Good day everybody, it's your boy Jeffy here today to welcome you back from the holiday season. Personally I've just returned from Anchorage Alaska where my extended family lives. Now Alaska in the middle of December is not the most hospitable place, at this time of year the sun comes up at 1130 and sets at about 4 PM. Not to mention the fact that the temp is typically in the range of about 10°F. Nonetheless I always enjoy going up there as it g himives me the opportunity to spend time with my grandfather who is one of the few people on earth that I would actually call my hero. He's 91 years old and is still incredibly lucid and healthy. When I got there last week he was actually outside shoveling snow. I asked if I could help him and he refused. The guy flew a Hellcat in the Navy in World War II and had dogfights and Japanese Zero fighters. Not only does he still drive around town, but he also still flies an airplane... that's a picture of me with it at the top of the article. He had a helicopter as well (which he BUILT HIMSELF) up until about six years ago. When I asked him, "what happened to the helicopter grandpa?" He simply responded, "oh that thing was like trying to balance on a greased football. The plane just goes." He hits on girls at Costco and tell stories that never end. So you see what I get from LOL.

Anyway after finishing off the last part of my Hotseat tour in Australia I decided to take some time off. It was a bold decision for me to do 16 straight weeks of Hotseat, but once the decision was made there was no going back. However the bottom line was that I made it through and so starting at the beginning of this month I returned home and settled in for a nice little 5 week vacation. It's been great and relaxing and now I'm ready to start it up again next week as I head to Canada to complete the final leg of the Jeffy world tour. If you haven't yet signed up for the free tour now would be a good time to do so as there are still seats left. Here are the remaining stops:

January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

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So as I roll back into the tour, I'm going to be posting articles regularly again, every week like clockwork, each with an accompanying video. This week's clip is a little video from the Perth free tour, in which I talk about what's really possible at the highest levels when you get this skillset down. Check it out:



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQ24IVUvhdg


So yeah, maybe you think that the idea of a 6-minute pull from the moment you step out of your house to the moment you step back in the door with a girl is a bit outside of your reality. But the fact of the matter is, when you get this skillset down, the only limit is your imagination. I say this at the free tour, and it does kind of sound like some childish platitude, but it's real. I know because I see it every day in my peer group and when I go out and step up myself. But you have to decide how bad you want it and how hard you want to go.

On another note entirely, we're coming up on the end of the year and this is the time that I like to take a moment and reflect on what I've done/accomplished game-wise over the course of the last twelve months.

2011 was epic, most notably because I had sex with 60 girls. Most of those were in a period of six months, from March to August. When I went on tour it got scaled back considerably as the focus was on work. Nonetheless, this was still the highest number I've ever racked up in one year.

What did I learn from this? Well, a couple things... first, I'm extremely good at online game and Day2. Like, EXTREMELY. To the point where it's almost tedious. SCRATCH THAT... it's at the point where it IS tedious. I simply don't want to go through the motions of day2 anymore. I'm fuckin over it. Also, I banged a SHIT TON of SEVENS this year. And guess what... I'm OVER THAT TOO. I was talking to Tyler, who once told me that I have "the best seven game in the world" haha and I told him, "Dude, I'm OVER sevens... this is what it took to finally beat the desire to fuck 7s out of my head... I had to fuck like 50 of them in a row to just be like BLEH NO THANKS."

So for the final year of our world's existence, 2012, I hereby vow the following: NO NUMBERS, NO DAY 2, ONLY 8+. That's it.

This is all in the interest of BALANCE, really. Okay, it's obvious that I'm the absolute shit at online and Day2. For me to just keep getting laid from that is LAZY at this point. For the average guy, this would be fine, he could just stay in that comfort zone and get laid plenty and everything would be good. But for myself and Tyler, we are the fucking paragons of this shit... it's our PROFESSION and as such we go as hard as humanly possible to push the limits, to reach the LOGICAL CONCLUSION of these prinicples we espouse. Like when you hear about Tyler beasting the night his son was born, you think what the hell is this shit, but then you realize, holy fuck... this guy is doing this for SCIENCE. Not to be obnoxious, although to be fair let's face it, it is extremely damn obnxoious, but to MOVE CIVILIZATION FORWARD.

