I have worked as an Executive Coach with Real Social Dynamics since 2003, running programs practically every weekend for the last 10 years in over 100 cities across North America, Australia, Africa and Europe. I fucked a shit ton of HAWT BITCHES. I enjoy tacos and love. I am extremely passionate about getting my students ACTUAL RESULTS and am continually improving my program to achieve this end.
In 2007, I released a critically acclaimed DVD program called "The Jeffy Show."
Simon & Schuster published my memoir "Get Laid or Die Trying" on March 29th, 2011.
WHATUP HOS. I'm writing this up in the lobby of a hotel in the French Quarter in New Orleans. Just finished up the winter Alumni Bootcamp tour, killed it and had an absolute BLAST in both Miami and here at Mardi Gras. Now, it's back to San Francisco for the next month, where I plan to quit alcohol for Lent. lol.
Here's where I'll be the next several weeks:
March 7: San Francisco March 13: San Francisco March 21: San Francisco April 5: Las Vegas April 12: Vancouver April 19: Orlando April 26: San Francisco May 3: San Francisco May 10: Edmonton May 17: San Francisco BAY TO BREAKERS FESTIVAL
So, now that we've gotten that business out the way, let's get down to brass fucking tacks.
Today's video was shot last week in Miami. In it, I address a question that I got via email from an alumni. In his final bootcamp notes, I suggested that he needed to become more flirtatious in his interactions with women, and avoid staying in the seemingly "safe" zone of "friend to friend" communication. He needed to do this both physically, and verbally, and I threw out a list of various attraction tactics.
He asked for clarification and examples of these, and it made me think that a lot of guys out there could actually benefit from this... a video where I move away from the more esoteric stuff and give some concrete examples of these so-called "attraction tactics." Check it out:
So there you go. Note, of course, that while these tactics and techniques are powerful and FIELD TESTED to have a dramatic impact in set, they are simply TOOLS.
Too many times, I've seen students who ruthlessly study these types of gambits and commit them to memory, but then in the field rely on them as a crutch for poor emotional intelligence. They just go up and blurt them out in rapid fire style, and it just comes off super "gamey" and weird. The girl can clearly tell that the guy has zero attunement to her subjective emotional experience and is merely rattling off some sort of canned lines, and invariably it results in a BLOWOUT.
If, on the other hand, you go up feeling fun and awesome, remain PRESENT to the moment and genuinely connect with the girl paying attention to what she's giving you emotionally, and THEN layer in these tactics, the results are NUCLEAR level. Just always, remember, they aren't the meat and potatoes of the interaction, they are merely the SEASONING.
So looks like it's about time for me to shoot off to the airport, so I'm gonna call it here. Got an amazing Mardi Gras video coming out next about my philosophy of the absurd, and it's going to be a doozy. Should be a real bitch to edit, as it's more of a "tyler-style" vid with many different locations etc etc. But it will be worth it. SO keep your eyes out for that.
Let me know what you think in the comments, and I'll see you next time!
What up gang. Just got back from Calgary, Alberta, where I ran a very successful bootcamp. This trip was a little strange however, in that I did NOT hook up with a teenager, and actually met a girl who was somewhat age-appropriate.
About to head to Miami for the alumni Bootcamp with Tyler and then its off to the Big Easy, NEW ORLEANS for a five day Mardi Gras program. Happy days are here again!
February 18: Miami 5 day February 27: NOLA Mardi Gras 5 day March 7: San Francisco March 13: San Francisco March 21: Austin March 27: Los Angeles April 5: San Francisco April 12: Vancouver April 19: San Francisco April 26: San Diego May 3: San Francisco May 10: Edmonton May 17: San Francisco BAY TO BREAKERS FESTIVAL
So today's video is from the San Francisco Free Tour earlier this month. The free tour happened to coincide with the one year anniversary of the now infamous "Rape Van Pickup Artist" media firestorm that sprang up around me when Jezebel dot com posted an inflammatory article painting a sordid picture of me as a racist, misogynistic retard.
Basically, some woman who had flaked on me for a date and I then called fat sent in our text exchange to her buddy at Jezebel, who then posted a short article. The article in and of itself wasn't even that bad, but in the ensuing comments section, all these women came out of the woodwork to talk shit... imagine every bad date you've ever had (and I've had COUNTLESS... i've literally been on thousands of dates in the past several years as part of my research, so as you can imagine I've accumulated quite a collection of disastrous outcomes lol) ripping your ass on some creepy forum.
