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Hey gang, it's your boy Jeffy coming at you from my lovely home in San Francisco. Just ran the hotseat with Tyler here this past weekend and the turnout was epic, way more than I expected. Tyler also ran a free seminar on Sunday for hotseat attendees and from what I've heard it was so on point it was reeeediculous. Tyler will be traveling with me throughout the USA for this tour, doing the same seminar each Sunday and it will only get better I imagine. This is geared towards developing the newbie site that will help sort out what exactly the "fundamentals of RSD" are to someone just coming into this stuff. Anyway here are the remaining spots on the tour:

www.jeffyhotseat.com

United States:
October 8: Los Angeles
October 15: Chicago
October 22: New York City

Australia & New Zealand:
November 5: Auckland
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

I've been trying to improve the Hotseat at every stop, tighten it up, make it MORE effective, and each week I make a couple tweaks that improve it. In London, it was such a huge crowd, and I didn't have to run bootcamp that night, so I wanted to run it super long, longer in fact than it even needed to be to convey what we're trying to teach. This was a bit of a mistake for several reasons... first I think by the end (2AM) people were just checkig out mentally from information overload and fatigue, and secondly and more importantly, in order to pump myself up and keep myself going through the seminar I mentally put myself into a "FUCK YEAH LETS BE AWESOME" headspace. Again, huge crowd, all these people came out and I really wanted to put on a show for them with both guns blazing. 

The problem with this is that it made me come off as aggressive and full of myself. While that wasn't my intention at all, it sort of BECAME that. So to hear comments like that was quite a recalibration of why I'm doing this whole thing in the first place: to HELP PEOPLE learn about this. The hotseat program is not about "proof how awesome Jeffy is" but rather it's an exploration of the principles behind success in pickup and with women in general. I know on the forum I have this overbearing asshole persona but again that's just the forum (and with some of the shit that you read here can you really blame me?) and in reality the reason I continue to do this job year after year is because I have a passion for helping people, something I didn't feel I could accomplish working in the corporate world in some office.

Having said that, I went into the SF hotseat not as some Billy Badass but rather as a FULLY HUMBLE TEACHER who wants the attendees to understand and succeed. And I feel it was a lot more effective. So from now on, that's the mentality I'm bringing to this program. I'm sure there will be more lessons and my hotseat will continue to get tighter but this was a nice "return to center" if you will.

Anyways, this week I'm bringing you a video blog that I shot the night before the London program. In it, I discuss internet dating, the Jersey Shore, and the importance of ATTENTION TO DETAIL. I also play Buck Hunter. 



If you come see me speak at the Free Tour or whatever, you'll note that I make frequent reference to something I call "The Program," which is a collection of actions and behaviors executed on a consistent basis across a wide range of modalities, the aggregate of which act to result in the largest payoff for the least amount of effort. These are things I do on a daily/weekly/monthly basis, almost on autopilot. It's like an apparatus that I have set up and put into motion that produces consistently... if I keep it running. 

None of these actions by themselves really do that much. For example, I have a habit of getting the girl's number as early as possible in the interaction. Not because I'm like WOO HOO A FUCKIN NUMBER CLOSE BRO but rather because it is a hedge against the possibility that she may get pulled away or have to leave abruptly before I can pull her. Further, immediately upon getting the number, I automatically send her a text message, sometimes while I'm still in set with her lol. This gets her into that stage of the sales funnel IMMEDIATELY and ensures that I don't forget to do it later. 

There are also more broad-based behaviors and mindsets that come into play with "The Program," but each of these too only confer some small advantage to my "game" as a whole. It is the fact that I'm COVERING ALL BASES that makes my game tight. It's not only the little things... it's EVERYTHING. 

Of course, you've got to learn what all of those little things are first before you start executing them, and that can be daunting when you're at the beginning of the curve. And while the forums and all this can certainly be helpful, the best teacher is FIELD EXPERIENCE. You will learn more in one night than you will from a week of reading posts on the internet. So get out of the fuckin house and talk to some girls already. 

