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 Whatup cats and kittens. Well the new year's been off to a great start... really switching into work mode this month and while there's always a ton to do with RSD, my main priority is finally getting this damn online program together. Shooting back to Texas tomorrow and then I got my work cut out for me over the next few months:

January 24-26: Austin, TX
February 1-3: San Francisco
February 7-9: Toronto
February 15-17: San Francisco
February 12-16: New Orleans, LA (5 Day Alumni Program)
February 19-23: Miami Model Season Alumni BC (w/ Tyler and Julien)
Feb 26-Mar 2: Miami Model Season Alumni BC (w/ Tyler and Julien)
March 8-10: San Francisco
March 15-17: San Francisco
March 21-23: Seattle, WA
March 28-30: Los Angeles
April 5-7: San Francisco
April 12-14: Vancouver (w/ Alexander)
April 19-21: Calgary (w/ Alexander)
April 26-28: San Francisco
May 3-5: Montreal (w/ Alexander)
May 10-12: Toronto (w/ Alexander)
May 17-19: San Francisco


Also note that we have added a new free tour date in Austin this Thursday, JUST BECAUSE. Hope to see you there!

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Anyways, today's topic is about the increasingly grating and butthurt whingeing I see on the forum, more and more frequently these days. Specifically, the whining about womens' supposedly callous and mailicious nature. How feminists are trying to destroy men. Guys gleefully talking about their plans to make them PAY. How BITCHES AINT SHIT YO. 

When I see this I automatically dismiss the poster as a child likely posting from mother's cellar. However, it's common enough that there's obviously something going on here, a deep resentment that is ubiquitous enough to warrant exploration. Hell, back when I started up on the old fastseduction usenet boards, I was probably one of the worst offenders, throwing out casual chauvinism like it was going out of style.

Maybe that's why it strikes such a nerve with me... because it reminds me of the old, unsuccessful, wounded me.... of the thought patterns I ultimately had to discard and move away from in order to gain true success with women. 

So that's the topic of today's video blog.... 

Male Chauvinism and Misogyny


Tyler even pops in to give his thoughts, which happen to include a bit of "devil's advocate"' stuff in favor of the boy's club.... check it out:



So yeah that's it. When you first get into game, it can be easy to get seduced by this kind of thinking, because it seems like you've been granted a power that finally lets you get out from under what you perceive to be the oppressive thumb of the evil feminists that have held power over you, or some shit. It's real easy to go overboard with this, and next thing you know, you're a goddamn cartoon character that's just as bad as the wackiest feminists out there.

But ultimately, it's best to adopt a more mature outlook and move beyond these cardboard characterizations. Since I'm heading to Texas, I'll leave you with a bible verse:

I Corinthians 13:11 - "When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things." 

So yup. That's it for today. Off to get a sexii new haircut, then the gym, then dig into the massive pile of receipts that constitute my tax return for 2012. wish me luck. lol
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#1

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Awesome!
Amazing video that you guys have done. Such a healthy point of view
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HOLY shit. I've been looking for this quote since forever

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I'm already a misanthrope. Thanks for the reassurance.
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I used to get more butt hurt about this sort of thing, not necessarily anger at others, but there was definitely a lot of self loathing. I'm starting to turn that around, and it's mostly because I know I have more options (or at least the ability to attain more options). I have yet to attain true abundance, but I now have the realization that this can be achieved, and I'm taking the steps to get there.
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LOL damn that's a fast turnaround time on this one!  So funny to be there like 18 hours ago and now I'm back in LA, then seeing this.

The edit is really really good, just being there and seeing what you've done with it.  Really good cuts and keeps the energy and flow of the vid -- content came out perfect.

Should be good to just add into any forum topics that go in the direction you were talking about.  Cool to see those driving shots of Dallas too.

I'm thinking for Mardis Gras you're going to get a great vid or two cause you're already experienced with riot type shots LOL.

Tyler
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 Very good topic and video.

I also like the vibe and tone of the videos you've been putting up lately.

The beastmode, wolfshirt videos were fun but now I feel I value what you have to say more.

Thanks
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I actually think misogyny is a necessary stage that most people pass through between the beginner and intermediate stage. You've got to go from being a supplicating bitch to not really giving a fuck, and misogyny is a way of sort of faking not giving a fuck until you're actually getting laid.
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Johnny Depp

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I have learned a lot of new words.

Seriously though, very intreresting video to watch. Younger guys (me included) usually have all sorts of theories, like "things like this and not like that because of ..." and so on. Counterintuitively, older guys do not accumulate MORE theories and knowledge, they just get rid of the old ones. Like, a lot of Jeff's videos are not about MORE theory, but about NOT obsessing over the deep meaning of any particular experience.
Definitely cool to learn from his perspective!
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bitches ain't shit is all thats in my head right now
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 Diabolical laughter FTW! 

