jlaix's Blog

jlaix
 
What's up kids... the new year is upon us and DAMN SON, did it start off with a bang: full bootcamp where we spent over 20 hours straight in the field with the students, partying until dawn every night and pulling hotties deluxe. Deluxe deluxe deluxe.

Just got back from the gym, where the perennial New Year's resolution chodes were crowded in, doing curls in the squat rack. Ugh. Hit the showers, now cracking open a beer and the old laptop here to crank out another little article for you. 
 
This video is the third and final clip of Tyler and I in Boston, shot on the Harvard campus, in which we discuss the old issue of "party girls vs. quality women." 



Bit of a short, silly vid there, but it does contain a few important points. I think the best insights to take from this are:

1. Altering your approach based on ASSUMPTIONS about what the girl MAY OR MAY NOT PREFER is always a losing proposition. 

To me, this one comes down to AUTHENTICITY. 

On bootcamp, one of the first things I teach is the idea of "expression vs. impression." If, during an interaction with a woman, your words are coming from a place of "wanting her to stay and keep talking to you," what you are doing is attempting to micro-manage her perception of you. 

This SUCKS. 

Why? Because it is something that is largely outside of your sphere of influence, and it is pointless and counterproductive to hinge your success or failure on something you cannot control. 

                                   null

This is why we abandoned the old model of game: approach, say or do something that you think she will respond positively to, you get validation and good emotions from her positive response and lead from there. 

The current model is of course as follows: put YOURSELF in the state you want them to be in (fun, horny), approach, you DRAW her into your reality by means of the "emotional contagion" phenomenon and lead from there. 

Again, what they think is not as important as how they feel, and ultimately a woman is a WOMAN... with attendant biological imperatives. She wants to get laid, regardless of how she may present herself in social situations. The onus is on YOU as the man to lead, bring that part of herself to the surface, and fulfill her needs. 

Look guys. I'm not some spiritual advisor here. I teach guys how to pull hot ass up out the club. Let's not sugar coat things too much. On the other hand however I strongly believe that "if you want to get the one special girl, you have to be able to get them ALL."

In other words, these skills are not girl-specific... they apply to ALL OF THEM. The skills that let you pull a dumbass stripper are the very same ones that will land you the grad student with Rockefeller parents. Hell, that's how I landed my ex-girlfriend, who was about as "quality nerd" as they come... and we dated for nearly four years. 

It all comes down to executing the fundamentals. 

2. Trying to "sneak in through the back door" or "play it safe" by communicating to her as a FRIEND TO A FRIEND as opposed to a MAN TO A WOMAN is not a winning strategy either. 

I mean, I really don't know what else to say about this. Generally, I've found that starting an interaction coming in as a friend and then trying to shift the vibe to a romantic one doesn't work. The longer you wait to make your intent known, the weirder it will be when you finally do. 

You must be communicating intent from the very beginning. Now, this does not necessarily mean you are going "direct" with your verbals (although it might). What I'm talking about here is the way you make eye contact with her, the proximity to her while speaking, and the general TONE. 

If you want to be "more than friends" with a woman, she has to understand that that's the subtext, right off the bat. 

Even if she's a "nerd."

                   null

Anyway, romantic date times are at hand good sirs. I'll be back on Wednesday for the final installment of the Jeffy Frontpage Reign of Glory, with a shocking, shocking video where I finally get something BIG off my chest... and reveal the craven dirty secret of the marketing lies of the seduction community, and yes... even RSD.

Till then, 

-j
Login or register to post.

Related Posts

Comments

#1
DogTheBountyHunter

DogTheBountyHunter

Junior Member

Join Date: 12/27/2010 | Posts: 17

 Extremely insightful. It made me reflect on how I might switch on to friend/chode mode with certain type of girls. More so with really fucking hot girls than with "nerds" but I think the same applies.
Login or register to post.
#2

Cornhulio

Member

Join Date: 08/12/2010 | Posts: 48

simple but very soild advice!!!
Login or register to post.
#3

Cunning Linguist

Member

Join Date: 08/23/2009 | Posts: 46

NERDS JUST WANNA SUCK COCK

"On bootcamp, one of the first things I teach is the idea of "expression vs. impression." If, during an interaction with a woman, your words are coming from a place of "wanting her to stay and keep talking to you," what you are doing is attempting to micro-manage her perception of you.

