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“Hola!”
Greetings from Buenos Aires, Argentina…
I thought that I’d quickly check in and share with you two brand new videos that I recorded while I was here before heading over to Sao Paulo tomorrow, the last destination of my current South American tour!
As always, I’m going to be running yet another Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp while I'm there so if you’re located anywhere nearby then DO NOT miss out on any of these events! ;]
Here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp dates...
June 28 - 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
July 12 - 14, 2012: New York
August 2, 2012: Honolulu (taught with Tyler)
August 17 - 19: Las Vegas
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
You can also check out all of the cities that I'll be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.
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On that note, what I’m excited to finally be able to share with you today is something that I consider being one of the core pieces of my game...
BEING ABLE TO TAP INTO THE EMOTIONAL LAYERS OF COMMUNICATION WITHIN THE INTERACTION.
So, what do I mean by this?
As I'm sure that you already know by now, women respond to different things than men.
Women tend to be more attuned to external stimulus by pinging off of the environment that’s around them as opposed to men who tend to be more attuned to internal fulfillment by pinging off of themselves instead.
Women tend to be more emotion based as opposed to men who tend to be more logic based.
There’s nothing new here…
However!
Even though we already know all of this, I tend to see a lot of guys having a lot of trouble actually accepting it!
They just can’t seem to be able to wrap their heads around this concept and actually accept it.
And due to this, they unfortunately aren’t able to tap into what women really respond to: THE DEEPER LAYER OF COMMUNICATION WITHIN THE INTERACTION.
In other words: THE EMOTIONS THAT ARE BEING EXCHANGED!
Whenever you're approaching and interacting with women in general there are always going to be two different yet simultaneous layers of communication.
The first one being the surface layer of communication that tends to be more “logical” and that covers all of the MATERIAL CONTEXT aspects of the interaction.
This is what most guys tend to be focusing on.
And the second one being the more subtle layer of communication also known as the “subcommications” and that covers all of the EMOTIONAL aspects of the interaction.
This is what most women tend to be focusing on.
They’re constantly focusing on that more subtle layer of what is being SUBCOMMUNICATED!
That's it!
Nothing else matters to them, at all.
And being a man who is more logic based, it's very easy to make the crucial mistake of forgetting this and only focusing on that surface layer of communication instead.
So…
What I’m suggesting here is that you actually start CULTIVATING YOUR OWN EMOTIONS in order to be able to tap into that more subtle layer of communication and actually start being able to actually INTERACT with her!
To start getting in touch with your own emotions and to start being able to relate to her on a whole other level that most guys aren't able to achieve.
Let me ask you this:
“Do you ever cry during movies?”
“Do you ever open up emotionally to the people that are around you?”
“Do you ever actually pay close attention to what you’re feeling inside?”
If the answer to all of these questions is “no” then you’re doing something wrong…
A lot of guys tend to fall into the whole “Macho Man” frame of mind of TRYING TO BE COOL and TRYING TO HIDE THEIR OWN FEELINGS.
They try to maintain the self-image of being emotionally impenetrable and indestructible.
They're actually afraid to show any hint of emotion and view it as showing weakness.
Don’t!
Make the realization as of today that it’s OK to open up to people and show them what going on inside.
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT I RECORDED AT THE BUENOS AIRES FREE TOUR THAT REVEALS WHY MOST GUYS AREN'T ABLE TO OPEN UP AND FAIL TO SET THE RIGHT FRAMES WITHIN THE INTERACTION:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_zU2-sEmNyg
PICKUP IS ALL ABOUT THE EMOTIONS.
And being able to tap into them is crucial to achieving true success with women in general.
So how can you cultivate this skillset for yourself, you ask?
By developing the more emotional side of your personality instead of repressing it.
Have you heard of the old saying: “Change her mood, not her mind?”
How can you possibly expect to change her mood or her emotions if you’re not in touch with your own?
You can’t!
The more that you start developing this ability, the more that you’re going to start being able to tap into that more subtle and emotional layer of communication.
