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 I’m an old-ass man.

I just celebrated my 34th birthday with a trip to the wine country, an activity I once deemed to be exclusively the prerogative of old, white, yuppified Pelosi-ass motherfuckers. Before long, I will be wearing khakis and a sweater tied around my neck. With a mullet of course, but khakis nonetheless.

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With advanced age come several perks, however. Foremost among these is a rock solid sense of identity that gives rise to a genuine core confidence. “I hold these truths to be self-evident.” Then there’s the inevitable wisdom that comes from experience. “Good game,” as it were, has become a simple matter of execution. The mystique has gone out of it and everything has been internalized, simplified and streamlined. I have nothing left to prove, not to other people and more importantly, not to myself.

My focus has shifted. I no longer care about being perceived as the “best pickup artist.” I honestly couldn’t give a fuck less about that shit if I tried. All I care about these days is being the best TEACHER of these skills that I possibly can. I really don’t care about the money, I don’t care about the fame, I care about the RESULTS, point blank period.

I’ve been an instructor with RSD for seven years now. This is my sole job. This isn’t a hobby to me… this is my profession and I take it about as seriously as a heart attack. If I have a night on program where I feel I didn’t do every single thing in my power to get the student the maximum result possible, I will literally have nightmares about it, about what I could have done differently, where I’m running around the club in Hell with a bomb strapped to my chest that’s going to explode if I don’t get the guy laid. Seriously.

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I don’t like nightmares yo. Shit ain’t cool. So it pretty much goes without saying that every single weekend I’m pushing the envelope, tweaking my Bootcamp curriculum to really make it the best, most effective program of its kind in the world. Over the course of those seven years I think I’ve done a pretty good job and the monsters I’m creating out there bear that out. I’m getting guys laid 62% of the time on program, but more importantly these fellows are experiencing long-term success that brings a manly tear to my eye. Your success is my success, and I really do live vicariously through the achievements of my students. I’m just an old man with a girlfriend now, getting fucking couples' massages in Napa Valley, so to see that next generation take the principles we bled to develop and run with them, taking them to a whole ‘nother level, that’s the greatest reward I could ask for.

Nevertheless I still felt there were holes in my Bootcamp. But in the past several months I have incorporated some new technology that has taken the program to the next level and brought it closer to “airtight” than it’s ever been.

On program I strive to do three things: Inspire, Push, and provide a surgically precise level of Critical Feedback.

Inspiration refers to the live demonstration of pickup skills by the instructor on Bootcamp, and there is a lot of it... if I'm not careful, I can end up doing too much demo lol. This live demonstration is an absolute necessity, as the student needs to be able to feel the shifts in the emotional tenor of an interaction in real time, in set. Not to mention the fact that it's my favorite part of the program and basically the REASON I DO THIS JOB IN THE FIRST PLACE. 

But historically it has also had its limitations. Often the student will be unable to hear exactly what is being said in the club environment. So, to this essential component of Bootcamp, I have now added several hours of recorded infield footage which I view together with the students during the seminar portions. With the footage, you’ve got crystal clear audio… you’re basically a fly on the wall, privy to everything that’s being said and every nuance as I stop frequently to emphasize various points. And it’s not just footage of me; I’ve got tape of every instructor in the company. I think this is so valuable because you get to see that while each instructor brings their own personal style to the table, we are all executing the same basic underlying principles. This in turn gives you a much better understanding of how to integrate these principles into your own game with your own unique style. Over the weekend I probably show about 4 hours total of infield footage.

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Then there’s Pushing. Not much to be said here. On program we emphasize “personal responsibility,” encouraging guys to pick their own sets and go of their own accord as much as possible, since after Bootcamp Jeffy isn’t gonna be there to push them. However, if at any time the student isn’t taking action, they’re getting a foot up the ass. The low 3 to 1 student to instructor ratio (the lowest in the industry) allows this; always has, always will. In many ways, this has traditionally been the easiest element of Bootcamp for me as an instructor. Anybody can shove dudes into set. But of course in seven years I’ve also come up with all sorts of devious ways to get guys to act without them even realizing they’re being pushed. So this was pretty much dialed.

But the third element still kind of stymied me. Providing that Critical Feedback. This is something that I’ve always prided myself on: the ability to take stock of where a guy is and address not only those things that he can correct immediately in field to get an instant improvement, but also those that will require a more concerted effort after the program ends to bring into alignment. Further, as an instructor I have to convey this information in a way that the student will be able to easily understand. The “holes” in this area were similar to the challenges presented in the Inspiration area… despite my best efforts I was simply not able to hear everything that the student was saying in set, and had to rely largely on visual cues, limited observation of his verbals through winging (during which attention is divided) and sparse feedback from women in the club.