At the time, every fucking blog in the city picked up the story and ran with it. For two weeks, I was basically the most hated man in San Francisco. lol.
In the wake of all this, not only Jezebel but all of these other news outlets contacted me to "get my side of the story." I ignored them. Also, people here at RSDN were begging me to tell my side... I ignored that shit too.
First off, I didn't want to contribute to something that I found reprehensible, which was the psuedo-journalism TMZ idiocy that the article represented. Further, at the time I had difficulty wrapping my head around the various dynamics at play. So, for the time, I decided to let it die down and then let that particular sleeping dog lie.
Now, a year later, I decided to take a look back and give my thoughts on the issue, and also talk about what this means for YOU as you take this journey of self-actualization and face blowback from the mainstream, albeit on a smaller scale, in your personal life.
So there you have it.. the take home lesson for you?
FULL DISCONNECT from mainstream groupthink.
Let's hear your thoughts in the comments, and I'll see you in March!
External Resource of the week:
Here's the videos I reference in the clip above...
What up cunts, Jeffy here with another blog of glory for your edification. Just returned from a perilous sojourn to the polar vortex wasteland known as Canada where I partied with teenagers as usual, and this weekend Tyler's in town with Todd for a free tour this Thursday at the Courtyard downtown that will likely top 300 attendees. After that I'll be here:
February 14: Calgary February 18: Miami 5 day February 27: NOLA Mardi Gras 5 day March 7: San Francisco March 13: Los Angeles March 21: San Francisco March 27: Las Vegas
So today's video is the second part of the presentation I did in Scottsdale on Halloween 2013 while dressed in Spartan attire.
In the clip, I discuss how to embrace having fun in the club environment as well as how to consciously engineer your identity to be as empowering as possible not only with girls, but with life. Or something. I also talk about Disneyland With Boobs, Toilet Paper Miyagi and display some dazzling swordplay.
Well hey there. Seems as though the dust has settled from all the holiday bullshit, and now we settle in to the new year ready to get down to fucking business.
On a side note, oddly enough, there really don't seem to be that many New Years Resolution Chodes at the gym performing the tradtional January ritual of Curls in the Squat Rack this year. Who knows why, but as Brad says, "CANT COMPLAIN."
This year should be a big one for RSD, as Owen has been saying for a while that 2014 is the year where we are really taking the company to the next level, and everybody's on board. Personally, this means that this year will see:
1. "Jeffy Show 3" - a reengineered manifesto for newcomers to RSD to get an understanding of my personal philosophy and structure of game 2. Jeffy Hot Seat 2 filmed 3. A likely October release of my long-awaited online system "The Program" 4. Many more other surprises I've had percolating on the back burner for a while now.
As this all unfolds, I'll still be doing the same old shit... running bootcamps every weekend all over the place. Most notably in the near future are the 5 Day Bootcamps that I'll be running in New Orleans for Mardi Gras and of course the Miami Model Season ones with Tyler.
January 10: San Francisco January 17: Austin January 23: Toronto January 31: San Francisco February 7: San Francisco February 14: Calgary February 18: Miami 5 day February 27: NOLA Mardi Gras 5 day March 7: San Francisco
So, this week's video comes from the recent Los Angeles Free Tour which featured a record crowd. There were four instructors speaking: myself, Todd, Julien and Tyler, so I kicked off the event with a quick thirty minute set. Starting off, I get into some basic theory and practice of the different stages of the night and how your mindset can be directed over the course of it.
Then someone asks me what my "greatest challenge" was. At first I somewhat flippantly answer that it was when my father went to prison when I was 15 and move on. But then I start to explore that theme a little more and really discuss how I was able to persevere through my challenges with game in the initial years starting out, and how you can do the same:
Cool. So that's about it for this week, I'll see you in the comments. Before I go of course, let me leave you with some fresh photography from Pandurr shirts... funny enough, we've now expanded the line to womens and kids stuff too... you can check it out here:
Actually, I'm heading out of town to Alaska for the week to freeze my fucking balls off. I'm headed there straight from Vegas, where I stayed up until dawn the last three nights, so I'm a little fuzzy but I think I have the wherewithal to pump out this blog before I arrive in a land of bears and questionable internetz.
