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Hey gang. Today, I've got a question for you.

On a scale of one to ten, what is your game?

Like, say we are out at the club. The music is bumping and you're rested and feeling good. Suddenly, across the room, you see a BANGING hot turbogirl. She is the epitome of glory, a veritable angel. Now, on a scale of one to ten, where do you put your ability to go up to her, initiate a conversation, get her attracted to you, deal with the logistics, get her home and place your weener inside of her hoo ha?

WHAT IS YOUR GAME?

Now, for a lot of guys, this is a question they've heard before. If you've seen our amazing Transformations DVD program, Tim poses it to the audience in his bit, near the very beginning.

And, if you've seen it, you know that there is only one correct answer.

"My game is a TEN, Jeffy."

That's right. A f***ing ten.

Now, this isn't some happy-time, feel-good affirmation here. Not some delusional confidence builder meant to be recited 30 times in the mirror before you go out.

The real meaning of "my game is a ten" goes much deeper than that.

It means that, regardless of what your experience has been in the past, at any given moment you have the ability, somewhere inside of you, to step to that turbo-girl and PULL HER. You are already in possession of everything that you need.

The "ten game" is already inside of you, waiting to be unleashed.

That's why, when a guy comes and takes a Bootcamp with me, I tell him, "I have nothing to teach you in the traditional sense of that word. My role is simply to remove that which separates you from the truth of who you are, from what you already know in the depth of your being."

The "ten game" has ALWAYS been inside you. The problem is that it's been covered up with social conditioning and ego BULLSHIT.

What you need to understand is this:

There is no need for any personality but your own.

This is the lesson at the heart of the RSD philosophy.

If you've been with us since the beginning, you know that it wasn't always like this. In the early years, we espoused a structure that went something like this:

1. Approach and try to entertain the girl.

2. The girl responds favorably.

3. You get good emotions and state from her validation, feed on the validation and continue.

As our experience and understanding of the game deepened, we realized this was an inherently flawed model, and we resolved to get to the bottom of this dilemma. Nearly five years later, we've arrived at a new model, which is as follows:

1. Self-amuse

2. Go into state not because of the girl's reaction, but rather because you amuse yourself.

3. Your state draws the girl into your reality and you then lead the interaction from there.

Now, I'll admit, coming from a place where I was getting VERY VERY good results from the previous model, this was in many ways a bitter pill to swallow. But the mandate came down from on high, from Tyler himself:

"It's time to drop the routines and the button-pushing and go full natural, Jeff."

I had to do it. And so I pressed ahead. It was hard. Harder than you can imagine, as I had developed a dependence on the old mentality stronger than a fat kid's desire for pie. But I did it, and eventually I was able to master this "reverse-engineered natural" style.

Tell you what: let me share with you a story that really cemented the natural ideas for me.

I've been kicking around an idea for a novel for quote a while now. I intend for it to be the worst novel ever written, and the title of this atrocity shall be:

Ichor of the Wolf.

It centers on a LARPing misfit named Jeremy Landman, and his various exploits and travails. Now, if you don't know what LARPing is, and I'm guessing there's a good chance that you don't, it's an acronym. It stands for Live Action Role Playing, and here's a little taste of what it entails:



Yeah.

So anyways, this Landman is a fully fleshed-out character, and in many ways he's as real as you or I. So one day not so long ago, Ryan and I were kicking around the house, bored, and we decided to create a profile for him on the dating site "Hot or Not."

After an intense creative process, we had the profile honed to perfection. It started off with him revealing a little about himself:

"Hello, my name is Jeremy and I live in SF. I enjoy fantasy and times of yore. I am a very active LARPer (with quite a rep in my guild I might add!). Looking for someone to raise a chalice of mead with. Hit yes if you like me!"

Oh man.

He then goes on to list some of his interests:

"Christ, crests, Highlander, long hair, the Matrix Trilogy, swords, wolves, paladin, fantasy, chivalry, Creed, karate, mutton"

Yup.

To top it all off, we scoured around until we found a suitable photo of him. He's the one on the right:



Now, initially we just wanted to see what kind of rating he would garner (he got a 6). But then something really interesting happened:

WOMEN STARTED SENDING HIM MESSAGES. LOTS OF WOMEN.

I couldn't believe it. These weren't mingers, either. Ok, well some of them were, but there were also some pretty decent ones. After the initial shock wore off, we decided to push for dates. If it worked out, I'd just show up as Jer and be like, "Oh I got a haircut." So, we sent the girls who expressed interest the following message:

"Hello. You appear to be quite a classye ladye. I would love the opportunity to purchase for you a bottle of fine red wine. Perhaps over cheese? Could you be the beautiful angel for whome I have been searching for all of my lonely years?"

