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Whatup cats and kittens. Well the new year's been off to a great start... really switching into work mode this month and while there's always a ton to do with RSD, my main priority is finally getting this damn online program together. Shooting back to Texas tomorrow and then I got my work cut out for me over the next few months:
January 24-26: Austin, TX
February 1-3: San Francisco
February 7-9: Toronto
February 15-17: San Francisco
February 12-16: New Orleans, LA (5 Day Alumni Program)
February 19-23: Miami Model Season Alumni BC (w/ Tyler and Julien)
Feb 26-Mar 2: Miami Model Season Alumni BC (w/ Tyler and Julien)
March 8-10: San Francisco
March 15-17: San Francisco
March 21-23: Seattle, WA
March 28-30: Los Angeles
April 5-7: San Francisco
April 12-14: Vancouver (w/ Alexander)
April 19-21: Calgary (w/ Alexander)
April 26-28: San Francisco
May 3-5: Montreal (w/ Alexander)
May 10-12: Toronto (w/ Alexander)
May 17-19: San Francisco
Also note that we have added a new free tour date in Austin this Thursday, JUST BECAUSE. Hope to see you there!
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
RSD OFFICE (toll free): +1 (888) 546 7286
Anyways, today's topic is about the increasingly grating and butthurt whingeing I see on the forum, more and more frequently these days. Specifically, the whining about womens' supposedly callous and mailicious nature. How feminists are trying to destroy men. Guys gleefully talking about their plans to make them PAY. How BITCHES AINT SHIT YO.
When I see this I automatically dismiss the poster as a child likely posting from mother's cellar. However, it's common enough that there's obviously something going on here, a deep resentment that is ubiquitous enough to warrant exploration. Hell, back when I started up on the old fastseduction usenet boards, I was probably one of the worst offenders, throwing out casual chauvinism like it was going out of style.
Maybe that's why it strikes such a nerve with me... because it reminds me of the old, unsuccessful, wounded me.... of the thought patterns I ultimately had to discard and move away from in order to gain true success with women.
So that's the topic of today's video blog....
Male Chauvinism and Misogyny
Tyler even pops in to give his thoughts, which happen to include a bit of "devil's advocate"' stuff in favor of the boy's club.... check it out:
So yeah that's it. When you first get into game, it can be easy to get seduced by this kind of thinking, because it seems like you've been granted a power that finally lets you get out from under what you perceive to be the oppressive thumb of the evil feminists that have held power over you, or some shit. It's real easy to go overboard with this, and next thing you know, you're a goddamn cartoon character that's just as bad as the wackiest feminists out there.
But ultimately, it's best to adopt a more mature outlook and move beyond these cardboard characterizations. Since I'm heading to Texas, I'll leave you with a bible verse:
I Corinthians 13:11 - "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things."
So yup. That's it for today. Off to get a sexii new haircut, then the gym, then dig into the massive pile of receipts that constitute my tax return for 2012. wish me luck. lol
January 24-26: Austin, TX
February 1-3: San Francisco
February 7-9: Toronto
February 15-17: San Francisco
February 12-16: New Orleans, LA (5 Day Alumni Program)
February 19-23: Miami Model Season Alumni BC (w/ Tyler and Julien)
Feb 26-Mar 2: Miami Model Season Alumni BC (w/ Tyler and Julien)
March 8-10: San Francisco
March 15-17: San Francisco
March 21-23: Seattle, WA
March 28-30: Los Angeles
April 5-7: San Francisco
April 12-14: Vancouver (w/ Alexander)
April 19-21: Calgary (w/ Alexander)
April 26-28: San Francisco
May 3-5: Montreal (w/ Alexander)
May 10-12: Toronto (w/ Alexander)
May 17-19: San Francisco
Also note that we have added a new free tour date in Austin this Thursday, JUST BECAUSE. Hope to see you there!
www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com
RSD OFFICE (toll free): +1 (888) 546 7286
Anyways, today's topic is about the increasingly grating and butthurt whingeing I see on the forum, more and more frequently these days. Specifically, the whining about womens' supposedly callous and mailicious nature. How feminists are trying to destroy men. Guys gleefully talking about their plans to make them PAY. How BITCHES AINT SHIT YO.