This SUCKS.

Why? Because it is something that is largely outside of your sphere of influence, and it is pointless and counterproductive to hinge your success or failure on something you cannot control. "

Great stuff. Be the indifferent music.
Login or register to post.
#4
scottsdale

scottsdale

Trusted Member

Join Date: 10/23/2007 | Posts: 1561

This is a great post. Sometimes its hard to remember that the "game is always the same!!". Top notch shit!

lol at the remix at the end. I was thinking "damn he is nailing all the notes perfectly" but then I remembered, oh yeahhh years of karaoke experience.
Login or register to post.
#5
Diamondog

Diamondog

Respected Member

Join Date: 12/23/2009 | Posts: 324

One thing I'd like to add...Beastmode works best on nerd girls (who are usually far hotter than the party girls, who by their mid twenties start to have rough voices like Clapton from too much whiskey, cigarettes and everything else).  Party girls are used to guys showing a sexual intent.  So yours better be especially good.  But with nerd girls, they are begging to be banged, only to have the guy number-close.  They both go home separately and get themselves off.  Alone. 
Login or register to post.
#6
ComeAgain

ComeAgain

Senior Member

Join Date: 11/17/2010 | Posts: 275

Nerd girls are so easy to bang dude. It's rediculous.

Then again, so are all girls/women...you just have to be like me.
Login or register to post.
#7
besserwisser

besserwisser

Trusted Member

Join Date: 07/28/2008 | Posts: 3090

jlaix wrote:
and reveal the craven dirty secret of the marketing lies of the seduction community, and yes... even RSD.
Nooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Y U HATE RSD so much ;-(
Login or register to post.
#8
Jack-Stripper

Jack-Stripper

Trusted Member

Join Date: 11/07/2006 | Posts: 1086

All marketers are liars lol. Seth Godin said that I think.

Though seriously, sometimes I read through RSD's sales material and it goes: If you buy this book, you will be able to LAY ANY GIRL. THEY WILL FLOCK TO YOU, and in fact THEY WILL BEND DOWN AND BOW BEFORE YOU. You can fuck ANY ONE OF THEM, whenever you want.

If your talking about that Jeffy mate, then jesus we all knew lol.

- Luv Jack-Stripper
Login or register to post.
#9
GaryBusey

GaryBusey

Respected Member

Join Date: 11/01/2010 | Posts: 945

This is massive.
Login or register to post.
#10
GaryBusey

GaryBusey

Respected Member

Join Date: 11/01/2010 | Posts: 945

Actually what I have done lately is to verbally show my intent right off the bat(as well as being physical).

To screen out girls that are not down to fuck and to show that I am for real when I do not react to their bullshit after I tell them that I want to tittyfuck them. 

If you pass the shit test that she will put up with after you verbally tell her exactly what your intent is, attraction will go up. And she will most likely not put up with anymore shit tests.

And it saves time.
Login or register to post.
#11

LoveHandle*

Respected Member

Join Date: 03/24/2008 | Posts: 940

 does anyone actually say "HAAAARVEERD" like that, lol...
Login or register to post.
#12
dzdevil®

dzdevil®

Respected Member

Join Date: 10/31/2007 | Posts: 492

HAHAHAHA the I don't give a fuck guy is epic!
Login or register to post.
#13
*JP*

*JP*

Member

Join Date: 04/22/2007 | Posts: 73

 Yeah I learnt this of you Jeffy back in my bootcamp 2007. When you hooked up with this cute little dark girl who just finished her job, she was soo adorable and the type of girl that you would bring home to your mama as she was soo nice and cute.

