I wanna add my little piece of value to this awesome Nation we have here. I want to talk about a trait that every natural I've seen has. This is the mindset I implemented this last weeks, and it's the direct infield result of my Flawless Natural Living Plan.
I'm not an instructor and the RSD stuff are the real deal at teaching this stuff, I just want to share my OWN experiences.
I also have found that you don't need to enjoy to get laid, if you are in a bad mood but you are used to go through the motions and have the confidence enough to push through it you still can get away with it. As they say, the strongest reality wins. But now that we are on the game, why don't we make it fun from the start.
Let's get to it.
Enjoying and the full natural way
See this? Tim talked in the FN program about this, about the "this is for me" phenomenon. He says that you should allow that purpose to fuel your approaches. I say, why don't you use it to use fuel you from the open to the lay?
I can't explain why but this mindset works for me, and I'm sure it will work for you. Basically, you should allow yourself to enjoy the girl in front of you, and every girl you see. Filling yourself up with the feminine energy around you.
I call this "the full natural way". Think about the classic natural, the real deal, not the jerk that gets laid. I'm talking about the natural that girls close. He is getting laid consistently, he has abundance of women on his life, he's sure of himself and carry himself like the star of the show. And more importantly, he doesn't have to think to do this things, he can concentrate on his passions.
As he doesn't need to think, he allows himself to enjoy the girl he's with. This makes him moves things toward sex UNCONSCIOUSLY.
(From Spanish TV, don't they look sexy?)
Don't get me wrong: I'm not talking about another style of game. I'm talking about not game itself. Think about it. Amazing man meets amazing woman, things just lead toward the close. If this wasn't like that, we wouldn't survive as a species.
So if things are like that, and I really believe they are, this headspace is veeery, and I mean VERY, simple. Remember the Natural we talked about? We'll just call him Dan for this time. (His real name is Iván, but don't tell anyone) Now, seriously...
What is Dan's RAS centered on? When he's paying attention to the girl (because he is not like that all the time, but that's for another occasion, although I'll make a point later), he does it strongly. He EXPERIENCES her, her lips, tits, hips, body curves, hair, amazing scent, the way she dressed FOR HIM, her smile, the way she behaves, her vibe... You get the fucking picture. He's imagining her naked on his bed, and imagining how he would love to nail her from behind. And he has this inner knowing smile as this happens, he doesn't have time to doubt himself. He is, what you would call, NIMBUSING.
The girl, obviously is already wet because this awesome, cool guy likes her for who she is and they have this fun between the two. And more importantly this guy is presenting himself, no routines, no game moves, things just happen. Full natural way.
As Dan enjoys the girl he would move things forward and do the right things because he has this purpose and intent behind. He has the true DEEP MOTIVATION.
For the "Awaken the Giant Within" guys, do you see where the pleasure and pain are? He sees no pain in this, only the instant pleasure.
Eliminating the internal barriers to access this full natural mindset. What is preventing you from massive and stupidly easy success?
Do a little imagination exercise. Do you know what your blueprint girl looks like? Picture her on your mind. Imagine you in a club, you see her, you start enjoying her. You approach her to enjoy her more. You enjoy her all the time and things are moving towards sex because you are the man. Look at yourself, do you imagine what your face would look like? Now, if you want imagine you and her having sex. Do this on your own risk, lol.
Why can't we be like this all the time? You are the measure of your balls. To be like this all the time, you need to ultimately trust yourself and be your hero. Live up to your standards. There's plenty of posts about this so I won't extend. But remember, in the way you do anything, you do everything, as Manwhore said.
Remember the purpose of going out.
Why do you go out? Answer, quickly, what's the first thing that comes to your mind? I can guess a list of things you are thinking:
* For improving in/getting handled this area of my life.
* To show everyone how cool I think I am.
* If I fuck consistently a lot of 10s I would feel complete.
* I NEED to demonstrate my own value.
Well, there's nothing wrong with those things, but if any of those things or any similar are your first motivation for going out you are missing the point to the sexworthy zone. And I want you here.
Anything that isn't to ENJOY/HAVE FUN is totally wrong.
Repeat after me: Going out is meant to be fun.
Write it where you can see it.
Your work ends, are you thinking I'll go out so I can "game" and stop being a chode? No, flip the script. You go out because you want to chill and have some motherfucking fun, you've worked enough.
Having this mindset is a prerequisite for allowing yourself to enjoy.
This solves the screening/not judging issue
Recently, there have been some discussions in the forum about this whole thing. "How can I screen her and at the same time not judge her?"
When you allow yourself to fully enjoy, you become a natural screener. You are just that type of guy. HOW?
When your priority is enjoying you screen for what YOU really enjoy, based in your values. You just can't focus on girls you don't enjoy or in bad situations, you just automatically MOVE ON. Because your priority is to ENJOY, that's why you went out of your house. Girls have to fit into your "enjoying pattern" to get your attention, they have to game you.
Do you judge her for not being the way you like? Fuck no, you don't have time for that. Your priority is enjoying.
When I refer to your priority, I mean that you choose it EVERY FUCKING TIME on a moment by moment basis.
This is positively screening, you screen from a love for women foundation. This puts you in the have fun and in the "game" headspace at the same time.
Unknown girls start dancing for me because I'm just there watching and enjoying them.
Stop talking because I'm enjoying the girl and the girl starts talking and gaming me.
Girls DTFing me everywhere because I just project that energy.
Girls coming for more and escalating on me.
Friends helping me with the girl.
If you want to give this thing a chance. Do me a favour, try it for only ONE night, but do it 100%.
Go out one night with this mindset and report back (don't think on the report, just in enjoying hehe).
I'm so excited for you.
P.S. Feel free to ask anything.