And the more that you're going to start seeing things that were previously completely outside of your reality from a logical stand point.
Start getting attuned to your own feelings as well as hers at all times throughout the interactions that you're having.
The more socially attuned that you become, the more that you’re going to start being able to take control and lead those emotions in a way that is favorable to the both of you.
And here is where the magic of all of this lies…
Being able to lead and sculpt the general vibe of the interaction at hand.
Being able to emotionally control and move the interaction forward in a way that makes sense.
What women tend to say on the surface layer of things isn't always going to be what they actually mean.
I never take words seriously, and nor should you.
The words are part of the MATERIAL CONTEXT of the interaction and they don't matter, at all!
Start gearing your focus towards the emotional exchange that you're both having instead.
And when you’re able to constantly be in touch with all of the emotions of the interaction, you'll then be able to control it in ways that were previously unimaginable to you.
You’ll be able to get a sense of what emotions would make sense to shift into next in order to emotionally affect her in all of the right places at the right times.
You’ll be able to let her experience a full range of emotions that is now broader and stronger than it ever was before.
And most importantly, you’ll be able to be more responsive to her by knowing exactly when she’s comfortable with the interaction at hand and when she’s uncomfortable.
You'll be attuned to the emotions that she's feeling at all times throughout the interaction.
SO START EMOTIONALLY OPENING YOURSELF UP AND TUNING INTO THEM!
Now in order to conclude this article, it’s important to also understand that although you’re experiencing and feeling all of the same emotions as her, you’re not associating your sense of self with them at all.
You’re aware of them but not emotionally attached to them.
As soon as you start associating yourself with them you will no longer be in control of them.
You will then be a slave to your emotions, which is never a good thing.
So keep a safe distance. ;]
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT EXPLORES ALL OF THESE IDEAS INTO FURTHER DEPTH AND TEACHES YOU EXACTLY HOW TO SCULPT THE VIBE OF THE INTERACTION AS OF TODAY:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Tmu_R2xeGo
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PS: Let me know what you think of the video and if you have any specific topics that you’d like to hear me cover in any future RSDNATION article!
PPS: Don’t forget to check out the Hot Seat 2 event dates over at www.rsdhotseat.com as well!
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY SEEN THIS OFFICIAL PREVIEW FOR THE EVENT:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlWrFgIR6CU
United States
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA (Julien running day 2)
September 1, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
Europe
September 22, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
September 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 13, 2012: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
October 20, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
October 27, 2012: London, United Kingdom
November 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
December 1, 2012: Moscow, Russia
December 8, 2012: Athens, Greece
February 23, 2013: Bucharest, Romania
March 2, 2013: Sofia, Bulgaria
March 23, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
March 30, 2013: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Canada
August 25, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
September 1, 2012: Toronto, Canada
September 8, 2012: Montreal, Canada
Latin America
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
Middle East
December 15, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
January 5, 2013: Dubai, United Arab Emirates
South Africa
January 12, 2013: Cape Town, South Africa
January 19, 2013: Johannesburg, South Africa
www.rsdhotseat.com
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Greetings from Buenos Aires, Argentina…
I thought that I’d quickly check in and share with you two brand new videos that I recorded while I was here before heading over to Sao Paulo tomorrow, the last destination of my current South American tour!
As always, I’m going to be running yet another Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp while I'm there so if you’re located anywhere nearby then DO NOT miss out on any of these events! ;]
Here are my next Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp dates...
June 28 - 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
July 12 - 14, 2012: New York
August 2, 2012: Honolulu (taught with Tyler)
August 17 - 19: Las Vegas
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
You can also check out all of the cities that I'll be traveling to after this in the "Where I'll be next..." section at the very bottom of this article.
<>==========================================<>
On that note, what I’m excited to finally be able to share with you today is something that I consider being one of the core pieces of my game...
BEING ABLE TO TAP INTO THE EMOTIONAL LAYERS OF COMMUNICATION WITHIN THE INTERACTION.
So, what do I mean by this?
