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 WHADDUP Jeffy here once again with another little Free Tour video for you. I skipped last week's entry because my computer took a shit on itself, and I had to scramble and go to Best Buy and pick up some el cheapo one just to present hotseat on. ANYWAYS, now I'm back, the old lappie is up and running again, so I was able to throw up this week's installment on Youtuibe and get it out.

January in Canada. Who the fuck came up with this idea? IT'S FUCKING COLD. The whole time, I'm up there having dreams about the upcoming Miami Model Season Bootcamp lol. And now, tomorrow I'm headed to Calgary. Been there in the summertime for stampede and I found the girls to be among the hottest in the entire WORLD. Let's see how they stack up in the dead of winter. haha. Anyways, here are the remaining dates on my tour:

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January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

After that, I'll be doing the Miami Alumni Bootcamps with Owen and my Vampire Diaries brother Julien (he identifies with Damon, whereas I see myself more as Stefan, the truly evil one). Then it's back home for a long time to regroup. I figure for the next year, I'll take a backseat and let the other guys shine while I develop my next hotseat, which will probably see the light of day in 2013 provided the world doesn't end.

Speaking of that, 2012 is off to a good start. I've held to my resolutions of game... my count is at TWO for the year as of last night, haven't taken any phone numbers and only LEGIT hotts thus far. So far I'm averaging 1 every five days, a pretty auspicious beginning if I say so myself. How have YOUR resolutions of game been holding up? Remember, it takes 30 days to cement a new habit, so if you aren't feeling it now, give it time... let it play out and acclimate to the new reality. It will be worth it.

So, not a lot of time here as I've got a cherish night ahead of me at one of the finest restaurants in the city (I turn 36 next week and she's taking me out, aww!), so I'm gonna head out in about 20 minutes. Before I do, allow me to present to you this week's video. It's another clip from the Free Tour I did back in September in Munich. More of a practical video this time, in which I discuss a couple of age-old topics: passing congruence tests and "plowing." Enjoy.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-hhWSvPdtQ

It's interesting for me to watch this, because as I say in the clip, I wasn't always this "alpha" guy with a rock solid frame. I distinctly remember when I was starting out, I would get tested by people in the venue and just become PARALYZED. However, through repeated exposure, you become accustomed to social pressure, and when you encounter it you no longer freeze up... instead, the training takes over and you respond appropriately.

My homeboy Gandi said it best: "These girls can't say SHIT to you... because no matter what they say, you will have some kind of comeback... they have no idea what the fuck is gonna come out of your mouth next."

I mean, it's true. I'm like some kind of TV character at this point, I always have a better answer, no matter WHAT THE CHICK SAYS. Unlike Hank Moody, however, I do not have a staff of writers scripting it out for me. I have to be able to generate my shit on the fly. How did I develop this skill? BY GOING OUT CONSTANTLY FOR YEARS.

When you go out incessantly for a period of years, pushing yourself hard, you are accumulating a MASSIVE set of data which you then learn to process heuristically. PATTERNS EMERGE. I mean, let's face it, while there exists an infinite amount of different topics that might come up in a given conversation, there are a LIMITED amount that TYPICALLY DO. No matter how aggressive the chick is, or how sarcastic, or how "close to home" the girl hits with a given topic, at this point it's almost 100% that I've heard this particular line, or some variant of it, before. So yeah, you become the most laid back, in charge, in control motherfucker around. DON DRAPER BITCHES.



Again.. how do you achieve this? GO OUT. A LOT.

There's no way around that.

You can sit here and read this faggotry all day long and it's not gonna make one iota of a fucking difference unless you GO OUT AND EXPERIMENT.

And once you actually develop this "rock" frame, that's when the real fun begins. That's when you're able to actually start FUCKING on a massive scale, because you are no longer IN YOUR HEAD scrambling to keep your head above water in the conversation, and you can use that mental processor space to actually focus on making shit happen.... escalating JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT while monitoring her emotional wavelength and making micro adjustments, circumnavigating logistical obstacles, etc. In many cases, you'll feel almost like a cat, batting a mouse around before you eat it. Like, holy shit, this is too easy, it's not even fair. This is what we're talking about when you hear advanced guys say shit like, "I'm so good it's scary." Like, it's actually kind of frightening. lolol

Anyway, bottom line here is not to brag, but really to reiterate the FACT that NOBODY IS CUT FROM A DIFFERENT CLOTH. This isn't LUCK, it isn't MAGIC, it's KNOWLEDGE and it's REPRODUCIBLE. If we were able to achieve this kind of success, well goddamn son, ANYBODY can, provided they're willing to slog past the initial pain period where they don't see result.

And believe me kids, it's worth it. BANGTOWN USA.

Anyways, I'm off to my cherish of love. Got a LOT of videos in the pipeline, all kinds of stuff I've accrued throughout the tour. Now that my machine is up and running again, I'll focus on editing all this crap up for y'all. Until next time, I'm off to Calgary! BRR.

-j

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PS... Calgary Free Tour this Thursday! Check out the details here:

www.jeffyfreetour.com

Good day everybody, it's your boy Jeffy here today to welcome you back from the holiday season. Personally I've just returned from Anchorage Alaska where my extended family lives. Now Alaska in the middle of December is not the most hospitable place, at this time of year the sun comes up at 1130 and sets at about 4 PM. Not to mention the fact that the temp is typically in the range of about 10°F. Nonetheless I always enjoy going up there as it g himives me the opportunity to spend time with my grandfather who is one of the few people on earth that I would actually call my hero. He's 91 years old and is still incredibly lucid and healthy. When I got there last week he was actually outside shoveling snow. I asked if I could help him and he refused. The guy flew a Hellcat in the Navy in World War II and had dogfights and Japanese Zero fighters. Not only does he still drive around town, but he also still flies an airplane... that's a picture of me with it at the top of the article. He had a helicopter as well (which he BUILT HIMSELF) up until about six years ago. When I asked him, "what happened to the helicopter grandpa?" He simply responded, "oh that thing was like trying to balance on a greased football. The plane just goes." He hits on girls at Costco and tell stories that never end. So you see what I get from LOL.

Anyway after finishing off the last part of my Hotseat tour in Australia I decided to take some time off. It was a bold decision for me to do 16 straight weeks of Hotseat, but once the decision was made there was no going back. However the bottom line was that I made it through and so starting at the beginning of this month I returned home and settled in for a nice little 5 week vacation. It's been great and relaxing and now I'm ready to start it up again next week as I head to Canada to complete the final leg of the Jeffy world tour. If you haven't yet signed up for the free tour now would be a good time to do so as there are still seats left. Here are the remaining stops:

January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

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So as I roll back into the tour, I'm going to be posting articles regularly again, every week like clockwork, each with an accompanying video. This week's clip is a little video from the Perth free tour, in which I talk about what's really possible at the highest levels when you get this skillset down. Check it out:



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQ24IVUvhdg


So yeah, maybe you think that the idea of a 6-minute pull from the moment you step out of your house to the moment you step back in the door with a girl is a bit outside of your reality. But the fact of the matter is, when you get this skillset down, the only limit is your imagination. I say this at the free tour, and it does kind of sound like some childish platitude, but it's real. I know because I see it every day in my peer group and when I go out and step up myself. But you have to decide how bad you want it and how hard you want to go.

On another note entirely, we're coming up on the end of the year and this is the time that I like to take a moment and reflect on what I've done/accomplished game-wise over the course of the last twelve months.

2011 was epic, most notably because I had sex with 60 girls. Most of those were in a period of six months, from March to August. When I went on tour it got scaled back considerably as the focus was on work. Nonetheless, this was still the highest number I've ever racked up in one year.

What did I learn from this? Well, a couple things... first, I'm extremely good at online game and Day2. Like, EXTREMELY. To the point where it's almost tedious. SCRATCH THAT... it's at the point where it IS tedious. I simply don't want to go through the motions of day2 anymore. I'm fuckin over it. Also, I banged a SHIT TON of SEVENS this year. And guess what... I'm OVER THAT TOO. I was talking to Tyler, who once told me that I have "the best seven game in the world" haha and I told him, "Dude, I'm OVER sevens... this is what it took to finally beat the desire to fuck 7s out of my head... I had to fuck like 50 of them in a row to just be like BLEH NO THANKS."

So for the final year of our world's existence, 2012, I hereby vow the following: NO NUMBERS, NO DAY 2, ONLY 8+. That's it.

This is all in the interest of BALANCE, really. Okay, it's obvious that I'm the absolute shit at online and Day2. For me to just keep getting laid from that is LAZY at this point. For the average guy, this would be fine, he could just stay in that comfort zone and get laid plenty and everything would be good. But for myself and Tyler, we are the fucking paragons of this shit... it's our PROFESSION and as such we go as hard as humanly possible to push the limits, to reach the LOGICAL CONCLUSION of these prinicples we espouse. Like when you hear about Tyler beasting the night his son was born, you think what the hell is this shit, but then you realize, holy fuck... this guy is doing this for SCIENCE. Not to be obnoxious, although to be fair let's face it, it is extremely damn obnxoious, but to MOVE CIVILIZATION FORWARD.

