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Whatup hos, just got back from Austin, and I'll be heading promptly back to Texas this Thursday to do up another bootcamp in Dallas. From there my schedule is as follows:
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So today's video was shot outside of the flagship Whole Foods location in Austin.
Dude, what. I already shot a video with the skyline, and RSD Nation is also concerned with nutrition. And daygame. So yeah... Whole Foods. Whatever.
Anyway, the topic of the video is MOTIVATION.
We've all had times where we find it difficult to continue plugging away at this skillset, especially when it seems like not much progress is being made. Where one person decides to simply give up and let these dreams of fall to the wayside, another guy instead DOUBLES DOWN and hits it even HARDER, until he breaks through his current plateau and lives the impossible dream.
The difference between these two fellows is simple. Motivation. One guy is energized by the challenge, the other is disheartened and gives up.
So in this video, I talk about an interesting article I read in Scientific American identifying three variables that you can consciously tweak to your benefit in order to gain MASSIVE motivation to go out and bang the guns night after night.
Because, ultimately, that's what it takes to get good, and to get the girls.
Check it out:
http://youtu.be/EVi_stWU8oU
So that sums it up... three things: autonomy, value and competence.
When you know that you have to go hit up the club but you simply aren't feeling it, examine yourself and see if you are lacking in any of these areas. Addressing them can give you that boost you need to get back in the game and back on your path to mastery.
As a bonus today, I'm gonna go ahead and include the blog I shot back in January in Austin, as it's one of my favorites. It's on the topic of BAD ADVICE, aka the conventional wisdom about game that gets typically gets handed out by chode society, and the hidden insights we can glean from this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rI7n4cxHq0
Thanks for reading this space, see you next time!
-j
May 31-June2: Dallas
June 6-8: Las Vegas
June 14-16: San Francisco
June 21-23: San Francisco
June 27-29: Los Angeles
July 5-7: San Francisco
July 11-13: Calgary
july 19-21: San Francisco
July 26-28: San Francisco
August 1-10: Las Vegas World Summit
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
We have a 3 person team that handles ALL of your questions about RSD events-- call them any time to talk game or ask any questions you want!
NORTH AMERICA (Toll Free): +1 (888) 546 7286
EUROPE: +44 (0) 2079 934 034
AUSTRALIA: +61 280 155 522
ASIA: +81345789305
<>==========================================<>
So today's video was shot outside of the flagship Whole Foods location in Austin.
Dude, what. I already shot a video with the skyline, and RSD Nation is also concerned with nutrition. And daygame. So yeah... Whole Foods. Whatever.
Anyway, the topic of the video is MOTIVATION.
We've all had times where we find it difficult to continue plugging away at this skillset, especially when it seems like not much progress is being made. Where one person decides to simply give up and let these dreams of fall to the wayside, another guy instead DOUBLES DOWN and hits it even HARDER, until he breaks through his current plateau and lives the impossible dream.
The difference between these two fellows is simple. Motivation. One guy is energized by the challenge, the other is disheartened and gives up.
So in this video, I talk about an interesting article I read in Scientific American identifying three variables that you can consciously tweak to your benefit in order to gain MASSIVE motivation to go out and bang the guns night after night.
Because, ultimately, that's what it takes to get good, and to get the girls.
Check it out:
http://youtu.be/EVi_stWU8oU
So that sums it up... three things: autonomy, value and competence.
When you know that you have to go hit up the club but you simply aren't feeling it, examine yourself and see if you are lacking in any of these areas. Addressing them can give you that boost you need to get back in the game and back on your path to mastery.
As a bonus today, I'm gonna go ahead and include the blog I shot back in January in Austin, as it's one of my favorites. It's on the topic of BAD ADVICE, aka the conventional wisdom about game that gets typically gets handed out by chode society, and the hidden insights we can glean from this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rI7n4cxHq0
Thanks for reading this space, see you next time!
-j
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VoltA
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I have posted the first comment.
gugarutz
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on that note, first!
edit... fu VoltA
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Jeff, you're allways an inspiration man loll
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There was a time after his first fight with GSP where he went to train with a camp based in California, got his fitness up to snuff, and went on a rampage through the lightweight division. After three consecutive wins, he faced GSP again at 170 lbs, lost (this was the greasing scandal you mentioned), but came back to dominate two more times in the lightweight division (because he was actually training hard!).
Great reminder that we can always continue to improve, even the most prodigious amongst us!
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Anyway you're the man and your videos are very well put and informative. Thanks.