I was like, ok, now it's over. There's no way they will think this guy is for real.

The next day, I look at the profile and he's got messages. I was almost scared to open them up. I held my breath and did so, expecting them to be all, "Nice try loser."

That wasn't the case. They were all positive. One of them said:

"Wine and cheese, huh? Wow, aren't you the smooth talker! :) Your place or mine? I work this weekend but Monday sounds great! Hope you aren't too lonely until then... or just enough ;)"

What. The. Heck.

I couldn't believe it. I decided to push it even more, and replied with this:

"Apologies, my ladyfaire, but I have a confession. We may not be able to enjoy the fine cheese. I am severely lactose intolerant and my gastrointestinal tract may be torn asunder, as vellum beneath the talons of a mighty gryphon."

Okay, THAT one did it. No response. Hehehe.

I began experimenting out in the field. My standard opener became, "You appear to be quite a classy lady. I would love the opportunity to purchase for you a bottle of fine red wine... perhaps over CHEESE?!"

It worked gloriously.

I started dressing like a nerd at the club, going so far as to wear a POCKET PROTECTOR. There was no substantive difference in my results. It didn't matter at all.

I implemented a new opener which I made up one night with Ryan out at the club: "Excuse me ladies, settle an argument: who is hotter, Captain Kirk or Captain Picard?"

Again, it was solid.



Perhaps "chode game" could be the wave of the future.

The whole experience got me thinking. I started to think about what made the Landman profile attractive to these women, enough so that THEY would take the initiative to message him.

The thing is, Landman is attractive because he has total belief in himself. Even though he is what many would consider a FULL NERDWEIRD, he is completely oblivious to this fact, and furthermore considers himself quite the catch for any ladyfaire. He is completely authentic and does not self-seek in other's opinions. He values his his OWN opinion of himself above all.

This type of thinking cuts to the very heart of "natural" game.

Now, you might be saying, "But when you're saying that stuff in the field, is that you being authentic or parroting Landman?"

Well, I created the guy, so I sort of am him. But that aside, when I was saying that stuff, it was coming from a place of full self-amusement. I really don't care what the response is, I'm merely bringing fun to the interaction.

That's giving value.

Interesting post-script: a few months later, I met a couple girls in a club in Sydney who happened to be actual LARPers. I enthusiastically informed them that I, too, was a LARPer.

"No way," said the blonde one, "you're just saying that."

Little did they know that I've done my homework. I based Landman's LARP nemesis in the book on myself, and had worked out a character for him. I smiled.

"No... I am. My character is named Lord Sir Beastkins DeMorrowild. I am a chaotic evil wizard-mage. Level 12. My specialty is necromancy and my favorite spell is Stream of Corruption."



She shrieked, "Oh my god! That's so cool!" She gestured over to her friend, who by now was isolated on a couch with my Bootcamp student, making out. “My friend is a samurai, and I am a thief.”

I look at her, and in my best Ron Burgundy voice, go, "You truly are a thief... for you have stolen my heart."

She explodes in laughter. "That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard! You are such a dork!"

"Yes. Yes I am. Come here." BOOM.

We have a name for this now: "Go in chode, then explode." Try it out tonight.

I'll see you in the field.
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#1

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hahahha pure awesomnity
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omg jeffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffy
i fucking love u man...shit..
i was fucking down today
my story
i am going out with one of the Hottest girls in the university ( thanks for RSD she is a hb9-10 with fucking beautiful curly hair +amazing body+awesome personality ) and shes all over me. we talk on phone for hours. but today she ignored me..even did not say bye..we went on a date last week. actually i grabbed her and started to walk then told her that i wanna go to the park. then we walked about 7 km in one hour teeth done all the leading as the alpha male..i was so sad today..ok what happen then after reading this shit


i realised i am trying to impress her and gain her validation through it..
fuck it..my mindset from now on is this

i do not give a fuck what the girl think of me. i am the most fucking coolest glorious guy in the world. i offer value to people . i am funny smart educated and people love me evrerywhere i go . ( actually i am the most popular guy in the university ) i am the best thing happen to her life. if she is lucky enough she will get me..

NOBODY IN THE world can not make me sad..ever..my happiness is internal Default state. i am happy.. i am in peace. my life is perfect. girls can not make me happy or sad..i am in my fucking own world. i value myself my life.. i know who is the fuck i am...someone close near to god..

simple..awesome post..made my fucking day..
i believe that my life is the most beautiful one among the 6 billion lives in the world.
i dance everyday..sing.and always happy..

i never let a girl make me feel sad. from now on i am FREE from attachment to the girls


God bless u jeff for the mindblowin post:D
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lol, i cracked up so hard
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nerd 2.0  teeth
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Oh fuck, soon enough we will se RSD students on the club with swords and shit, peacock 2.0.
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Good lord, reading this was like an epiphany!...Ive had what can be considered nerdy and esoteric interests for a long time and was usually too reluctant to show it for fear of what people will think of me...this is some mindblowin shit. I'm like pissed off and elated at the same time.
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I love the Weird Jeffy Style.
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haha. awesome article. lovin the authentic style and self amusement.

