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Hey now... it's your boy Jeffy here.

If you've followed Real Social Dynamics for any length of time, you know that not only are we about getting guys the results they want with women FAST, but we also bring a heavy dose of overall self-improvement to the equation. The thing is, if you have excellence as your mindset, then whatever you want in your life, you're going to have that. And that's why we have that emphasis on self-actualization in general.

To that end, in recent years I've become somewhat of a fitness freak. Back in 2006, I realized that my "moobs" (a portmanteau of "man" and "boobs" FYI) were becoming so pendulous and hefty that they would jiggle like Santa's proverbial "bowl full of jelly" each time I mounted a set of stairs.

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Enough was enough. I decided that it was high time that this sorry state of affairs was brought to an end. And so "The Summer of Ripped Abs" was born.

Over the course of that fateful summer, I read all I could about fitness and so forth, diligently applying what I learned day in and day out in the gym. The results were dramatic. In a matter of months, I had accomplished what I had set out to do: attain a midsection reminiscent of a tray of friggin' ice cubes. BOOM.

Fast forward to today. I'm still in the gym, plugging away, continually learning and improving my physique little by little. The thing is, these days the results are not as dramatic from day to day. In fact, sometimes it can seem like I'm doing all this work and not really making any progress whatsoever.

This is the kind of thing that can make a guy just quit completely. Where it's seemingly become a routine for the sake of routine, with no visible progress.

Don't worry though, I'm not about to revert to the Pillsbury Hoe-Boy on your ass.

That's because this whole time, I've been taking meticulous measurements and recording my progress week to week. Each Monday, not only do I weigh myself, but I also take my body fat percentage using a set of calipers, take a tape measure to various areas of my body, and take a photograph for posterity. This way, I know for SURE that I am actually making progress, even if that progress is small and incremental.

For example, in the last month, both my body weight and fat percentage have fluctuated slightly up and down, but because my records are so meticulous, I can see that regardless of this my lean body mass has been steadily increasing. At the same time, the amount of body fat I carry has steadily dropped, even if by only a fraction of a pound per week.

So let's get down to brass tacks. "How does this relate to getting laid, Jeff? I'm not here to listen to you talk about your abs bro."

Glad you asked. The point I'm stressing here is the importance of consistently recording your progress as you endeavor to learn a new skill set.

This year, I've traveled the globe giving free talks on my vaunted "Jeffy Freedom Tour." In every speech, I ask the audience to raise their hands if they are consistently writing field reports about their nights out.

In every city, I'm shocked at how few guys raise their hands.

I am absolutely convinced that one of the reasons that I got good at picking up women as quickly as I did was the fact that I would ALWAYS write up a report after a night out.

I went to university for English Literature. I'm an English Lit chode. So initially, when I got into this community and started doing this stuff, I saw it as an outlet for my writing. Each and every night, I'd come home and write up that report. The net effect? I basically have a diary outlining every single thing I did, in excruciating detail, for a period of three years. That's something like 2000 posts (I could write a book... and actually, I am. It's going to be SICK, so keep an eye out for that in the near future).

I want you to read this article and get INSPIRED to get off your ass and write up some reports of your own, because this can really take your game to the next level. Start this process and before you know it, you'll be hearing me shout, "YOU'RE THE MAN NOW DOGG!" in a Scottish accent.



First, when you write a field report, it "lets you see the movie twice," as my friend Ozzie says. Often times, we go out and the next day, we just have a hazy recollection. Either it was "a good night" or a "not so good night." When you actually sit down and take the time to reconstruct the events, however, a lot of those details spring back into sharp focus. "So then I was talking to her and... OH right that's when she said THIS, and I responded with THAT..."

Frequently, it's during this process that you'll have those epiphanies and all of a sudden, you know EXACTLY where you lost the set, and it's practically guaranteed that you'll never make that mistake again. Hindsight is 20/20... but only if you actually take the time to look back.