When I see this I automatically dismiss the poster as a child likely posting from mother's cellar. However, it's common enough that there's obviously something going on here, a deep resentment that is ubiquitous enough to warrant exploration. Hell, back when I started up on the old fastseduction usenet boards, I was probably one of the worst offenders, throwing out casual chauvinism like it was going out of style.
Maybe that's why it strikes such a nerve with me... because it reminds me of the old, unsuccessful, wounded me.... of the thought patterns I ultimately had to discard and move away from in order to gain true success with women.
So that's the topic of today's video blog....
Male Chauvinism and Misogyny
Tyler even pops in to give his thoughts, which happen to include a bit of "devil's advocate"' stuff in favor of the boy's club.... check it out:
So yeah that's it. When you first get into game, it can be easy to get seduced by this kind of thinking, because it seems like you've been granted a power that finally lets you get out from under what you perceive to be the oppressive thumb of the evil feminists that have held power over you, or some shit. It's real easy to go overboard with this, and next thing you know, you're a goddamn cartoon character that's just as bad as the wackiest feminists out there.
But ultimately, it's best to adopt a more mature outlook and move beyond these cardboard characterizations. Since I'm heading to Texas, I'll leave you with a bible verse:
I Corinthians 13:11 - "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things."
So yup. That's it for today. Off to get a sexii new haircut, then the gym, then dig into the massive pile of receipts that constitute my tax return for 2012. wish me luck. lol



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Elamanopiskelija
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Join Date: 11/08/2011 | Posts: 207
Amazing video that you guys have done. Such a healthy point of view
besserwisser
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Little_Billy
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U-235
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Tyler
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The edit is really really good, just being there and seeing what you've done with it. Really good cuts and keeps the energy and flow of the vid -- content came out perfect.
Should be good to just add into any forum topics that go in the direction you were talking about. Cool to see those driving shots of Dallas too.
I'm thinking for Mardis Gras you're going to get a great vid or two cause you're already experienced with riot type shots LOL.
Tyler
Leviathan
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Join Date: 09/30/2012 | Posts: 54
I also like the vibe and tone of the videos you've been putting up lately.
The beastmode, wolfshirt videos were fun but now I feel I value what you have to say more.
Thanks
ChuckBr
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Johnny Depp
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Seriously though, very intreresting video to watch. Younger guys (me included) usually have all sorts of theories, like "things like this and not like that because of ..." and so on. Counterintuitively, older guys do not accumulate MORE theories and knowledge, they just get rid of the old ones. Like, a lot of Jeff's videos are not about MORE theory, but about NOT obsessing over the deep meaning of any particular experience.
Definitely cool to learn from his perspective!
LeeShoes
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Aaron
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Great topic. Very informative content as always. Much appreciated.
donkeydong33
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deepBlue_
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I see women not as bitches nor as heavenly creatures but as human beings. That's what's getting me laid. And it's a pretty new view,too. before that I had exactly that fear driven reactions you describe. So thanks for reminding to stay on course!
TheFinisher
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Intelligence
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Tobias
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I never really give pua advice to anyone... I just bookmark RSD videos and copy paste them lol.
But yeah misogyny I think is a big stage for a lot of guys certainly was for me. You enter PUA and you see women as on a pedistal. Then you do pua for a bit and you become a "high value" person and grow as a human. You get confronted with the reality that women are just people. Then you start to become very high value and you resent women I think its because you resent the low value behavior you see in others in general because your trying to remove yourself away from that as well. Eventually you get over it and your not in danger of falling back to those low value behaviors and you can practice extreme sympathy for those who are behaving like that and allow them to kind of have the space to raise up to where you are and thats when the misogyny fades away.