I've always said that this is a continual process of growth; the rabbit hole goes as deep as you want it to go with this whole "success with women" thing, and not only that, but you also have to continually "sharpen the saw" as Stephen Covey would say. I went so hard core on the internet day2 thing this year that it's almost like I've forgotten how to pull same night. Of course, that's not the truth, but the fact is that the pendulum has swung a little too far in that direction, so now it's time to swing it an equal amount in the other direction for a little bit. I was talking to a former bootcamp student about this the other day in his Field Reports journal on the forum, let me give you a little excerpt of what I told him:

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ChinaBoy~ Wrote:

"Excuse me" she turns around

"You are cute I have to meet you" "What´s your name?"

She looks a bit confused also a bit freaked out. So I say: "Sorry I freaked you out a little bit"

This. You are beginning to get the hang of the whole "wmotional acuity" thing. Again, you don't care what they THINK, but you have to become keenly attuned to how you are making them FEEL on a moment-to-moment basis.

I think that you started out way too hardcore. I remember on bootcamp on the first night you were like an utter psychopath on methamphetamine, running around grabbing girls indiscriminately and jut getting blown out immediately, set after set. I asked you what the fuck you were doing and you said, "I am doing the beast mode" or some shit. Of course we made you slow everything down and you started to get better results. Then after the bootcamp, in this thread I see you have gone fully to the other side where you are like "That hardcore style does not work I like Alex style" etc.

So I hope you see what's happened here... you were initially convinced that going hard and dominating was the way to go, but you were executing this in an incredibly sloppy and miscalibrated fashion and so of course got ZERO results. Now, the pendulum has swung the other direction, equally as far... where now, you don't even escalate when it is REQUIRED (like when the chick left or whatever at the endgame). So, while it was necessary for this swing to happen for your growth, you now need to swing it back more to the middle ground... where you know WHEN to go hard and dominate and also are aware of when it's time to have a more subtle touch and let her come to you. The correct approach can mean switching multiple times over the course a single interaction, and go back and forth multiple times over a number of SECONDS.

More experience will hardwire this 'sixth sense' in. Until it is embedded in your head/nervous system like a sort of firmware.

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So, to be well-rounded you have to be proficient in ALL styles, and more importantly, know when it's appropriate to use each one.

Like in the gym, it's often the thing you want to the the LEAST that you NEED to do the MOST. For example, I hate doing pull-ups, so of course I've been absolutely torturing myself in an attempt to get to the point where I can do 20 consecutively.

As a side note, one of my goals during this short vacation was to get my health back on track... aka lose some fucking fat around the middle. That didn't go so well. I was doing pretty good but then over the holiday weekend ate too much damn crap food. It seems almost impossible to lose this shit. I know I can make excuses about my age, etc etc but the bare fact of the matter is I have to get off my ass and MOVE AROUND a LOT more (right now I'm doing cardio 3x a week but I know that needs to go up to like 7 or more... that's what got me ripped in the original Summer of Ripped Abs) and make better food decisions every single time I sit down to eat.

As far as my whole "New Year's Resolutions of Game" are concerned, this means making that decision to get off my ass and just GO OUT every night, just like Tyler, even when I don't want to. Even when I have the easy Day2 in front of me. It means making the decision IN THE MOMENT at the club to let the perfectly cute 7 in front of me go to hit up the hotter girls. It means pushing myself to go for the pull EVERY TIME instead of going for the easy number... and moreover not taking any numbers whatsoever, even if the girl really wants me to. I'll take theirs, that's IT. If they call they call.

That's the thing... improvement doesn't come from some big dedication you make like, "THIS IS IT! I'M GONNA HANDLE THIS!" but rather it happens on a moment to moment basis. Many people might read this article and be "shocked by the honesty" or something, but it's no big deal. I've always been extremely forthcoming about where I'm at. Back in the old days when I was writing my field reports on the old usenet groups, I always gave the unvarnished truth warts and all (btw I do not have warts, just got tested last week for all STDS and came out clean, no idea how that happened lol). It is the man who is willing to put himself on the cross and really look at where he's fucking up, that's the guy that really improves. So for me, this is nothing new. I'm a completely humble student of this shit, just like any other guy. And that's why I succeed and continue to grow.

So having said all of that, I'm really looking forward to the upcoming year and you should be too.

What are YOUR "New Year's Resolutions of Game"? Let's hear them in the comments.

Cheers, and Happy 2012.

-j

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PS: If you haven't signed up for the Vancouver Free Tour, you should definitely check it out. I'll be up there next Thursday, January 5th at the Downtown Marriott. Hope to see you there!

www.jeffyfreetour.com

OI OI OI

Whatup fools I'm back with another screed hot off the laptop as we cruise into the last week of the Aussie stops on this crazy tour I've been up to. Gonna be in Sydney this week then it's back home for a full 6 weeks off. Here's the remaining schedule for JEFFY HOTSEAT v1.0:

www.jeffyhotseat.com

Australia:
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

Over the course of the last eleven weeks I've grown a lot both personally and professionally. There was a bit there in the middle where it looked like I was over-exerting myself and blew out my voice. After that, coming into the southern hemisphere I was concerned that the intensity of the tour was fucking it up long term, but it seems that I've now completely adapted to the increased workload; there've been no issues whatsoever this month. Just to be on the safe side though, Alex and I came up with the idea that is so simple we're sort of kicking ourselves for not seeing it earlier: we're just gonna mic ourselves in the future. DURR.

So, after this it's back home to rest up and refocus on health, getting my blog off the ground, quick trip up to Alaska for Xmas with the fam, and then BANG off to spend January in Canada, which sounds absolutely delightful. ha ha.

After that it's going to be time to upgrade the hotseat based on all the feedback we've garnered this time around. 90% of the reviews have been amazing, but there seems to be a small contingent of guys who are all "the girls aren't 9s and 10's I only game 9s and 10s durr." I spent a year or so intermittently recording in San Francisco for my program and the whole time Tyler was like "dude you need to travel to LA etc to get footage" and my attitude was, "Dude whatever, it's the same shit, they just aren't wearing fuckin cocktail dresses, heels and blowdried hair, if these fuckin idiots are too stupid to tell the difference fuck em"

Aaaaand sure enough, we then see a few reviews all "DURR THEY WERENT WEARING THE COCKTAIL DRESSES FUCK THIS SHIT DURR"

Ok, fine. Looks like I'll be traveling to LA a bit. My game is not the issue as whenever I go down there for bootcamp I kill it just as easily as I do up north, it's just a bit of a hassle for me. BUT I want the next iteration to be PURE PLATINUM with NONE of this shit being an issue in the future... NO QUESTION, NO EXCUSES. Again, the point of hotseat is not "proof Jeffy is awesome," it's to HELP PEOPLE. So when I see guys talking themselves out of believing that what they're seeing before them is legit and will WORK FOR THEM, it's very disheartening. So as the purveyor, guess the ONUS IS ON ME to go and get the footage that will satisfy them. Lesson learned. I'm a bit stubborn (as we all are from time to time) so I had to experience this to get me to come around, but yeah. Of course, there is always going to be the odd random who finds fault regardless, but an outlier is an outlier, whatever.

So anyway, let's get to today's video. Long-term sustainibility in the game. In the intro, I've created a new hybrid of music paying homage to the local aboriginal culture in Perth, as well as the recent trend of dubstep music... WITCHETTY GRUBSTEP. Check it out:



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIrR3g9IbzU

This is a topic that I'm sure many guys can relate to... every time I ask at a live event if anyone is familiar with these "ups and downs" in the game, you'll get a number of exasperated sighs as people raise their hands. The thing to understand, which I've come to grips with over the course of my ten years doing this, is that these peaks and valleys are acutally NORMAL, and may in fact even be necessary for growth.

A lot of the time, I've found that one of these "down cycles" signifies that I'm about to break through a plateau HARD, as was the case this year.

BUT... nobody is going to do this FOR you. Yes, it's important to surround yourself with the right people, and definitely your peer group can help, but at the end of the day, you need to have a FIRE WITHIN to push yourself beyond where you currently are.

As the saying goes, "the enemy of the great is the good" Like I said with my shit, it's very very GOOD. Personally, I'm completely satisfied with my current level of skill. I get laid whenever I want, with the girls I want. As a result, why the fuck would I want to go out night after night like I did back in the old days when I was scratching and clawing just to become COMPETENT? I see my assistants running around the club all night like psychopaths, SET SET SET SET SET.... and meanwhile I can just chill with a beer all night and then an hour before the club closes casually hit a girl up and BOOM pull her.

Why go through all the effort unless you are highly motivated to do so?

That motivation, for me, was seeing Tyler's experience making his Hotseat 2. His original was great, but anyone who's seen the new shit can attest that the difference is absolutely mind-blowing. Plus, it's obvious he's having a massive amount of FUN doing it, and then seeing the crowds get that higher level of EDUCATIONAL experience from it, well, THAT'S what's inspiring me to take my own shit to the next level and go FULL BORE.

WHY NOT.

Fuck this, this is my profession so let's take this to its logical conclusion... FULL OBNOXIOUS.

It's actually quite exciting... it's a feeling like I had in the old days, the "golden era" when I was just starting out. Back then, everything was awesome, because it was new. Blowout? AWESOME. Get laid? AWESOME. It was like entering into a magical realm of Narnia or some shit, learning the rules of this new world and experiencing magical adventures along the way.

THAT is the fuel that any n00b getting in to this shit must discover and tap into if they want to have any hope of slogging through that initial pain period where they don't see results. And further down the line, it's how you keep passion for the game alive: by pushing yourself continually and finding fascination with the new challenges presented as you descend ever-deeper down the rabbit hole. 