Great topic. Very informative content as always. Much appreciated. 
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 "smear of masculinty...like the weather" LOL
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Great content! Great Cut! 

I see women not as bitches nor as heavenly creatures but as human beings. That's what's getting me laid. And it's a pretty new view,too. before that I had exactly that fear driven reactions you describe. So thanks for reminding to stay on course!
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 Awesome. 
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male chauvinism, misogyny, misantrophy < Antinatalism + Nihilism:
www.youtube.com/watch
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 Holly shit really needed to be said thanks guys! 

I never really give pua advice to anyone... I just bookmark RSD videos and copy paste them lol. 

But yeah misogyny I think is a big stage for a lot of guys certainly was for me. You enter PUA and you see women as on a pedistal. Then you do pua for a bit and you become a "high value" person and grow as a human. You get confronted with the reality that women are just people. Then you start to become very high value and you resent women I think its because you resent the low value behavior you see in others in general because your trying to remove yourself away from that as well. Eventually you get over it and your not in danger of falling back to those low value behaviors and you can practice extreme sympathy for those who are behaving like that and allow them to kind of have the space to raise up to where you are and thats when the misogyny fades away. 

Sorry felt like adding my 2 cents in here video got me excited about the subject. Great video! 
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i've been butthurt a lot but thankfully never became misogynistic.

what would typically happen is i'd fall in love with the next one, pedestalize her, get dumped, get butthurt again, wash rinse and reapeat. lol.
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 yeah totally awesome intoduction! did you use warp stabaliser in PP for the starting sequence?

good one good one!

Love the 'love the women theme' 

love them or tough love them. Otherwise a guys can't keep his love for the game and will not get the results.

Admittedly you guys have it toughest in america... freaken mtv girls brain washed by TV BUT it makes it that much sweeter when the come around.

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 yeah totally awesome intoduction! did you use warp stabaliser in PP for the starting sequence?

good one good one!

Love the 'love the women theme' 

love them or tough love them. Otherwise a guys can't keep his love for the game and will not get the results.

Admittedly you guys have it toughest in america... freaken mtv girls brain washed by TV BUT it makes it that much sweeter when the come around.

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Bomb video, and also, bomb track at the end... can we listen to it in its entirety?
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Cool topic. I've spoken to girls who have told me that they do deliberately fuck with guys. That being said, I still can't bring myself to hate on them for that, because I believe its coming from a place of fear rather than narcissism. 

I always keep in mind that when you have sex with a girl she could get pregnant (or atleast, her natural brain is telling her as much), and if she gets pregnant and has a child there is a GENUINE risk of severe permanent injury or death occuring during childbirth. This was a natural fact of the world we lived in until only very recently in human history, and even now only in specific cultures around the world is it a more remote possiblity. 

When having sex with a guy could end up with you coming face to face with your own mortality in 9 months time, you're going to be FUCKING picky about the guys you choose to take that risk for. So of course she's scared; when not sleeping with you could mean missing out on the man of her dreams, but sleeping with you could have terrific consequences, you're going to be fucking scatty, bratty, hesitant and scared.

I'm not saying this is something girls are concious of, but it is (or at least was) a biological reality and one of many factors that could still influence behaviour.
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Just for the record, since I know this topic was influenced at least partially by my thread, my thought process wasn't coming from a place of misogyny or even chauvinism, but having a set of standards of behavior, which by the way was directly influenced by Owen himself.

I'll get his opinion about it this week but he's constantly preaching things like:

"I never pay a cent for a girl before sex."
"The date is the reward."
"I'm not a trick ass bitch."
"She can pick off my plate."


Now I can't speak for others that may have posted in my thread but speaking for myself, my thread wasn't coming from a place of malice or hurt.

I don't think SPLITTING a meal makes me a misogynist.

Also considering the fact that her friend sent me a rather rude and psychotic text message yet I'm apparently the bad guy here.

Again, my thought process is DIRECTLY INFLUENCED by Owen himself.
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#22

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Haze

Quick question.

Why didn't you game up the chick who sent you the text?
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always look forward to jeff's shit
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Loved it
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 jeffyyyy one of your baby lions is growing :)
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 You guys are purely awesome. 
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......... This Is Shit I Learned In High School.

Being YOURSELF To 100% With No Fear Or Holding Back While Still Showing Love, Compassion, Empathy, And Staying Centered.