Sorry felt like adding my 2 cents in here video got me excited about the subject. Great video!
bingobango
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what would typically happen is i'd fall in love with the next one, pedestalize her, get dumped, get butthurt again, wash rinse and reapeat. lol.
Alexander~
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Join Date: 05/15/2007 | Posts: 2939
good one good one!
Love the 'love the women theme'
love them or tough love them. Otherwise a guys can't keep his love for the game and will not get the results.
Admittedly you guys have it toughest in america... freaken mtv girls brain washed by TV BUT it makes it that much sweeter when the come around.
Alexander~
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Alexander~
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good one good one!
Love the 'love the women theme'
love them or tough love them. Otherwise a guys can't keep his love for the game and will not get the results.
Admittedly you guys have it toughest in america... freaken mtv girls brain washed by TV BUT it makes it that much sweeter when the come around.
Alexander~
www.facebook.com/alexanderrsd
JoeySoprano
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atreideslegend
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I always keep in mind that when you have sex with a girl she could get pregnant (or atleast, her natural brain is telling her as much), and if she gets pregnant and has a child there is a GENUINE risk of severe permanent injury or death occuring during childbirth. This was a natural fact of the world we lived in until only very recently in human history, and even now only in specific cultures around the world is it a more remote possiblity.
When having sex with a guy could end up with you coming face to face with your own mortality in 9 months time, you're going to be FUCKING picky about the guys you choose to take that risk for. So of course she's scared; when not sleeping with you could mean missing out on the man of her dreams, but sleeping with you could have terrific consequences, you're going to be fucking scatty, bratty, hesitant and scared.
I'm not saying this is something girls are concious of, but it is (or at least was) a biological reality and one of many factors that could still influence behaviour.
Haze~
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I'll get his opinion about it this week but he's constantly preaching things like:
"I never pay a cent for a girl before sex."
"The date is the reward."
"I'm not a trick ass bitch."
"She can pick off my plate."
Now I can't speak for others that may have posted in my thread but speaking for myself, my thread wasn't coming from a place of malice or hurt.
I don't think SPLITTING a meal makes me a misogynist.
Also considering the fact that her friend sent me a rather rude and psychotic text message yet I'm apparently the bad guy here.
Again, my thought process is DIRECTLY INFLUENCED by Owen himself.
theultimatechump
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Quick question.
Why didn't you game up the chick who sent you the text?
casablancas_is_back
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Hold
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Chai
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RMF-ACE
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Being YOURSELF To 100% With No Fear Or Holding Back While Still Showing Love, Compassion, Empathy, And Staying Centered.
***These Are Steps In The Buddhist Path, All Of Which People Must Learn At Various Points In Their Life. No Person Is Different From Another In Terms Of Ability, but Rather The Appearence Of "Skill" Is The "WILL" They Have Built Up Over Time To Acheive Goals They Set Forth. Time + Focus = More Success. Continued Exercise Of The "WILL POWER" Portion Of Your Being Creates More "Skill" Which SKILL is Short For SUPER KILL***
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d3tale1
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Jeff, you always come off as a seemingly chauvinist douche-nozzle gangster.
I'm stoked to see something like this that shows there's more depth to your charracter.
~ Marc
natlex
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It's also when you do have options or when I have a lot of work I want to do at home, I often "Barely" feel like going out to see the girl for a day2. I often just text on specific days as a rule to always followup but I'm sometimes really happy she basically does not come. Or when a girl comes over for a "date" instead of a booty call, there goes 4-8 hours of my day with her... No working out/reading/working...
G-Money
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Jeff:
In the past, when you said these butthurt things to girls when they didn't respond or just acted like a straight up asshole, what was the course of action? I've come at two girls like this in the recent past (once I was sober, the other time I was drunk as fuck). Either way, both times I just stopped talking to the girls altogether.
Watching this video made me realize how fucking WEAK and LAME I seemed to these chicks. My gut reaction was to apologize from a place of sincerity but that may come off even more weird. Did you ever apologize to these girls for your chode ways or just go about your life?
inb4Jeffsaysgetmoregirls
Jonathan Chodeman
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iznogold
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2.being mean to women can have an effect only on you. Abundance isnt attainable through meanness.
gman3
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Frank Valentine
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Women understand women, that's why they hate each other so much.