It all comes back to PROCESS OVER OUTCOME. You find the fire, you find the love, and that's how you make it work. All the guys in RSD and all of the best "RSD Success Stories" share that common denominator.

Anyways, I'm excited. Down the rabbit hole we go, further and further.

Catch you next week with a clip from the Perth Free Tour. Until then, stay awesome.

Cheers,

-j

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PS: In Sydney this week, running shop with Alexander (www.alexattitude.com). Free Tour is this THURSDAY, November 24th at the Y Hotel Conference Centre (5-11 Wentworth Ave, Sydney) at 6PM. Seats still available! See you there!

www.jeffyfreetour.com

Greetings citizens, it's Jeffy, aka the Senator of Swirltopia, assailing your optical senses once more, from my perch in the sky as I soar over the great continent of Australia. This leg of my glorious world tour is now halfway over, so let's dispense with the niceties and run down the remaining dates:

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Australia:
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

Traveling with Alexander this month, and we've been hammering the gym and keeping each other accountable with proper diet and so forth, for different reasons. Alex wants to get a side gig as a model. Personally, I just want to shave some adipose that seems to have accumulated on my middle regions over the course of the past few months.

It's sort of funny, because when we scheduled this tour, I was concerned that I wouldn't be able to keep up with my gym/diet, but in actuality it's been somewhat EASIER. I actually LOST weight while traveling through Europe. At home, I can take the van to the store or to program, but on tour, we walk basically everywhere. At home, I eat relatively healthy, but since I have constant access to food, it's easy to go overboard and just continually shove crap down my throat. Yes, it might be almonds, but 7 cups of almonds is still 7 cups of almonds. Traveling, you have to make distinct choices about when, where and what to eat, which forces you to be a little more circumspect.

Add to this that I haven't been in the gym AT ALL for the last FOUR MONTHS... fucked up my back deadlifting a couple years ago, and rehabbed it, then one day this summer I was dickin around in the garden and bent over wrong I guess and *PLINK* it just went out again. What the fuck, total old man shit. Do yourself a favor and never grow old, k?

Getting an injury like this can be an interesting thing, a sort of meditative exercise if you will. You can't push the weights around so it's easy to get depressed. Now where I fucked up, is I decided to just eliminate gym COMPLETELY instead of working around the injury. So here we are four months later and instead of being in pretty good shape but just a bit less strong, I'm not only weaker but also FAT. So now I'm playing catch-up.

Dammit.

Oh well, not gonna beat myself up over it too much, but now it's time to refocus and get back on track. Life works in cycles a lot of the time, and it's the same with your game. Lord knows I've had times where it seemed like I was RULING this shit, then had some dry spell where it seemed like I couldn't get laid if my life depended on it... sometimes for months at a time. The thing is, you remain PROCESS oriented, not OUTCOME oriented, and trust that it will work itself out. And the funny thing is, I've found that when you're in one of those down periods, it's often right after that that you SMASH through a plateau.

Long story short, thinking it's time to get ripped abs again. I gotta say, that first "summer of ripped abs" I had back in 2006 was maybe the best thing I've ever done with my life. And when I say that, I mean in terms of my overall contribution to humanity and the world in general. So, you heard it here first. I'm a bit older and the metabolism is a little slower but fuck it, let's go.

Anyway, just finished editing up this latest video blog, which I shot with Alexander in New Zealand. In this one, I wanted to address the topic of being DYNAMIC in your game. A few weeks back, I posted an article that ended up generating a fair amount of controversy. In the article I talked about how I ended up pulling a girl at the end of the night who was reluctant to leave with me by shouting her down and yelling various obscenities at her.

Well, turns out a lot of guys had some difficulty understanding how something like this could work, which makes sense considering it was simply expressed through text. A few people were actually SHOCKED and APPALLED at my behavior (I suspect these folks are the ones who don't actually go out, but hey). So with this vid I wanted to take a beat and maybe explain this tactic a bit further for those who found it confusing. I also pay a visit to the OCCUPY AUCKLAND encampment and take some time to research the nuances of New Zealand culture.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVEhQEasD0A

So the key here is having the ABILITY to go offensive when you the situation calls for it; NOT just randomly teeing off on motherfuckers for no reason or to bully people.

Personally, I have a very very clear set of boundaries for the type of behavior I will and will not accept from people, and when that line gets crossed, they get told in no uncertain terms. It's a bit of a double edged sword here, though. Because while this attitude is the very thing that often attracts the girl (the subcommunication being that you DO NOT CARE whether or not she likes you), it's also very easy to take things too far into the negative zone and just blow the shit out.

Again, you must have BOTH positive and negative, BOTH push and pull, and know when to deploy each of these.

On the Auckland Bootcamp, there was a situation where I sent the student into a street set at the end of the night. The girl was into him, but he kept leaving and each time, I would send him back in. He would make out with the girl, then leave her and come back to us, whereupon I would IMMEDIATELY send him back and instruct him to go for the pull. Here's an excerpt from his actual BC report (you can read the full thread here:)

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/203625

"She moves back from my advances and backs up against a wall. She says something like “You are being really confident and it’s freaking me out so I want you to go away. But I kind of want you to stay.” She keeps saying she is uncomfortable so I say “Do you want me to go?” She doesn’t say anything, I run out of ideas and walk away. Jeffy is right there and tells me to go back and say “That’s it. You’re done. Pack your shit and go. You’re done in this town girl. Get the fuck out!” He later explains the next day that this is a push and in this situation I was all pull pull pull and all she needed was a little push. I did this and she began smiling. I was a bit freaked out at the time to be honest. I get her moving but she keeps testing and at one stage walks into a door area of a bank where a security guard was standing 5 metres away. I get a little bit deterred by this. Somehow I cant remeber I get her walking again with me. I can’t see the instructors anymore so its up to me now. No way to I want to disappoint them. My hotels 5 minutes away. I remember baby steps and I say were going to get food. The whole way there she has her arms crossed. I walk into the food shop next to my hotel but she stares at me confused and asks what I’m doing. I walk out and move her into my hotel lobby and we go into the elevator and get her into my room."


I had demonstrated this very technique the night previous to this for the student and at the time he was sort of flabbergasted at how this could work. When he did it himself, he internalized it. The idea here being that when you're interacting with the girl often times you are just PULL PULL PULL PULL and all it takes is just one little demonstration that you're willing to PUSH, that you ultimately DO NOT CARE and are willing to let her go to turn the interaction around.

Of course, you can't just throw this kind of stuff out there and then WAIT FOR THEIR REACTION.

"Suck a marsupial's cock... TA-DAHHH! WHADDYA THINK OF *THAT*?"

You drop it and are continually rolling. The million dollar mouthpiece does not stop to gauge reaction, it just continues to flow, like a machine gun with infinite ammo... BRRRRAAAAPP! And once you've accomplished what you want to with this tactic (i.e. demonstrate NOT CARING and get her interested again) you BOOM slam it back to a more sweet, positive side of things and pull her back in. Then keep rolling from THERE. LEAD LEAD LEAD LEAD LEAD. You're at the CAUSE end of things in the environment, not the EFFECT end of things, always. You KEEP CAUSING THINGS TO HAPPEN, all the way to the bedroom.

Note as well that most of the time, I am using this stuff on girls that already LOVE me, but are still up in the air or aren't complying with my lead as much as I'd like. I don't use this on chicks that HATE ME, because it will likely make things WORSE. Unless that's what I'm going for... in which case it can make things fairly humorous. Which is my main concern in the field in any case... having fun.

With this type of stuff, you don't have to go as crazy as I do, either, what with the "kill yourself, dongs" and all this. It could be as simple as "I was into you, now I'm not. Go away." It's all a matter of your personal style and taste, you can still communicate what you need to within your own framework.

All in the name of remaining DYNAMIC in set. Dynamic physicality, dynamic facial expressions, dynamics emotions, dynamic verbals. It's very powerful. Experiment around with it and report your findings back.

Back next week with another article/vid.

Cheers,

-j

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PS: This week I'm in Melbourne running free tour THIS THURSDAY with Alex at the Quality Hotel Batman's Hill on Collins (623 Collins Street, Melbourne) starting at 6PM. Interesting coincidence with the venue, because it looks like we may be joined by none other than the Flawless Natural himself: TIM, who is a lot like Batman if you stop to think about it. Everyone is welcome... SEE YOU THERE.

www.jeffyfreetour.com

How ya goin mates, Jeffy here once moar with yet another live update from the fields of majesty, aka Middle Earth, aka Kiwi Village, aka New Zealand. Pretty epic weekend, lots of transformation taking place on this past weekend's Bootcamp... totally warped some students' paradigms, got them LAID... and even Alexander has come around and now admits that Auckland has some pretty hot girls, having railed up a Maori Pocahontas under a waterfall (aka the shower in the hotel room).

Now that the first stage of the down under tour is complete, it's on to Australia. As usual, I'll now present the remaining stops on the tour for those just joining us:

www.jeffyhotseat.com

Australia & New Zealand:
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal


Recorded a pretty awesome vblog yesterday addressing many of the questions that were raised in my article a couple weeks back about being highly polarizing and obnoxious. However, due to issues with the 3rd world internet situation here, I was unable to upload it in time for today's deadline, so I'm going to retain that one for a future article. I've also got new clips from the various free tours I've been conducting, but again they need to be uploaded before that can happen, so today I'm just busting out a straight, text-only article... oldschool style.