I'll be back next week with a fresh clip from the Free Tour in Germany. Until then... stay frosty.

-j

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PS: I mentioned it up top, but this bears repeating: Tyler is going to be on stage with me at all stops on the USA Free Tour and Hotseat as well as giving his special "Foundations: Reloaded" on Sunday. If you are a guy who's struggling to wrap his head around the fundamentals of the game, this would be an EXCELLENT time to attend an RSD program.  Learn more about the event here:

www.jeffyhotseat.com
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#1

mclovin007

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 sexy article. u  da man, im da man, we all da man
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lol@names. I have a regular I`ve been banging occasionally for 5 years and I don`t know her fucking name. I asked it the first time we met and it immediately vanished from my mind. Never got it back!
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 Big Bertha! PWHAHAHAHAHAHA.
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 Sick post, will practice the name thing more. 
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 i thought micro managing was bad
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Bombastic 2.0 wrote:
lol@names. I have a regular I`ve been banging occasionally for 5 years and I don`t know her fucking name. I asked it the first time we met and it immediately vanished from my mind. Never got it back!
medicine cabinet , magazines subscriptions, mail, compare driver licenses -- i was reading a Worst Case Scenario Handbook in book store lol
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The knife exercise at hotseat was fuckin bomb
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Awesome vid, Yo! ...Shirt is HELLA GAY too!!! Combination with the mullet and temporary tats PROVES looks don't matter!!
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Good post man I did notice you came off a bit  full of yourself in London but saw the humble side too , forgot the girls name last night very common will keep it in mind I always fucking forget there names!!
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which datingsite is recommended? q-pit or whats the bloody name?
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Kaladyn wrote:

Bombastic 2.0 wrote:
lol@names. I have a regular I`ve been banging occasionally for 5 years and I don`t know her fucking name. I asked it the first time we met and it immediately vanished from my mind. Never got it back!
medicine cabinet , magazines subscriptions, mail, compare driver licenses -- i was reading a Worst Case Scenario Handbook in book store lol
At this point I don`t want to know her name. If I can bang her for 10 years straight without knowing her name that will be the most awesome thing ever.
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besserwisser

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Jeffy, du hattest keinen Schmutz auf der Kamera lol.

And yes, I am in the 90%. Fuckkkkk.
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nestea

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good article and blog

when i decided to start using the girls name a lot back in the summer, its really elevated my game. that mixed with some solid eye contact and that fun/chill vibe is a deadly combo.
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Ooooh, Jeffy is showing his soft side.. *wipes away tear*

Seriously, I can confirm that your appearance when talking to you is not that PUA shithead superhero persona - it actually surprised me a bit..

"November Chode Sequence", that one would be awesome to learn for sure.

Is ATD something similiar to STD?
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haha you caught the sideways flying seagulls. The hotseat london was actually SO long jeff that i got admitted to hospital for a perianal abscess caused by sitting down for too long on the weekend. 11 hours. was it worth it though? ofcourse it facking was! unfortunatley i cant go out for at least 2 weeks though ;(
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Okay than can you please write somewhere the 100 things to integrate into your personality to get to the 100% good game, please? Or is it something you ACTUALLY CAN learn automatically "in the field"? How do you learn than, try something random through your creativity and see what happens? That's a rough way.

Exucse me for those dumb questions Jeff but I still feel that after 10+ years of professional experience we still didn't come up with something solid that is not "work in progress… repeat her name often for instance"
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 Hey Jeffy, I'm goin to the Chicago hotseat and you can run that shit all night long Tony Robbin's Style and I guarantee I'll stay focused and pumped!
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 Jefffyy Jeffyfyfy Jfeffyfyfy ha ha ha thx bro
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good article man!
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ATTENTION TO DETAIL!