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When you have "being good" as a goal, approaching makes no sense, because you don't feel that your approach would be good :), and it obviously feels forced, because that's what you have to do to "be good". But when approaching itself is a goal, "being good" makes sense, because it would enchance your approaching, and it's just an option, so it's not forced, and that's why you feel more motivated. Just swap it and it works :)
It has done wonders for me with guitar playing, I finally after years of dabbling can play what I want while also learning tremendously, before I never felt enthusiastic about learning new stuff, even though I liked to play.
It was just a necessity to me, and that was turning me off. I saw learning as my enemy. The same goes with workouts.
There is this gap between your goal and everyday grind. If you see it through your goal, then small steps make no sense to you, because you see no connection, your mind is unable to cross this gap. But when you see it through these small steps, the goal is something that is inspiring. It's just a thing that you one day may achieve, and so that lack of pressure allows it to emerge in you, uplift you, making every step feel better instead of being something pointles and painful (P&P, kinda what people think about most things they do in their lives).
ps Jeffy always my hero ;P
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Great, great video! Really putting the recent science behind motivation on the table without stupid anecdotes that us authors often love to use to package it. But this was straight, loved it.
BJ analogy was awesome, btw. Every mma fan can agree.
War Jeffy!
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best vBlog RSD has produced so far
highly concentrated content with a shitload of references plus entertaining real life examples for every point. I got at least three authors out of this I am going to check out. Even tyler can't present information this detailled with so much style
Summit God~
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BJ penn as a symbol of flexibility and using fluid attack methods and odd attack angles? please. Anderson Silva.
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The fight game has evolved so much in recent years, that professional MMA fighters now have to train full time in order to be successful. Examples of the top of my head of part time fighters that just didn't cut it in the UFC would be Shane Carwin and most recently, John Cholish, who lost his last bout and subsequently retired. The amazing thing about Cholish is that he works full time on Wall Street and still managed to find time to train and fight in the best organization in the world.
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spent his life searching for the one denominator that all successful people share. He found it wasn't
hard work, good luck, or astute human relations, though those were all important.
The one factor that seemed to transcend all the rest embodies the essence of Habit 3: Putting First Things First.
"The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don't like to do," he observed.
"They don't like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of
their purpose."
taken from the 7 habbits of highly effective people
JUST SAYIN
although i think hard work and doing things failues do not like to do are basically two sides of the same coin
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Something else I would like to tack on is "taking care of the basics". This is something myself and a fellow RSD alum in my town of San Antonio talk a lot about. Bascially, what I mean is when you live in alignment with your body by getting exercise, eating the right things, getting a good nights rest, minimizing alcohol and caffeine intake, etc., motivation has a tendency to take care of itself because you just FEEL better.
Anyway, gold as usual, Jeff!
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I have posted the first comment.
Congratulations, you have contracted a particularly virulent strain of canceraids
jlaix
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Yes, it is absolutely essential that you self-relfect and be intelligent about your growth, as opposed to say mindlessly going through the same motions again and again.
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Yes. that new orleans video is quite good and pretty relevant to what I'm talking about above in my response to taipan.
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IMO discipline is something you employ on a DAILY basis to implement a routine like going to the gym and doing specific exercises on specific days, or working your phone numbers down at a certain time every day. Motivation is more of an over-arching thing, the thing that actually COMPELS you to become disciplined in the first place. so in other words, motivation can improve your discipline, they go hand in hand.
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1.) Research based on credible science and real world data.
2.) Apply an test above research and data to students.
3.) Here are some specific things that can be applied to one's game to improve results.
Yes, I frequently set aside little articles and things I read when they remind me of something game-related, with the intention of blogging about it, but this is one of the few times I've actually gone ahead and executed on that. The last time I did this was when I posted about Gaudi and how his architecture related to Beasting, but that was before the era of the weekly video blogs.
I'll do something like this again in the future.
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Is this video right after you came from Toronto Canada? That shirt and your tattoo on your forearm are very nostaligic.
The "Open within 30 second or else you will be punched by the midget drill sergent instructor" helped my game a lot during the boot camp! You are correct, it really did lower my standards from "open and amaze the girls" to "trying not to get punched". It really did enforce the first steps of the process you taught us, which are 1) Approach all and 2) minimize times between sets. Just these two steps alone is magnifying my progression in pick up because I am able to open tons of girls and get tons of reference experience. It also narrowed my focus and stopped all rationalization/excuses I would normally make in "why you shouldn't approach".
Of course the other stuff you taught me are amazing (aka: hand of god) and the feed back, you provided after the boot camp, really pin pointed my sticking points. Now I have a definite guide on what to improve in my game and the game is really simple and fun for me now!