Nonetheless, I intend for it to be a barn burner... or more accurately, a funeral pyre.

Today I am solemnly announcing the DEATH OF BEASTMODE.

"What the fuck Jeffy? Aren't you MR BEASTMODE?! What is this all about?"

Glad you asked. Let me explain.

We'll start with some background. About two years ago in San Francisco, circumstances were such that a loose knit group of wings began to coalesce around me and the whole RSD operation there. The first guys to join up were Minotaur and BonoboTimes. Minotaur was a bootcamp student, a guy who was naturally quite aggressive in other areas of his life, but not so much when it came to girls. On the bootcamp, we taught him physical game... and he basically just RAN WITH IT to its logical conclusion. lol. His wing Bonobo came on the scene around that time as well, and together these guys began wreaking utter mayhem in the clubs on a nightly basis. You'd see them out EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, going hard as FUCK and pulling.

Then, through my attorney, the original "Stifler," (a beast par excellence in his own right I might add), I met the now-legendary Evil Stifler. I view meeting this guy as some sort of cosmic intervention, because he's almost like some sort of joke... a caricature of what the ULTIMATE PLAYER might look like, that is, a guy who does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING except strive to get laid. LITERALLY. Combine this with a backstory that is the perfect storm of game... genetic predisposition and upbringing conducive to ultimate natural game.

We all started going out together and around this core, others began to embrace the highly aggressive nature and style of game being executed by these guys. It was RSD principles, but taken to an extreme, going hard at 100% clip, fuck or walk type shit.

Minotaur was the first one to coin the phrase that would become synonomous with this style: "BEAST MODE."

That's what it was. Straight fuckin beast shit. Unthinking action, like fuckin animals, prowling through the club with minimal thought, just action.

I've got to admit, this style was a bit of a shock even to me, at first. But then I saw that the results that these guys were getting and there was no denying that something awesome was happening here. Pulls almost every single night, and occasionally multiple times a night. That's when I knew, there was something to it. That's when I decided to go down this rabbit hole, and immerse myself in this style completely, to learn exactly what the fuck was going on here.

So BAM... role reversal. The teacher decided to become the student as I observed these guys and basically followed their lead over the course of the next two years. the tales and things I saw and experienced over this time were legendary, and I'll likely bring them to the world at some point in the form of a book. This shit, this "beast mode," was the real deal, and I loved every fuckin minute of it. It was brutal, it was effective, and most of all.. exhilaratingly fun.

Hence, I wanted to bring it to the RSD Nation at large so they, too, could reap the benefits of this new style.

So I began espousing it. Initially it was well-received. There were questions, and I had answers. The now-legendary thread "Beasting on Scallywags" by Bonobo brought the PROOF that it worked in the real world. All was well.

But somewhere, somehow, things started to go sideways. People began hearing about "beasting" and applying their own meanings to the term, without actually bothering to learn what the fuck it was all about. Haters began purposefully warping the term to sow dissent. "Beastmode" started to become a caricature of itself. Now you've got guys abandoning the core principles and just power-bombing bitches with their dick with zero attunement to how they're making the chick feel. LITERALLY just zero skill numbers game shit. Getting punched in the fuckin face because they have no calibration, and laboring under the impression that they are "REPPIN BEAST MODE BRO."

Things have gotten so out of hand with this, that it's basically lost all meaning. The shit means nothing now. It's a fuckin sound in the air that sounds "BEEMOHHHHHH" that's it. Hell for all I know, the term could mean a Portuguese dish consisting of waterfowl and spices or some shit. Who gives a fuck, it's done.

I'm over it, fuck beastmode it's done. REST IN PEACE MOTHERFUCKER.

BUT... even though the TERM itself has sort of dissipated beyond meaningful comprehension, the SPIRIT lives on, indefinitely. Over the course of these past two years I've learned everything that could be learned from "beastmode" and these lessons are in fact extraordinarily simple:

1. Act without thought or hesitation immediately upon seeing the girl
2. Play to WIN (not to "avoid losing")

The big thing I learned from winging with Evil Stifler is that the guy is operating on a very, um... "low level consciousness." He doesn't think about SHIT. He just goes. It's true that man is a thinking creature, but we do our best work when we are in that "flow" state. You go and you trust your faculties.

Look at it this way: humans have existed on this planet for roughly half a million years. During that entire time, evolution has ruthlessly weeded out the "unfit," generation after generation. This is not some abstract hyperbole, this is fact. Yet YOU are somehow here today. That means that EVERY SINGLE ONE of your ancestors was able to get laid at least once, going back to the dawn of the species. The ability to approach a woman and have sex with her is hardwired into your fucking DNA and has been continually error-checked for hundreds of millenia. "Social conditioning" is an EXTREMELY recent phenomenon, relatively speaking, yet here we are. Chodes scared to "look bad" half-stepping with pussy behavior and second-guessing themselves and their natural instincts.

Like I said in last week's article, the big lesson that I got from Evil Stifler was how he is completely connected with his sexuality and effortlessly expresses it as though it's the most natural thing in the world... BECAUSE IT IS. Like a cat stalking a bird, he trusts his faculties and goes. He's never had to think about getting laid, and to do so might actually fuck him up. That's why he's somewhat fascinated with RSD and the idea that you could develop some sort of intellectual framework to pickup; it seems utterly alien to him.

When I first started exploring beastmode, I couldn't help but be reminded of my time in Barcelona, and how I was fascinated by the architecture of Antoni Gaudi. Around the same time that I was getting into this style, I ran across an article in National Geographic about Gaudi and was struck by the parallels between himself and Evil Stifler (completely ridiculous, I know... lol... but hear me out).

Gaudí based his buildings on a simple premise: If nature is the work of God, and if architectural forms are derived from nature, then the best way to honor God is to design buildings based on his work. As the Barcelona scholar Joan Bassegoda Nonell noted, "Gaudí's famous phrase, 'originality is returning to the origin,' means that the origin of all things is nature, created by God." Gaudí's faith was his own. But his belief in the beautiful efficiency of natural engineering clearly anticipated the modern science of biomimetics.




Gaudi understood that nature's purpose is not aesthetic but functional. Nature does not try to make works of art, or to "look good" but rather produces elements that rule the growth and reproduction of species. He was a "tightrope walker on the line bridging art and science. He understood that nature is constructed by laws of mathematics. What is strongest is inherently lightest and most efficient, and therefore most beautiful."

Often times, guys get into this stuff and the first thing they do is have a knee-jerk reaction to "social conditioning," and take pains to eradicate it from their lives. The problem is, it just gets replaced by another form of conditioning... "pickup conditioning," where everything is analyzed. Relative value to the girl, angles of approach, etc etc etc ad nauseam. Social conditioning gets replaced by another form of conditioning.

The true strength lies in a return to the origin. A return to nature and natural forms.

A return to "beastmode."

Like I said, at this point I think I've learned everything there is to learn from our buddy Evil Stifler, because it's not that complicated, nor in fact is it even "his" to begin with. He's just completely free of extra "thought-baggage", takes massive action and goes for the kill, every time.

Having internalized this, I feel I can now return to the realm of the "higher consciousness folk" with a much better understanding of the underpinnings of our more complex ideas surrounding this whole "success with women" thing. Head to head with Evil Stifler in set, going for the same girl, a lot of times I can blow his ass out or eclipse him because I have better verbals and better technical understanding. That's fuckin SCIENCE right there pal.





But a lot of the time, while I'm busting out my awesome technical verbals, dude just grabs and goes. He's got the balls to yank and pull while I'm still dickin around and in those instances he wins out. And even if he doesn't, welp... he just goes and pulls some other ass. The dude pulls every fuckin night. So, the bare fact of the matter remains... KEEP IT SIMPLE, STUPID. You have everything you need RIGHT NOW to get laid like the proverbial rockstar. You've just got to let go of the noise in the head, take massive action without hesitating, and play to win.

"Beastmode" may be dead, but as Bassegoda wrote: "Looking toward the future, the lesson of Gaudí is not to copy his solutions but rather to look at nature for inspiration … nature does not go out of fashion."

Cheers,

-j

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PS. Heading to PERTH this week... for those of you on the West coast of Aussieland, get your ass to the free tour, as this is my FIRST TIME EVER in Perth and not only that, Alexander is coming with me. All are welcome as there are plenty of seats remaining. Here's the venue:

Metro Hotel Perth (61 Canning Highway, South Perth)
Thursday, November 10th, 6:00 PM

See you this Thursday!

www.jeffyfreetour.com

Hey dudes, Jeffy here once more with an update from my place smack dab in the middle of Auckland city centre. Arrived here with my team yesterday, slept off the jet lag and I'm ready to start the ownage that shall be recorded in the history books as teh Jeffy Hotseat 2011, Aussie/New Zealand Edition. Here are the remaining dates for the tour:

www.jeffyhotseat.com

Australia & New Zealand:
November 5: Auckland
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal


Feeling a lot better having rested for a week and a half, after my voice completely blew out and left me susceptible to the flu. Spent the last two weeks feeling like death and likely spread this infection to several people. Also have been getting fat due to the incessant traveling. If I decide to do another tour after we wrap this one, I'm definitely going to dial back the intensity a little bit.

