gogl~'s Road To Success
I guess that I have reached the level where building the skillset is no longer all uncomfortable.
I have a good enough skillset&confidence that I know that women are attracted to me and that I do get good results.
This gives me the selftrust for subconciously initiating approaches now, once I got used to the venue and hit a more fun state.
I knew that this will come sooner or later because it is the same with fitness.
Back in the day I was fat and not fit at all. I didnt want to work out hard because it is uncomfortable and painful.
Then I decided to change and I started working out. Running, gym and nutrition.
At first I had to push myself and i was very inconsistent because it was a very uncomfortable thing to do.
But once the results came in, I got more addicted to the process (and pain) because I trusted the process now.
Today I HAVE TO work out several times a week, and HARD!
I purely LOVE it, its the most relaxling time of the day, being in a taff workout and beating my previous times, reps, weights...
And im not that much focused on longterm results anymore. It is more of a pure enjoyment of the fitness i achieved.
When you see me going to my sport, iam so excited that i get hyperactive like a child. Thats because it is that much FUN for me :)
My PU process is going into the same direction, too, YAY :)
guess what... I will have super hotties in the future :D:D:D 100% believe
I know because i reached the point where approaching became almost comfortable in certain situations.
Not all, i still struggle with my fear of daygame... and of course i am not totally comfortable before approach,
but at least when I go to a club with friends, and we are having a good time, I WANT TO APPROACH, more than I fear rejection or humiliation.
and that is the single most important reason why my learning curve will go up now, faster than before.
Before I had to make up my mind actively, get out there, build up the courage to approach, etc... big source of stress and makes me inconsistent.
But now I have a baseline of learning, and upon that i can push harder and improve it, make more situations comfortable and natural.
Nice epiphany that boosts my happiness a lot :) at least that part of my life is handled.
I have a good enough skillset&confidence that I know that women are attracted to me and that I do get good results.
This gives me the selftrust for subconciously initiating approaches now, once I got used to the venue and hit a more fun state.
I knew that this will come sooner or later because it is the same with fitness.
Back in the day I was fat and not fit at all. I didnt want to work out hard because it is uncomfortable and painful.
Then I decided to change and I started working out. Running, gym and nutrition.
At first I had to push myself and i was very inconsistent because it was a very uncomfortable thing to do.
But once the results came in, I got more addicted to the process (and pain) because I trusted the process now.
Today I HAVE TO work out several times a week, and HARD!
I purely LOVE it, its the most relaxling time of the day, being in a taff workout and beating my previous times, reps, weights...
And im not that much focused on longterm results anymore. It is more of a pure enjoyment of the fitness i achieved.
When you see me going to my sport, iam so excited that i get hyperactive like a child. Thats because it is that much FUN for me :)
My PU process is going into the same direction, too, YAY :)
guess what... I will have super hotties in the future :D:D:D 100% believe
I know because i reached the point where approaching became almost comfortable in certain situations.
Not all, i still struggle with my fear of daygame... and of course i am not totally comfortable before approach,
but at least when I go to a club with friends, and we are having a good time, I WANT TO APPROACH, more than I fear rejection or humiliation.
and that is the single most important reason why my learning curve will go up now, faster than before.
Before I had to make up my mind actively, get out there, build up the courage to approach, etc... big source of stress and makes me inconsistent.
But now I have a baseline of learning, and upon that i can push harder and improve it, make more situations comfortable and natural.
Nice epiphany that boosts my happiness a lot :) at least that part of my life is handled.

Comments
N.
Senior Member
Join Date: 03/29/2011 | Posts: 137
Any tips apart from just keep going out and reframing?
gogl~
Respected Member
Join Date: 03/06/2009 | Posts: 430
it took me about 2yrs. Its like being out of the pain period, but there are still so many situations were im completely uncomfortable and i will have to push through the pain period -- like fucking daygame... conciously i know it is easy and i would get many many dates, but subconciously nothing in the game scares me more.
so im sorry: it is about going out and reframe. bang your head against the wall, enjoy the cookies along the road.