As I'm sure that you already know by now, women respond to different things than men.
Women tend to be more attuned to external stimulus by pinging off of the environment that’s around them as opposed to men who tend to be more attuned to internal fulfillment by pinging off of themselves instead.
Women tend to be more emotion based as opposed to men who tend to be more logic based.
There’s nothing new here…
However!
Even though we already know all of this, I tend to see a lot of guys having a lot of trouble actually accepting it!
They just can’t seem to be able to wrap their heads around this concept and actually accept it.
And due to this, they unfortunately aren’t able to tap into what women really respond to: THE DEEPER LAYER OF COMMUNICATION WITHIN THE INTERACTION.
In other words: THE EMOTIONS THAT ARE BEING EXCHANGED!
Whenever you're approaching and interacting with women in general there are always going to be two different yet simultaneous layers of communication.
The first one being the surface layer of communication that tends to be more “logical” and that covers all of the MATERIAL CONTEXT aspects of the interaction.
This is what most guys tend to be focusing on.
And the second one being the more subtle layer of communication also known as the “subcommications” and that covers all of the EMOTIONAL aspects of the interaction.
This is what most women tend to be focusing on.
They’re constantly focusing on that more subtle layer of what is being SUBCOMMUNICATED!
That's it!
Nothing else matters to them, at all.
And being a man who is more logic based, it's very easy to make the crucial mistake of forgetting this and only focusing on that surface layer of communication instead.
So…
What I’m suggesting here is that you actually start CULTIVATING YOUR OWN EMOTIONS in order to be able to tap into that more subtle layer of communication and actually start being able to actually INTERACT with her!
To start getting in touch with your own emotions and to start being able to relate to her on a whole other level that most guys aren't able to achieve.
Let me ask you this:
“Do you ever cry during movies?”
“Do you ever open up emotionally to the people that are around you?”
“Do you ever actually pay close attention to what you’re feeling inside?”
If the answer to all of these questions is “no” then you’re doing something wrong…
A lot of guys tend to fall into the whole “Macho Man” frame of mind of TRYING TO BE COOL and TRYING TO HIDE THEIR OWN FEELINGS.
They try to maintain the self-image of being emotionally impenetrable and indestructible.
They're actually afraid to show any hint of emotion and view it as showing weakness.
Don’t!
Make the realization as of today that it’s OK to open up to people and show them what going on inside.
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT I RECORDED AT THE BUENOS AIRES FREE TOUR THAT REVEALS WHY MOST GUYS AREN'T ABLE TO OPEN UP AND FAIL TO SET THE RIGHT FRAMES WITHIN THE INTERACTION:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_zU2-sEmNyg
PICKUP IS ALL ABOUT THE EMOTIONS.
And being able to tap into them is crucial to achieving true success with women in general.
So how can you cultivate this skillset for yourself, you ask?
By developing the more emotional side of your personality instead of repressing it.
Have you heard of the old saying: “Change her mood, not her mind?”
How can you possibly expect to change her mood or her emotions if you’re not in touch with your own?
You can’t!
The more that you start developing this ability, the more that you’re going to start being able to tap into that more subtle and emotional layer of communication.
And the more that you're going to start seeing things that were previously completely outside of your reality from a logical stand point.
Start getting attuned to your own feelings as well as hers at all times throughout the interactions that you're having.
The more socially attuned that you become, the more that you’re going to start being able to take control and lead those emotions in a way that is favorable to the both of you.
And here is where the magic of all of this lies…
Being able to lead and sculpt the general vibe of the interaction at hand.
Being able to emotionally control and move the interaction forward in a way that makes sense.
What women tend to say on the surface layer of things isn't always going to be what they actually mean.
I never take words seriously, and nor should you.
The words are part of the MATERIAL CONTEXT of the interaction and they don't matter, at all!
Start gearing your focus towards the emotional exchange that you're both having instead.
And when you’re able to constantly be in touch with all of the emotions of the interaction, you'll then be able to control it in ways that were previously unimaginable to you.
