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"Hoi, gaat het?!"

So, I've just arrived here in AMSTERDAM and the airline lost my luggage including all of the Hot Seat equipment... A great way to start off the week! 

I'm actually surprised that this hasn't happened sooner due to the excessive amount of travel that I've been doing these past few years years, but I've been reassured that it will be arriving here tomorrow so if you're planning on attending this weekend's event, NOT TO WORRY!!! ;)

Here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat / Bootcamp dates...

May 30 – June 1, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands (taught with Ozzie)
June 6 – 8, 2013: London, United Kingdom (taught with Todd)
June 20 – 22, 2013: Moscow, Russia
June 27 – 29, 2013: Boston, MA, USA (taught with Tyler)
July 4 – 6, 2013: Los Angeles, California, USA
July 11 – 13, 2013: New York, New York, USA

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com


I have a 3 person team that handles ALL of your questions about RSD events -- Stuart, Huey, and David -- all guys in their 20's who are highly active in the game and pimp it with instructors personally, call them any time to talk game or ask any questions you want!

NORTH AMERICA (Toll Free): +1 (888) 546 7286
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So, on that note...

I've got a couple of BRAND NEW videos to share with you here today...

Screwing With Social Conditioning: Being The Center Of Attention IS "The Polite Thing To Do"

In this video, you will discover:

- How I Get Girls To Keep The Conversation Going For ME...

- The Secret Formula That I Use To Become The Center Of Attention In The Girl's Mind... (Her Attention Is EVERYTHING)

- And Lastly, How Talking About Yourself IS What The "Game Book of Etiquette" Would Advocate... 


CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT REVEALS HOW TO BECOME THE CENTER OF ATTENTION:


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9K6XgpBYvFM)

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I'm also proud to let you know that I've FINALLY completed my "Top Inner Game Concepts That Landed Me Playboy Models" TRILOGY packed with some of the most MIND-BLOWING concepts that you'll ever hear!

Check it out RIGHT NOW!!!

Top Inner Game Concepts That Landed Me Playboy Models


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=awo5NEA_Rvo)

Top Inner Game Concepts That Landed Me Playboy Models -- Part 2


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IClURgvvZU)

Top Inner Game Concepts That Landed Me Playboy Models -- Part 3 (NEW!!!)


(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TFKnYqqreOo)

I really hope these videos help you as much as they've helped me... 

AND, AS ALWAYS, LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK IN THE "COMMENT SECTION" HERE BELOW!!! 

I always love reading YOUR feedback as it helps me make my material more relatable as well as explore these concepts into further depth... ;)

"Until next time!" 

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#1
Shayne

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 Stylé
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Kash.TO

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 Mais oui. Bravo!
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Jett

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 Awesome adivce Julien. I've really been struggling with this lately. Especially since I'm drinknig less and trying to do night game while sober. When I was really buzzed or drunk, the words just came out and I didn't give a fuck.

Everytime I talk to a girl I'm always afraid to put too much of myself out there and this leads to me quickly running out of things to say and watching my wignmen make the girls smile and laugh.

I thought the goal was to remain a mystery and not reveal too much of yourself to soon. That way you keep the girl coming back for more. Years ago someone told me you have to be a puzzle the girls can't figure out, because once they figure you out they become bored with you. Kind of like a puzzle.

I also have it in my head that the girl I'm approaching at the bar/ club has already had a handful of guys come up to her and go on about what they do for a living and the sports they play and don't let the girl talk. So I thought I was being different by trying to make the conversation more about her, but what you're saying makes so much sense.
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SpaceMonkey993

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Holy motherfucker, this is some good shit Julien. I especially loved the third video of the top inner game trilogy. That video resonated with me a lot. Thanks man! Oh and I'm lovin the mulitple location shots too. 
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Zer0.Point

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Top notch man. Top fucking notch. Cheers!
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#6

Nuriji

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Wow, awesome stuff. This has been something that has puzzled me nearly all my life, why are popular guys able to grab peoples attention and interest when they talk about such insignificant topics, even back in school when they talked about something I knew they had little knowledge on, I still felt drawn to listen to their opinion on it, as did everyone else.