Studmuffin
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Not really getting hung up on eye contact or micromanaging outer game but I I found that if I do this thing with my eyes where i only really squint the bottom half I look relaxed but motivated and can hold the most meaningless conversations forever or simply jack conversations easily. I only bring it up cause in some of your later videos i notice you kinda do it and in this one theres a good contrast between that and jeffs full relaxed squint. Just wondering if its intentional. To be honest I only focused on facial manerisms for job interviews and shit but noticed it here and had to bring it up.
Cat
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AHHHHHhhhhh
That fucking smile man
God
power_level_over9000
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I believe there is merit to what I posted and I take responsibility too. More cold approach. More time out. Better my game with taking different perspectives, approaches, and self amuse more. Be more relaxed and easier going. More poise. I am more like taking my business approach to pickup. The Donald and yes, I feel like telling a lot of girls after pulling, "you're fired."
Bitterness should be set apart. Still, I think working around females, it puts a lot into perspective. Lots of complaining. Lots of baggage. I am still drawn to female sexuality but, in terms of intrinsic value and exchange, it is not equal. Hearing the way women rant about how men should approach, pay for dates, and then, vent about equality is a tad bit off. I concur with Tyler about not paying for dates especially with women you haved banged.
Zack_Brawler
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Whenever you go hunting for women you should view a woman you want to approach as a mental child (because when it comes to dating and sex.. SHE IS). Don’t let the ball-busting, educated, well-dressed and ambitious FRONT on a woman fool you. She is a confused child inside and you will see this with any woman who develops feelings for you no matter what walk of life she comes from.
This is why approach anxiety is technically a stupid thing. No man should feel approach anxiety because no woman is spiritually above a man. No man should fear rejection because all female dating decisions are based on feelings and selfish motives. If a woman rejects you, it has nothing to do with the person you are inside. It has to do with your failure to stimulate her emotions and offer something she wants." (Rico)
Misogyny (that doesn't come from a wounded frame) has been my most effective solution to any approach anxiety I used to have. You do not feel anxious and nervous when you know she is inferior and you are above her. Can you even imagine an attractive girl actually having sex or be willing to date a man who she perceives as beneath her? Women always date up and look up to guys. At least until you've become a expert Player, I believe all men should adopt this mindset.
Waginator
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Tobias
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Rotundum
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But to become a bad ass man its good to know how much feminism have influenced society, girls and boys and why society is like it is, becoming informed is never a bad thing.
Because if you stay ignorant then you will always be a slave to these things
/Far from my mothers basement
honeybadger
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Kids demand attention and validation, and they may play silly games with you to get what they want. But they are lovely. You don't go around saying shit about kids, do you? You do understand them, and you forget about them being brats. You call them on when they go beyond acceptable limits, and you love them, so they grow up and learn.
Girls also just want attention and validation. The feminine polarity demands praise after all. They want you to buy shit for them so that they feel good about themselves. Don't let them play their stupid games with you, don't reward their unconsciousness, and they'll be sweet to you and improve from their experience with you.
Shawnn
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And tyler, i think i learned from you that it's easier for women to cry and be emotional which helps them get over break-ups and what not faster, even though they express more emotional pain, etc, they get over shit quicker and move on which is fucked up because men aren't supposed to just get all emotinal and cleanse thier system... so men are screwed if they suppress that and become butt-hurt misogynists... horrible way to be... People think it's lack of something that gives them the right prespective on it, when instead it's actually abundance that provides the brain with the sight of the real truth and value underneath everything... funny how that works as well...
BTW Jeff, bro, if you don't do a free tour in toronto im gonna turn into a butt-hurt jeffyagnist... plzzz!!! do it man!!! lmao
MakeItHappen
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rOrO_thugin
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gota lot out of it thanks
rOrO_thugin
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gota lot out of it thanks