It's almost the new year, which means that the annual 5-day alumni vacations... errrr, bootcamps, are right around the corner. I say vacation because I look forward to these programs every year. Miami is a great escape from the winter cold, and the first Mardi Gras Bootcamp I ran with Todd last year was an absolute delight. HURRICANE BUT YOU CAN CALL IT SLURRICANE BEEOTCH. lol. Todd and I will be back this year for another five day event starting on on Friday and culminating on FAT TUESDAY. This program will be a mix of day and night game and will leave you breathless and perhaps infected with a disease. Sign up today! haha....
December 29: San Francisco January 2: Calgary January 10: San Francisco January 17: Austin January 23: Toronto January 31: San Francisco February 7: San Francisco February 14: LA or Miami February 18: Miami 5 day February 27: NOLA Mardi Gras 5 day March 7: San Francisco
Speaking of Todd, today's video is a collaborative effort from the San Diego Free Tour. I'm speaking and bring ole Toddy up to opine on a variety of topics which we proceed to bounce off the walls like some game of pickup racquetball. Check it out:
Sup sup, just about to run out the door here but gonna fire off this week's vblog before I go. Was just driving in the van and discovered the roof is beginning to rust out, so yay, that should be a super fun project to fix. womp womp.
Anyways, got bootcamps stacked for the next few months and here's where you can find me:
December 19: Las Vegas December 29: San Francisco January 2: San Francisco January 10: San Francisco January 17: Austin January 23: Toronto January 31: San Francisco February 7: San Francisco February 14: LA or Miami February 18: Miami 5 day February 27: NOLA Mardi Gras 5 day March 7: San Francisco
So this week's video is from the final instructor panel at this year's Summit.
Everybdy except Julien, who had to fly off earlier, was there to do a long Q&A session for the crowd, and it ended up going several hours. Out of all that I have selected a quick 13 minute piece where we answer a questionfroma guy who just can't seem to express a sexual vibe no matter what he does, and wants to know how to change that.
He has tried everything. He is a successful guy so he feels that women don't view him sexually because of that somehow. He decided to shave his head, in an attempt to give off more of a sexual vibe.
The only problem is, he's not BEHAVING in a sexual manner. He was on bootcamp, and simply wasn't escalating on the girl in any way, neither verbally nor physically. Yet he thinks these bizarre externalities are what actually cause someone to be perceived as "sexual."
Predictably, we tear him a new ring orifice, as they say in Australia.
Pretty funny clip, with Tyler going off on bizarre rants of his own.
Anyway, I'm out, but before I go let me drop some Pandurr pics on your ass, get yourself or someone you love one of these fine shirts for the holidays:
Got a lot on my plate, no pun intended, so this is gonna be a bit of a quickie (that's what she said). Just got back from Vegas running bootcamp with Todd. Ole Evil Stifler came out with me as well and we stayed at the immersion program, which happens to be located at the intersection where Tupac was shot and killed that fateful day so many years ago.
Fitting in a way, because we were doing some fuckin gangster shit. Evil Stilfer and I rolled up on these three girls from some bachelorette bullshit, and I start making out with the midget, Evil begins making out with BOTH of the other two.
It was intense to see, because this motherfucker was in the ZONE. Going back and forth, fingering one while talking to, then making out with the other... he looked like a fuckin snake charmer weaving left and right in front of them... then he takes them to their table, where immediately the bride starts giving him shit, he hugs her while still holding the other two and somehow its all good... every dude in the vicinity is watching him like wolves around a campfire, just wondering "how the hell is this guy doing this?" He knocks over a FULL carafe of cranberry juice on their table, it spills everywhere and the bride starts freaking out, he just says, "lol shut the fuck up" and she does. Pure mastery lol
Anyway, long story short, my girl ended up puking and one of his girls disappeared into the mist, but he pulled the other one and went bangtown. Afterwards I met up with both of them at the Peppermill and charmed the young lady myself, who then as way of apologizing for her vomiting friend bestowed upon me a magical item of great power.... one of the bachelorette party sashes that all them hos wear up in the shit. Upon it, in pink sparkly letters, was the phrase, "Sorry Boys I'm Taken"
The next evening, after entering the club and warming up a bit, I decided it was time to slip on this powerful talisman. I removed it from my pocket, and literally the SECOND I put it on, girls were staring at me, and then opening me left and right. THE MOTHERFUCKING SECOND, holy shit this thing has like a +5 enchantment. Like tyler back in the day, I was all, "MAKEOUT. MAKEOUT. MAKEOUT."