I like it when RSD videos have something new and unexpected just thrown in there, like the shouting in the beginning, it kind of expands the interest of them, rather than just having the same whole video dialogue for a decade like lots of companies do, which eventually decays the interest and excitement for new videos and topics. Nice work, there is so much value in a lot of these new videos to apply to all aspects of life. 
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Nuriji

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Just watched the 3rd video on inner game concepts and it perfectly describes why so many guys focus on the analysis of contradiction in useful resources, such as the guys who read Eckhart Tolle then quit the game and say stuff like 'blabla it was my ego ... so im not doing pick up blabla', when in reality them doing so is just acting out of thoughts there mind produces to protect their identity and they are only acting through their identity, not through any objective view of the world (which there isn't). Focusing on and creating conflicts in very useful resources was something I used to suffer from until I started actually going out and pushing my comfort zone, now most of the time I can see how it all fits together for the bigger picture. Anyone reading this with this problem, i'd recommend just going out and proactively changing your identity and taking action, then your mind will start to automatically focus on how to put the puzzle together with this stuff, rather than it trying to analyze why the puzzle doesn't fit.
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VinnyMac07

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Awesome Julien. You're right, it feels so good to express ourselves and hold NOTHING back. Like Lil Wayne's music too, like Tyler says.

SOCIAL FREEDOM. This is getting reinforced in my mind and behavior with your videos and watching you in action at Hot Seat. Thanks pimp.
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#9

ayeayulo

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 I fap to Julien's videos
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ayeayulo wrote:
 I fap to Julien's videos
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Amsterdamn

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Het gaat Kanker lekker!! ( It's going cancer nice )
U can use the '' kanker '' word instead of dogg in holland :-)

High quality content! Tnx
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Evgeni Georgiev

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Yesterday i experienced what you talk about in the firs video here.
How to be this guy.?
I speak allmost witout filter but i think it will take a lot of intereactions and real experience to be so charming and to dominete .
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MarriedGuy

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Damn it!
Such profound insight into the messy, abstract social matrix that we live in.

It feels like it is our role as men to pursue the ultimate understanding, and the women are there as a motivation and a prize for some of us who dare to achieve it.
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PlayToWin212

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Nice post Julien!

I've been talking about myself more and more lately before seeing this video as I used to believe it was respectful and polite to let others talk and make it all about them, seen a shit load more success and hooked a lot more this way, plus the conversation flows a hell of a lot better as I'm not dependant on them contributing as much.

When talking about yourself what is your response when someone cuts in on you? + Looks away not seeming interested? + I can imagine the pace of your interaction becoming quite tiering for you if it's at the speed you put accross when you post these videos? 

Cheers!!
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Nikola the Strong

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 Almost no cursing, bravo. :-) 
    Take of the cap, man, it's much better. If you have sensitive eyes, there are solutions to that also (building a muscle for the discomfort). 
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Julien your first video I daresay is your best ever.

The first video shines a light on some success barriers I have. Often when I go out one night and my verbals are on fire, the next day I have trouble achieving that same flow. I think this is more due to my ego holding myself back than anything else - "I don't have to be the most interesting guy, it's too much of a burden" and I end up reverting to the spectator for a few days until I really get amped up and really invest myself in whatever interactions I'm having. This also could be because I only go out a couple of nights per week.  I never even realized that I was always relating things back to myself when at my best verbally, but now that you pointed out the importance of that, it definitely resonates with my own experiences.

It really IS polite to be the center of attention when you approach someone.  The onus is on you as the one entering their personal space to demonstrate why you're there.   These ideas are definitely going to help.
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#17

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Julien,

Great vid -

QUESTION: How do you think this idea of 'bringing the conversation back to me' applies to other relationships - For example, just chilling with some new friends you met recently. Isn't there a concern of coming off as a conceited asshole - i know some people who do this "always talking about me thing' and it makes me and other people I know never want to hang with that person again. And in direct contrast, some others who know how to listen, and are curious etc. and they become the one everyone wants to be around (ie. they create a space). But then again I think there is somethng to be said about those more relaxed popular guys who just don't give a fuck and talk about what ever is on their mind.

So ya - would like to hear your thoughts on the distinction between approaching hot girls vs. chilling with friends. I suppose one danger of making a distinction is you reinforce certain social behaviours the more you do them.

