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Frequently, I'll get emails from guys who have signed up for a Real Social Dynamics Bootcamp asking me what they can do to prepare for their upcoming experience. They want to know if there are any specific things they can do in order to prime themselves to get the maximum value out of the program.

Invariably, I tell these guys the same thing, and it has nothing to do with approaching women.

I tell them to get their ass in the gym and prepare for the program like it's an Olympic event.

Now a lot of people, when I tell them this, are confused. "But Jeff," they ask, "what does that have to do with picking up girls?"

In and of itself, nothing. But the fact is, a Real Social Dynamics Bootcamp is designed to be one of the most intense learning experiences in the world, and as such places serious demands on your physical, mental and emotional capacities.

I tell people to train for it like an Olympic event because THAT'S PRECISELY WHAT I WILL BE DOING.

I keep myself fit. That means daily exercises, spanning a broad spectrum of activities.

One such activity is the practice of hatha yoga to develop flexibility and body awareness. I've recently started getting into this, and it's been very helpful. I've been studying it for a while now, attending class and also doing a lot of reading. In doing so, the other day I came across an interesting bit which was used to describe the process of learning, which I find has application in the realm of social dynamics.

The book described something called "The Ten Bull Pictures," an ancient Buddhist parable that illustrates the stages of awakening to hidden potential. The story uses a series of pictures to tell the story of a student seeking, finding, and integrating knowledge of the self. The images use a bull as a symbol of this knowledge. The bull itself eventually disappears but the knowledge remains and becomes a part of the individual. In this article, I'd like to share this parable with you and examine how it can be interpreted in terms of this journey towards success with women.

1. The first picture is "Searching for the Bull." First, one learns that game exists. This is the realization that we are wholly responsible for our results, the realization that you don't have to accept a sub-par dating life just because you aren't six-foot-five with Brad Pitt looks. In other words, you discover that, despite how things might seem, it is not an objective world that is keeping us down, but rather our self-deceiving minds.
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2. The second picture shows the herder "Discovering the Footprints of the Bull." In this second stage, you know that "game" exists, and begin consciously seeking it out: reading about it on the internet, studying DVD programs, etc. By this process you begin to gain "head knowledge" of game functions.

With the aid of things like RSD programs and by the means of study, you come to understand a few things. At this point a key realization takes place: you begin to realize that the objective world is merely a reflection of the self, as opposed to the other way around.

For me, in the early days this epiphany came when I read some of Tyler's posts, which led me to believe that "attitude determines what you can get away with." This was a bit of a crude, surface level analysis or way of arriving at the realization that we craft our own reality, tinged with pessimism (“get away with”?) but at the time it was a huge turning point for me.

Still, I was largely unable to distinguish amidst the whirlwind of pickup theory out there what was good from what sucked.

3. The third picture is entitled "Seeing the Bull." This is a major point. Up until now, the student has had a lot of "book learning" but really hasn't been able to translate it to the field. It is at this stage that he goes out, experiments around, and finally experiences the "body knowledge" of game.

He starts to realize that this game is not about LOGIC, but rather is all about EMOTIONS. He starts to understand what good game "feels like" when he's in the field. He starts to understand what is meant by "getting into state."

This is the first "twitch" of activation. It is here that he experiences the pure state of energy flow that I like to call "the Nimbus."

"The boy finds the way by the sound he hears;
he sees thereby into the origin of things, and all his senses are in harmonious order.
In all his activities, it is manifestly present. It is like the salt in water and the glue in color. [It is there though not distinguishable as an individual entity.]
When the eye is properly directed, he will find that it is no other than himself."


4. The fourth picture depicts the oxherder "Catching the Bull." Using conscious control, it is now possible to regulate in rough fashion, the power of the nimbus.

Bull

See, the nimbus is the true realization of the phrase, "I don't care what anybody thinks of me." When I see a guy hit that state for the first time, it's obvious, because I will come around the corner and see him jumping and thrashing about like a psychopath. I'll laugh and say to myself, "Yup... he's got it."