Try this opener out if you like jeff....go up....point to the girl...pause then start singing.....youuuu...areee.....sooo beautiiifulll tooooo meeee. cant you see....

it's crazyyyy
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Haha, this is awesome.
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Thanks Jeff. Sometimes I need stuff like this.
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Glorious post

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 haha not only did I lol but a few concepts that were in my head are much clearer now. Thanks! Very fun to read.
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Svall wrote:
Oh fuck, soon enough we will se RSD students on the club with swords and shit, peacock 2.0.
LOL, Awesome article.
This new stuff is like 'Retarded and proud of it!!'
It's like the same shit when you deliberately do 'non-cool' things just to self-amuse and then when you are completely unreactive to any 'okay this is weird' response whatsoever, you are actually of higher value then if you would've played it smooth cool guy all the way.
Be with the weirdness! tounge
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This proofs that, its all in your head fellas.

Thats the secret.
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Hahah, Lol- i Used to Play DND and things of the sort.. it was awesome.

Even nowadays when im throwing on my club clothing i still assign attribute bonuses to the shit im putting on for Amusement:

IE.

Awesome tailored shirt- +5 to Sexterity
Bad ass shoes: +3 to fatty avoidance
Cool accesory: +23% chance to Close
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Awesome man!!!!
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I bet the comic book store guy from the Simpsons pulls. Now there's a dork living in his own reality!
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That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever read. Therefore, this is a fantastic article.
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Well, the thing is, despite being oddly attractive, ultimately Landman wouldn't actually pull, because it is against his code of honoure. He is a classic chode in that regard. In fact, Jer knows me, and doesn't like me very much. Here are some comments about me that he made on Yelp.com, another site which I was banned from, ostensibly for telling a noted racist on the talk threads that he performed "twisted, mengele-type experiments in his basement wherein he grafted pieces of fried chicken to black people," but in actuality for being a "sexual predator" (N3W4Y W4T3VA zOMG H8RZ N33D 2 G3T A LYF3):


"Jeff A? The man was a child and a churl. Caustic, disrespectful to ladyefolke, and overweeningingly vulgar.

Nothing of value was lost."
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Hahahah @ "Jeff A? The man was a child and a churl. Caustic, disrespectful to ladyefolke, and overweeningingly vulgar.
Nothing of value was lost."


Nevertheless, I disagree Landman *would* pull, Sir Beastkins DeMorrowild. This is the best blog on the site
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Jeffy, you are legend. 
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I remember this from NYC Superconfrence!!  AWESOME MAN, Plus hilarious!!
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I am so confused... but laughing my ass off
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Ahahaha, thanks for that, man. I lol'ed several times.
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HAAA!

That LARP'ing video is more dumb that I remembered, and what I remembered was extremely dumb.


Tyler
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best article I've read.

hilarious.
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LOL

Awesome! 
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 awesome.
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lol video reminds me of role models :)
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oh cmon dont hate tyler : P
It looks bad, but its lots of fun from what i hear ( i have a budy thats an avid Larper)
I might even go one of these days. fuck it.
It'd be an experience.

not to mention a great story to tell in set : P
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VIva RSD Cabroness!!

I have been following RSD since 5 years. No so close I admit.

I havent identified well with other seduction copanies,,, but as far as I continue permiting my self to absorve by osmosis the new RSD "natural" philosophy, I literally have been feeling better inside at the field, at the street, at my salsa clasess, etc.

Also like the JAmesBond comment...

JamesBond wrote:
....... fuck it..my mindset from now on is this

i do not give a fuck what the girl think of me. i am the most fucking coolest glorious guy in the world. i offer value to people . i am funny smart educated and people love me evrerywhere i go . ( actually i am the most popular guy in the university ) i am the best thing happen to her life. if she is lucky enough she will get me..

NOBODY IN THE world can not make me sad..ever..my happiness is internal Default state. i am happy.. i am in peace. my life is perfect. girls can not make me happy or sad..i am in my fucking own world. i value myself my life.. i know who is the fuck i am...someone close near to god..
........
tha above goes almost with my attitud.

Im glad and respect RSD for the fact they are the first who risk the company directing it to "the natural" game style.
And I like to much the variety of instructor´s personalities they have. That had helped me a lot in my road to my natural life..