And before you know it, SPLASH. Gettin it in with some feisty woman with the well endowed titty features back at her room, while her friend lies in the next bed, not even pretending to be asleep. The girl turns off the lights, and I'm like, "WHAT THE FUCK. This is how FAT PEOPLE have sex."
Marched back to the diner to meet the immersion boys and my student for debrief, and let me tell ya, marching through the casino with that just got laid nimbus on, people can't help but look. I'm flippin coins into a fountain sayin, "Make a wish babe," as girls continue to approach. Finished up debrief and all in all glory times.
Anyways, here's where I'll be the next several months:
November 29: Seattle December 19: Las Vegas December 29: San Francisco January 2: San Francisco January 10: San Francisco January 17: Austin January 23: Toronto January 31: San Francisco February 7: San Francisco February 14: Calgary February 18: Miami 5 day February 27: NOLA Mardi Gras 5 day March 7: San Francisco
Today's video is from Atlanta and features both Tyler and Myself. I just realized I accidentally capitalized "myself" but that's ok.
In this video, we discuss what qualities the so-called "naturals" possess that we can learn from, as well as what to avoid in their mindsets. Perhaps not surprisingly the discussion turns to none other than Evil Stifler, who is probably the best natural that I personally know.
Tyler edited this one, so there's a bit of overlapping content from the Toronto video where I talk about the student who decided ENOUGH WAS ENOUGH and marched back into the club to claim his girl for glory and Sparta. But hey, you can never get enough of the fundamentals now can you? Check it out:
Fun fun fun.
Well hey, as I said, I've got to get the fuck on here, lot of shit to do, but in the end we all benefit when I actually get the fuck off my ass and do work, amirite? XD
OH shit almost forgot, latest photograpy from the shirts is up at www.pandurr.com
Hey there. Lot going on this week between RSD, the shirts and banging. Two girls got fucked in the van this past weekend on bootcamp, one from the club and one from the park, bringing the van's total count up to 77. Evil Stifler has resolved to personally get it to 100. So there's that.
This weekend I'm headed off to stay at the new Immersion Program condos in Las Vegas and run bootcamp with Todd, which is always a cool experience since our styles our fairly different, it's kind of like a Odd Couple situation. I'd elaborate on which one is Felix and which one is Oscar, but the vast majority of the RSD audience likely has no idea who the fuck that is so yeah no.
November 21 Las: Vegas November 29: Seattle December 19: Las Vegas December 29: San Francisco January 2: Calgary January 10: San Francisco January 17: Austin January 23: Toronto
This week's video comes from Phoenix Free Tour on Halloween night. Done up in Spartan attire, I was a bit shocked to discover the majority of the audience did not have any sort of costume on whatsoever.
This got me to ruminating on the nature of party times, and how our crew here in SF really goes out of our way to be the craziest motherfuckers at the party, regardless of the theme. I know that Alex and his crew also enjoy strange costumed behaviors, and that's one of the reasons that I love the kid, because there's definitely more than a bit of kindred spirit going on there.
I think part of the reason my crew does it so hard is because we're from San Francisco, a city that loves any excuse to wear some weird shit and get drunk in the daytime. Over the years, we've banged girls on ponies, in children's play huts, bubble vans, wearing capes, and dressed as cat video producers wielding guitars filled with booze.
See, the thing is, we are THOSE GUYS. The guys who are not afraid to have fun out of a desire to "not look stupid"... we go the other way and LOOK STUPID ON PURPOSE.
How the fuck is a girl going to blow out a guy with a cape and a booze guitar? Holy fuck, her night just got 5x more interesting on account of us speaking to her.