If I would have been there with my original friends and we would have been speaking to her and I would have tried to hook up with her, and then they would have told me that she is not like that, she seems like a good girl. 

But in that bootcamp I didn't have my original friends.

I was out with Alexander and Jeffy. I was talking to that girl but it wasn't going any where as I was talking to her chode style, just like the nice dude that I am, but without being sexual. (I also wasn't as skillful as I am now, thanks to Jeffy and Alexander)

I remember that only Jeffy was sexual with her straight away, and she just replied with friendly pushes.

Later on that night you and her went missing and me and Alexander couldn't find you and her anywhere. I remember Alexander saying this is soo un professional of him to disappear and then you come out of the toilet with her pulling up your zipper and she was smiling and all giggles. 

After that hanging out with my old friends was not the same as they still occasionally said she's a good girl. I was no longer able to hang with them due to this.

These day I still get occasionally told off that for being too sexual on a girl nice girl, by cluess males that happen to be around, and I keep going. Then a few months later I'll hook up with the nice girl :)

I have to thank Jeffy for that.

Thanks again.
Login or register to post.
#14
Kakánr1

Kakánr1

Respected Member

Join Date: 01/08/2007 | Posts: 923

"But in that bootcamp I didn't have my original friends."<-----superfuckingkey. it opens uip your perspective a lot, when you go out without your original friends. I went to Tokyo (which happened one and a hafl fyears ago, but which is a very good example of tis), and went out with my friends, frist.
 
They played in a band, and were on a little tur (which was very cool). I went to their concerts, obviously. first, I hung around them, mostly. then, I just started moving around the venue, ON MY OWN. what happened?

 I've never felt cool/free/upliftedw ith these peopole, but that I REALIZED, wasn't a biug prblem at all. or, rather, I realized that it was very easily solved. just move AWAY, and talk to OTHER people. spoke tio like 200 people,m there, and had a lotof fun with girls.. so... yeah,. I imagine bootcamp is this times 100x. But this is a really awesome thing to experience. Traveling will do it, as wel (or just going out on your own/With people other than any friends with bad vibes)
Login or register to post.
#15
d-laid

d-laid

Member

Join Date: 01/13/2010 | Posts: 35

The first person to bust on the glasses of a foxy nerd gets a solid high-five from me at the next world summit.
Login or register to post.
#16
baconfever

baconfever

Respected Member

Join Date: 09/01/2010 | Posts: 337

Im gaming this chick and find out that a mate has been trying to game her. I feel bad for him because he went in with no intent, and now he's in her friend zone without knowing it. Just hoping to get some. I went in with intent and now I'm waiting to get with her, just because my mate chatted her up first and would get pissed. 
Login or register to post.
#17

Boogieman

Member

Join Date: 09/05/2007 | Posts: 53

Great video guys and also great comment below:
Diamondog wrote:
One thing I'd like to add...Beastmode works best on nerd girls (who are usually far hotter than the party girls, who by their mid twenties start to have rough voices like Clapton from too much whiskey, cigarettes and everything else).  Party girls are used to guys showing a sexual intent.  So yours better be especially good.  But with nerd girls, they are begging to be banged, only to have the guy number-close.  They both go home separately and get themselves off.  Alone.  
Login or register to post.
#18

Davidthedude

Member

Join Date: 01/04/2011 | Posts: 36

.
Login or register to post.
#19
Awesome F

Awesome F

Respected Member

Join Date: 10/28/2010 | Posts: 309

 I'll produce
Login or register to post.
#20

Canello

Trusted Member

Join Date: 07/23/2008 | Posts: 1261

Nerds girls...more stuck energy into their mind...difficulties in expressing themselves...less opportunities for wild thing for that reason....if someone gives them this opportunity they take it immediately!!


Canello
Login or register to post.
#21

Canello

Trusted Member

Join Date: 07/23/2008 | Posts: 1261

How girls would see a pua ,like a 'quality' man or like a 'turbo' man? How would you like to be perceived as?
Login or register to post.