However, the philosophy I've been living with for the past year or so has been a simple one, consisting of two words:

"WHY NOT"

After you get the mechanics of game down, really the only thing that's left holding you back are your own excuses. Rather than allow yourself to be a slave to your own SPECULATION of how things MIGHT turn out, you'd do far better to just TRY IT and see what happens.

Girl walking by on the street in a hurry, you think "oh well it probably won't turn out well"... FUCK IT... WHY NOT. You approach.

Faced with having to undertake some ridiculously intense schedule as a result of some internal buearacratic bullshit? Oh it might be too intense... FUCK IT... WHY NOT.

The thing is, the Why not philosophy is based in REALITY. If there's some reason why you shouldn't do it, that is going to become evident pretty quickly... in my case, ruining my voice and getting sick. However, this is firmly rooted in REALITY. Not speculation. A big part of "why not"... is actually finding out why not. lol.

So anyway, whingeing aside, I'm back on the grind for another month as we head into the Australian summer, and what a glorious tyme it shall be.

Last week I promised a video featuring the enigmatic Evil Stifler, and today I make good on that promise. Although to be fair, you don't actually see him in the video, you just hear him mumbling some idiocy off camera. People often say on the forum, "I wanna see the Evil Stifler seminar," or "Evil Stifler should become an instructor."

Well, guess what, this will NEVER HAPPEN. Tyler has talked about this before, how difficult it is to find a quality instructor. The average guy hears something like "this guy fucked 500 girls" or "I did 35 girls this month" and their knee jerk reaction is to think, "wow I would like to do that." However, in doing so they fail to take into account the enormity of what those kinds of feats entail in reality.

A guy who has fucked 500 girls is ABNORMAL in a fairly extreme way. Five hundred is a very large number if you stop to think about it.

Personally, I'm not even at HALF that, and I'm a pretty weird dude myself. When you really stop to think about this and understand the level of dedication someone must have to GETTING LAID in order to rack up these kinds of numbers, well it's something that would give a normal person a bit of pause. The guy that does that is going to be a bit... um... DIFFERENT than the average guy browsing the internet wanting to get laid or get a girlfriend.

So now, imagine taking one of these guys, and then somehow getting them to stop thinking with their dick long enough to actually be PROFESSIONAL for long stretches of time and further to develop the skills that are necessary to both articulate and transfer useful information to students in a way that is going to garner them actual results in a short period of time.

For me, I view teaching this stuff to people as a CALLING. For Evil Stifler, he would view it as a SUPREME ANNOYANCE.

Evil Stifler seminar would consist of this: he says some moronic nonsense that makes no sense whatsoever, like, "Just act like a black guy," then he sees some chick walk by in the hallway, and leaves the room to beast on her. SEMINAR OVER.

So yes, while I'm sure you would all love to see Mr. Evil Stifler espouse his ideas on race relations further, that just ain't gonna happen, so you're going to have to make do with this little clip from the San Francisco stop in the Get Laid or Die Trying book tour.



So, as the video explains, the two big lessons to be taken from Evil Stifler are GOD-LEVEL social momentum and COMPLETE COMFORT with expressing your sexuality.

As the man himself states in the clip, he's never actually "going out to pick up." His ENTIRE EXISTENCE is one big sarge-fest. That's it. Period. At any time of day or night, if he sees a girl he likes, he steps to her. He has been doing this ever since he was a small child, non-stop, for decades now. You wanna talk about MACRO-MOMENTUM, this is the poster boy right here.

The power of social momentum simply cannot be overstated in my opinion. If you come to the Hotseat, I show a clip of Evil Stifler picking up some woman. His verbals are shit. He talks like a chode, asking basic rapport questions. BUT... one of the most important lessons of "vibing" is: "it's not what you say, it's the energy behind it." Since he is literally ALWAYS ON, his game is never contrived, he is never "in his head" attempting to manage "how he's coming off" or any BULLSHIT like that which I see guys obsessing over on the forums. He is SPONTANEOUS and PRESENT, and from what I have observed of him over the past two years, I attribute this directly to his constant approaching and macro-momentum.

Look at Tyler for another example. His game has always been good, but recently he's taken up another challenge which he's posted about here... a THREE YEAR CHALLENGE where he goes out every single day until he's 35. Now, let me do a little aside here to reiterate that for Evil Stifler, there is no "going out," there is simply "existing while picking up girls" lol... however most people aren't insane sex addicts and have other shit going on in their lives, so Tyler might be a more relatable example here. Sort of. :)

Anyway, Tyler's been on this challenge for the past several months and the improvements have been nothing short of stratospheric, and I'm talking the types of shit where even I am like, "HOLY FUCK, this dude's on some heroic legend shit here." Like, SMACKING GLASSES out of girls' hands to shatter on the floor, going up to a legit model on the street in New York while she's on the phone, yelling "PUT THAT FUCKING SHIT DOWN" and then hooking her in after she hangs up on whoever she was talking to.

This stuff simply wouldn't be possible without the level of momentum he's built up.

Now, the good news is you don't have to go out for marathon stretches every night. I was talking to Tyler about this and he said that he's found even 20 minutes a night is good, as that's where most of the lessons are in any case. The first twenty minutes often make or break your night, isnt' that the truth. You see how you react and how you perform in those first twenty minutes and you can garner a LOT of lessons. Either you get on top of the club, or the club gets on top of you. Ain't that the truth.

So yes, the first lesson of Evil Stiffy is social momentum, but the other big one is his complete comfort with expressing his sexuality.

In the clip I talk about the first time I saw myself on camera gaming next to him.... and how while I might be smoother than 90% of the population when it comes to escalation, next to Evil Stifler I looked almost stiff and robotic.

I think ultimately this is a result of social conditioning... remember, Evil Stifler is a "natural" who had basically the perfect storm of factors to make him what he is today... genetically extremely high testosterone for starters (I've seen the guy JUMP OUT OF MOVING VEHICLES to get at girls, and he's seemingly indestructible when it comes to booze/crap food/lack of sleep and maintains a ripped physique despite never setting foot in the gym... although this is probably from a combo of literally WALKING AROUND ALL DAY BEASTING CHICKS and FUCKING CONSTANTLY... no joke), and both his father and grandfather were legendary pussy hounds from what I've heard.

So for him, escalating on girls is no different than shaking hands with someone when you meet them. Actually, for him it's probably more like BREATHING.

For the rest of us, when we "escalate" on the girl, we have to simultaneously wrestle internally with all manner of nonsense, like "DURR HOW IS IT COMING ACROSS" and so forth. Now, when you take this into consideration with the "law of state transfer" aka "whatever you feel they feel," well, now we run into some difficulty. If you feel weird about it, the girl is going to feel weird about it. With Evil Stifler, it's the most natural thing in the world for a man to express himself sexually to a woman, so when he does it, she feels comfortable with it too. It's crazy to watch... he's got this seemingly very light touch, yet at the same time he's applying MASSIVE PRESSURE. Yes, fingering girls on the street, etc etc. Again, you come to the hotseat and I show this exact video that I'm talking about where we're side by side and you can see for yourself.

Of course, the man is human and doesn't get every girl. Far from it. He's banged 5-600 at this point however, there's no denying that.

This is the point where the dudes come out saying "Durr he plays the number game, durr he fucks low quality" etc etc.

When it comes to "elite players," I'll definitely admit there are two types... the guys who only want to fuck the 10s, and the guys who just want to eat. Derek would be an example of the former... he's the dictator, and he lives up to that. However, with Evil Stifler, he bangs any girl he finds attractive... but understand this is WITHIN REASON. haha. In practical terms this means 7+... although I'd wager most of the girls he fucks are hotter than the average girl someone reading this gets as well. Bottom line, it's easy for a guy who can't fathom this dudes' game to look for excuses and write it off as some statistical numbers game bullshit where he must be fuckin fat chicks, but that's simply not the case.

At the end of the day, Evil Stifler himself wouldn't even UNDERSTAND the majority of things that get talked about on these forums. I've tried to read him a few things from the forum and he is just befuddled, incapable of even comprehending what the fuck these guys' collective problem is. If you told him this kind of stuff, he would just glaze over and walk away... not as some "frame control tactic," but just because his brain does not process anything that does not directly contribute to him getting laid in the immediate future. I think our friend Beast Von Gandi put it best:

"For evil stifler, game is FUN and not some retarded thinking game about looking cool and life goals. He beasts and gets laid cause he likes doing it.

He has a very clean cut brain attuned to fucking a lot of girls. There isn't much else in there. He has no sense of the future or the past -- i.e. his brain doesn't compute those things, those neurons are not present.

Non-stop beasting---yes, that doesn't mean he's harassing everybody in his way. He's always overall contributing to a good vibe bringing what's called party-dong. I.e. party and fun and dick i.e. physicality and escalation. That also works out because he has no emotional issues. So the first thing what you want to do is to get all your emotional issues handled, that'll get you very far in terms of game.

Any sort of repressed anger, lack of emotional expressivity, lack of ability to connect, hatred etc.

His game is all sub-conscious. He doesn't have nerd awareness which hurts your game more than anything else out there--makes women not trust you.

As far as my point about that he "pulls women"---and you want to know the specifics of that. The point is that as you get better, you stop seeing the differences and only see the common things about what makes a woman and brings the man in him to meet her feminine side.

