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 What's up RSD Nation. Jeffy here, doing my part to keep the front page clear of pictures of men in hotel rooms talking to cameras with dirty shirts on. HEAR ME GUYS? Enough with the stupid video stills of your ugly mugs, people want to see titties, not men gesticulating at Sheratons. Unless it's Brad, then of course everyone wants to see that. But still.

I'm coming at you bright and early from my home in San Francisco on this Sunday morning, the day of the infamous leather BDSM Folsom Street Fair. You may recall the bootcamp success story where we tookt he guy tpo this fair a couple years ago and fucked three girls in the van.

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/165439
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No bootcamp this weekend, but I'll be starting up another North American tour beginning next month... if I'm coming to your city this is your chance to hit up a program with a ten year veteran of the bootcamp game. I'm hitting this shit hard, so check it out:

October 4-7: New York City, NY
October 11-13: Toronto, ON
October 25-27: Calgary, AL
November 22-24: Seattle, WA
November 29 - Dec 1: Denver, CO
January 10-12: Atlanta, GA
January 24-26: Austin, TX
February 7-9: New Orleans, LA
February 21-23: Washington, DC


The van has been pre-parked overnight near the festival gates and I'm about to gather the crew of retards to begin our assault, but first things first... just wanted to post up today's video.

With this vid, I wanted to clear up some misconceptions that I feel might exist with regard to my conduct on the forum.

Often times, people seem to get the impression from my forum posts that I'm just sitting at my keyboard at home, gleefully trolling users out of some innate desire to be a malicious fuckhole. The bare fact of the matter, however, is that I am doing this for their own good.

From time to time you will see me post lengthy, well thought out replies to people's questions with relevant and useful information... when I do this, it's because I get the sense that the user is actually going out and has committed himself to learning this stuff, come hell or high water.

However, the vast majority of questions you see on the forum are straight up ignorant, and I mean that in the sense that they are asking questions that the answers to which would be glaringly obvious to anyone who was going out with regularity... or questions that would not even be RELEVANT to a guy who was going out and hitting up girls consistently.

This is what is meant when I say those three little words: GET MORE GIRLS. Anyway, the video explains it, check it out:



When I say "GET MORE GIRLS" what I am doing is encouraging them to stop RESISTING the idea of this as a lifestyle.

Of course, this can be taken too far... and I'm probably living proof of that lol. My Primary GF just dumped my fuckin ass yesterday, because I'm so enmeshed in this lifestyle it will be impossible to extricate myself from it until I stop doing this job, which seems unlikely at least for the near future.

It pisses me off because I gave the girl everything, and at the end of the day, none of that means shit in the face of the SOCIALLY CONDITIONED NARRATIVE. "But.... but he puts his weener in other girls hoo ha! This is not right"... in SPITE OF the FACT that I was probably the best, most caring "boyfriend" this woman had ever had.

But nope, doesn't matter, she's sick of "waiting around" for me (to do something that she knew would never happen from the beginning) and so I'm doneskis. I predict she will get a nice fat lawyer chode BF that the friends can approve of because he is not scumbag, within two months. Had fun with the bad boy, now time to chode up with the homogenous douche who will be monogamous (of course he will likely cheat on the side if he gets the opportunity but hey as long as it's ON THE DL no harm done I guess)

I guess it goes to show... you can't be half a gangster, nor can you be 87.5 percent of a gangster evidently. lol. Next experiment will be to see if I can get away with being 93.75 percent a gangster.

I talk about this shit all the time with the pimp "cop and blow" stuff... in this lifestyle, you have to be constantly copping new girls, because they are constantly blowing out. When it's the second stringers it's no big deal but of course sometimes the primary blows out and it's a tough one.

This is why the pimps say, "One is too close to none."

Because I have embraced this as a lifestyle hardcore, there will be zero interruption in my sex life, that's for goddamn sure, and hell, I've already got prospects for new GF... somebody who will actually appreciate me, ready to take the spot. Or I could just flow completely free for a while. The choice is mine.