A.
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James Gao

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 You're awesome, Julien. You inspire me to get better.
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Aristotle

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While, I really like that self association exercise as a good way of learning how to have an infinite amout of things to talk about, I also feel like the "me me me" mindset can kind of fuck you up in the head when taken to an extreme.  I get that there are ways to keep the self directed attention positive, but more often than not, this kind of thinking (self-referential thought) leads people to become self-conscious and unhappy.  Even when filling your mind with thoughts of narcisistic awesomeness it can become an issue because it's a dirty high because each of these thoughts contain their opposite.  
You guys usually promote keeping thought to a minimal, and I feel like this is the more useful advice.  I feel like the best path is neither thinking about "me" nor "her", but rather just enjoying "us".  I know I feel at my best and most carefree when I am not thinking about my self, or the girl, or anything in particular, but just really taking in the experience.
You probably don't mean the advice to taken as thinking about your self, but instead simply talking about yourself.  I think this is awesome advice!  I just forsee some people taking it to far and getting all in their head about it.  Just my 2 cents.


-Dustin 
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timeruns

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keep moving me towards a better pimp julien! you are awesome
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#21

Clandestine

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Julien,

I remember from one of your videos you said to let the girl talk so she can experience you, and now you're saying you should talk so she can experience your personality?

Can somebody explain this to me because sometimes i feel like talking and take over the conversation and wonder if i should give the girl more chance to talk, should i aim for middle-ground?
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#22

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 Julien,

I think since you out of all the instructors (besdies tyler sometimes) are the most intense and give the most intense and subjective speeches, it might be helpful if you put more in-field footage in your vids to demonstrate your points. 

I see it a lot on the forums and I have even seen it in person where some fucking newb sees you talk about push pulling girls and then goes out and calls girls bitches and nearly gets slept. I've SEEN a friend call a  girl a so uncalibrated it made me squirm inside and of course she flipped the fuck out on him. 

Anyway, I know you guys give a lot of free shit, but for your vids in particular I feel like in field footage of you actually doing the shit you are talking about might help A LOT. Especially for socially uncalibrated nerds. 

Luke
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 slapped* 
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#24

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 i love julien's material. 
he tells us what we already know. 
we are men.  we know men are supposed to be dominant and thewhole deal.
julien wakes us up and we're gettin that " i already knew this!" feeling.
julien once said to not be a permission boy.. so dont. 
enjoy that you have a dick, use it, follow it, listen to it  ... everyday im shufflin!
dont wait for permission, just fuckin do your thang,homes.
if you feel intmidated by other dudes cause they get more girls, fuck em!
who cares. show yourself some respect and spit game.
if youre feeling insecure youre simply not giving yourself the credit you deserve.
peace.
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Funny note on my mental state as watching through your videos in the order you posted them.

First one was big for me, since its something I think Im lacking and want to achieve, lowering my bar for what I have to say and expressing fully really hit the nail and I started feeling worthy of going out and taking action and just lowering my bar.

Could clearly visualize myself just offering value and having fun.

However, last video got me feeling like I dont do shit and in a self-hate mindset.

I realize its all about holding both ideas in your mind and took it as that, different angles cause different reactions for different people, I bet a bunch got pumped from the last video.
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Friday Night Lights: A handout of glory

So...

finally made it to a RSD event and officially catched a cameo in a RSD v-blog, lol
There is nothing much more to see as the back of my head in the third row on the left side in the current freetour vid though. So, the mystery who's writing these posts still kinda remains...
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However, don't want to sound like a nuthugger but the freetour in Munich was really awesome! Got two instructors for one event. 2 for the price of one (or in this case for free). That's almost a third of the RSD instructor staff. Sound like a great deal from an economical point of view. Can't really get better than that. There were many concepts on this tour I've already been familar with, but it just makes fun to reinforce your beliefs, your truth's and also to catch the vibe from two of the most notorious players in the Game in personal. And I don't care, if RSD instructors have girlfriends at certain points, have feelings for a certain chick or even get married at some point. If you live a lifestyle were you have to constantly left your loved ones at home in order to travel around the world or at least around a country, have to show and tutor other dudes how to pick up women, even perform these skills live infield on and on again. And above all, even manage to throw out some killer content for free from time to time. You're a bonafide hustler...