If you're just plugging along, oblivious, there's no way to really tell on a day-to-day basis if you're actually making progress, because your vision is myopic... you're too close to the action. Going back to the fitness example, if I were to simply look in the mirror and try to determine what progress I was making from that alone, I wouldn't see anything really. It'd be like trying to watch grass grow.

That's why keeping track of your progress is so important. By writing reports, you can actually look back and see how far you've come. Furthermore, you can actually see if the way you're currently doing things is actually having an effect! If it's not, then change your approach. There's that old Albert Einstein quote, "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result." It's the man who's willing to crucify himself relentlessly who becomes successful.

Another great thing about writing field reports and posting them onto RSD Nation is that you will get feedback, from some of the top guys in the world. Now look: a lot of the time, the feedback and criticism you get from a public forum is a mixed bag. I acknowledge that. But you learn who to trust, and once you've got that dialed, that feedback is PURE GOLD. When I was coming up in the game, I'd post up everything, warts and all (ok bad STD pun), and just sit back, ready to take the criticism. A lot of times, it was stuff that I didn't want to hear, but at the end of the day, I was willing to accept the wisdom of guys who were more experienced than me, and I can't begin to tell you how valuable that was. It literally shaved years off of my learning curve.

But wait, there's more! Yet ANOTHER benefit of writing field reports is that it gives you "street cred" in the community. From time to time, you'll see some guy with a history of like five posts put up a thread entitled, "Looking for Wings in the LA Area... EXPERIENCED ONLY PLEASE."

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Now, think about this. This is some random dude. I can see the "experienced" guys sitting at home, reading the forum and they come across this. "Oh my god!" he exclaims to his friend, "Look at this! This random dude wants to roll with us! YEAH WOOO HOOOO AWESOME!! Let's go man!"

Uhh... yeah, right.

When I started posting back in the day, it was my field reports that attracted wings to ME. I didn't have to seek them out. it just sort of happened. I developed a bit of a "cult following" so to speak, and when Tyler and Papa came through San Francisco on their first world tour, they said, "Okay, who is a big name in SF? This guy jlaix seems pretty wild, let's see what this guy is all about."

The rest, as they say, is history.

With all these benefits, it boggles my mind as to why EVERYBODY isn't writing field reports.

And do you know what the best part about it is?

IT'S TOTALLY FREE!

It costs you absolutely nothing to write a field report, except for the time it takes for you to actually put it together. But in my opinion, that cost is negligible when you weigh it against the myriad benefits.

"But Jeffy," you whine, "I'm just not a very good writer!"

Look dude, I'm not saying you have to be Shakespeare here. Even if your spelling is atrocious and your grammar sucks, it's IRRELEVANT (my favorite word in the English language). You're not competing for the Pulitzer Prize. At the end of the day, you're writing this stuff for YOU. And if you're NOT doing it at all, then I gotta tell you, you are doing yourself a serious disservice.

One of the toughest things as a writer is sitting down in front of that blank page and getting those first few words out. It's scary.

But you're not a punk, are you?

No, you're not.

So sit down, sack up, and start pumping out those field reports. And watch your game progress faster than you ever thought it would.

You can thank me later.

-jlaix
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#1
Dystincsion

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Respect.


Rock on...
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#2
IvánPérez

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Sick article, I like your style.
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goldenbird

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allright, good post, I am up for this fucking challenge! 
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#4
avosoK

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Lol its funny because i decided yesterday to keep my journal recorded and opened a thread about it.

This article motivated the shit out of me and i cant wait to go out for the next few months and then come back and see the progress i have done.

Respect Jeff.devil
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Zappa

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jeff-master-system you're right. i'm gonna do this. peace
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#6

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Thanks for this man, I have been going out so regularly though that I have forgotten about writing field reports.  I have a journal though and I'm definitely going to write up some more and keep my FRs in my journal too.
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Anton_K

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Thanks Jeffy , I started writing a diary with field report section.