Of course, we could argue that the lifestyle itself is what led to this current issue, but I'm an anomaly. Like I said in the video, for the vast majority of guys this would be like a guy starting lifting weights saying, "But I don't want to be as big as Arnold Schwarzenneger."

Yeah, ok, why don't we see if you can lift the 10lb dumbells first, then cross that bridge when we come to it, mmmmmkay?

So in summation, understand that the only way to become consistently good at cold approach pickup is to view it not as a set of tactics but as a LIFESTYLE that must be embraced. There is no other option.

GET MORE GIRLS.

Now I'm off to do just that at what is possibly the gayest event of the century haha. I'll be back later tonight to check the comments.

-jeffy

PS. GET MORE GIRLS OP.
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#1
EnVee

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yay for jeffrey.
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Kash.TO

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 Awesome article!
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justindark

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 Get more girls.
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Johnny Depp

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Jeff, do you think there may be a possibility there are people out there who do NOT want this as a lifestyle?
Do you think they may still want to have sex and/or girlfriends?
I don't see why everyone should consider pickup to be their lifestyle.
The problem with your position is that guys who go out every day as a lifestyle don't actually need your advice.
Or look at it from another angle: your problems with, say, personal finance, probably sound just as dumb to a professional.
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#5
jlaix

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 It doesn't matter if you want it or not... in order to get good at cold approach pickup, it must be adopted as a lifestyle for at least a period of time. That's the bottom line. But that was all explained in the video, which tells me you didn't even watch it, and as such your opinion is meaningless. There is no problem with my position. kthxbai
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#6

TheAnchorMan

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"If it was easy every one would be doing it"   

I have that problem escelating on day two's because I feel things are going well.    I need to be getting more numbers and day two's. 
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#7
FlaiR_pua

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 Yes, agree 100%. I've never seen someone good & consistent who didn't adopt this for at least 1 year as lifestyle. Approaching girls non stop is just not in your habit and it takes a lot of consistant pressure on yourself to not only become better by analyzing your "game", but pressure on always taking action even when you feel fear; and many guys fail at this for not changing their lifestyle so that pick-up can be integrated with their other activities. No wonder 95% of guys simply don't get good..everyone's looking for the most easiest way out. Minimize effort and maximize the result. NO. Create a lifestyle that enables you to do this, if you want to bang hot chicks, and the universe will reward after consistant action ;)
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AndyDufresne

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 "Most sticking points take care of themselves when you go out" is the motto I pimp by.
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#9

JohnnyCanada

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Good video!

The ability to meet new girls at will is one of the most valuable things a young man in todays world can have going for him. How many guys have been destroyed by one girl? then trying to look for quick solutions and tactics to get her back?

Another example: Lets say youre new to the game or maybe even just moved to a new city and the slate is clean, no girls at all in your life, no numbers in your phone. Then you meet one girl who you really like, if you don't live the lifestyle Jeffy is talking about, you will naturally analyze every text she sends you, you will get anxious when she doesn't respond, you will fear losing her even though you haven't even "got" her yet. This doesn't sound very fun to me, this is torture, why do this to yourself when there is clearly a better way that makes sense?

Abundance=Freedom=more good times. There is also a deeper level to where you're not even relying on girls to fill these voids in your social life. You need to have good friends, other single buddies you can hang and drink with so when that girl flakes on you and you have no back-ups, you can still go out and have fun with your friends and even meet new girls because you have that player mindset and skillset.
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Amazing1985

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Thank you, kind sir.  That was very informative.
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#11

Sick-Cunt

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Jeffy mate. What about hotseat? Would be completely in for a Vancouver hotseat event
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#12

Full_intent~

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 Jeff you are becoming more into yourself, fucking icy, cool, and not giving a fuck, but also chill, relaxed normal. I think that video with todd and this new one is showing how people change for the good and let their real personalities come out..
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#13

Ykmwr

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Get more girls OP...........fucking rocks!  Thanks Jeffy!

Jeff, the only thing I could ask of you at this point is:  Please have some kids, so that future generations will be blessed by more people of your kind.