You’ll be able to get a sense of what emotions would make sense to shift into next in order to emotionally affect her in all of the right places at the right times.
You’ll be able to let her experience a full range of emotions that is now broader and stronger than it ever was before.
And most importantly, you’ll be able to be more responsive to her by knowing exactly when she’s comfortable with the interaction at hand and when she’s uncomfortable.
You'll be attuned to the emotions that she's feeling at all times throughout the interaction.
SO START EMOTIONALLY OPENING YOURSELF UP AND TUNING INTO THEM!
Now in order to conclude this article, it’s important to also understand that although you’re experiencing and feeling all of the same emotions as her, you’re not associating your sense of self with them at all.
You’re aware of them but not emotionally attached to them.
As soon as you start associating yourself with them you will no longer be in control of them.
You will then be a slave to your emotions, which is never a good thing.
So keep a safe distance. ;]
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW THAT EXPLORES ALL OF THESE IDEAS INTO FURTHER DEPTH AND TEACHES YOU EXACTLY HOW TO SCULPT THE VIBE OF THE INTERACTION AS OF TODAY:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Tmu_R2xeGo
<>=======================================<>
PS: Let me know what you think of the video and if you have any specific topics that you’d like to hear me cover in any future RSDNATION article!
PPS: Don’t forget to check out the Hot Seat 2 event dates over at www.rsdhotseat.com as well!
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY SEEN THIS OFFICIAL PREVIEW FOR THE EVENT:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlWrFgIR6CU
United States
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA (Julien running day 2)
September 1, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
Europe
September 22, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
September 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 13, 2012: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
October 20, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
October 27, 2012: London, United Kingdom
November 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
December 1, 2012: Moscow, Russia
December 8, 2012: Athens, Greece
February 23, 2013: Bucharest, Romania
March 2, 2013: Sofia, Bulgaria
March 23, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
March 30, 2013: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Canada
August 25, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
September 1, 2012: Toronto, Canada
September 8, 2012: Montreal, Canada
Latin America
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
Middle East
December 15, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
January 5, 2013: Dubai, United Arab Emirates
South Africa
January 12, 2013: Cape Town, South Africa
January 19, 2013: Johannesburg, South Africa
www.rsdhotseat.com
<>=======================================<>
WWW.JULIENLIFE.COM
www.twitter.com/RSDJulien
www.facebook.com/RSDJulien
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www.youtube.com/JulienFreeTour
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OutofBacon!
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I've had 4 dates with the same girl the last 2 weeks. I tried everything, but she just wouldn't kiss me or let me escalate in any other way with me EVERY time. She asked me on EVERY date if I liked her and why, after which I always tried to talk around it or make a joke out of it. Only after the 5th date when I just responded with: 'I like you and I want you'' did the whole frame of our relation take a complete twist.
Thannx for clearing this stuff up for me. I didn't realize that I've always been conditioned since my childhood to be like that. I now understand why it's so important to be so clear in the fact that you show that you like the girl.
Dr Feelgood
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It's because nobody else comes up to them like that.
Good stuff!
PS: So, Julien, after all of my comments on your articles, let me ask you what I sometimes like to ask girls: "How many compliments can you take? Do I have to stop now?" Ha ha...
El_Diego
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EL POLLO LOCO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
El_Diego
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Tyler
Tyler, please give Julien a raise. He answered all my questions about game and helped me enjoy love times with 3 girls within a few days here in Argentina. The man is solid.
Cheers
AlexV
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it's just so god damn hard to be direct
RobbieTeutonic
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DUDE! So i get the subcomunication, first thing I got about this stuff
But when you make drama do you...
lead her emotionally and change your emotions to be congruent to what your saying to fit the rol play like "fuck you"
or
do you be the emotional anchor and just say shit and let her ride her own emotional rollercoaster?
jabbaworks321
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It's creepy to think - nay, KNOW - that girls are wired with that kind of insight. Like they can look at you and pretty accurately gauge what you're feeling at any given time. If you're pissed, happy, feeling high value, feeling like a twirp, etc. In a way, that's what it ALL comes down, doesn't it? If a guy can learn to harnace his inner emotions and be an alligned human being....the rest just solves itself.