Nice
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 you should have your own reality show 

just about your everday life 
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 Awesome jeffy. Like the tone of this article. More like that of your articles of old with more logical analysis and breakdown. Keep up the good work mate, dont get disheartened about the reviews, just pick yourself up and keep your arse moving and plow that shit to the ground. It happens when you beast alot that it is harder to take a step back and analyse and break down what you are doing, epic with getting girls but unconscious competence means sometimes its harder to consciously relate it to the crowd, who do not get it on an instinctual level like you. I have found being out every night has turned me into a retard, and fucked up my work ethic, cos all I wanna do is beast and fuck, and I now have the attention span of a knat - kinda like what tyler was saying about st vs lt mating.
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Awesome for you or awesome to tell others and your ego? Be fair to yourself, it can avoid something bad:)
Bombastic 2.0 wrote:

Kaladyn wrote:

Bombastic 2.0 wrote:
lol@names. I have a regular I`ve been banging occasionally for 5 years and I don`t know her fucking name. I asked it the first time we met and it immediately vanished from my mind. Never got it back!
medicine cabinet , magazines subscriptions, mail, compare driver licenses -- i was reading a Worst Case Scenario Handbook in book store lol
At this point I don`t want to know her name. If I can bang her for 10 years straight without knowing her name that will be the most awesome thing ever.
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love the honesty, jeff. 

I like "devotion to detail" and "subtle is significant" catchphrases more because they alliterate :p
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Bombastic 2.0

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That part was a joke, dude.
Michael111 wrote:
Awesome for you or awesome to tell others and your ego? Be fair to yourself, it can avoid something bad:)
At this point I don`t want to know her name. If I can bang her for 10 years straight without knowing her name that will be the most awesome thing ever.


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I'm lost, soooooo do you think the November Chode Sequence works pretty well?  I've been using it and getting pretty consistent results.
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 Amazing shirt! Beasting!!!!!!
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Its interesting, the whole dotting the i's and crossing the t's makes me realise this process of learning game will take AGES. 
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you seem more like an asshole on the forums, than in real life hahahah. True story ;)
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Shooting moose with a shotgun? Seriously, don't try that at home.

The hotseat is good value for money. I'd pay $300 just to see the "no violence" clip. I guess the London event was an exception because in Stockholm Jeffy was a very humble (and completely insane) teacher.

And there is an endless going back and forth between focusing on the bigger, more important, things and the little details (remember the 25 points list). This goes for the community as well as for the individual. No paradox, some little things will come automatically with the big ones and some will not so you have to keep going back to them conciously to internalize them.
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Great video!  Missed the hotseat, but the free workshop was brilliant, keep up the material!
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The hotseat is absolutly worth the money. Jeffy is legit and I learnt a shit load from the material, had sex with a cute dutch chick immediatly after attending the amsterdam program.. I also like the back ground in the article video, it looks like it might be the view from somekind of nice villa.
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That is now my new theme tune,,,,Dun dun da dun dun da.    Dun dun da dun dun da.    puts me back in the mood. Life is sweet. Dun dun da dun dun da JEFFY
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NOVEMBER CHODE SEQUENCE LOL
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 Hey Jeff, I was at the London Hotseat (and the freetour) and thought they were both excellent - yeah, at points you seemed to get carried away with yourself but it's up to the audience to know when it's just the excitement of putting on a show or whatever... I thought it conveyed the attutude that is necessary to succeed at this game so it was not a problem, and it was all very funny and entertaining anyway!

AND, seeing all these video examples is a big piece missing from bootcamps - just seeing what it looks like in real life is so important.

For what it's worth, I don't think the exercises at the end were necessary, it's not a bootcamp, we don't need hands on and nothing life chaging will happen in those last few minutes of exercises - a Q&A might have been more useful? (it also meant I had to converse with a total douche who was passed-out for 3/4 of your seminar because he was high on GHB - I kid you not)

Anyway, I plan to come out to SF and do a bootcamp wih you, I need more eperience but just need to get a few things handled here before my next big adventure!

Anyway, thanks for a great talk, very inspiring and I wish it could go on every day!

Gift, UK
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 The mulet Ooooooh the mulet!!! How gloriously it moves in the wind.


That's all I noticed in the video smile
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 btw love how you just stole tylers opener. "Heey this is TYLER with RSD AKA owen" and turned it into this jeff aka jeffy. haha :p
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cool article
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