However, even as a student who heard it "all" before over and over again, there are always some subtle gems I take from the videos or in this case from this live event. Nice to see Ozzie, a certified O.G. who have been in this Game for a minute. He talks less about his mindset of a closer nowadays. He talks a lot more about pain and I get the context regarding his fear technology material. But I also get the sense that he went through a tough time learning these skills as a regular looking, short guy with nerdy tendencies who probably got pushed around in his earlier life. That makes his skills with women and his development even more impressive. This one amog technique was off the chain. He actually talked about it in his last v-blog. I can see how you can someones Game with a girl even before they have a makeout. Actually, I've tried it out already. I don't think this was his intention necessarily, he much rather tried to make a point about facing some stressful situations to expand your comfort zone like interupting making-out couples. He told some old stories from him of his chode days. This all while I was unsuccessfully texting a girl that I've chatted up on a subway station on the way home a day earlier. It wasn't really surprising to me that I didn't got an answer from her as I tried to kiss her on the lips to say goodbye right before parting aways. This all after knowing her for not more than five minutes. She gave me one of these avoiding head back moves. But to that later on...

Julien was the next one on the menue and I have to admit that it somehow felt weird to have him right in front of me at first. Even for someone who has worked for various tv-shows, had his footsteps in the media world and is more or less experienced in hanging out with minor celebrities. It felt like watching a RSD v-blog in 3D^^ And Jules gave a fantastic speech. It had it all... all I expected from a Julien speech. It was passionate, educating and mad funny with his notorious humor and his crazy stories he's used to put out so lovely. Like fucking a girl while having her to pretend that she is your aunt or to question the girl what would you do... if you slept with a guy who turn out to be just 17 and is now blackmailing you to sleep with him over and over again or to contact the authorities^^ lol!
I remember that Julien put out a v-blog a couple months ago where he was talking about filler expressions like how does it feel..., what would you do if..., in ways..., in some type of way...

Basically, open loop questions and vague expressions that make the girl fill out those terms with their own content. That way she is able to project the qualities she wants from a man on to you. At least, when I get the idea right. Further explanations are requested...

BTW: I saw in the company of men and it was really a funny and dark independent flick. Too bad there is no clip of the ending scene on youtube. It's hilarious when the main character reveals his deaf fuckbuddy that his feelings were just a hoax and that she got played from him and his friend. But I think it's even more funnier when Aaron Eckhart is telling his friend that he got played too. The face expression from Aaron is priceless... he is not just asking, he really just wants to know how does it feel^^
Nonetheless, I found another legendary "how does it feel" scene from a legendary movie. A must see flick about the grim tales of a regular man who just went out to visit his daughter on her birthday but ended up on a rampage against the daily madness in his city. A sublime satire on mainstream america and the false promises of the american dream.



All of a sudden some kid interrupts Juliens speech by screaming: "I want to shave the genitals from a penguin!" I don't know if this was an obvious troll or much rather somebody who tried to make an appereance in the video. Or maybe just some young'n who tried to expand his comfort zone by interrupting a young but already legendary pick-up instructor from the leading pick-up company in the world.
However, Julien asked us to give him some ideas for a topic he could talk about. I would have suggested a topic, but to be honest there was no question I had at that time. Suddenly, my neighbour right next to me started to ask Julien for some advice about spicing up his conversation skills. And no doubtly, Julien is probably one of the most skilled PUA's when it comes to spicing up interactions. To the point were it's not needed for the pick up, but just entertaining and impressive from an artful point of view. So he went for an answer and a long speech that made it seem that he's no longer into using shocking humor that much anymore to catch the attention of girls nowadays. He seems more focused on projecting the quality of being the price and get girls to chase him. He makes girls chasing him by baiting them with attention, then playing cold to make them invest in him, then give them some more attention, then strip them cold once again to make them invest even more, up to the point were she expect to get kissed just to get mercilessly stripped from validation by Julien as he is refusing to kiss them. He makes the girl invest more and more and more while not giving any rewards back, so she wants the rewards even more badly and is investing again. Up to the point were she ends up in his bedroom. Genious... I want to know more details about that in the future!^^

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You see the difference between a professional who does this for a living and an amateur like me who's doing this just for fun, self developing and my urgent need to get laid?

