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Hey guys, Jeffy back once again, this time recovering at home from the last 8 weeks on tour. I've been doing domestic stuff like going to the mall with a cherish and buying duct tape, lint rollers, an 8" Wusthof Classic Chef's knife, v-neck shirts, Plan B, nerd glasses, frozen yogurt and Versace plates, eating food in foam form and then having sex intermittently while between episodes of "Jersey Shore" and "Vampire Diaries." Wash, rinse, repeat.

So the R&R seems to be healing my voice up nicely as we roll into the Australian summer and I arrive in New Zealand next week. Here's the Aussie dates and beyond:

Australia & New Zealand:
November 5: Auckland
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

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This week wanted to throw out more of a straight "nuts and bolts" piece without any frills, so I'm presenting the following video from the Chicago stop on the "Get Laid or Die Trying" book tour back in April. In it, I basically go over my entire game in a nutshell. Check it out:




So, the crux of what I'm talking about here comes down to making the shift internally where you no longer care about "getting out without looking bad" or "rejection." Tony Robbins talks about "emotional leverage," the point where the potential pain of making a change has now become outweighed by the VERY REAL PAIN of continuing to live as you are living; in this case, you arrive at the point where you're like, "Well, being a half-stepper (not conveying intent to the girl or escalating when the window is open) isn't getting me the results so I might as well say "fuck it" and just go for it." 

This is one of the major shifts that i'm trying to make with a student on Bootcamp. He HAS to make this shift internally at some point during the weekend, and sometimes it takes until the very last MINUTE of the program, lol, but I've seen that too. And when they do break through and finally step to the girl MAN TO WOMAN, it is a joy to behold and the girls respond. 

So there we have the foundation of my game. Approach, communicate as a man to a woman from the beginning, and self-amuse as opposed to attempting to impress the girls or make them stay and keep talking to me. From here, this screens out the ones that don't actually like me for me, and the ones who do, the attraction is 10x more powerful because I'm being authentic, unapologetic, etc. 

Note that I also have the capital to back my shit up, because I've been balls-deep in this motherfucker for ten years now. That means my skill at dealing with various conversational gambits, circumnavigating logistical obstacles and the like is completely embedded in my firmware now. Now, it's just about execution, and therein lies the art. 

Some guys, when they start acting in this masculine dominant sort of polarity, they take it too far and now you see dudes leering hard on chicks, mindlessly barking in their face in the name of "beastmode" and groping on them off the opener. Now, we can do this stuff from time to time, julien, tyler, myself, but again bear in mind we're professionals and all have pretty high levels of emotional attunement and can tell when it's time for bold moves like that. 

GENERALLY however, I will take about 20 minutes to ramp up to making out with the girl, and even then probably won't hold the makeout too long or get too deep. I'm just trying to cement man to woman tone and then move into the rapport/logistics discovery phase. 

I think for a lot of guys, they're so inexperienced that they can't see the shades of gray, everything is black and white; either you're a FULL FAGGOT, or RAPIST. Either you do nothing and try to come in under the radar, or you go psycho and just start flagrantly throwing uncalibrated "kino" all over the place. You have to find the happy medium. Like building a fire, you cultivate the escalation and let it grow, but also need to recognize when lightning strikes and capitalize with a bold move. But generally, you ramp it up smoothly. When you get resistance you are unfazed and take it in stride when it's "yellow light". You PERSIST UNFAZED. It's a sort of "studied nonchalance" or being "at ease in the pocket." 

So you get the makeout within 20 minutes. Now these days I find same night pull from meet to leaving the venue to generally be 45-90 minutes. So you might be thinking what do I do with the other half hour to an hour?

At this point, I'll just go into "interested and interesting" mode a la oldschool David D. Get number immediately in case something happens, then just roll into simple rapport questions, explore each other's life. Blend some escalation and verbal flirtation in, but since that's already been established you just fractionate back a bit. Find out her logistics and start moving it forward, pull her using the "baby steps" method. 

Another big part of my overall game is the monitoring of three variables: 1. entitlement (constant raising of standards) 2. horniness and 3. social momentum (both macro and micro). The past couple years, when I was exploring this whole "beastmode" culture with evil stifler, that was the thing that struck me most and was plain as day in retrospect: the more you approach, the more at ease and skilled at game you become, so why not take that to its logical conclusion: BEASTMODE NEVER STOPS.

That's something I'd like to explore more in next week's video actually where we will meet Evil Stifler and delve deeper into the particulars and benefits of long-term social momentum for your game. 

In any case, if you have any questions about my game, the vid or the article leave them in the comments section! I'm off for another foam feast with a nice young lady, which I know sounds like a vulgar euphemism for cunnilingus, but it is.

cheers.

-j

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PS: Don't forget I'll be in AUCKLAND NEW ZEALAND next week for the first time ever to eat some Kiwis (also vulgar euphemism). These presentations I'm giving are very highly polished and everybody in attendance down under next month is going to learn a lot and I think be blown away. Still a lot of seats left so check it out today!

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#1

Amsterdamn

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''Beastmode, It's A Way Of Life.''
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would you say that your entiltement is the thing that gives you that outcome independance because you expect a posative response and believe you deserve her so theres no error in your communication with her and that your horniess is your intent and that your ability to act as one with oyur body and mind allows that horniess to be harnassed and put at that girl and that your social momentum is simply the thing that lests you calabrate this on both a long term and short term level of sucuess?

would you say that this combined with your astounding ability to frame controll, keep your reality and deal with logistics is the thing which makes you such a leathel weapon of MAN vs WOMAN?