Best to you!
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#14

Jimbiz

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I get it, I did this before and hopefully starting a new cycle of it, you build a harem and the girls fall for you more because you have that abundance frame going on, but if you switch to scarcity even slightly you're done. I can definitely relate to this. If you went after that one girl you'd be in scarcity and any girl that could be 'the one' gets put on a massive pedestal with all kinds of undue credit, and you behave I attractively and needy
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#15
Eunoia~

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Yeh I had a fuck buddy for 2 years never made her my 'girlfriend' kept gong out all the time and didn't really see her that much per week.
When people tell me they got a gf and stopped going out, now they are BACK! I switch off instantly.

Thanks Jeff for giving the reality check.
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#16

Macavity

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 Actually think this is a pretty damn good article. 
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#17

taipan

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Good article --

but It is one thing that Jeffy a player trolls on articles that are bullshit....
Another thing is  a Trolls thinking an article is bullshit when it is really not and then feeling encouraged by jeffy's video to post some bullshit reply hence lowering the value of a good article..

I trust jeffies judgment of what is a bad rsd post ... do I trust the general RSd audience to make sound judgment?
not a chance!!

Last thing we need is people with little experience feeling entitled to troll.
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#18

Elamanopiskelija

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Even when looking redundant, I think the most important point here is that actually there's no way around it, you are fooling yourself when you go into the relationship without having a nice "training" let's call it. When people seen by society as "players" or "bitches" go into a relationship they aren't taken seriously but the fact is they have much more authority on the matter and the relationship ens up being a real good one, when at least one of the two has this handled (usually is the girl, and she has to hide it because she is considered as a bitch).

I get exhausted trying to explain this basic thing to friends who totally commit to terrible relationships right from the start, but usually it's useless. It's a pity
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#19

SEAN PUA

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Hey Jeff, great to see a post from you on RSDN... Post more man, everytime I read or listen to your stuff, it's like some layer of chodeness i didnt even know about or forgot about comes off to reveal a more handsome, less of a chode version of me given im still a meta-morphsising chode in my process right now... call it whatever, i call that being truly inspired... and no one does that better then you on RSDN... no one... like i feel fucken embarassed about myself listening to you sometimes, and that's chanaged me a lot over time, first time i ever pulled and got number after number ever in my life a couple years back, was right after listening to you... i felt so fucken ashamed of how i was prior to that, i was like THIS IS HOW I GOTTA VIEW IT, FUCKEN UP IN THIER ASS< DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!!!!!!! but do it with elegance, of course :) but without remorse, and with strategies to stay on course :) be a playa and learn to fuck like a horse!!! yea!!!!! lmfao
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#20
Cat

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The craziest part of embracing the "lifestyle" is how normal it becomes.  You're walking around hitting on girls every weekend, banging your harem, new dates every week.  And you sorta take a second and it's like.. holy shit, this is "super weird behavior" for the average paerson.  

But it's not until you embrace that lifestyle and shit becomes supppper normal that all of this shit clicks HARD.  The reason that your skills blow up is because you're so fucking comfortable doing what most people think is ultra challenging: going out, meeting a new hottie, charming her tits off, and bringing her into your life. 

I will say this: this shit takes time.  

But the lifestyle is pretty sick.. :)
-Cat
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fanny45

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 I just love that gangsta rap beat...

I actually like more than ur video lol
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Dr Feelgood

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Awesome. Can you give us a link to that thread, for the purpose of entertainment?

Now let's go diss some newbies.
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#23
M.Legend

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 93.7 percent of a gangster, Jeffy you so funny.

But yea real shit if i want to acheive my goals I gotta do it. Adopt the lifestyle, thanks Jlaix.
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#24

shoed

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Fuck you Jeff.  Fuck you and your masculine logic that makes too much sense.  I am going out now.  I will return with a and plant my seed on her face.  
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#25
J Dilla R.I.P.

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 Wow!! That actually hit me hard, the whole lifestyle thing and what Cat said. 