I think it's an unfortunate circumstance for pick up instructors that guy's try to avoid their professional help. Why? Because their ego's get involved. Almost everybody thinks that they being Casanovas themselves. Although the average guy refuse to go for cold approach pick up. I could do it if I wanted to! Probably... but you don't go for it mothafucka. So, stay miserable with your fatty girlfriend that you hooked up with in highschool days back then.

If you have some health-problems you go to a doctor. If your car is broken, you go to a mechanic. If you went looney toons you see a shrink. But if you have love problems you avoid professional help? It seems too many people are too stuck up in the idea of fate. Did actually none of these guy's ever saw Terminator 2?

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Although, there is a possibility that grinding for your goals is not a decision of free will but much rather an illusion of fate. I still like the idea that the universe is rewarding you with results when you set up certain goals and put up the right amount effort in it. If I were 18 again, I would do a program with RSD I guess. It would save me years to figure out all the shit I know nowadays. I would have got my dick wet earlier and a couple times more I guess.

All in all, it was a sweet event. What impressed me the most is how Julien behaved and how he carried himself. There was this one guy in particular who ran up on Julien before his speech and told him that he's a big fan of him and that he had some questions. Julien said: sure, go ahead I set up the camera in the meanwhile. He was asking him how many approaches he did in his life. Julien responded something in the means of: Unfortunately, I didn't count them but it must be thousands upon thousands;-) It would have been pretty easy to feel validated in his ego by this guy. It would have been pretty easy to put up some front and feel superior over him, but he didn't. He was pretty nice and down to earth. He's actually a humble, nice and hardworking guy. And he's very professional... even as this one kid interrupted him by yelling the penguin-nonsense he just stayed calm, gave just a nice little "thumbs up" reaction and immediately snapped out of the disruption to continue his speech. It was also pretty impressive that he's basically freestyled his whole speech.
This is one of the things I don't like much in this community. As soon as some of these community guys take some action and get some results and some ego strokes, they act like assholes and feel superior over everyone. Even on this event you could sense who put up a front. I get that we don't have any awards for being the best pick up artist in the world and it's tempting and somewhat understandable to compare your pua dicksizes on such event. As you usually don't get any credits for doing pick up. But you do this for yourself in the first place and I still don't like this attitude. That's the reason why I refuse to hang out with these guy's for the most part. I met some humble dudes in the community, but I also met some dicks. Yesterday you were this shook little faggot who didn't know what to do with his dick and now you're overcompensating by acting to cool for everyone? Get the fuck outta here you little twat. And why hanging out with these morons anyway? I don't need them. I know what I want and I will get it. For me going out solo is like going to the supermarket or hanging out in my living room. I don't really have that much time for someone else when I'm out in the field anyway. That's also the reason why I don't like going out with my regular friends most of the times. They would just chode around in the corner of the club with their wodka bulls in their hand while I were boucing around the club socializing. I mean I like people and I like winging when the guy is cool. I sometimes spontanously wing up with dudes when I'm out in the field. This happens from time to time and it's fun, but overall I want to have the power over my night. I want to do things on my own terms, I want to stay flexible. Going out to venues or change venues when I'm feeling it. I would much rather hang out with a newbie who has a positive attitude and is just fun to hang out with, as with an overcompensating, mouthloud smartass who acts like a coked up drugfiend. I don't like the term alpha that much, but for me being alpha means that you give people value. That you come from a position of power, but you still remain to be a humble guy who wants to give the people around you a good time. But I don't want to sound like a miserable incel, so if you don't know what to do and want to hang on to someone who's constantly hitting up munichs nightlife, write me a PM and we'll see. Julien also gave some good tips about intermediate purgatory. I already noticed some wrong patterns in my Game before, but it's nice to hear this so well explained. Anyway, after the speech I played with the idea to talk to Julien, but there was a whole crowd around him. And I was getting the sense that they need his attention more than me at this moment. Above all, I got texted several times from my colleagues who hang out at a bar and tried to convince me to come over. I didn't realise that I was on a rescue mission to hammer some common sense in them when I headed over. Somehow they thought it would be a great idea to get pointlessly skull drunk by killing sambuca shots at a regular thursday night. Shot after shot, it were at least four in a timebracket not longer than a half hour. And that was just the booze they were drinking while I was hanging out with them. I don't want to know how many tequilas they killed before... much funnier was the next day at work to see their pale skins, the dead eyes and the darth vader like voices from sobering up.   