...ahaha good post man :P
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hahaha, great last sentence. Concrete article from Jeffy here.
Can't wait to hear from the infamous Evil Stifller.
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 Stoked!
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holie shit. auckland with the elves of middle earth
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 Beastmode is always on, it's a way of life!
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 The Beast Unleashed kk
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jlaix wrote:
I've been doing domestic stuff like going to the mall with a cherish and buying duct tape, lint rollers, an 8" Wusthof Classic Chef's knife, v-neck shirts,...
Right there I was thinking: "Fuck, what perverted game is he up to now...?"

Or is he?

Anyways, toning it down a little bit after we found ourselves in the middle of this mudslinging of last week, aren't we, he he...

I have been guilty of taking escalation too far lately - I guess it's just a normal process to let the pendulum swing in either direction before finding the best point to operate, which lies on the middle ground. But how do you know if you have taken escalation too far? Or, in other words, if you ramp up escalation and she leaves, how do you know if you have overescalated or if you have just saved yourself some time and effort, because she wouldn't have gone all the way with you anyways? Because one surefire way to know she isn't down that night is when she resists your escalation.

This is a big question mark for me right now.

Also, in the video are you saying you fuck almost 50% of the girls you approach? I know, you have to deduct the lays prevented by logistics from those 50% (and how many % is that?), but this seems like an astonishing number, I never would have thought this was possible. 
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Awesome post, Jeff, and totally on-point. I found myself nodding my head to...

>>So, the crux of what I'm talking about here comes down to making the shift internally where you no longer care about "getting out without looking bad" or "rejection." ... you arrive at the point where you're like, "Well, being a half-stepper (not conveying intent to the girl or escalating when the window is open) isn't getting me the results so I might as well say "fuck it" and just go for it.">>

The last two times I went out, I lost VERY possible pulls by choading out and not going for the makeout both times. Why? Because in my mind, "Hey! She likes me. This is going good! Yay!!!" So I failed to escalate. And in both cases, the girl's demeanor completely changed. Both of them lost respect for me and fucked off when they sensed I wasn't gonna step up and be a man.

That's cool. Huge lesson learned. Time to start saying "fuck it" and going for it, and erroring on the side of getting physical fast. It's getting too painful not to.
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 for someone who isn't  "at ease in the pocket"  yet, trying to focus on being horny (intent) comes off incongruent.

However, Tyler presented a solution in another blog post about just focusing completely on freedom from outcome, and eventually your natural intent (horniness) will come out when you are relaxed.

Do you recommend doing this Jeffy?   (For students that are not comfortable escalating)
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 great article, perfect complimet to tylers "you just care too much" post.
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"I think for a lot of guys, they're so inexperienced that they can't see the shades of gray, everything is black and white; either you're a FULL FAGGOT, or RAPIST."

LOL'd IRL at this.

Evil Stifler's big debut next week...

...Christmas came early!
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FrenchyCassady

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 Like Fred E. Rick quoted :

"I think for a lot of guys, they're so inexperienced that they can't see the shades of gray, everything is black and white; either you're a FULL FAGGOT, or RAPIST."

This answer my problems. I used to act kinda like a rapist, and it will work cause people knew my reputation and knew it was just for fun ( I wasn't a real rapist) 
But I'v been acting like this with no reputation, and I CREEPED GIRLS OUT ! 

Thanks for this Jeffy. 

Hope to meet you one day ! 
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i like the video. keep the shit simple!
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 1. Entitlement - this is a massive thing for me, I always duck out and go for the "easy prey".

2. I love RSD - these videos always make me feel at ease and that everything is alright with the world!

3. I was just looking at buying a W├╝sthof Classic Wide Cooks Knife too - snap girlfriend!

PS - when you've finished your tour, get yer dates up for your next SF Bootcamps - I need to do one, ASAP.

Thanks...

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besserwisser

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This is a good one. But 360p hurts my eyes sad
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Can't wait to finally see evil stiffler speaking! About that cable, you where fixing, I've never though evil siffler does anything else but fucking girls. Thinking he even eats or sleeps make me feel strange omg
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Quality article. Jeffy, you're at your best when you bring out your humility and humor.  
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 One question Jeffy,

Would you advice (in the "learning fase") always to push for sex the same day or if you sense "she is not ready yet" you leave it for the next day after making her more comfortable? 

Thanks :)
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Gift~

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 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qyln3RzL_70

Hmm... when the pannel are discussing the dude's bedroom, they say there's no way he could bring a girl back there so he has failed already - I guess they never heard of the Van or Ozzie's beat-up POS car he used to fuck chicks in back in Spain.

What is this fucking show you guys have in the US? So funny how "game" has been absorbed by the mainstream but they cannot stop themselves from moulding it back into all the traditional ideas of romance, grooming, status etc.

Thank God I say, keeps the chode a chode.

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EventH

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Good article dude honestly.

Way you described people seeing game lik black and white is so true. I used to do that aswell till i discovered it's all balance.
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I am very excited to see evil stiffler. I have heard he has the verbals of a greek philosopher in the body of an MMA fighter.

But what do I know. I'm a bear.

TJ- wrote:

God bless you Jeffy and I am excited to see the legend that is ES
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billy ray cyrus

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 melbourne trip is going to go off like a boss... micromanage like a boss. promote synergy like a boss, hit on debra like a boss and such.
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#24

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Psychorapistbeastmode, like boss.
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#25

jeef-b

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@jlaix How do you monitor your horniness?
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