***These Are Steps In The Buddhist Path, All Of Which People Must Learn At Various Points In Their Life. No Person Is Different From Another In Terms Of Ability, but Rather The Appearence Of "Skill" Is The "WILL" They Have Built Up Over Time To Acheive Goals They Set Forth. Time + Focus = More Success. Continued Exercise Of The "WILL POWER" Portion Of Your Being Creates More "Skill" Which SKILL is Short For SUPER KILL***
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 P.S. Jeff I'll Be In Cali Within A Month, Hit Mew Up For Some GUITAR LESSONS & HOW  TO TALK TO GOD AKA RMF-ACE
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This is DEEEP.

Jeff, you always come off as a seemingly chauvinist douche-nozzle gangster.

I'm stoked to see something like this that shows there's more depth to your charracter.

~ Marc
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natlex

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 Good video on a topic that people don"t talk about that much. I'm realizing this slowly too how I can't control how the girl responds to me with her time. The typical college girl going to a party college I RARELY see again (usually it's a SNL or nothing).  Girls going to less "party" colleges, I often see again.

It's also when you do have options or when I have a lot of work I want to do at home, I often "Barely" feel like going out to see the girl for a day2. I often just text on specific days as a rule to always followup  but I'm sometimes really happy she basically does not come. Or when a girl comes over for a "date" instead of a booty call, there goes 4-8 hours of my day with her... No working out/reading/working...
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 Interesting topic. 

Jeff:

In the past, when you said these butthurt things to girls when they didn't respond or just acted like a straight up asshole, what was the course of action? I've come at two girls like this in the recent past (once I was sober, the other time I was drunk as fuck). Either way, both times I just stopped talking to the girls altogether. 

Watching this video made me realize how fucking WEAK and LAME I seemed to these chicks. My gut reaction was to apologize from a place of sincerity but that may come off even more weird. Did you ever apologize to these girls for your chode ways or just go about your life?

inb4Jeffsaysgetmoregirls 
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Jeffy, you made a video. I like Jlaix videos! First I clicked the button, then the cars were driving toward the city, very fast, and the warp stabilizer in PP for the starting sequence. Then I saw you Jeffy, jlaix talking in front of the city. Then Owen Tyler Durden COOK appeared and he talked. I like jlaix videos and Owen Tyler Durden COOK videos! Like i like Eckhart Tolle and Anthony Robbins Awakening to A New Earth's purpose giant within your videos. Those videos are almost as good as the porn videos I am watching in the nightclub bathroom right now.
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1.women dont play power games, the abundance of male options forces them to reject some men.
2.being mean to women can have an effect only on you. Abundance isnt attainable through meanness.
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Good video. Agree with most of it, but the thing is that there are in fact some girls that are attention whores/ emotional vampires, or have deep issues. Just like there are guys like that. And these girls might play you or w.e. But the thing is that you don't actually want these girls in your life. So there is no need to try to 'game' them to bang them. That is scarcity mentality and will fuck you up.
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Understanding women?

Women understand women, that's why they hate each other so much.
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 Dear, Owen Cook

     Not really getting hung up on eye contact or micromanaging outer game but I I found that if I do this thing with my eyes where i only really squint the bottom half I look relaxed but motivated and can hold the most meaningless conversations forever or simply jack conversations easily. I only bring it up cause in some of your later videos i notice you kinda do it and in this one theres a good contrast between that and jeffs full relaxed squint. Just wondering if its intentional. To be honest I only focused on facial manerisms for job interviews and shit but noticed it here and had to bring it up.
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HHhahahahahahhahahahah

AHHHHHhhhhh

That fucking smile man

God
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Yeah, I can see how well a team of Jeff and Tyler would be since the perspectives are varying. I posted a thread and this sort of seemed like a call out especially given the timing of my thread. I have to say, you both make great arguments. Post breakup, I am one bitter misogynistic male, and with reason or so, I rationalize to myself. Months well after the break up, the feeling is faint if not at all gone. This leaves me to believe it all comes down where it comes from or the emotions beyond it.

I believe there is merit to what I posted and I take responsibility too. More cold approach. More time out. Better my game with taking different perspectives, approaches, and self amuse more. Be more relaxed and easier going. More poise. I am more like taking my business approach to pickup. The Donald and yes, I feel like telling a lot of girls after pulling, "you're fired."

Bitterness should be set apart. Still, I think working around females, it puts a lot into perspective. Lots of complaining. Lots of baggage. I am still drawn to female sexuality but, in terms of intrinsic value and exchange, it is not equal. Hearing the way women rant about how men should approach, pay for dates, and then, vent about equality is a tad bit off. I concur with Tyler about not paying for dates especially with women you haved banged.
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"When it comes to dating, women are like children. They give into every emotional whim they feel and lose all concept of logic, morality and justice. Women simply cannot keep a clear head in this area of life. They use the same tactics to get their way as children: crying, pouting, whining, complaining, running away, passive-aggressive shit, etc.