The thing is, they don't know how to use the power yet. They are simply running around like a bull in a china shop, smashing things up. Sure, they are having a great time while doing it, and for a lot of guys, just the idea that game can actually be FUN (as opposed to some ball-wracking referendum on your worth as a human being) is an epiphany in and of itself. But they're not getting the girls, because they're just going in there like a sledgehammer now.

Again, while this is a monumental step, it is no time to rest. You have to work even harder at this point to continue onwards and upwards.

"With the energy of his whole being, the boy has at last taken hold of the ox: But how wild his will, how ungovernable his power!
 At times he struts up a plateau,
 When lo! he is lost again in a misty unpenetrable mountain-pass."

5. The fifth picture is "Taming the Bull." This is the stage where you start to bring in FINESSE. Through a conscious process of discipline, you bring the power of the nimbus under control. You don't care what they think. Great. Now, start to become aware of how you are making them FEEL. Bring the power of the nimbus to bear on THAT, using it to direct the energy of the interactions like a virtuoso concert pianist, and you are on the path to mastery. Again, it is in this stage that functional regulation of your game becomes refined. It is here that you develop what is commonly referred to as "calibration."

6. "Riding the Bull Home" One can now activate the skills at will, without having to think much about it. You just roll to the club and GO. This is the beginning of "game clairvoyance." This term refers to the ability of the awakened mind of the accomplished "pick up artist" to anticipate an action and use the most efficient method, tactic, or strategy to accomplish it.

Only consistent practice creates this type of phenomenon, a feeling of "knowing" what to do. Some have referred to this as "unconscious competence."

Riding Bull

"Riding on the animal, he leisurely wends his way home:
 Enveloped in the evening mist, how tunefully the flute vanishes away!
 Singing a ditty, beating time, his heart is filled with a joy indescribable!
 That he is now one of those who know, need it be told?"

7. "The Bull Transcended." I'd actually call this one "the GAME transcended." The "skill set," as it were, now automatically activates whenever needed and exactly as needed - no more no less. This is full game clairvoyance.

I've met many "naturals" over the course of my career, and an interesting thing I've noticed about them is that, when questioned about game, they often get a puzzled look on their face, and are unable to articulate what exactly it is they do in any meaningful way. It's as if they just can't see what the big deal is.

"Just be cool," they'll say.

I now realize that this is because they have transcended the game in the manner described here. Definitely an admirable way to live, and a remarkable achievement for anybody who reaches this step. But there are three more pictures remaining...

8. The next picture features "Both Bull and Self Transcended." Integration. Rest. Connection. Many will never reach this stage. This is what Tyler's getting at in the Blueprint when he talks about "moving from a place of ego to a place of authenticity and self-esteem."

Here, you are no longer concerned with "being a bad ass pick up artist" or impressing others with your feats of skill. You receive no ego validation from your success.

It simply is what it is.

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Many practitioners will, at this point, take a step away from the game for a bit. They might even feel a bit of disillusionment. This is where you'll see odd stuff like top guys going celibate for a while, "just to mix things up a bit." Of course, this often leaves their buddies scratching their heads and thinking they've gone full insane. Or maybe they settle down with one girl for a while.

Truth is, a rest period is often the germination of the seed of something new. A renewed vigor for the game, or even a completely different endeavor sprouting out of the old. Again, this is the stage where everything you've experienced and learned becomes fully integrated.

Remember that rest is an essential part of the growth process. If you feel yourself arriving at this stage, embrace it and let it run its course. You've certainly earned it, and it’s when growth happens.

9. The ninth picture: "Returning to the Source." The knowledge is now consolidated, and the circuitry unlocked.

10. Finally, we see the herder "In the World with Knowledge Integrated."

At the end of every Bootcamp, I tell the student: "You're on our meme tree now, bitch... go forth and spread the word." And that is the ultimate aim of Real Social Dynamics: not to create a legion of followers, but to do our own small part in transforming the world, snapping as many people as possible out of the spectator mindset characteristic of "the unthinking masses."



We are simply the facilitators. The catalysts. We share our experiences so that those who learn from them can go on to make their own myths, and in turn inspire the next generation.