So the point about quality etc really means nothing..he'll pull what he's attracted to and what responds to him...plenty of cuties. He doesn't really do ugs because there are plenty of cuties that respond to him. But he's not thinking that way--he's gonna flirt and beast on most girls."

Anyways, gonna go down and hit up Nando's then take quick nap before a touch of beastmode in the New Zealand night. You guys got any moar questions about this guy's game, let's hit it up in the comments section!

cheers

-j

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PS: Auckland Free Tour is TOMORROW, and turns out I'll be joined by Alexander on this one as well. Looks like there is still a good deal of room left at the event so everyone is invited to attend without having to register for the event. Only thing we'd ask is you send an email to with the header "Auckland Free Tour" and say you're gonna be there. Here's the venue:

Citylife Auckland Hotel (171 Queen Street, Auckland)
Thursday, November 3rd
6-9pm


See you there!

Hey guys, Jeffy back once again, this time recovering at home from the last 8 weeks on tour. I've been doing domestic stuff like going to the mall with a cherish and buying duct tape, lint rollers, an 8" Wusthof Classic Chef's knife, v-neck shirts, Plan B, nerd glasses, frozen yogurt and Versace plates, eating food in foam form and then having sex intermittently while between episodes of "Jersey Shore" and "Vampire Diaries." Wash, rinse, repeat.

So the R&R seems to be healing my voice up nicely as we roll into the Australian summer and I arrive in New Zealand next week. Here's the Aussie dates and beyond:

Australia & New Zealand:
November 5: Auckland
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

www.jeffyhotseat.com

This week wanted to throw out more of a straight "nuts and bolts" piece without any frills, so I'm presenting the following video from the Chicago stop on the "Get Laid or Die Trying" book tour back in April. In it, I basically go over my entire game in a nutshell. Check it out:




So, the crux of what I'm talking about here comes down to making the shift internally where you no longer care about "getting out without looking bad" or "rejection." Tony Robbins talks about "emotional leverage," the point where the potential pain of making a change has now become outweighed by the VERY REAL PAIN of continuing to live as you are living; in this case, you arrive at the point where you're like, "Well, being a half-stepper (not conveying intent to the girl or escalating when the window is open) isn't getting me the results so I might as well say "fuck it" and just go for it." 

This is one of the major shifts that i'm trying to make with a student on Bootcamp. He HAS to make this shift internally at some point during the weekend, and sometimes it takes until the very last MINUTE of the program, lol, but I've seen that too. And when they do break through and finally step to the girl MAN TO WOMAN, it is a joy to behold and the girls respond. 

So there we have the foundation of my game. Approach, communicate as a man to a woman from the beginning, and self-amuse as opposed to attempting to impress the girls or make them stay and keep talking to me. From here, this screens out the ones that don't actually like me for me, and the ones who do, the attraction is 10x more powerful because I'm being authentic, unapologetic, etc. 

Note that I also have the capital to back my shit up, because I've been balls-deep in this motherfucker for ten years now. That means my skill at dealing with various conversational gambits, circumnavigating logistical obstacles and the like is completely embedded in my firmware now. Now, it's just about execution, and therein lies the art. 

Some guys, when they start acting in this masculine dominant sort of polarity, they take it too far and now you see dudes leering hard on chicks, mindlessly barking in their face in the name of "beastmode" and groping on them off the opener. Now, we can do this stuff from time to time, julien, tyler, myself, but again bear in mind we're professionals and all have pretty high levels of emotional attunement and can tell when it's time for bold moves like that. 

GENERALLY however, I will take about 20 minutes to ramp up to making out with the girl, and even then probably won't hold the makeout too long or get too deep. I'm just trying to cement man to woman tone and then move into the rapport/logistics discovery phase. 

I think for a lot of guys, they're so inexperienced that they can't see the shades of gray, everything is black and white; either you're a FULL FAGGOT, or RAPIST. Either you do nothing and try to come in under the radar, or you go psycho and just start flagrantly throwing uncalibrated "kino" all over the place. You have to find the happy medium. Like building a fire, you cultivate the escalation and let it grow, but also need to recognize when lightning strikes and capitalize with a bold move. But generally, you ramp it up smoothly. When you get resistance you are unfazed and take it in stride when it's "yellow light". You PERSIST UNFAZED. It's a sort of "studied nonchalance" or being "at ease in the pocket." 

So you get the makeout within 20 minutes. Now these days I find same night pull from meet to leaving the venue to generally be 45-90 minutes. So you might be thinking what do I do with the other half hour to an hour?

At this point, I'll just go into "interested and interesting" mode a la oldschool David D. Get number immediately in case something happens, then just roll into simple rapport questions, explore each other's life. Blend some escalation and verbal flirtation in, but since that's already been established you just fractionate back a bit. Find out her logistics and start moving it forward, pull her using the "baby steps" method. 

Another big part of my overall game is the monitoring of three variables: 1. entitlement (constant raising of standards) 2. horniness and 3. social momentum (both macro and micro). The past couple years, when I was exploring this whole "beastmode" culture with evil stifler, that was the thing that struck me most and was plain as day in retrospect: the more you approach, the more at ease and skilled at game you become, so why not take that to its logical conclusion: BEASTMODE NEVER STOPS.

That's something I'd like to explore more in next week's video actually where we will meet Evil Stifler and delve deeper into the particulars and benefits of long-term social momentum for your game. 

In any case, if you have any questions about my game, the vid or the article leave them in the comments section! I'm off for another foam feast with a nice young lady, which I know sounds like a vulgar euphemism for cunnilingus, but it is.

cheers.

-j

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PS: Don't forget I'll be in AUCKLAND NEW ZEALAND next week for the first time ever to eat some Kiwis (also vulgar euphemism). These presentations I'm giving are very highly polished and everybody in attendance down under next month is going to learn a lot and I think be blown away. Still a lot of seats left so check it out today!

www.jeffyhotseat.com

whatup fellows, Jeffy here writing this from my friend's place in Brooklyn, hopped up on a number of homeopathic remedies.

Last week's Chicago Bootcamp was pretty epic, and I'm ready to hit up the final stop on the US leg of the tour before taking a well-deserved weekend off back home. Here are the remaining stops on the tour:

October 22: New York City

Australia & New Zealand:
November 5: Auckland
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

So yes, I took things a little too far last weekend, thinking I was invincible, and in the process completely blew out my voice. Like, to the point where on Sunday I was literally physically incapable of speech. For someone in my position this is obviously not a very good position to be in, especially given that I've got what might be the biggest speaking event of my life coming up in the New York City Hotseat.

When I first set up this tour schedule, Owen warned me that it was pretty aggressive and noted that he was curious to see how I would handle it. Honestly, up until this point it hasn't been that bad. Yes, it's been a lot of work and more than I've taken on in the past, but my entire "career" leading up to this point has been a series of increasingly taxing bouts of activity, each requiring more effort than the last. Basic principles of progressive overload. So yes, I was READY to take on this load, and like I've stated in this space over the past few weeks, I can feel that it has changed me. Made me tougher, better. And I'm sure that in the coming years, myself, Owen and the crew will continue to pile on the challenges in order to achieve our dreams and change the world in some small way inthe process.

However, seeing the relative ease with which I've been adapting made me a little cocky and so last weekend I sort of "threw caution to the wind."

Every stop on the tour, by the last night of bootcamp after a full day of hotseat, my voice feels a little scratchy and sounds hoarse, but I know that I will then have four days of rest to rebuild it. It was the same in Chicago, but on the last night, rather than take it easy after the hotseat in terms of putting stress on the voice, I continued to press the pedal to the floor and go berserk in the club, throttle wide open.

I mean, I'd been screaming all weekend. On Friday night, I pulled a girl out of a two set with one of the students. We were making out, but she wouldn't leave with me once we got outside after closing time, so I started shouting at her, "FUCK OFF YOU LITTLE FUCKIN FEATHERHEAD, SUCK THIS HOMELESS GUY'S DICK" (homeless guy looked hopeful) "GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE, YOU'RE DONE... YOU'RE DONE IN THIS TOWN, GET THE FUCK OUT... GO, GO, GO, GO LEAVE, GO LEAVE, YOU THINK I'M SOME FUCKIN CHODE YOU CAN TOOL? AHAHAHAH DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHO THE FUCK I AM? FUCKIN KILL YOURSELF GET THE FUCK AWAY YOU'RE DONE IN THIS TOWN."

She says, "Do you know who the fuck *I* am?"

I go, "YES YOU ARE A LITTLE 22 YEAR OLD FEATHER HEAD WHO DOESNT KNOW FUCKIN SHIT, GET THE FUCK OUT, I THOUGHT YOU LIKED ME BUT YOU WERE PLAYING ME THE WHOLE TIME... FUCKIN LAME."

Mind you, the way I'm saying this, it's so fucking over the top, she can't tell if I'm being serious, or joking, or a combination of the two (bingo). People are standing around watching this in utter confusion. Then BAM I immediately slam gears and go sweet, crack a couple jokes and pull her in... boom it's back on. "You're coming with me." I literally drag her to a cab and throw her ass in. She says she won't leave without her friend who is with the student. I tell the student, "TAKE CARE OF THIS."

Student then proceeds to drag his girl over and throw her in the same cab and get in. WTF. I know if it goes down like this, it's gonna be a bamboozlement back at the place, where the girls just chat and party and nobody fucks.