Whenever you go hunting for women you should view a woman you want to approach as a mental child (because when it comes to dating and sex.. SHE IS). Don’t let the ball-busting, educated, well-dressed and ambitious FRONT on a woman fool you. She is a confused child inside and you will see this with any woman who develops feelings for you no matter what walk of life she comes from.

This is why approach anxiety is technically a stupid thing. No man should feel approach anxiety because no woman is spiritually above a man. No man should fear rejection because all female dating decisions are based on feelings and selfish motives. If a woman rejects you, it has nothing to do with the person you are inside. It has to do with your failure to stimulate her emotions and offer something she wants." (Rico)

Misogyny (that doesn't come from a wounded frame) has been my most effective solution to any approach anxiety I used to have. You do not feel anxious and nervous when you know she is inferior and you are above her. Can you even imagine an attractive girl actually having sex or be willing to date a man who she perceives as beneath her? Women always date up and look up to guys.  At least until you've become a expert Player, I believe all men should adopt this mindset.
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Bitches Aint SHIT!!! LMFAO!  yes this video is sooooo on point. i was just in this situation earlier where i text a couple girls and they flaked and im like all butthurt and say to them " you know it pisses me off when people just blow me off like that" and of course they didnt respond back and i delete their numbers out of bitterness...im so glad this video popped up because it just really hits home. im not really worried about losing those girls ive slept with one of them and another could fuck but its a logistical thing...anyway yes this is awesome stuff!
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lol look at the simularities in these two photo bomb pics. 


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 Hmmmm.  Maybe bitches ARE shit.  smile
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#45

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Being a misogynist might not help you to get laid if you're a wounded little boy.
But to become a bad ass man its good to know how much feminism have influenced society, girls and boys and why society is like it is, becoming informed is never a bad thing.

Because if you stay ignorant then you will always be a slave to these things

/Far from my mothers basement
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My frame is that girls are pretty much like kids.

Kids demand attention and validation, and they may play silly games with you to get what they want. But they are lovely. You don't go around saying shit about kids, do you? You do understand them, and you forget about them being brats. You call them on when they go beyond acceptable limits, and you love them, so they grow up and learn.

Girls also just want attention and validation. The feminine polarity demands praise after all. They want you to buy shit for them so that they feel good about themselves. Don't let them play their stupid games with you, don't reward their unconsciousness, and they'll be sweet to you and improve from their experience with you.
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#47

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This video is jokes... especially given one of Tyler's early, one of the MOST AWESOME videos that he did out of disney about how it is a woman's job to destory a man's life!!!!!!!! But funny thing is, as misogynistic as I am, good naturedly, i agree that it's prolly one of the worst things in life to be a butt-hurt misogynist because years ago i've been that and it had no basis in intelligence and reflected nothing even close to approching genius which is what my misogyny has evolved to now... pure genius... loll I also hate chodes, as much as I hate women, again, good naturedly... my favorite time to be mysginistc is to a woman's face, while making her feel totally embarassed and crack up with uncontrallable laughter... not allways... another one of my favoroties is to quietly be misogynistic... just gives me such a sense of entitlement and leading knowing how pathetic certain women are, but i also see the human side and those shitty qualities in myself so i dont hate but i become irrated and cocky and very leading with certain girls... most of my misogyny stems from a lack of impulse control on my part... loll... i begin to loose my patience at times and stop giving a fuck, whcih works to my favor almost allways...

And tyler, i think i learned from you that it's easier for women to cry and be emotional which helps them get over break-ups and what not faster, even though they express more emotional pain, etc, they get over shit quicker and move on which is fucked up because men aren't supposed to just get all emotinal and cleanse thier system... so men are screwed if they suppress that and become butt-hurt misogynists... horrible way to be... People think it's lack of something that gives them the right prespective on it, when instead it's actually abundance that provides the brain with the sight of the real truth and value underneath everything... funny how that works as well...


BTW Jeff, bro, if you don't do a free tour in toronto im gonna turn into a butt-hurt jeffyagnist...  plzzz!!! do it man!!! lmao
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Tobias wrote:
lol look at the simularities in these two photo bomb pics. 


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AAHAHHA well spotted
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 SOO FUCKIN CLASSY 


gota lot out of it thanks 
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 SOO FUCKIN CLASSY 


gota lot out of it thanks 
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