Now, that’s changed. These days, as soon as we hit the field on the first night, the students are fitted with wireless microphones, which transmit directly into a discreet headphone sitting comfortably in my left ear. I literally have superhuman hearing now. NOTHING escapes my detection. I joke with Tyler that I feel like God… regardless of where I am in the venue, I hear EVERY detail of what is being said in every interaction. It’s pretty crazy, as I can wing the student and know details about the girls and the interaction before I even rock up. This may be too much power for one man, haha.

All students are mic’ed, and the assistants and I switch up receivers throughout the night to get a full team assessment. The following day before we meet the students, my team and I do a differential diagnosis on a whiteboard, like Dr. House MD, based on the information gleaned from the previous night. This gives us precision accuracy when we meet with the students and give them their points to work on going in to the second night of program.

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It only gets better from there. On Saturday, they are mic’ed up again, but this time we film them with our high-definition hidden camera rig. The night proceeds as any normal Seduction Saturday on Bootcamp… and it’s all captured on tape. We then sit down together on Sunday and watch their footage together as I provide an exhaustive breakdown of their performance. This has been an earth-shattering development in terms of getting those sweet, sweet results. Because it’s one thing for me to give a guy abstract criticism of his behaviors and interactions, and quite another for me to provide stark, concrete examples of what I am talking about as he watches himself on screen. It’s a quantum leap and it helps crystallize the major lessons of the bootcamp and give the student the reins so he can go forward after the program and be in complete control of his development.

Like I said, I’ve only implemented this stuff recently, and the effects are very encouraging. This is the future of Bootcamp and I’m excited as hell to see where it takes us. SWEET DREAMS 2010.

xoxo,

-j

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Abower

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You're a killer. You kill chodes for a living.
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do you bring the bong too? ;-P

sounds fucking awesome, for fucks sake students getting MIC'ED UP??!! how dedicated is that. If it isnt yet, please make that standard procedure on any bootcamp.

Great stuff
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You plan to keep teach until??? 
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Oh fuck yes SIGN ME UP!!! i got nothin but deep love and appreciation for the shit you guys have given us as your students bro you're sick as fuck!!!
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wtf man, miced up and videos? sounds cool, but if i take a bootcamp with you i beter not get a fucked up nickname like O' Grimlin, lol
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 Very happy to see new ideas implemented...
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Solid read. CHeers Jeffy!
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That's not a bong, it's an Erlenmeyer flask. The photograph was taken in my laboratory. 
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Well you get what you pay for. This is a 3-on-1 max ratio bootcamp so we are able to give that extremely high level of attention. Back in the day when we were running around with 15 students, the infield was basically a joke and our ability to do individual analysis was severely limited. I find it far more rewarding to do 12 students spread out over several weekends as opposed to traveling around and doing one program a month by cramming in 10-25 guys at once. It would be easier from a "work" perspective but I just wouldn't want to do it. Not willing to compromise the program quality. 
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 That marilyn manson video is fucked. Talk about not caring what people think..
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Your fucking humor motivates me. I'm such a little bitch.
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I like the RSD zombie woman in the first picture. Photo Cho Ping!
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 Do you do bootcamps in australia? Im gona save some coin and come to the states to do one if I have to!
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Are you gonna upload any of those infield vids? That would help a lot, but on the other hand, that's your bread and butter...
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Awesome Jeffy, my next BC will be with you when I can get around to it.
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Impressive. I must take bootcamp soon.

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If you buy khakis, make sure to get the Dockers nanotechnology, teflon-coated ones for maximum stain resistance. Pleated, of course.
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 I got shivers reading this.null
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I typically wouldn't even post this ("oh great more bootcamp marketing") but I am so excited about this new techie stuff I can't contain it... like a kid with new toys on Christmas. So this is coming from a place of genuinely wanting people to know about this stuff. It really is amazing, cause after 7 years I thought I couldn't make the program any better and then this comes along and BAM it like doubles the effectiveness.

Although I must say, I'm sort of glad I didn't start doing this from the beginning because those seven years doing it without the A/V stuff forced me to absolutely perfect all the other channels first. Then you add the video to that foundation and it's crazy what can be accomplished.
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How's it feel being a "one woman" man?
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Props for being innovative.

For what it's worth:
I was at the summit and saw all the videos and the ones that I thought were the most useful were the ones where the instructor would show a short clip demonstrating something specific vs. the longer clips that were more general. 
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I'm about to turn 34 this coming March, so I guess that makes me an old-ass man too.

Except I don't have game. I don't have a rock solid sense of identity. Instead I have a knawing ache that won't go away however much money or time I throw at it. I'm a coward through and through so to read that one of the best out there considers himself old at my age, makes me question again why I am even bothering now.