The Finals

I'm not a great soccer fan, but I could have known it better... our team qualified to the Champigons League finals next to another German team. And after we won the title Saturday night, some of my friends and basically the whole city went nuts. Busses and subways were overcrowded and not right on time. Clubs were full, people drunk out of their minds. There is no other event besides a new years eve were people celebrate that hard till breaking dawn. And as our team is used to be winning (and notoriously hated from the rest of germany for this...) it was a quite familiar feeling.
Anyway, I was somehow still hyped up from the free tour from thursday night when I entered my favorite bar/club friday night. Although I was vagina hunting the whole weekend there was this one particular incident that made the most impact on me. For people who still not seen this video, do it now->
 
I don't want to sound like a dickrider, but the hand of god opening from Tyler is sooo money in this video. Stop meditating for a second if you're reading this and get the little dirty high of your ego getting caressed. When I saw this, I thought to myself: I wanna do this shit too!! I had successfully done it in the past, but I usually just go up to a girl and chat her up. I often say things like: so, how you end up here tonight? or you're cute I had to come over and say hello or how the stag party went so far? (when it's a group of girls). Funnily enough I stumbled over a group of girls who were really partying a stag party saturday night. We had a good laugh about my approach. As you noticed I usually don't use anything to fancy or to special on opening. I don't want to psyche myself out with to smart openings and also opening is the least important part in pick-up. Although vocal projection takes an important part as well especially in daygame. Often times when I get brushed of in daygame it's due to a lack of a strong approach in this particular moment. They just not hear me right or thing I try to fundraise for a charity or something. It's not so easy to recover from that during the day, so step in hard. The "you're a cute line" can perceived as corny sometimes. There was this one tall, blonde, hottie ordering some drinks at the bar a couple weeks ago. I've approached her and told her she is cute yada, yada, yada. and she didn't took it that well. She wasn't saying anything bad, but her face expression revealed me her state. So, I immediately "dissed" her by telling her she's to tall for me. I disqualified myself of being a pontential suitor and that was actually the truth. I usually don't fall for women that are much taller than me. I usually like it more when she is a bit smaller or of the same height. However she lighted up a bit and we had a nice convo before I left and she went back to her friends. I used the same stick on another girl that night, but this time I managed to stay in set. But I come to this later on... You see much more important than the opening itself is the whole interaction. Being empathic and being aware of the current emotional state the girl is in and accordingly responding to it in realtime. And no, I don't mean being the dancing monkey who does everything to make the girl likes him. Another line that I always wanted to use and that I finally managed to use on Saturday night was:  And finally kids... that's how I met your mother^^

So, I was warming up Friday night by hitting up some sets. I was just having a good time as I was in a happy state already. And my mood got even better. Now all of a sudden there was this cute, blonde, chick dancing on the floor. I went up, flipped my fingers, pointed on to her to caught her attention, reached for the hand of god and she... refused. That didn't bothered me, I straight went up to her and whispered some stuff in her ear. Suddenly her brunette friend (that was in the same way hot when not hotter...) came along and tried to drag her away from me or better said: I saw this happening before it really happened. I hugged both girls at the same time and said something in the means of: It's really cute how you protect your friend from getting picked up. The friend was disarmed and didn't liked to get hugged by me that much, so she backed off and went on dancing with another friend. This bought me a little time with my girl. We just talked about usual stuff, I screened her with my usual screening questions. So, how you end up in this place tonight? Just vibing blah, blah, blah... when it's loud in a club you had to come very close to the girl and talk to her ears so that she can hear you. This is very organic and I usually back off after I say something so that the girl hast to lean in to me. That way she's feeling that she is investing in the interaction more and for other people (for example other girls) outside our bubble does look better too. So, I suddenly sneaked a little kiss from her when she was leaning in. She didn't respond to well as she was saying: Ok, I guess I have to go now. So, I threw out some excuses, I overloaded her brain by rapid firing some statements like: wai, wai, wai, wait, I'm sorry, come back, I'm sorry, I don't do this again. I promise you, I don't to this again. I sorry, I've tricked you. You didn't done anything wrong, it's my fault^^ She stayed and we kept flirting. The reason why she wanted to leave is, because she had a boyfriend. And I've said to ther: I just wanted to kiss you and if I didn't had done it I wouldn't have known that you're already taken. And she said, that she thought it was cute how I approached her, it was just like from a movie scene. But then I thought to myself, why not pushing this interaction further? So, I rubbed my cheek on hers and asked her... how does it feel?^^ I have a beard and she said something like a little bit sticky. Then I've asked her: And now as you cheated your boyfriend, how does it feel?^^ I didn't cheat on my boyfriend. Yeah right, it's my fault. But honestly tell me how it does feel to cheat your boyfriend right now, right here? While I put my hand to my heart^^ 
You see I didn't get the girl that night, but I've played to win and not to not lose. I've pushed the interaction as far as I could.

