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Hey dudes, Jeffy here once more with an update from my place smack dab in the middle of Auckland city centre. Arrived here with my team yesterday, slept off the jet lag and I'm ready to start the ownage that shall be recorded in the history books as teh Jeffy Hotseat 2011, Aussie/New Zealand Edition. Here are the remaining dates for the tour:

www.jeffyhotseat.com

Australia & New Zealand:
November 5: Auckland
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal


Feeling a lot better having rested for a week and a half, after my voice completely blew out and left me susceptible to the flu. Spent the last two weeks feeling like death and likely spread this infection to several people. Also have been getting fat due to the incessant traveling. If I decide to do another tour after we wrap this one, I'm definitely going to dial back the intensity a little bit.

However, the philosophy I've been living with for the past year or so has been a simple one, consisting of two words:

"WHY NOT"

After you get the mechanics of game down, really the only thing that's left holding you back are your own excuses. Rather than allow yourself to be a slave to your own SPECULATION of how things MIGHT turn out, you'd do far better to just TRY IT and see what happens.

Girl walking by on the street in a hurry, you think "oh well it probably won't turn out well"... FUCK IT... WHY NOT. You approach.

Faced with having to undertake some ridiculously intense schedule as a result of some internal buearacratic bullshit? Oh it might be too intense... FUCK IT... WHY NOT.

The thing is, the Why not philosophy is based in REALITY. If there's some reason why you shouldn't do it, that is going to become evident pretty quickly... in my case, ruining my voice and getting sick. However, this is firmly rooted in REALITY. Not speculation. A big part of "why not"... is actually finding out why not. lol.

So anyway, whingeing aside, I'm back on the grind for another month as we head into the Australian summer, and what a glorious tyme it shall be.

Last week I promised a video featuring the enigmatic Evil Stifler, and today I make good on that promise. Although to be fair, you don't actually see him in the video, you just hear him mumbling some idiocy off camera. People often say on the forum, "I wanna see the Evil Stifler seminar," or "Evil Stifler should become an instructor."

Well, guess what, this will NEVER HAPPEN. Tyler has talked about this before, how difficult it is to find a quality instructor. The average guy hears something like "this guy fucked 500 girls" or "I did 35 girls this month" and their knee jerk reaction is to think, "wow I would like to do that." However, in doing so they fail to take into account the enormity of what those kinds of feats entail in reality.

A guy who has fucked 500 girls is ABNORMAL in a fairly extreme way. Five hundred is a very large number if you stop to think about it.

Personally, I'm not even at HALF that, and I'm a pretty weird dude myself. When you really stop to think about this and understand the level of dedication someone must have to GETTING LAID in order to rack up these kinds of numbers, well it's something that would give a normal person a bit of pause. The guy that does that is going to be a bit... um... DIFFERENT than the average guy browsing the internet wanting to get laid or get a girlfriend.

So now, imagine taking one of these guys, and then somehow getting them to stop thinking with their dick long enough to actually be PROFESSIONAL for long stretches of time and further to develop the skills that are necessary to both articulate and transfer useful information to students in a way that is going to garner them actual results in a short period of time.

For me, I view teaching this stuff to people as a CALLING. For Evil Stifler, he would view it as a SUPREME ANNOYANCE.

Evil Stifler seminar would consist of this: he says some moronic nonsense that makes no sense whatsoever, like, "Just act like a black guy," then he sees some chick walk by in the hallway, and leaves the room to beast on her. SEMINAR OVER.

So yes, while I'm sure you would all love to see Mr. Evil Stifler espouse his ideas on race relations further, that just ain't gonna happen, so you're going to have to make do with this little clip from the San Francisco stop in the Get Laid or Die Trying book tour.



So, as the video explains, the two big lessons to be taken from Evil Stifler are GOD-LEVEL social momentum and COMPLETE COMFORT with expressing your sexuality.

As the man himself states in the clip, he's never actually "going out to pick up." His ENTIRE EXISTENCE is one big sarge-fest. That's it. Period. At any time of day or night, if he sees a girl he likes, he steps to her. He has been doing this ever since he was a small child, non-stop, for decades now. You wanna talk about MACRO-MOMENTUM, this is the poster boy right here.

The power of social momentum simply cannot be overstated in my opinion. If you come to the Hotseat, I show a clip of Evil Stifler picking up some woman. His verbals are shit. He talks like a chode, asking basic rapport questions. BUT... one of the most important lessons of "vibing" is: "it's not what you say, it's the energy behind it." Since he is literally ALWAYS ON, his game is never contrived, he is never "in his head" attempting to manage "how he's coming off" or any BULLSHIT like that which I see guys obsessing over on the forums. He is SPONTANEOUS and PRESENT, and from what I have observed of him over the past two years, I attribute this directly to his constant approaching and macro-momentum.