I've always said that this is a continual process of growth; the rabbit hole goes as deep as you want it to go with this whole "success with women" thing, and not only that, but you also have to continually "sharpen the saw" as Stephen Covey would say. I went so hard core on the internet day2 thing this year that it's almost like I've forgotten how to pull same night. Of course, that's not the truth, but the fact is that the pendulum has swung a little too far in that direction, so now it's time to swing it an equal amount in the other direction for a little bit. I was talking to a former bootcamp student about this the other day in his Field Reports journal on the forum, let me give you a little excerpt of what I told him:

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ChinaBoy~ Wrote:

"Excuse me" she turns around

"You are cute I have to meet you" "What´s your name?"

She looks a bit confused also a bit freaked out. So I say: "Sorry I freaked you out a little bit"

This. You are beginning to get the hang of the whole "wmotional acuity" thing. Again, you don't care what they THINK, but you have to become keenly attuned to how you are making them FEEL on a moment-to-moment basis.

I think that you started out way too hardcore. I remember on bootcamp on the first night you were like an utter psychopath on methamphetamine, running around grabbing girls indiscriminately and jut getting blown out immediately, set after set. I asked you what the fuck you were doing and you said, "I am doing the beast mode" or some shit. Of course we made you slow everything down and you started to get better results. Then after the bootcamp, in this thread I see you have gone fully to the other side where you are like "That hardcore style does not work I like Alex style" etc.

So I hope you see what's happened here... you were initially convinced that going hard and dominating was the way to go, but you were executing this in an incredibly sloppy and miscalibrated fashion and so of course got ZERO results. Now, the pendulum has swung the other direction, equally as far... where now, you don't even escalate when it is REQUIRED (like when the chick left or whatever at the endgame). So, while it was necessary for this swing to happen for your growth, you now need to swing it back more to the middle ground... where you know WHEN to go hard and dominate and also are aware of when it's time to have a more subtle touch and let her come to you. The correct approach can mean switching multiple times over the course a single interaction, and go back and forth multiple times over a number of SECONDS.

More experience will hardwire this 'sixth sense' in. Until it is embedded in your head/nervous system like a sort of firmware.

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So, to be well-rounded you have to be proficient in ALL styles, and more importantly, know when it's appropriate to use each one.

Like in the gym, it's often the thing you want to the the LEAST that you NEED to do the MOST. For example, I hate doing pull-ups, so of course I've been absolutely torturing myself in an attempt to get to the point where I can do 20 consecutively.

As a side note, one of my goals during this short vacation was to get my health back on track... aka lose some fucking fat around the middle. That didn't go so well. I was doing pretty good but then over the holiday weekend ate too much damn crap food. It seems almost impossible to lose this shit. I know I can make excuses about my age, etc etc but the bare fact of the matter is I have to get off my ass and MOVE AROUND a LOT more (right now I'm doing cardio 3x a week but I know that needs to go up to like 7 or more... that's what got me ripped in the original Summer of Ripped Abs) and make better food decisions every single time I sit down to eat.

As far as my whole "New Year's Resolutions of Game" are concerned, this means making that decision to get off my ass and just GO OUT every night, just like Tyler, even when I don't want to. Even when I have the easy Day2 in front of me. It means making the decision IN THE MOMENT at the club to let the perfectly cute 7 in front of me go to hit up the hotter girls. It means pushing myself to go for the pull EVERY TIME instead of going for the easy number... and moreover not taking any numbers whatsoever, even if the girl really wants me to. I'll take theirs, that's IT. If they call they call.

That's the thing... improvement doesn't come from some big dedication you make like, "THIS IS IT! I'M GONNA HANDLE THIS!" but rather it happens on a moment to moment basis. Many people might read this article and be "shocked by the honesty" or something, but it's no big deal. I've always been extremely forthcoming about where I'm at. Back in the old days when I was writing my field reports on the old usenet groups, I always gave the unvarnished truth warts and all (btw I do not have warts, just got tested last week for all STDS and came out clean, no idea how that happened lol). It is the man who is willing to put himself on the cross and really look at where he's fucking up, that's the guy that really improves. So for me, this is nothing new. I'm a completely humble student of this shit, just like any other guy. And that's why I succeed and continue to grow.

So having said all of that, I'm really looking forward to the upcoming year and you should be too.

What are YOUR "New Year's Resolutions of Game"? Let's hear them in the comments.

Cheers, and Happy 2012.

-j

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PS: If you haven't signed up for the Vancouver Free Tour, you should definitely check it out. I'll be up there next Thursday, January 5th at the Downtown Marriott. Hope to see you there!

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