Also I'd recommand people to have a diary to improve on other areas of life too , as it helps greatly in focusing on objectives.
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#8

jthunder

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Awesome. I've been reading RSD forum and going out regularly since 2007 and have never written a field report here. Your article was directed straight at me. I'm going to start posting reports and see how it helps my game. Thanks dude.
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Jack-Stripper

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Cold hard fact.  I did this shit, and I can assure everyone that it works. Write your fieldies guys, makes you review your night like a propper critic. Makes you fix shit like a mechanic on crack. Magic stuff.
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Firewater

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Count me in for writing a field report every night I go out and make significant progress or significant regress.
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#11
Nimbus

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no doubt jeff.
I write the field report everytime I get home.
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Iceman_B

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Writing a field report asap after a night out also has the added effect of you not trying to remember everything into the details, I believe that would drive you insane at some point.
If you write it up, you can always look at it a little later on. The process of putting your words down also has its effect, as Jeffy said.
Thanks for reminding me that I'm doing these writeups for myself. Getting feedback from "guys who know what they are doing  is just kickass, I had almost forgotten it.
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Drama

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Awesome advice. I used to type up all my field reports (well, they used to be a drunk haze), and then I got lazy.  I will make sure to take your advice to heart.  I love the analogy with physcial fitness - I do the same thing, every Monday morning at 5:30 a.m.

I would have given up a long time ago on getting ripped if I didn't take the time to meticulously track my progress with measurements (BF, MyoTape, Photos, and workout logs). 

Respect
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wakeboardr

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I still do write all my FR's. Everytime I go back ot read them I can picture the whole night
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Nova`

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You forgot to mention reading other people's reports and giving feedback is very important too.. Just reading a few other people's latest FR's when I have 20 min to kill is invaluable
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Ethel

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Will do Jeff
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Alex~

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sick info, im learning shitloads from the way you write as well.

Alexander~
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Daniel

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Reading Lay reports and field reports personally I will gain more knowledge than tidious reading of Taktikz
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lol loved it.
you conviced me :)
and I really liked the "IRRELEVANT (my favorite word in the English language)." part :P
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NinoBrown

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great post........this is something I really thought was a waste of time....U've just inspired me...now imma start wrinting reports out the wazzoo
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#22

Uncle B

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Great reminder. Will do.

And it helps me to start writing the field report in my head immediately after Sarging.

After a failed date or night at the clubs I take a long walk and replay the crucial scenes in my head.
And I think about what I could have done and said differently.
Walking helps to free my mind and to come up with better solutions for my next sets.
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Ty

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 I've been keeping one for about 6 months now on another site and yeah, it's pretty cool. It actually feels like a body of work, something you can be proud of. I religously updated every night (from about 3-4 nights a week), even if there wasn't much to write about.

Jeffy is spot on about all the benefits, such as being able to see the small changes.

I also find it quite motivating to go over my good FRs, remind myself what I'm capable of and that I can do this. Also it's great to spot the mindsets that helped you, and the ones that slowed you down.

You notice that all your 'good' nights have patterns, for example I notice that when I'm chilled and not super hyper Mr Entertainer, I do better.

Might start one on here actually, the extra feedback can't hurt.
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#24
Tenfold

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Good stuff bro. Very Insightful.

Just curious...what websites you use for your fitness advice. I personally use bodybuilding.com alot but are there any others that you recommend?
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Gonzo

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This is good stuff, I have a bootcamp coming up and I'll definitely be writing field reports from there on out. Actually this can be applied to anything you do in general, but that would be a bit too anal.
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PUA of the Future

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 Hey Jeffy, do you think its better to make individual threads for each FR or to keep one big log like many guys do?

In the individual threads, it would make it easier to get feedback to each FR since guys are more likely to read them as you post.  But in the big log it has the advantage of keeping them all together, thus probably allowing you to track your progress easier.   