Look at Tyler for another example. His game has always been good, but recently he's taken up another challenge which he's posted about here... a THREE YEAR CHALLENGE where he goes out every single day until he's 35. Now, let me do a little aside here to reiterate that for Evil Stifler, there is no "going out," there is simply "existing while picking up girls" lol... however most people aren't insane sex addicts and have other shit going on in their lives, so Tyler might be a more relatable example here. Sort of. :)

Anyway, Tyler's been on this challenge for the past several months and the improvements have been nothing short of stratospheric, and I'm talking the types of shit where even I am like, "HOLY FUCK, this dude's on some heroic legend shit here." Like, SMACKING GLASSES out of girls' hands to shatter on the floor, going up to a legit model on the street in New York while she's on the phone, yelling "PUT THAT FUCKING SHIT DOWN" and then hooking her in after she hangs up on whoever she was talking to.

This stuff simply wouldn't be possible without the level of momentum he's built up.

Now, the good news is you don't have to go out for marathon stretches every night. I was talking to Tyler about this and he said that he's found even 20 minutes a night is good, as that's where most of the lessons are in any case. The first twenty minutes often make or break your night, isnt' that the truth. You see how you react and how you perform in those first twenty minutes and you can garner a LOT of lessons. Either you get on top of the club, or the club gets on top of you. Ain't that the truth.

So yes, the first lesson of Evil Stiffy is social momentum, but the other big one is his complete comfort with expressing his sexuality.

In the clip I talk about the first time I saw myself on camera gaming next to him.... and how while I might be smoother than 90% of the population when it comes to escalation, next to Evil Stifler I looked almost stiff and robotic.

I think ultimately this is a result of social conditioning... remember, Evil Stifler is a "natural" who had basically the perfect storm of factors to make him what he is today... genetically extremely high testosterone for starters (I've seen the guy JUMP OUT OF MOVING VEHICLES to get at girls, and he's seemingly indestructible when it comes to booze/crap food/lack of sleep and maintains a ripped physique despite never setting foot in the gym... although this is probably from a combo of literally WALKING AROUND ALL DAY BEASTING CHICKS and FUCKING CONSTANTLY... no joke), and both his father and grandfather were legendary hounds from what I've heard.

So for him, escalating on girls is no different than shaking hands with someone when you meet them. Actually, for him it's probably more like BREATHING.

For the rest of us, when we "escalate" on the girl, we have to simultaneously wrestle internally with all manner of nonsense, like "DURR HOW IS IT COMING ACROSS" and so forth. Now, when you take this into consideration with the "law of state transfer" aka "whatever you feel they feel," well, now we run into some difficulty. If you feel weird about it, the girl is going to feel weird about it. With Evil Stifler, it's the most natural thing in the world for a man to express himself sexually to a woman, so when he does it, she feels comfortable with it too. It's crazy to watch... he's got this seemingly very light touch, yet at the same time he's applying MASSIVE PRESSURE. Yes, fingering girls on the street, etc etc. Again, you come to the hotseat and I show this exact video that I'm talking about where we're side by side and you can see for yourself.

Of course, the man is human and doesn't get every girl. Far from it. He's banged 5-600 at this point however, there's no denying that.

This is the point where the dudes come out saying "Durr he plays the number game, durr he fucks low quality" etc etc.

When it comes to "elite players," I'll definitely admit there are two types... the guys who only want to fuck the 10s, and the guys who just want to eat. Derek would be an example of the former... he's the dictator, and he lives up to that. However, with Evil Stifler, he bangs any girl he finds attractive... but understand this is WITHIN REASON. haha. In practical terms this means 7+... although I'd wager most of the girls he fucks are hotter than the average girl someone reading this gets as well. Bottom line, it's easy for a guy who can't fathom this dudes' game to look for excuses and write it off as some statistical numbers game bullshit where he must be fuckin fat chicks, but that's simply not the case.

At the end of the day, Evil Stifler himself wouldn't even UNDERSTAND the majority of things that get talked about on these forums. I've tried to read him a few things from the forum and he is just befuddled, incapable of even comprehending what the fuck these guys' collective problem is. If you told him this kind of stuff, he would just glaze over and walk away... not as some "frame control tactic," but just because his brain does not process anything that does not directly contribute to him getting laid in the immediate future. I think our friend Beast Von Gandi put it best:

"For evil stifler, game is FUN and not some retarded thinking game about looking cool and life goals. He beasts and gets laid cause he likes doing it.

He has a very clean cut brain attuned to fucking a lot of girls. There isn't much else in there. He has no sense of the future or the past -- i.e. his brain doesn't compute those things, those neurons are not present.