This, gentlemen, is the crux of "bringing value," and it's the key to hooking sets. If you are having trouble actually getting past the opener and hook point, one of the more common reasons for this is that you are "trying to weasel your way into the girls' fun" as opposed to actually ADDING energy to the interactions.
Check it out:
I apologize for the audio quality, the mic malfunctioned, but I said fuck it, how often do you get a Free Tour with the guy dressed in a fucking Spartan costume, so we're releasing it. This was a pretty good talk with lots of comic elements so I may release more bits from this one in the future.
In any case, I talk a bit about the infamous ponies created by Evil Stifler, and you can witness them in action below in this classic clip from 2010:
Before I sign off, wanted to shoot you a glossy from the latest photo shoot we did for the Pandurr shirts. In this one we've got "Sketchy Local Dive Bar" and the classic phrase, "You Can't Be Half a Gangster."
You can, apparently, be half a Spartan however. Camoflauge cargo shorts ftw
Seems like everybody in the crew caught the flu this week. Let me tell you it sucked ass. Sweats in the night, nightmares about contracting children to commit gruesome murders, visions of the angel of death. Surprisingly however, I was able to knock the sickness out completely in about three days flat through a combination of rest, smashing a full gallon and a half of water a day, high dose vitamin c, himalayan salt inhalers, black elderberry syrup, intravenous glutathione, bacon and Nyquil.
So I'm back in action and this is where I'll be the next few:
Nov 15-17: San Francisco Nov 21-23: Las Vegas Nov 28-30: Seattle Dec 6-8: San Francisco Dec 12-14: Los Angeles
Today's video comes from the wilds of the Phoenician Desert in Arizona. In this mystical land, you can find drunken hos all about. I would ask them if they were from Arizona, and if they liked iced tea. Also if they liked skittles and hoodies. Also, did they enjoy getting their rave on for Trayvon? Many, in fact, did. Students got laid as well so I was pretty pleased with the trip overall.
On the way to the airport, I decided to bust out a quick vblog ona topic that I'd been discussing with Tyler earlier... what are some things that you wish you had learned earlier? After thinking for a while, I came up with several. Check it out:
So basically, in a nutshell, don't look to women and romantic relationships to complete or "heal" you, don't worry about impressing others, just be true to yourself, try not to be so much of a dick, and get your fitness and nutrition handled NOW.
If you're in your early twenties, this is all stuff that will dramtically improve your life going forward if you take it to heart now. If you're older, well, fuck you it's too late, you're done.
Har har yes very funny but it's truly never too late to take action to better yourself, whether that's in the gym or in your interactions with women.
On the shirts front, the Pandurr stuff has been moving out the door pretty well and it's cool to travel and see folks wearing them out at the Free Tour. Getting a lot of good feedback about the line, here's a couple of the newest designs, one of which is the classic DURR shirt, if you recall I wore something similar back in 2011, in this video where I detail an LR where I picked up the girl by pretending to be retarded:
Also in there we've got Empirical and Fifty Shades of Durr.
In the vblog itself I'm wearing Panduh, our little psychotic anti-hero mascot, which can be seen below as well:
DURR Hey kids it is I, your intrepid spiritual advisor Jeffy, back for some more of whatever the hell it is we do around here. Self development, banging hos, etc etc. Bout to roll out to Scottsdale aka HOTTSdale with Owen this weekend for Bootcamp, and am looking forward not only to the nice weather but also the fine young pussy that shall no doubt be gamboling about in the night. After that, my schedule is as follows: Nov 1-3: Phoenix (with Tyler) Nov 7-9: San Francisco Nov 15-17: San Francisco Nov 21-23: San Francisco Nov 28-30: Seattle Dec 6-8: San Francisco www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com We have a 3 person team that handles ALL of your questions about RSD events-- call them any time to talk game or ask any questions you want! NORTH AMERICA (Toll Free): +1 (888) 546 7286 EUROPE: +44 (0) 2079 934 034 AUSTRALIA: +61 280 155 522 ASIA: +81345789305<>==========================================<> Now, since we're talking about hotties, I figured this would be as good a time as any to release that video I shot in Atlanta last month at the top of the Westin. In this clip, I explore a very common question that often comes up at the Free Tours, and that's this: Why is it that a guy who can easily talk to cute or average girls will sometimes freeze up when faced with the more attractive women. Now, when you first start learning cold approach pickup, most likely you suck balls with ALL of the girls. Then, with time, perseverance and