Thanks a lot Jeffy! The bootcamp was really satisfactory!
Donston (aka: John ... filipino guy with a moustache)
PS: What are the anti hang over supplements are you taking? I researched L-Thiamine, Milk Thistle (protect liver) ... and B vitamins .... Thanks again!
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If i've seen the research data myself before watching this, i would be bored and then dissapointed with the conclusions and relations to pick up, as they are obvious.
My goal is not to be a troll, but this is what i think and maybe i'm just tired, i dunno.
In any case, if i'm corect, i'm sure that Jeff is going to solve everything above in a really short notice. Thank you.
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Just goes to show there's no accounting for taste; this is why you cannot give a flying fuck about any other person's opinion of you... as long as your own opinion of yourself is good, that's all that matters. A lesson Tyler learned after "the Game" came out, and one that I learned more recently with the "rapevan pickup artist" media firestorm back in February.
"Fuck you, I'm Jeff Allen."
Of course this only works in practice if you're holding yourself to a high standard. You have to be living up to your own values and code of conduct.
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Just goes to show there's no accounting for taste; this is why you cannot give a flying fuck about any other person's opinion of you... as long as your own opinion of yourself is good, that's all that matters. A lesson Tyler learned after "the Game" came out, and one that I learned more recently with the "rapevan pickup artist" media firestorm back in February.
"Fuck you, I'm Jeff Allen."
Of course this only works in practice if you're holding yourself to a high standard. You have to be living up to your own values and code of conduct.
i loved the vid too
hardwork over everything
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There was a time after his first fight with GSP where he went to train with a camp based in California, got his fitness up to snuff, and went on a rampage through the lightweight division. After three consecutive wins, he faced GSP again at 170 lbs, lost (this was the greasing scandal you mentioned), but came back to dominate two more times in the lightweight division (because he was actually training hard!).
Great reminder that we can always continue to improve, even the most prodigious amongst us!
Yeah I remember that period... the first gsp loss lit a fire under his ass... that was when he fucked up joe stevenson and it was completely disgusting bloodbath, I've never seen someone bleed that much in UFC... lol... he licked the blood off his gloves after the fight and said "people talking shit on my cardio... LOOK AT MY ABS"
skip to 4:44
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Just goes to show there's no accounting for taste; this is why you cannot give a flying fuck about any other person's opinion of you... as long as your own opinion of yourself is good, that's all that matters. A lesson Tyler learned after "the Game" came out, and one that I learned more recently with the "rapevan pickup artist" media firestorm back in February.
"Fuck you, I'm Jeff Allen."
Of course this only works in practice if you're holding yourself to a high standard. You have to be living up to your own values and code of conduct.
It's enough for me if you just ask yourself: "Could I do this better"?
I didn't mean to diss on anyone with no reason. You're a good coach, Jeffy, and i wish that you always remain so devoted. Thank you.
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Most of Jeffy's speeches are just verbatim identical to whatever he's perfectly memorized in the past, but for this article he actually came up with something novel to say AND was able to back it all up with science, best selling authors, & MMA!
Also he was able to subliminally promote Todd, Tyler, Hotseat3, and Julien while at the same time delivering a seemingly off-the-cuff (as opposed to rote memorized) speech he genuinely wanted to talk about all within a single take! If that ain't SKILL then idk what is lol
Definitely the best Jeffy vlog in a looong time
Just goes to show there's no accounting for taste; this is why you cannot give a flying fuck about any other person's opinion of you... as long as your own opinion of yourself is good, that's all that matters. A lesson Tyler learned after "the Game" came out, and one that I learned more recently with the "rapevan pickup artist" media firestorm back in February.
"Fuck you, I'm Jeff Allen."
Of course this only works in practice if you're holding yourself to a high standard. You have to be living up to your own values and code of conduct.
It's enough for me if you just ask yourself: "Could I do this better"?
I didn't mean to diss on anyone with no reason. You're a good coach, Jeffy, and i wish that you always remain so devoted. Thank you.
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PS: What are the anti hang over supplements are you taking? I researched L-Thiamine, Milk Thistle (protect liver) ... and B vitamins .... Thanks again!
http://www.bulletproofexec.com/alcohol-without-the-hangover-bulletproof-...
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There was one part that particularly sparked my attention, to the point that I made an account in order to reply...
You relate thinking ahead to Aspergers Syndrome ((((Which I have
Even though I been in the game for three years, you made me realize this sticking point...
Being that you've done your research, how can I overcome this Autistic handicap that you've incidentally brought up???
Thanks,
Dr. Fishie
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