above that of others; taking on responsibility and wanting to lead
10)Getting in touch with the emotions you and her are feeling in an interaction

So I think what he meant was: you can push your comfort zone massively by approaching really difficult sets and that's great, but you also need to develop and CHANGE how you think about yourself and your position in society etc.

As an example: if you've pushed your outer game comfort zone but not thought about the inner side, you might be able to approach the 10, but when you do you'll probably have real difficulty sustaining the interaction with her for a long period of time because you won't feel entitled, internally fulfilled, etc. This is because it's impossible to manage a fake impression: if you don't feel like you're worthy of her, this will come across in very subtle ways which can't really be micromanaged. Your vibe will be wrong.

Then again, being really comfortable having pushed the outer comfort zone a lot is CRUCIAL to coming into alignment with these mindsets anyway

Probs the best places for info on this stuff would be blueprint decoded dvds and also loaaaads of free youtube stuff from the RSD instructors

Hope that helped dude, maybe he meant something completely different, haha
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M.Legend

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 hahaha Juliens stories killed me! thanks for the vid dude gotta go out and gain those references.
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the duve, yeap that helped. thanks
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 Fucking hilarious Tenacious D story.. haha.. also profoundly deep stuff about the reference experiences. I went on a date yesterday, it fucked up, but i got a new reference. 
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 "Julien you've outgrown 'Young Blood' as a moniker. How about 'ICEBERG SLIM' ?" 

The most entertaining RSD instructor to watch, huge respect, huge inspiration, I'm in awe and smiling every time I watch new video by this guy. Amazing
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#36
Mark Francis

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 Awesome vid. Your videos are now my favorite out of any RSD Instructor. I'd like to hear you talk about going out alone in a future video. I'm in a new town and I'm a little intimidated to hit up the clubs.
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#37

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topics,

i was out 3 times the last week and pull all three,,, thanks to you and RSD,

i have notice, if the girl dont feel attraction for me instantly when walk up, then she rarely not feel it at all,
even if i stay in set, i have some ideas what i do wrong, but i still like to hear what you have to say about it,

and i like to get some ideas about how to get a rotation,

see you in Stockholm,
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#38
Kool Kane

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the Tenacious D story was hilarious!^^

Dude looks pissed and confused, duckfacing Julian throwing a V.
Priceless picture^^
I don't know was actually funnier the plot or the picture...


The learning side of this, is throwing yourself into these crazy situations. It's not only about gaming chicks, it's about developing yourself and have fun with it. Of course I want to fuck some gorgeous honeys, but I also like the self development side of game. I like messing with other people, my fear, with reality and things that are or seemingly not possible. I not always approach a girl because I want to fuck her, I approach her to fuck with my reality, to overcome my fears and pass this test of courage.
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#39

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those were some fuckin cool videos, thanks man
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#40

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These vids go well together. 
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#41

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 gr8 stuff, you're helping me improve my life
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#42
ambiguity

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Julien wrote:
Ah, unfortunately not...

I should be back on that side of the globe beginning of February... ;]
dave7- wrote:
 I heard you will be in San Diego for Tyler's FT/HS. Is that true? :)
Mirrin Julien's avi. I wish it was slightly more self amusing but A+ for authenticity.

Loving the second video about getting reality checks, the paradigm shifts, and wisdom which comes through life experience.

Not beating pick up material to death but, "living it" as you were suggesting.

Awesome!
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