Non-stop beasting---yes, that doesn't mean he's harassing everybody in his way. He's always overall contributing to a good vibe bringing what's called party-dong. I.e. party and fun and dick i.e. physicality and escalation. That also works out because he has no emotional issues. So the first thing what you want to do is to get all your emotional issues handled, that'll get you very far in terms of game.

Any sort of repressed anger, lack of emotional expressivity, lack of ability to connect, hatred etc.

His game is all sub-conscious. He doesn't have nerd awareness which hurts your game more than anything else out there--makes women not trust you.

As far as my point about that he "pulls women"---and you want to know the specifics of that. The point is that as you get better, you stop seeing the differences and only see the common things about what makes a woman and brings the man in him to meet her feminine side.

So the point about quality etc really means nothing..he'll pull what he's attracted to and what responds to him...plenty of cuties. He doesn't really do ugs because there are plenty of cuties that respond to him. But he's not thinking that way--he's gonna flirt and beast on most girls."

Anyways, gonna go down and hit up Nando's then take quick nap before a touch of beastmode in the New Zealand night. You guys got any moar questions about this guy's game, let's hit it up in the comments section!

cheers

-j

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PS: Auckland Free Tour is TOMORROW, and turns out I'll be joined by Alexander on this one as well. Looks like there is still a good deal of room left at the event so everyone is invited to attend without having to register for the event. Only thing we'd ask is you send an email to huy@realsocialdynamics.com with the header "Auckland Free Tour" and say you're gonna be there. Here's the venue:

Citylife Auckland Hotel (171 Queen Street, Auckland)
Thursday, November 3rd
6-9pm


See you there!
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First!
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second! what a fucking lame reply ha. Beast on brothers
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Good : ]. Amaizing rticle.
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Can somebody post link so I can watch on iPhone thanks
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Question: If he is flirting and beasting ALL THE TIME, doesn't this mean that every girl he meets either loves him OR hates and rejects him?
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 that was a dope article 

so does he pull 9s and 9.5?
theres no such thing as 10s lol
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It is refreshing to see an article that reframes the common thinking. There is no such thing as a rating system no such thing as ugly girls. OMG all of that thinking is the wrong side of game. I feel if you still think of girls like that your not ready. He is an extreme example of what good game mind set is all about.

Thinking about the little sections of game cripple the results or trying to micro manages the life, even saying I am going out is ridiculous. You should always be on, because you ‘ARE’ always on. I find it’s as simple as I am Man, I am created to have sex FACT. Carrying around baggage for Male or female sucks.
Remove the modern issues affecting men and what you have is honest intent + freedom from issues surrounding the outcome.

Teaching Cold approach pick maybe more about Undoing than doing. About removing the block rather than building blocks. It could be, to be more precise breaking old illusions and misinformation and allowing the truth to appear. I could talk for days about this…………….
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 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cyyjpn-gFKk
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Jeffy - how did u meet him?
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 Not only are you a great teacher, you'r also a comedian for sure. You should do some standup
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 act like black guy))
its kindof my motto
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randombaz wrote:
Jeffy - how did u meet him?
He is my attorney's younger brother. One day I was riding in dude's Porsche on the way back from a bro-date to see Iron Man 2 and he goes "hey have you ever met my brother?"

I said, "Um you have a brother?" I known him for two years and had no idea.

Attorney says, "Yah I have five... he lives in your hood, you're neighbors."

So he takes me to Taqueria Cancun and Evil Stifler walks out with a pink mohawk, and I immediately think to myself, "This is gonna be bad."

Two years later, we continue to exacerbate each others' worst personality traits. 
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besserwisser wrote:
Question: If he is flirting and beasting ALL THE TIME, doesn't this mean that every girl he meets either loves him OR hates and rejects him?
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 stifler was picking up girls on the street and having sex with them in the van ever sinca he was a small child? wtf?
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messi wrote:
 stifler was picking up girls on the street and having sex with them in the van ever sinca he was a small child? wtf?
He had several girlfriends he would kiss and fingerbang in the 6th grade. 
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jlaix wrote:

messi wrote:
 stifler was picking up girls on the street and having sex with them in the van ever sinca he was a small child? wtf?
He had several girlfriends he would kiss and fingerbang in the 6th grade. 
thats impressive
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 fuck . i'm 17 and i hadnt have sex yet. 
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What is Nerd-Awarness??
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How fast he usually pull girl from a venue ?
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Evil-fucking-Stiffler!!!

Sick article. So how does this dude handle rejection for the large volume of momentum he builds? ....Whats his exact reactions to that shit? Does he plow or move on quickly to the next one? Does he take numbers? If so, when and why?