I stand to the side and refuse to even get in the cab. The driver starts arguing with them and kicks them out after 2 minutes. The girl says to me, "What happened?"

I say, in front of all of them, "What happened? This guy (pointing at student) was too much of a faggot to handle his business, he wasn't gangster enough to pull your friend here away on his own like a man."

They laugh. The friend then actually DRAGS THE STUDENT OFF and says "See you tomorrow wendy" and BOOM DONE.

So yeah, similar shenanigans on Sunday morning as we rumble through the clubs. Brad is present, not running program though, so he's quite drunk and LITERALLY SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF HIS LUNGS "I AM BEATUIFULLLL WHOAAAAAAAAA" on the street as we walk to the debrief spot, eating street tacos piled high with magical carne goodness as we walk toward Eggsperience.

Stupidly, I decide to join him in this activity, until a man passing by smacks the taco plate out of his hands. I respond by taking my rather large taco and HURLING it directly at the man's head, where it explodes, splattering meat and salsa everywhere. Then, at the diner, we make some huge scene by pounding the table yelling "MEN MEN MEN MEN MEN" over and over again, and I sing "Part of Your World" from the Little Mermaid at top volume while combing the salsa out of my hair with a fork which I refer to as a "dinglehopper."

I think it was around here that my larynx popped.

Little side note here... I know a lot of people read this shit and think, "wow, you guys are so obnoxious how come you don't get into fights? DURR I would have killed you if you did that etc etc" well guess what... We have COMMON SENSE as well as EMOTIONAL ACUITY and moreover we refuse to play the escalation game with dudes. You would not kill me. You would get mad, then I would make some amazingly on-point joke with a hint of self-deprecation and you would then think I was awesome and try to get rapport with me. On Thursday, I tooled some Australian dude out HARD, body blocking him and mocking his accent then stealing away the girl he was trying to talk to. I saw this guy at the next bar, and said "HEY BRO!" and he was all "OI MATE!" with a smile on his face greeting me like I was his old friend. I'm not scared, I'm not a punk and I know how to play the game. With the taco thing, it was like, Okay, you knocked my friend's food on the street, you and your girl got a face full of taco and we're even. In fact, I think I may have actually said that to the guy as he tried to step up. lol.

The frame control shit I can pull out is mind-bogglingly ridiculous, like even to myself. I remember one time recently I was on Bootcamp and the student urinated near some homeless guy's bedding or something, and the dude was following him around, freaking the fuck out. The student was partially scared and also started playing into the escalation game with the dude. I roll up hard and say, "LEAVE. DO NOT SPEAK TO THIS MAN ANY FURTHER, WALK AWAY."

So the student crosses the street, but the homeless guy follows him, yelling obscenities. I turn back around and see this, so I SPRINT across the street, yell "HEY" and as the homeless guy turns to face me I shove his ass hard, and he goes flying back over a sign and lands on his ass. Now, I realize that this guy is going to get up and be SUPER ANGRY.

Sure enough, he pops up looking to attack and I say to him, "Oh my god, what happened?"

For some reason, this MAKES HIM FORGET I WAS THE ONE WHO SHOVED HIM. He starts complaining about the guy pissing on him, and I say, "Omg, dude idiots... dude, it's not worth it man, these idiots are drunk... are you okay?" And the dude nods and wanders off. I'm like holy fuck what just happened? I mean, you can read about this in the student's bootcamp review... yes, this really happened.

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/191242/forum

Point is, I am fully confident that I can talk my way down from any situation, and if push comes to shove I can RUN. lol. Having said that, I've only been in two altercations that I can think of in the past ten years, and in both those instances I LET IT GO THERE.

MORE IMPORTANTLY, I do not live in fear of the environment. 2PAC said, "The player does what he wants, the bitch does what he CAN." Looking for PERMISSION. I am always at the CAUSE end of things in the environment, not the EFFECT end. And if something happens that is dangerous to me, I can always CAUSE something else to happen to fix it.

Now, you can sit here and give me isolated examples in the media of people dying in the club DURR or tell me how you would kill me and all this shit, but guess what... you wouldn't kill me... you would SUCK MY DICK.

Or you know what? Maybe you would kill me. I don't know, whatever. But until that day comes, I'ma continue living my life like the fuckin BOSS.

Anyway, that was a bit of a diversion from the main point, which is that I overtaxed myself on the voice because I was cocky, and now I'm paying the price. I've been on COMPLETE VOCAL REST for the past three days, and I'm just now at the point where I feel confident that I can perform this weekend. Do you have any idea how difficult it is for a guy like me to STOP TALKING? It's weird, because I've noticed that if I don't talk, nobody does. Like, I'm in the car with all these dudes, and normally I'd be saying shit and sort of directing the conversation, but because I'm mute, well... now we drive in SILENCE. I'm not sure why this happens.

My friend said that it feels weird to talk and not get a response. I don't have this trait... which is probably one reason I'm good at pickup. I don't gie a shit if people don't respond, or if they do respond, or if they say things conducive to what I'm trying to hear. I just GO. Yes, I take into account their response to a degree, but largely I am just doing a stream of consciousness RANT and vibing off of the environment.

But anyway, even with all this rest, I can feel it's not completely healed... there's like a scab on my voicebox to the point where it's workable... but now I'm going to run these NYC events and basically rip it off. Thank god I'm taking a full week off in San Francisco after this to recover.

Lesson learned. The new Jim Collins book "Great By Choice" discusses a concept called "fanatic discipline" illustrated by the term "20 Mile March." The idea being that you march 20 miles every day, no more, no less, regardless of the weather of situation. Every day, you do your 20 miles. This means being CONSISTENT over a long period of time. Basically he outlines this concept as requiring two types of discomfort:

1. Delivering high performance in difficult times
2. Holding back in good times.

Take for example lifting at the gym, a hobby of mine in which I've certinly learned the importance of the 20 mile march. You go to the damn gym even on the days you don't feel like it. Conversely, on the days you feel like you could punch through a brick wall, you do your routine and don't try to be a hero by piling on additional weight that's not in the program.

If you don't go when you don't feel like it, you fail to improve in the long haul. If you go too hard, what happens? You get injured and this has the same effect as if you didn't go at all... in fact it may even be worse because now you're out of the game for weeks or months and it can be difficult to regain momentum.

This is why I get frustrated when I hear people saying shit like, "I've been going out for 3 months and I don't see the results I want this shit doesn't work bro" and the like. I also get concerned when I hear people talking about doing insane challenges like going out every day for three years.

Unless you're Tyler, that is. But then again he is a cyborg.

Actually, it was Tyler who brought this concept of the 20 mile march to my attention recently and I liked it so much that I thought about writing an article about it... then prompty went and ignored the damn advice. I went too hard when I was feeling good, and now I'm paying the price. But like I said, lesson learned.

Think of your journey in learning game in similar terms. This is truly a LONG HAUL not a sprint, and striving for goals in a slow-and-steady, in it to win it longterm mindset is going to make the difference between the guys who dabble around for a while and drop out and the guys who realize their dreams and end up mastering the game.

Anyway, gonna hit up some Throat Coat tea right now and hit the sack in anticipation of tomorrow's New York Free Tour (by the way if you have vocal issues you might want to check this stuff out, it's available at most supermarkets and is used by singers and other voice pros to keep the apparatus healthy). Bootcamp in New York Motherfuckin City, balls to the wall. Hopefully I won't get killed in the club. I am so scared!

-j

PS: Don't forget we got an all star cast on program this weekend, and Tyler will be there with me for this weekend's Hotseat, running his special "Foundations: Reloaded" seminar on Sunday for Hotseat attendees. So again, this is going to be TWO DAYS of program for the price of one... so now would be a very good time to check out the RSD Hotseat!

Yoyoyo what up Jeffy here, writing this little missive this evening from a plane 37,000 feet over a large expanse of nowhere in the American West, headed toward Chicago and this weekend's slate of Free tour/Bootcamp/Hotseat programs with Tyler. The weeks keep falling off the calendar, and this is what we got left on the docket:

United States:
October 15: Chicago
October 22: New York City

Australia & New Zealand:
November 5: Auckland
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

So first things first; wanted to start off today's piece with a short clip from the Free Tour I did with Alexander in Munich, Germany last month. In this vid I discuss a few different ideas, including the dangers of the "spectator culture" we live in, success barriers and progressive desensitization to social pressure. I'm not wearing a mic in this one, so the audio is a little echoey but it was filmed with Alex's $4000 Canon so the image quality hopefully makes up for it. lol



This "spectator culture" which I refer to in the video is often what paralyzes guys trying to improve their success with women in the early stages of the development of the skill set.

At first, they believe the system will save them. But the fact of the matter is, the system itself is a work in progress. Just as we look at the people who lived hundreds of years ago as frequently savage and ignorant, it's very likely the generations to come will view us in a similar light. So the "unthinking masses" sit back, watch "Everybody Loves Raymond" and crosses their collective fingers, hoping that they too will "get lucky" like Raymond and somehow magically score some hot-ass wife without having to exert themselves whatsoever.

Further, even if they can get past this culturally ingrained idea that success is not the result of hard work and effort over time, then they come up against their own fears that they will be ridiculed for even attempting to step up and take action by those who choose to remain on the sidelines. That they will fail in public and be mocked by their peers.

Here's the thing though: once you start playing, the spectators ARE NO LONGER YOUR PEERS.

They're just monkeys in the peanut gallery.