It's a tough call.  Thoughts?
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#27

silence

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What is this "feedback, from some of the top guys in the world"; I've posted Field Reports and I don't think anybody has even read them.  Am I crazy for actually posting them in the "field report" section?

Jeff, take a look at them for me, in fact just read the first one, in fact just read the intro of the first one and tell me if I going about trying to regain my motivation the wrong way or not.  I'm a former bootcamp student of yours, man...
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#28
Electric

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Great stuff, I'm going to restart my fr's.

Gold:
Hindsight is 20/20... but only if you actually take the time to look back.

reminds me of another:
Remembering means remembering to write it down.
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sub5tance

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Anton_K said "Also I'd recommand people to have a diary to improve on other areas of life too , as it helps greatly in focusing on objectives."

Yes, writing a diary/blog about stuff that happened to you can be a useful source of material, too. In other words, it helps you be *expressive* about your life/personality. If you can inject a moral or opinion into it even better.

It helps because writing things down impresses them into your memory. So the next time you are out and about you'll always have something to share with others. As opposed to going blank and not being able to remember what you did recently.

In fact, you can even use a diary or blog to turn your experience it into a mini routine - but just be careful not to try too hard to *impress*.

But the important thing is that these are tales from your life, unlike routines and BS you often get off the internet and e-books.
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Mikalo

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Yo The New RSD Rocks !! 
Amazing Stuff going in here !! 
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did that girl on the picture just fart?
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Chaq Groove®

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Picking up the penXD
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#33
Timbo Slice

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Sweet article dude!  I've just decided after this last bootcamp that I took to consistently go out sober and really up my game in any way I can.   This may be the kick in the ass that I needed.  I'll have to start bangin out those field reports for sure.  Its something I've always known I've had to do, but finally I've realized that I should and will, because I can see the true value in it.  Thanks for clarifying this point to me Jeffy Boy!!

cheers,
Tim
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Anthem731

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This is the best way to make progress in the gym. I have a small black book that I record every workout in: the exercise, weight, sets, reps, time and notes about the workout. It's helped me add over 100 pounds of weight to all of my compund lifts. I don't know why I never thought to apply it to pickup. This is genius.
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#35

WizardOne

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Agree to that man:D check out my frield reports RSD journey out of the cave...
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FoolsMate

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Thanks, I think I am ready to start writing now. I just wrote my first FR today.
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FoolsMate

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Thanks, I think I am ready to start writing now. I just wrote my first FR today.
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#38
Magix

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Good Idea to write field reports allows you to see your progress like Jeffy said. I really believe that to be true. Anyone who has ever read "First Things First" by Stephen Covey know that if you try to look at your progress one day at a time it's almost impossible to see. However, recorded from week to week the progress becomes clear and almost inevitable becuase you are able to see the patterns that you consistently go through or get stuck in. In addition to field reports, I write down in a journal every night what I did during my day besides my interactions with women. I'll write about how I was feeling that day, any new things that happened to me, or just whatever is on my mind. Very useful and relaxing thing to do. Thanks Jeffy.
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#39
Drama

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Irrelevant. Love saying that when a girl is giving resistance haha.

Writing field reports is priceless. I'm actually getting better at writing too! About damn time.
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#40

little duck

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 Thanks Jeff. I can totally see the value in doing FRs.
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#41
NonSense

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 Good post.  Gonna Save this
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#42
pua4play

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 You will have to excuse my language guys, but FUCK ME I'M INSPIRED!!!!!!!!!!
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#43

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 Nicely written!
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#44
Charmin

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hey jeffy,
with all due respect, this is not happening.even if we post our FRs it gets a proper feedback. rest assured a top guy.
i registered in rsdnation because of this very article. earlier i just used to read, i wasn't registered. but just because of this article- getting the RIGHT feedback from RIGHT people, i joined. and i dutifully posted, but for the replies, i' m getting none. there's no point in posting man.
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#45
Gsus

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Great Post i just recently starded writing down my experiences, but posting on RSD didnt cross my mind until now. 

Thank you
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