P.S - You've been with 200 plus woman on a sex romp which the GLODT book specified, and you said you slept with 50 this year, which makes it 250 now, thats half of 500, right?
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jlaix wrote:

When it comes to "elite players," I'll definitely admit there are two types... the guys who only want to fuck the 10s, and the guys who just want to eat.
Yes, I'm definitely in the "i only want to fuck 10s" ctegoryies, or atleast girls i have mad sexual chemistry with. Realising this has helped me get over my "falling out of love with game" issues. Either way, the issue of social momentum applies just as much.
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shit son. your gonna die alone 
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 fuck . i'm 17 and i hadnt have sex yet. 
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I have seen this video before, and it's so fucking funny. Life is comedy, there is a lot of comedy in the game!

And yeah, I only understood how important macro momentum was once I started actually going out. This might be the single biggest problem for a lot of people with 9-5 jobs, they don't dare going out more than 2 times a week - if they only knew how easy everything is with macro momentum...

PS: You encouraged us to post questions in your last front page article, but still haven't answered the one I posted in the comments.

PPS: I love party dong!
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 How did he get the name Evil Stifler?
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Great article, really cleared up alot of stuff for me.
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Evil stifler fan page...

But, halloween night he banged a girl in venue with a bunch of people watching. He designed a mini-van that can be deployed from the main van and can be taken into the club. The club was a large warehouse where he finds a willing girl and gets her into the mini van and starts sexing her immediately. Bunch of girls try to get into the action...

The pony's are passe :) Shit's one-up now.
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"lack of emotional expressivity"

good idea for one of your future articles

but wait, its just an effect of being stifled, and stifled is cured with social momentum

RIGHT?
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Beast Von Gandi wrote:
Evil stifler fan page...

But, halloween night he banged a girl in venue with a bunch of people watching. He designed a mini-van that can be deployed from the main van and can be taken into the club. The club was a large warehouse where he finds a willing girl and gets her into the mini van and starts sexing her immediately. Bunch of girls try to get into the action...

The pony's are passe :) Shit's one-up now.
lol, Evil Stifler should really be called Evil Batman.

Andy
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he want's to be called evil-genius-stifler
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lol, Evil Stifler should really be called Evil Batman.
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 you were amazing at the auckland free tour! restored my faith in humanity.
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wow man i love to see pic of Evil Stifler
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 I would say that one of my key issues is my lack of ability to connect (I usually connect with "intellectual" types). And I think I may have repressed anger that comes out sub-consciously due to a relationship that ended catastrophically in 2008. What would you recommend me to do to get this handled?
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Can it be? the mythological beast really exists?
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 Wouldn't that, almost, guarantee that he has an STD - if not every single one? Not haterism.. just curiosity based on numbers.
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Of course, the man is human and doesn't get every girl. Far from it. He's banged 5-600 at this point however, there's no denying that.
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"deployed a mini van in the club"

LOL
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how do i get as smooth as this dude / so comfortable expressing sexuality?

how do I bring the party like Evil Stiffler?
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 By conditioning yourself & taking every oportunity in your day to day life to talk to anyone and everyone you desire,by doing the same when you go out, & by trial/error (everything will fall into place). Anything at life requires conditioning... sounds like ES was just programed to do so from his childhood and has years of condition (just like most prof. athletes.. they got good cuz they had love for the game since childhood and just have years and years of conditioning).
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how do i get as smooth as this dude / so comfortable expressing sexuality?

how do I bring the party like Evil Stiffler?
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 I need to get some testosterone. 
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the big lesson of this guy is social momentum. ALWAYS APPROACHING
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Jeffy, come to Israel.
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The big lesson of this guy is to also act like a black man. Truer words have yet to be spoken.

Craziest part is that he sounded COMPLETELY NORMAL.

I was under the impression that he was of the wigger ilk.
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So he goes out everyday and does nothing besides.. Does he have a purpose when he's out ? 
Or just out of the house 24/7 looking dor pussy.  ?  no other life at all? 
Purposless walk of glory))
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 Great avatar pic buddy
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 I actually think there's a lot that can be learned Evil Stifler's 'act like a black guy' approach, At least judging by Jeffy's imitations of him, it's conveying dominance, sexuality, self-amusement, positivity, confidence... all through that 'style'. Bottom line, we all convey the same shit in the end, we just all do it differently. 
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best idea ever! please do
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dickbutt wrote:
Jeffy, come to Israel.
best idea ever! please do
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Delasoul wrote:
shit son. your gonna die alone 
messi wrote:
 fuck . i'm 17 and i hadnt have sex yet. 

You'r not serious.. I am a virgin too and I am 19 years old now
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I know looks don't matter, but testosterone definitely seems to matter.  With that being said I am still curious as to what evil stifler looks like, is he conventionally good looking in the face? Is he tall?
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 Jeffy, i love you
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