Thanks a lot ALL RSD crew..  y que Viva RSD Cabrones!!!  thumbs upheart

Lemax
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BEST article I have ever read.

Thanks for this, Jeffy.

I lul'd multiple times.

"Apologies, my ladyfaire, but I have a confession. We may not be able to enjoy the fine cheese. I am severely lactose intolerant and my gastrointestinal tract may be torn asunder, as vellum beneath the talons of a mighty gryphon."

That above might be the funniest piece of text in cyberweb history.

Chode till I die.
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AHAHAHAHA   A++++
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Trig wrote:
I dunno,

Isn't this in direct conflict with the idea of "Deep Identity Level Change" which is the core of RSD teachings? 
Do I look like I give a shit? Don't answer that.
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Trig wrote:

I guess I missed the point of this article. 

When I read something like this I see it as giving guys permission to continue practicing the same ol' douchebaggery that didn't get them success with women in the first place.  This character you've created is authentic in the sense that he's not bowing to social norms and that's good.  At the same time, he's missing the hard edgyness that attracts women.  He not showing his manly killer side or his masculine core and in that sense he's not authentic at all.

Explain! 
I can't tell if you're commentary on the typically over-analytical community guy...or just a typically over-analytical community guy.
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Trig wrote:



jlaix wrote:



Trig wrote:
I dunno,

Isn't this in direct conflict with the idea of "Deep Identity Level Change" which is the core of RSD teachings? 
Do I look like I give a shit? Don't answer that.

I guess I missed the point of this article. 

When I read something like this I see it as giving guys permission to continue practicing the same ol' douchebaggery that didn't get them success with women in the first place.  This character you've created is authentic in the sense that he's not bowing to social norms and that's good.  At the same time, he's missing the hard edgyness that attracts women.  He not showing his manly killer side or his masculine core and in that sense he's not authentic at all.

Explain! 
Authenticity can trump masculine intent at times. Would explain how nerd boys/fag boys land hot girlfriends on occasion, we've all seen them.
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My seven-game is a ten...
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Trig wrote:
"HERP DE DERP DURR DURR"

Uh, yeah. I said it's "go in chode then explode," not "go in chode and continue to be chode."

You're either thinking waaayyy too much, attempting to be "controversial," or, more likely, some combination of the two. Regardless, I still don't give a shit. 

I blame low blood sugar. 
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I LOL'd
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Rofl me timbers!
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Buhry wrote:
My seven-game is a ten...
This is great.
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The frightening reality that this article proposes is that somewhere in the world right now there is a completely nerdy LARPing dork having a 3 some with a  couple complete hottie fairy elf princess babes.

This guy is full nerd dork in extreme, but he's getting laid and your not because he's congruent with it and completely self accepting.

I dunno about you guys, but the thought of that guy pulling and getting laid via his elite congruence with his own nerd-dom is definitely leverage.
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Dude, I've seen this 'Jeremy' before.

Where'd you get the picture? Need something to jog the memory, might know the dude...Curious what he'd say about this :D


Edit:
two things;
oh yeah second page
nerds 4ever
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haha Larping thats classic
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I'm gonna chalk it up to the true self shines through. Most girls have a sixth sense for that. You could be biting off the heads of chickens in front of her parents, and she'd probably still take her chances. Of course, I'll never have to worry about that. I'm a winner, always have been. My rockstar lifestyle is obvious to all. At least that's what the quilting quintuples (that's my quilting team at the rec centre) tell me. 

Sorry, what was the question?
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OMG. Hahahaa. That was just awesome.
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Jeremy Landman is like the lost twin brother of this guy at my old school. He had loads of female friends and was generally outgoing. But "despite being oddly attractive" he would just not pull. Just like Jer.
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#49

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i think when there is enough, what Tolle calls, *space*, between you (the entity aware of thoughts)
and the ego (thoughts), and say you have already done a bootcamp and created space between your old self and your new self, then you are aware that you cant not be a ten- you dont need any belief. you were born a ten, and unless you lost some mental capacity or physical part of you eg a leg or a hand, then you will always be a 10. any thought of you being less than ten is just that- a thought- aka ego.

the entity doing the approaching is you (present, p-dominant, and a man of action) aka the new self, hence the open usually turns out to be less dramatic than what you thought. the entity thinking or expecting the blowout is ego aka not the entity doing the approaching aka the old self.

hahaha...
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 Fuck Picard AND Kirk. Lieutenant commander Tuvok oozes raw Vulcan sexuality. 

Tuvok cut his head bald
Then you wanna cut yo' head bald
Tuvok wear a bandana
You wan' wear a bandana
Tuvok put a cross on his back
You wanna put crosses on yo' back
N*gga you ain't Tuvok! 


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