I don't want to dwell on the kissing thing forever, but I have some final thoughts on this topic. I really liked the Alex video with Jeffy in which they talk about screening girls for boyfriends. I feel what Alex is saying when he points out that he usually don't go for the kiss that fast to avoid other people noticing that he eventually get rejected by the girl. I must admit that can be a problem, it might kill your chances with another girl when it doesn't work that well with the current one. So, what I like to do instead recently is sneaking the kiss. It's not a big move, it is so fast and so subtle that usually nobody notice it. And you acchieve some good things with it. First of all it's a good screening tool and secondly it puts the dynamic more man to women. I like the sneaking technique because it's not a big move, it's difficult for the woman to avoid it. Often times women refuse to kiss you, even if they would kiss you or when they have too much time to overthink it. The same goes for asking for the kiss. Don't ask, just do it. You can ask, but it usually doesn't work that well. When she gets silent and doesn't respond that usually means a yes. I think just going for it, is still better. Take the responsibility on your shoulders and not on hers. Well, some people might say hand caressing is another good indicator. It is, but it's not enough in my opinion. Holding hands is not kissing. I chatted up a psychiatrist at a bar once, who worked in a mental hospital with alcohol addicts. This was really funny to me because she and her female doctor friends invited me to a tequila shot. I was heavily flirting with her, grabbed her in, holding hands all of that. Then I isolated her from the group and tried to kiss her. She refused, it didn't worked. All of a sudden she revealed that she's already married. My dumbass just didn't noticed her wedding ring. They changed the venue and she was telling me, you can go with us if you want to, but we won't get physical, so be aware of that. She said that in a serious manner. You see, how I prevent myself from a situation that was going nowhere and would have just let me left butthurt afterwards. Similar situation with the tall brunette one I mentioned earlier. She had a boyfriend in the same venue, that's why she didn't liked that I've grabbed her on her hips in order to dance with her on the floor. She said: I really do like your flirting and we can keep doing this, but you are too physical for me. She meant, that she didn't want to see her white rastafari-bob-marley-wannabe-lookalike-gay-ass-boyfriend seeing us getting it on. Two similar incidents happened friday night, where I was kissing the blonde chick I have mentioned earlier and also another girl that I flirted with that night. Both were taken. As Alex once pointed out, in smaller cities many girls are already taken. You must screen a little bit smarter. 

Besides that, I keep practicing my instant date attempts. Not, very successful yet, but I'm getting better. I manage to get more and faster physical during the day. I hug them, I already tried to kiss one girl as I was mentioning in the beginning in this beast of a wallpost. What? you really still reading this #justkidding. The weather sucks ass here at the moment, but as soon as it is getting better I will have more time to develop my new style of daygame. I think the great disadavantage of daygame in comparison to nightgame is the lack of time you spend with the girl. Holding an interaction for 10 to 20 minutes on the street, on the same spot is still better than nothing, but it doesn't really acchieve the seduction part. It's better to create a situation were you have enough time to develop a physical and emotional connection with the girl in order to see her again. Otherwise, if you just go for her numbers you will play a huge numbers game imo.

Good blog from Julien this week.