Oh man, all this shit is super weird, I have to do this, I can't go back
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#26
Achilles~

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awesome vid. really clarified some ideas.

thanks mate!
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#27

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google
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Mark Francis

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 Whip my DICK OUT and  GET MORE GIRLS. Friken awesome.
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babylonAD

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 Yeah I totally agree, Brad is great looking
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Purexed

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i read the "SOCIALLY CONDITIONED NARRATIVE" in a durr voice lol
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#31

Vini

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 dude... a week in the game and had a 1,5 years girlfriend, hmmmm. gess he wasn't thaaat bad after all
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#32

D'Invilliers

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 Jeffy I love you man. I'm saving up for your bootcamp in june. 
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#33
seany

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Top Video mate. I like Jeff he's a sick and he roots heaps of moles, I wanna come to San Francisco and drop some presents off in the van! 
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#34

mcgunther26

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I recommend too living in the right area that gives you an endless string of options. Learning game and becoming a player will not work in the wrong area.
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#35

Guido789

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That was deep.
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ALGERIANO

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LOOOOOL  at  the beginning of the article, all this dudes on the front page, its a gay forum or what ? lol

JEFFY is the BOSS,
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#37

Rich~

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 maybe you need like a common sense FAQ back like they had on m.asf.  One thing they got right was making everyone read the guidelines thoroughly before they could post, and having a field-test culture.

then you can just have moderators point the durr questions to the durr-FAQ.  like "see point 7 in durr-FAQ." and close the thread.
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#38
MakeItHappen

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it's kind of ironic how jeffy always brings the sanity in this community of, let's face it, loads and loads of weirdos
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#39
Leo-~

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Woah i didn't know jeffy was still an instructor!
This is inspiring for the third age fans.
Thanks for keeping the hope alive!
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#40

Elamanopiskelija

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Madison* wrote:
 pimping aint easy but sombodys gotta do it
LOL

Somebody has to give action to those cunts that otherwise would be dry and unfertilized at home. Dry = sad
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#41
nestea

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jeffy u have the most direct and simplfied  pickup information out there. ilu
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#42

imBOOM

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 Cool and informative video. 
A bit of feedback, please stay a bit more on point next time. It seems like you did this on the fly, which you probably did. 
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#43

Ocean2

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Fingered some girl a while ago on the dancefloor while wearing a beastmode shirt :D The first time I watched the jeffy show when I was 100% chode I was intimidated by you, because I already KNEW the first few seconds that you where a lot better (I am still currently at step nr1  though, need to learn alot more!!). Then after watching more and more, suddenly I placed my ego aside and knew what to do: Change! (And keep changing!)

Moreeeee girlssss
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#44

TheFinisher

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 When  I first found RSD, Jeffy used to annoy the crap out of me. Well, not me, he annoyed the chode in me,

Nice article. Thanks Jeffy.
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#45
Frank128

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dude nice video, you saved me. I've been 9 month in the game, and I'm currently dating an 8, she's the best girl I've met in my entire life. I was planing to start a relationship with her, but you are right, I don't want to lose 1 year and a half of developing game to start from zero if a broke with this girl in the future.
Thank you man, you are a man !
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#46

Maddoxx

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Don't listen to that faggot Andy D. His idea of a pimp's lifestyle is to hit up all the trannys in boys town and pay them for sex.
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#47
SharkFinz

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Jeffy and all other instructors: could you please put a hyperlink under your videos like Julien does? It makes it easier to find the vid because I can't click on the videos on my mobile. Just a thought. Great stuff as usua.l Beastmode. Peace
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#48

Patrick.Bateman

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Awesome vid man. I totally agree with you on the player lifestyle topic. You´re either in or out and most people in the community are out, because I see alot of guys who don't have that burning desire to get good at this. Sometimes I ask myself why some guys take a bootcamp. Like its the magic pill thats makes you on top of your game only they forget that they have to keep it up. Being not doing. At least this is how I look at it.

Whats your opinion jeffy?
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#49
szaka67

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Jeff, some time ago you said tactics are like drawing lines on your fat belly and pretending it's a six pack.
Your game is drawing lines on a fat belly and pretending you have options for true love.
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#50
chiffonade

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not just a lifestyle a WAY OF LIFE.
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