"The cycle begins again, each time more exquisite, each time more arduous. But we know the process and the way."
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This is cool. I hope you steal this for your book shades
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Great story and great analogy
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Glorious man. Well said.
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 Awesome article. When I started reading I figured I'd be on one of the later stages turns out I'm only somewhere around 3-4.


P.S.  I also enjoyed the latest newsletter with the thug life t-shirt and pink bunny ears teeth
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Cool. I've only had Nimbus 3 times, and I didn't pull on any of those 3. Felt cool tho. Fuckin weird. Good to know where I am along this path.
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Just awesome, I love metaphores and eastern philosophy and this was a fresh, peaceful read. Friggin tight.
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Solid post; undoubtedly a must read for anyone in the game. shades
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 This is probably one of the best posts I've read that you've written, jlaix. Fantastic stuff. Really great distillation of the whole process of "becoming", in relation to pickup, with some ill Eastern style metaphor. Thanks!
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"No time to rest"

Damn you.
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Very very useful in the long term process.

Pff I can't wait for your book.
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That was probably one of the most important articles that I have ever read in my life. 

1. It hits me on the game level as to where I am and what work I need to do. 

2. As a a teacher myself, I see how I can best help my students learn. 

Thanks Jeffy 
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So many bull pictures left to go...
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Really valuable.
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love it!
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Awesome.  Maybe these next few months will give me a rough idea of where I'm at on this "scale".  Nowhere to go but up baby!
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so what if you're already in good shape pre-bootcamp?? good health that is. What would you recommend someone do to get the most of the experience??
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Tonight, I just watched the matrix. I read this article earlier today, and finished watching the Matrix on TBS tonight.

And while I was watching, I saw a WHOLE bunch of the different levels of what was said.

Lots of correlation.
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Inspirational...

Which step was personally the most satisfying for you to reach?

- The Duck
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wow the best, best article, truly truly inspirational!!!!! had to immediately stop everything I was doing for half an hour to think about it and life itself.. what a journey.. what a journey..
Thank you Jeffy!!!!!
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so lots, lots of sport (why supermodels usually date sportsman- they are usually in state because they exercise all the time)- cycling to speed up metabolism for example, then being in state most of the time and we can take it from there
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top article
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Jesus..........

That was badass.
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Very interesting analogy.. especially #8 I thought.  Most people will never reach this stage.. that really hit home for me.  Impressing others and ego validation is still a huge motivating force for me.. true authenticity and not giving a fuck how badass others think or don't think you are is more empowering and authentic...  One day I suppose..  I just keep trudging along to the next and next level.
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An interseting and useful analogy.  Still, I always feel a bit weird when people apply Buddhist principles to pickup.  The fact is, many of the best naturals in the world are deeply flawed individuals who have nothing close to "inner peace" or "centeredness" (actors, rock stars, etc...).  Banging chicks is not enlightenment.
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This one deserves a standing ovation :)

werd~ jeffy~werd

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the kid on drugs dancing was funny, saw that same dance last night
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Is anyone trying to approach this from '8' and 'working backwards'?
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precisely what i needed to hear, when i needed to hear it. fucking brilliant! i dont think that my game is outstanding or amazing, but i do see that im taking the right steps in order to go stellar
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COOL STUFF MAN!!!......i always enjoy the guided tours through the mind of JEFFY..\m/..
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Very inspirational,  we all need a little gudiance on our path.

Thanks
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very cool, I really liked this.
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Wow ! great article, Jeffy !
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top 5
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Super nice article, let's make this world a better place and make ourselves shine on our highest level
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This saturates more peices for me. Thanks so much for this analogy!
incredible.
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great piece jeffy.  a brilliant  read to give some context and perspective of the path for those of us that choose to go on the journey.  respect and thanks
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Thanks.

Would be cool if you spit out an article on some more of the ridiculous absurdities of the world that you see, and how opening your eyes to them will open your brain to the actual simplicity of social dynamics, thus transforming fear into power. Lets walk on coals. DO IT.
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abundancy n positivity always win..smile
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amazing.
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Mitchell wrote:
Lets walk on coals.

Yes!
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I'm coming up on Six real soon; I can feel it. :DD
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this article gave me a realization once, now it just makes me want punch my self in the face for having limitng beliefes
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