intelligent direction, you eventually attain a level of competence with the average to cute girls. But when you step to the so called dimes, you somehow flub the play despite knowing exactly what it is that you SHOULD be doing. You CHOKE. The fact of the matter is, everyone chokes from time to time. What exactly is happening here? Well, by definition, choking is WORSE performance than you are usually capable of, because you perceive that there's more on the line. Now, the so called choking phenomenon has been studied extensively in sports, and we are learning why exactly this happens and how to stop it. Modern neuroscience has given us some insights, and I explore these in the video. Check it: Basically, when you learn a skill and become good at it, unconscious processing systems are at work while you execute it. When you stop to think about it, you often interfere with these systems, and end up tripping yourself up. In one study, skilled golfers did better when executing a putt quickly, rushing through without conscious thought. Taking your time and trying to gauge the situation when you've already trained it into the ground can make you worry, and consequently you end up "fucking the dog," as they say. Your cerebral cortex is the area of the brain responsible for learning skills and adapting to new situations. As you learn, however, the control shifts to cerebellum. This is when you begin to experience so-called "unconscious competence." In fact, you actually can't consciously access the cerebellum, and so when you try to consciously manipulate whats going on, you grind the gears. BEEP BOOP BEEP DOES NOT COMPUTE.... FAILTARD MODE... ENGAGE Now obviously, you need to strike a happy medium. You need to pay SOME attention to your actions to see the windows and go through them, you can't (in most cases) just plop yourself in front of the ho with a dopey grin on your face and expect her to suck your dick. That would be nice though, I suppose. Anyway, it appears that the best way to do this is to employ a short mantra that summarizes what you're trying to accomplish. In the case of pickup, this might be the word "Smooth" or "Lead" or "positive dominance." (AGAIN, this assumes that you are already operating with a basic level of competence in cold approach pickup, but are dealing with an unfamiliar situation that you perceive as being high pressure, ie. stepping to the hotter girl) Another thing that can help you to avoid the dreaded choke is to remember your successes... replay a highlight reel in your head of all the times you actually stepped to a hot ass girl and actually made it happen. You be all like, "Damn son, you've done this shit before. Ain't no thang but a chicken wang, ya lil BEEYACH!" Furthermore, avoid dwelling on rejections. It's something I've said time and time again, but all the best guys simply don't write failure to the disk. They internalize any lessons there are to be gleaned from the situation and move forward. Ultimately, however, the best way to handle this whole "choking" issue is to confront the anxiety head on... step to the hot girls regularly and watch your entitlement rise. At one point, you were probably scared of the average girls... so it's no different. How do you get better at fucking girls? By fucking girls. How do you get better at fucking hot girls? By stepping to and fucking hot girls. period. lol. <>==========================================<> In other news, the launch of the new shirt line PANDURR has been pretty amazing so far. The combination of lower price point and more accessible design seems to be a winner. These things are flying off the shelves. It's kept me pretty busy fulfilling all the orders. High quality problems, I guess. I was talking to my biz partner about it, and I was saying that with the Beastmode shirts, I felt they were a little too high concept. Personally, there were only like four styles from that line that I wore on a consistent basis. With Pandurr, however, I feel that every fucking shirt is rock solid. I find myself wearing them all the time, to the club, the gym, just kicking around town, whatever. I think we really worked out the kinks here and struck gold with this new line. http://www.heartofbeast.com (this design is called "Horse," and in case you don't get it, the shirt basically says "FUCK YOU". *sigh*... too much fun.) Basically, Pandurr is an inside joke told by a genius second-grader who likes to eat paste. Don't try to understand, just accept. Become one with the DURR here: www.heartofbeast.com Also, Beastmode Blowout is still in effect while supplies last! We've got a fair amount of the v-necks left, but when they're gone, they're gone into the annals of history forever. lol "annals." Anyway, that's it for me today, and I'll see you cats again next time! -j <>==========================================<> Twitter: www.twitter.com/JeffreyLAllenIX Facebook: www.facebook.com/RSDJeffy www.facebook.com/HeartofBeast Youtube: www.youtube.com/RSDJeffy www.youtube.com/JeffyFreeTour