I remember back in 2006 or so, I had a student in Sydney, Australia who was 68 years old. We took this dude out to the hot clubs and he was swirling around flagrantly macking on girls literally a THIRD of his age. This garnered a wide range of responses, from people gawking at him to openly ridiculing him. This guy did not seem to notice at all, however, and in fact ended up making out with a few young ladies.

During the debrief, I asked him what his biggest lessons were from the night, and he brought up the people who had been talking shit on him. "I noticed it in my peripheral awareness but then had the realization that it didn't matter; I was taking action and they were just sitting on the sidelines, doing NOTHING."

That's the bottom line: if you are taking more action than somebody, why the FUCK should you care what they think?

There is only one person on this planet who ultimately gives a shit whether you succeed or fail and that is YOU. Nobody else is gonna do this for you.

That's one thing I've had to learn on this tour: there are a million little tasks to be attended to on a regular basis, and while yes delegation is always a wise move, at the end of the day it's on ME to make sure these things get done.

With the tour progressing at an unrelenting pace, what this basically means is just putting one foot in front of the other while staying on the path. In the short term this builds the character that will be required down the line when you amp up the scale of things and take your plans to achieve your goals to the next level.

So there's two things that are equally important: the day to day execution and the long-term vision. One thing I've learned from Tyler is that the guy ALWAYS thinks five steps ahead and everything he does, no matter how strange it seems on the surface, is designed to carry him towards a long-term goal, often by some convoluted path that makes sense logically as a whole.

In that sense, he reminds me of some kind of supervillain, like Gustavo Fring from the TV show "Breaking Bad" (speaking of spectator culture, awesome show which just ended its fourth season with a bang). Collected, in control of his emotions and calmly executing what needs to be done, no matter the cost.

Except Tyler still has all of his face. RIP Gus Fring lol.



So this is somthing that I've been striving towards myself, with increasing proficiency. The touring teaches you things about yourself. You have to keep at the gym so you don't get fat. You meditate so you don't go ballistic when things go wrong (as they always do). You stay on top of the promotional efforts. You coordinate with your team and communicate effectively. On your days off you engage in "high quality" relaxtion activities to keep your cortisol levels down over the long haul. Etc etc etc.

So what does the long haul entail for me personally? After this tour, the next focus will be establishing a blog similar to what Brad's done with his site, where people who have no idea what the hell jlaix is all about can go and easily get caught up to speed with the best stories, articles and videos all in one place. Like a manifesto of sorts. After that, it's getting to work on the next book, then maybe a video program outlining my fully developed online game package. And of course, Jeffy Hotseat 2.

Speaking of the book, we just received out first statement from Simon & Schuster on overall book sales, and looks like "Get Laid or Die Trying" is doing a lot better than we even expected it to. Not NYT Bestseller status, but I gotta say I was surprised.

It's weird because frankly, I'd kinda forgotten about the book. It's like, OK, I did that, now let's see what the next thing is. Always on to the next. But then to get this news from S&S, that's a real, concrete reminder that everything you do, every step you take in your road to success accrues. You really have to think of it as an investment in your future... one that grows and compounds over time until you reach escape velocity and BOOM... you've made it.

And yes, I've actually gotten laid from the book, several times now... if not explicitly then certainly as a mitigating factor. It's kind of strange to me, and a weird illustration of the power of "value."

I mean, yes, my book is about my experiences as a degenerate-slash-ho-bag in my twenties, but that really does not seem to matter. After all, I have seen it prominently displayed in several airport bookstores, on Reddit, and was spotted in the "new releases" section at the public library in Janesville, Wisconsin. It is published by Simon & Schuster, that's a big company right? This must be LEGIT.

Like, it doesn't matter if the book was about sucking cocks for crack, the fact that it's a bona fide REAL PUBLISHED BOOK IN THE STORE is enough for the chick to say, well this guy is a success, he has value and this makes me want to fuck him, if only just a LITTLE BIT more.

Of course, I was getting laid without much problem before all of this, but I got to say, I'm enjoying the perks now... but let's not forget that this is the result of FIFTEEN YEARS of blood, sweat and tears. And love.

Anyways, plane's about to land so they're giving the call to shut down the electronics, so let me just hammer out this last sentence or two and resume listening to the "Drive" soundtrack while staring into space and pretending I'm Ryan Gosling.



listen to this while looking at the picture for maximum effect...



Cheers, back next Monday when I'll be in NEW YORK FUCKING CITY. God Bless.

-jeffy

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PS: just wanted to give a reminder that TYLER AKA OWEN FROM REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS is gonna be with me at the next two events in Chicago and NYC, doing a special TWO FOR ONE seminar on sunday for hotseat attendees, entitled "Foundations: Reloaded," a reimagining of our first DVD program on the fundamentals of game. This is a two day seminar for the price of one, so check it out!

www.jeffyhotseat.com

Hey gang, it's your boy Jeffy coming at you from my lovely home in San Francisco. Just ran the hotseat with Tyler here this past weekend and the turnout was epic, way more than I expected. Tyler also ran a free seminar on Sunday for hotseat attendees and from what I've heard it was so on point it was reeeediculous. Tyler will be traveling with me throughout the USA for this tour, doing the same seminar each Sunday and it will only get better I imagine. This is geared towards developing the newbie site that will help sort out what exactly the "fundamentals of RSD" are to someone just coming into this stuff. Anyway here are the remaining spots on the tour:

www.jeffyhotseat.com

United States:
October 8: Los Angeles
October 15: Chicago
October 22: New York City

Australia & New Zealand:
November 5: Auckland
November 12: Perth
November 19: Melbourne
November 26: Sydney

Canada:
January 7: Vancouver
January 14: Calgary
January 21: Toronto
January 28: Montreal

I've been trying to improve the Hotseat at every stop, tighten it up, make it MORE effective, and each week I make a couple tweaks that improve it. In London, it was such a huge crowd, and I didn't have to run bootcamp that night, so I wanted to run it super long, longer in fact than it even needed to be to convey what we're trying to teach. This was a bit of a mistake for several reasons... first I think by the end (2AM) people were just checkig out mentally from information overload and fatigue, and secondly and more importantly, in order to pump myself up and keep myself going through the seminar I mentally put myself into a "FUCK YEAH LETS BE AWESOME" headspace. Again, huge crowd, all these people came out and I really wanted to put on a show for them with both guns blazing. 

The problem with this is that it made me come off as aggressive and full of myself. While that wasn't my intention at all, it sort of BECAME that. So to hear comments like that was quite a recalibration of why I'm doing this whole thing in the first place: to HELP PEOPLE learn about this. The hotseat program is not about "proof how awesome Jeffy is" but rather it's an exploration of the principles behind success in pickup and with women in general. I know on the forum I have this overbearing asshole persona but again that's just the forum (and with some of the shit that you read here can you really blame me?) and in reality the reason I continue to do this job year after year is because I have a passion for helping people, something I didn't feel I could accomplish working in the corporate world in some office.

Having said that, I went into the SF hotseat not as some Billy Badass but rather as a FULLY HUMBLE TEACHER who wants the attendees to understand and succeed. And I feel it was a lot more effective. So from now on, that's the mentality I'm bringing to this program. I'm sure there will be more lessons and my hotseat will continue to get tighter but this was a nice "return to center" if you will.

Anyways, this week I'm bringing you a video blog that I shot the night before the London program. In it, I discuss internet dating, the Jersey Shore, and the importance of ATTENTION TO DETAIL. I also play Buck Hunter. 



If you come see me speak at the Free Tour or whatever, you'll note that I make frequent reference to something I call "The Program," which is a collection of actions and behaviors executed on a consistent basis across a wide range of modalities, the aggregate of which act to result in the largest payoff for the least amount of effort. These are things I do on a daily/weekly/monthly basis, almost on autopilot. It's like an apparatus that I have set up and put into motion that produces pussy consistently... if I keep it running. 

None of these actions by themselves really do that much. For example, I have a habit of getting the girl's number as early as possible in the interaction. Not because I'm like WOO HOO A FUCKIN NUMBER CLOSE BRO but rather because it is a hedge against the possibility that she may get pulled away or have to leave abruptly before I can pull her. Further, immediately upon getting the number, I automatically send her a text message, sometimes while I'm still in set with her lol. This gets her into that stage of the sales funnel IMMEDIATELY and ensures that I don't forget to do it later. 

There are also more broad-based behaviors and mindsets that come into play with "The Program," but each of these too only confer some small advantage to my "game" as a whole. It is the fact that I'm COVERING ALL BASES that makes my game tight. It's not only the little things... it's EVERYTHING. 

Of course, you've got to learn what all of those little things are first before you start executing them, and that can be daunting when you're at the beginning of the curve. And while the forums and all this can certainly be helpful, the best teacher is FIELD EXPERIENCE. You will learn more in one night than you will from a week of reading posts on the internet. So get out of the fuckin house and talk to some girls already. 

I'll be back next week with a fresh clip from the Free Tour in Germany. Until then... stay frosty.

-j

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PS: I mentioned it up top, but this bears repeating: Tyler is going to be on stage with me at all stops on the USA Free Tour and Hotseat as well as giving his special "Foundations: Reloaded" on Sunday. If you are a guy who's struggling to wrap his head around the fundamentals of the game, this would be an EXCELLENT time to attend an RSD program.  Learn more about the event here:

www.jeffyhotseat.com