I  should have nothing to prove to anyone or myself? Nothing could be further from the truth. I want to prove myself to all my friends who have laughed at me whenever I have attempted to change my life for the better and failed. I want to prove myself to all the girls I've loved who chose someone else over me, to the ones who got away because of my being a pussy, to the ones I couldn't get over my fear of approaching or the ones I just didn't know what to say to. I want to prove to myself that maybe I haven't wasted every opportunity I've had up to this point in my life and that maybe there is still something to look forward to even though I am now "too old".

I guess it's time for me to step aside and let the "next generation" have a crack at it - hopefully they'll do it and do it well.

Gift
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Papa should invest in bullet time mode for the instructors as well shades
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Cool post, but you forgot to add "MOTHERFUCKER!!!!!!!" after "point blank period". 
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"With advanced age come several perks, however. Foremost among these is a rock solid sense of identity that gives rise to a genuine core confidence. “I hold these truths to be self-evident.”

fucken, i love that
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My bootcamp with Brad in Septempber '09 was amazing. I learned an incredible amount over the span of 3 days. Initially, I was skeptical about the cost, but RSD does not charge enough. Changing your life around in one weekend is priceless.

Bootcamp sounds exponentially improved! I cannot wait to take a bootcamp with you Jeffy. After I gather some funds and get the hell out of college, I'm taking  another bootcamp. Feels good to be back in the game.
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-Gift- wrote:
I'm about to turn 34 this coming March, so I guess that makes me an old-ass man too.

 to read that one of the best out there considers himself old at my age, makes me question again why I am even bothering now.

Uh, yeah.

I was being "tongue-in-cheek."

If that's the way you interpreted it, well... I guess I am glad I could help you with your rationalizations?

EDIT: PM sent... check your inbox.
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jlaix wrote:

-Gift- wrote:
I'm about to turn 34 this coming March, so I guess that makes me an old-ass man too.

 to read that one of the best out there considers himself old at my age, makes me question again why I am even bothering now.

Uh, yeah.

I was being "tongue-in-cheek."

If you interpreted it as me being serious, well... I guess I am glad I could help you with your rationalizations?
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Awesome, man. If I ever have the money to take a bootcamp (after paying off my already epic college-debt), I want to take one with you. 
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yeah dude. your still a fuckin whack job to me.  
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ninja08 wrote:
yeah dude. your still a fuckin whack job to me.  
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I met Jeff on the Free Tour when he was with Ciaran in Gainesville, FL in '08.

He spent a lot of time after the presentation just kickin it but answering questions, convinced me to buy one of the dvd programs. 

I realized if he took that much effort on a free tour, the BC would be awesome.  I've already put down my deposit and hope to take one with Brad here in Chicago when I come up with the balance.

Keep up the good work, RSD.
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 thats some secret agent shit right there
sick erlenmeyer flask by the way
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Ninja got pwned.

I'm glad you share my frustration Jeff.

Between the your/you're fiasco and the their, there and they're situation my amazement of the American school system is never ending.

Then again I'm assuming that everyone that has the Internet has graduated elementary school.
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Hah, that's pretty cool.  For some reason I love seeing innovation of all kind.   And innovation for a good purpose is even cooler.  People will say what they say but you guys are super competetive.  If I take a bootcamp I'm flying out to see you, and you really should push to make this SOP.

That shoop made me fuckin grin too, lol.  So hilariously exaggerated.
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#36

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Did you say MICd UP? MICd? .... UP?

This is an INSANE development.

You the only RSD instructor doing this?
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HD video technology will get you laid.  Plain and simple.
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Alex~ MicD us up on the Sunday for daygame in the bookstore - awesome awesome awesome! Secret agent shit!
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Next year they will also have Dolby Surround microphones
Northern wrote:
HD video technology will get you laid.  Plain and simple.
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snowdog wrote:
Next year they will also have Dolby Surround microphones

Actually, it's already pretty damn close. I'm using a $650 microphone. 
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so. i made recently my international visa credit card but i'm having some doubts about payment forms.. (i already send several mails and i'm tired of keep trying to solve this)...

And i really want to see if this powerfull mic will work when u hear sets in portuguese

ha :D

Cheers Jeffy,

I'm wanting to do a BC with u guys, but my doubts about payments forms dont disapear.

L.T from salvador - bahia - brazil (my city *salvador* has disapeared from BC list too!)
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wow, your micing it up and taping them!! 

this is hands down the sickest, best-value, most microscpopic bootcamp out there

good shit!!
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-Gift- wrote:
I'm about to turn 34 this coming March, so I guess that makes me an old-ass man too.

Except I don't have game. I don't have a rock solid sense of identity. Instead I have a knawing ache that won't go away however much money or time I throw at it. I'm a coward through and through so to read that one of the best out there considers himself old at my age, makes me question again why I am even bothering now.