If a newbie would ask me what I would do differently when I would start this journey again. I would tell him that he should start taking action as soon as possible. Reading all this material is fine and all that, but it's also a good waste of time when you are not out to give the concepts some understanding in getting some first hand experience to back all this theory up. I'm about five years in this Game and although the first three years laid the foundation, the real progress just have come over the last fifteen months were I constantly took action. I would have done more before, but I've halfassed the first three years because I had more important things to do. My priorities were just not pick up back then. I had more important things to acchieve first. But now I'm out to hustle for poon and love^^

I also enjoyed the being the center of attention video. Just talk to the girl about things you want to talk about. Here's a good example of somebody who's not holding anything back and just state his opinion no matter what. Funniest and realest interviewer in the urban community right now. Hilarious dude, he needs an own show!

BTW: The only topic I'm kind of curios and that I could think of to suggest for a v-blog right now is persistence. I read different views on that topic on this board, but what does persistence mean to a RSD instructor? When it's time to persist, when it's time to let go?





 
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If you cannot be the main guy, then be the guy who quietly fucks
with the main guy's identity. 

Here's an example: I walked to the main guy and asked him quietly what he did
for a living. This is after everyone else tried to pry it out of him and he had given them bullshit.
He tried messing with me but I interrupted him to say "You've travelled."
He confirmed this and went on trying to mess with me.
I interrupted him again and said "You've seen things. Things that messed you up".
This shook him and, for the rest of the evening, he alternated between trying
to put me down and seeking my approval.
He failed in both fronts.

You don't have to compete with the main guy to bring him down.
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 Julien man - seeing the  hotseat 2.5 really reinforced how the verbal game should be pulled off - it was awesome. Like you say in this vid - its about you - talk about yourself for yourself and let the girl experience you - be totally in your own movie and draw the girl in to your reality. 

I have had glimpses of this in set but on a scale of 1-100 I am on level 10 - I can take this much further as the hotseat shows. Very inspirational - unreactive unapologetic self expression is the shit - implement and fall in love with your own verbal bullshit - the girl will fall in love with you too. 
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Amsterdamn wrote:
Het gaat Kanker lekker!! ( It's going cancer nice )
U can use the '' kanker '' word instead of dogg in holland :-)

High quality content! Tnx
Wat een bullshit, dat slaat nergens op. Why would you say 'Its going dog nice'? Also cancer is a nasty disease.
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 I don't really like this video Julien. You can get and attention with out being the loser that keep talking about himself. It's about not giving a fuck and freedom in your head. 

I am personally a low energy person so you would rarely see me keep talking and talking. But when I'm in a group and I'm on. People lesson to me. When I'm for example with a group the high energy person talks and talks, but when I say something (even with interrupt him) they listen to me. 

When I'm with a girl. I believe what I say is valueble, but I don't keep talking. I think it has even more affect. Than she talks and qualify herself. 

I'm sure your 'trick' works Julien, but I think it's not deep enough. Most of the time when people keep talking they try to impress and that's really enoying for other guys and not attractive for the chica's. 
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 julien mate-doesnt this differ from yhe buyer frame you talk about?
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 mannn top inner game concepts series craaaazzzzzzzy insights. wow
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I think I can be more relaxed knowing I can express myself by keeping the bar low not worried what others will think of me. Several times I have said something the entire group disagrees on and instantly they call me out (ex. their sports team sucks). The whole group turns against me. I don't back down and try to prove what I said was cool (because whatever I say is cool) by playfully explaining or teasing but that hasn't worked. Sometimes I say "just kidding", give in and try to change the topic. Would you have advice on dealing with the drama after you say something that comes across as stupid or offensive towards the group?
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 Lead there emotions. Say something like: calm down guys, we can have different opionions, nothing bad. Give a smile, make there happy. Even make a joke. Let them know your not attacking them. Be aware you're not pussying. Ass kissing is really enoying, there nothing to excuse for.
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 Sick work dude ! 
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 awesome!
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I haven't watched the first two videos of your Playboy Model series, but the third one addressed my current problem a 1000%!
Thanks a lot for all your work Julien.
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Wow!
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How does the concept of just pouring it all out, as described in this video go together with being dominant and asking her questions? aren't those two concepts on their respective end of the spectrum??
If i just keep talking and talking while letting her comment on it, I can't ask her questions at the same time?!
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