I had some girl laughing her ass off the other day because I truly did not give a shit what I said. I was so tired that my outcome dependancy was miles away. And then she was like, "wow, nice eye contact", which prooobably made me blow it. But up to that point I was like, "hot girl! dog! this! look! that! really? no!" which fuckin works!
Tyler has mentioned before the intro to Bruce Lee's book on jeet kune do, which could have been titled geet laid noww.
:D
rsdq
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So draw state from within???
Xandercage
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2nd video was great for reinforcing the mentality i want to foster in myself - the same mentality that alleviates the problems discussed in the 1st vid.
impressed how much i got out of two short vid's and the article, seems like this isn't the only time you've managed to drop a lot of knowledge in a little amount of space.
thanks!
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Kool Kane
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I even wanted to post some clips, but I couldn't find the right scenes on youtube. Altough considered a chick-flick, the actions of the lead character are a pretty amazing example on how to create drama and spike emotions in order to hustle girls.
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CUIBACITY
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“Do you ever cry during movies?”
“Do you ever open up emotionally to the people that are around you?”
“Do you ever actually pay close attention to what you’re feeling inside?”
If the answer to all of these questions is “no” then you’re doing something wrong…"""
HAHAHA
Now let us turn us all into gays
Men do not cry for these small thing, only in case worthy, this is the behavior of women (and gays), melted butters.
but it is a good explanation for those who do not understand anything.
Of a clear vision and deep this is a good start. but not the 'Check Mate'
Grace man.
From what I've seen you're the best currently, both in the field, as in theory.
better days are coming
better days for everyone
by science and by those who are suppressed by conditioning. because I was
Robert Paulsen
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Social conditioning... fuck yourself.
4 E's Energy + Emotion + Escalation + Execution = Ejaculation on bitches faces
CUIBACITY
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So draw state from within???
draw state from within
there is no such thing.
you do not draw nothing.
you simply comes from the place
think draw state from within
is the same as you're consciously trying to be unconscious
Impossible
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Gift~
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Thanks
Gift~
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For many people including myself, this can be hard to do. I've practiced and trained myself to be in touch with my emotions through certain meditations, but I just want to share a website with you guys that helped me.
I don't mean to take you away from rsdnation, but if you're up for the read:
http://www.mkprojects.com/fa_emotions.html
A long time ago this really helped me, and recently I've re-discovered it.
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This article really made sense to me. Like wow. I have more clarity now of things that confused me.
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Julien fucking rocks
sashakaze
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Question-
' men tend to be more attuned to internal fulfillment by pinging off of themselves instead. '
Julien you said the above in your blog. This is a recurring theme but how should we develope this internal stuff?
Stonefish
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First your recent RSD hotseat 2 in Sydney was fantastic, I was not sure I'd get much out of it but it has been a real turning point for me & my game, thanks
I highly recommend the hotseat 2 event
As you said in your video "A man should focusing on the Emotional layer of communications rather than Logical layer when speaking to girls"
I find this so important, it's everything, great tip
Question
How do you use "Sexual Tension" in your game?
Tyler says, "If you give a girl too much validation even though she is attracted to you, she probably isn’t going to sleep with you"
On the other hand you need to communicate as a man to a women
I just wondered if you can tell me your thoughts on the subject of sexual tension and how it plays out on her emotions
Thanks
Danny
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I've always been taught to be evasive about it and never let her know you like her before she admits to liking you.
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Anabolic
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I've always been taught to be evasive about it and never let her know you like her before she admits to liking you.
You show her you like her physically for the most part, via kino escalation. The verbal part isn't that important.
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I've always been taught to be evasive about it and never let her know you like her before she admits to liking you.
You show her you like her physically for the most part, via kino escalation. The verbal part isn't that important.
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