I  should have nothing to prove to anyone or myself? Nothing could be further from the truth. I want to prove myself to all my friends who have laughed at me whenever I have attempted to change my life for the better and failed. I want to prove myself to all the girls I've loved who chose someone else over me, to the ones who got away because of my being a pussy, to the ones I couldn't get over my fear of approaching or the ones I just didn't know what to say to. I want to prove to myself that maybe I haven't wasted every opportunity I've had up to this point in my life and that maybe there is still something to look forward to even though I am now "too old".

I guess it's time for me to step aside and let the "next generation" have a crack at it - hopefully they'll do it and do it well.

Gift
Dude, seriously you need to take total responsibility for your life. Whatever has happened or whichever is the condition you´re in, you need to send it all away, all that is in THE PAST  which is unimportant, it is just a reference for you, but IT´S NOT WHAT YOU ARE , all that matters is what you do NOW.

So don´t blame other people for "bringing you down" if you interpret things in this kind of way, dude you need to re read what you posted and realize that you need to step out of your chode reality. Everyone has their own problems, the difference is how you handle them. It doesn´t matter if Jeffy said that he´s 65 years old and hes the super top pua of the universe, and that makes you feel bad. Honestly, from a constructive perspective, i wanted to reply to you that you need to find your balls again and use them, i don´t want to be sarcastic or ofensive in any way, i just want to tell you that clearly, you REALLY NEED THIS. Stop making excuses, just start today. You won´t change overnight, but everyone who is in this needs to make  at least a little step forward everyday. IF YOU´RE NOT MOVING FORWARD, YOU´RE GOING BACKWARDS. So again, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN LIFE AND GET RID OF YOUR RATIONALIZATIONS AND LIMITING BELIEFS, all the help you need is available here, shit, if you want , you can contact me and we can help each other dude.

Really i don´t like to read this kind of shit, because is a clear sign that you´re not getting it, yet.

So 1st scratch all your chode mindset, is not even necessary to build up a super player mentality right away, just get rid of the negative beliefs and thoughts that you´re having right now, leave your head blank ( kiss your EGO goodbye) and then you can ask help here, get a program, a bootcamp, i don´t know whatever you want to start with. I would probably start getting "Foundations" or something like that, and you can share here your experience during your self actualization.

PM me if you want.

P.S : For fuck sakes , I JUST LIVED A FUCKING EARTHQUAKE, DROVE ALL NIGHT LONG, GRABBED MY FAMILY AND WAITED TILL SUNRISE, but i´m still writting to you right now, i´m telling you this not to play the victim, just to make the point that whichever your condition is, you have to suck it up and STEP UP.

Take care
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Myself or someone else will call you about this tomorrow. Looks like we spoke back in 2008, but I haven't seen any correspondence from you recently, so either 1) the emails are going to my colleague, or 2) they're inadvertently being diverted to spam folder. Regardless, we'll be in touch this week.
~cavalheiro wrote:
so. i made recently my international visa credit card but i'm having some doubts about payment forms.. (i already send several mails and i'm tired of keep trying to solve this)...

And i really want to see if this powerfull mic will work when u hear sets in portuguese

ha :D

Cheers Jeffy,

I'm wanting to do a BC with u guys, but my doubts about payments forms dont disapear.

L.T from salvador - bahia - brazil (my city *salvador* has disapeared from BC list too!)
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Yep, is right here:

" Brian Hershman - Real Social Dynamics <brian@realsocialdynamics.com> ocultar detalhes 27/10/08
para Lucas Tiago <"xxxx"@gmail.com>
data 27/10/2008 17:59
assunto RE: Rio lead

Hey Lucas,

If you want us to come to Brazil anytime then all we need is one deposit. If you put down a deposit we will try to coordinate with your schedule and send an instructor down there."
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Reasons like this I'll be travelling to San Fran to take a bootcamp.
Weird that just yesterday I set the goal of doing a bootcamp specifically with you.
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haha that's an awesome response to ninja08! are any of you guys' giving bootcamps in eastern canada  anytime soon?
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With a two-way comm, students can be told to escalate on command. Then take it away the next night; they fly solo.
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That picture is pure gold. 
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Hey Jeffy,..just tryna think what I am to say here lol, well I know you don't really care about money all that much..and neither do I, to a certain degree. What I want is help, I been screwed over a bit by people but I am RESPONSIBLE to make up for it. Not you jeffy just saying, maybe i'm crazy. I would be taking the program to help me be more human, i'm not as fucked up as you may think if you read my ..anything I wrote..I dunno, Wouldn't attack you..not worried. I'm looking for a yes to see if it's safe or not. Could you help me out, my expectations would be modest..but I'm not just looking for a piece of meat and run away here. Serious.
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