Went out sober as usual.
I had about 6 dudes with me which caused me some mental wierdness. Eventually we split into groups which was much better, two ok I can do that especially if the guy wants to hit it up.
But when for example I'm with two dudes who will NOT approach I feel like if i approach I'm breaking the rapport of the group and not being a cool friend, or I feel like I'm carrying weights as they basically follow two feet behind me. Walked around like that a bit...stifled. Then I though of brad an reframed and basically put myself in a pickup trance and started meeting girls. Took about a minute.
And it's crazy but I had the hardest time hooking and the hardest time opening.
I hit up lots of sets. So good examples will only be displayed...
First set the girl was crying...her friends were there I just Diddnt know how to calibrate to that. They opened but I was there for 20 seconds. Probably shoulda balled up and took the cryin girl and made her not cry.
I raped mission impossible.
So many moving set attempts...and so many moving set failures
In two sets of course at night I'd just like to go on the one girl and fall in love...if she strikes that chord within me.
I did this and she's like "your cute too!!!" and she slowed down but the friend kept going fast and the girls mind seems to just instantly go back on the friend. I think a wingman is best in this situation. Occupy the friends.
So a lot of sets just go where I attempt to meet and they just flake me off like thrust. This is street game and it just seems that the girls are so in this "I'm the prize frame" that meeting me off the street is not worth their time. Funny...I'll keep assuming its my lack of skill/exp
I have a feeling Tyler missed something when he said daygame is the same as night game. I don't think girls go out at night to stop and listen to a guy introduce himself and want to meet them..there are exceptions I know. But in the normal sorta emotionally straightforward state I'm in when I start doing pickup (and not nervous) it just seems i lose out due to lack of social skill. There were times I went in congruent and just to talk...and over and over again, I wasnt even nervous, flake flake flake flake. I ultimately think these girls go out at night because they want to experience a guy who can basically forge a ons. I firmly believe at this point if you did what I did most of last night which was stop hot ass girls just to chat...your gonna get blown off more than if ur being physical/sexual. And I think when your in a daytime environment where it's quieter and no blasting speakers in ur ear the you can have a friendly chat. I don't think friendly chats are for clubs...unless your like super funny and tell good stories. I don't really have these skills yet...but I am working on it
This is a negative perspective I have. On the other hand I kno if I hadda gotten m charisma faucet on full blast by hitting up every girl I see instead of one every six or seven and have gotten into state then I can see friendly convo working because the nYmbus is raging. I Diddnt really he into state like that...I Lost aa except on certain sets and u know what I'm talking about I was chill but not charismatic. I thInk chillness flies more in daytime and at night it's seen at low value. So getting into state is my if your looking for results via not being physical.
At one poInt I was talking to this drunk girl over a railing and she was Into it and I could tell she wanted to be taken Control of. She wanted physicality...she wanted tht vibe. I Diddnt give It too her. I'm like , I want to meet you. I wanted to talk...totally unneccessary. I coulda just grabbed her face and kissed her but I just wanted to meet. I swear. From now on in a club environment where it is loud and stimulating...I have to always be physical one way or another.
This is my approach from now on. Get comfortable being more physical in the field. A lot of these girls out want to be taken (Tim). So I'm gonna start to do it.
And daytime I'm just gonba talk talk talk talk. So night physical/day chatty. This is my belief for now. It will change drastically I know, but this is it now.
Yeah so tons of learning experiences this night.
Get into state
Love yourself
Approach All hot girls
Chat
Focus more on the vibe and CALIBRATE YOUR PHYSICALITY LIKE ITS YOUR JOB.
Keep attempting to stop moving sets
Approach groups with a wing
Ask yourself what you learned/what you could've done differently
next time.
Yeah
Oh and hammer it out even if u suck. You will benefit from that shit.
And in my case last night I got laid finally.
Why happened was I lost energy and motivation after a hour or two of approaching on the club strip...soooooooooooioo many cute girls. So I'm sitting at the rendezvous point wait for friends to come up. They show up an it's like a lights switched on. My noob friends actually mustered up the courage to do some approaches and theyre like dude one more roll around one more one more. Knowing me in I'm
Like "Hoorah let's go" so we go and one of my last approaches of the night I saw cute Asian girl in tight dress and heels walking with her friends and I broke off from my friends and sorta playfully rappe my arms around her as I told the friend omg I love Asian girls. I think the reason I had such confidence with this opener was Because she was having fun with her friends. Something about her sub communicated to me that That move would "work". Or maybe I just had balls who knows. But the friends Diddnt do shot and I pulled her away like 5 feet and started to spit my master game on a ho. I guess she was Korean. I tried to kiss her she wouldnt...had my hands on her hips longer than I was comfortable having them there..before I got too nervous she said some dumb shit so I pushed her away. I remember she swatted at me for it. I think I qualified her for something. I don't remember much of this shit. Bit the vibe was there, oh and I made her spin and told her her heels could look nicer luckily she met a guy who works in the shoe department. We were like dancing it was lovely. Kissed we on the cheek cuz she's a geek. at some point actually early on I told her I had to leave so the interaction only lasted like 2 minutes. IT WAS CHARGED and she ended up putting her number in my phone. And I was going to attempt to Kiss her again and I saw in her face she would've been receptive but in the moment I lacked the confidence because of my initial attempt so I Diddnt.
Anyways it ends up my friend starts texting her. Then I text her the next day at work. I'm just like "I'm gone for two weeks tomorrow. We have to see each other or else i'lll lose interest. I want to see you tonight. And like julien mentioned about how girls tell you how to fix their situation she told me Well im at work now and i don't get off work till 11 I'm like cool me too. Do you live off campus. Very simple problem solved...but it was logistical nonetheless.
I ended up showing up to her house a little late. I just told her to stay up. So I knock knock an knock...and a spider almost bites me. Then she opens the door.
It was about 10 seconds of me being a chode and beig gay and not acting through my own intentions. This bitch was cute I was not there for casual conversation (wow I am such a whore). So I pulle her on me...whatdddya know she kissed back...we made out some and then I'm like upstairs. House is messy. Room is clean as fuck. I dig. We walk In her room she's holding my hand and she shuts the door...this is oh so new to me, it was quite obvious what I shoulda did. Anyways we chatted real nonchalantly and more making out...she might've been turned on by my aloofness idk cuz I was not super agressive and decisive...but it will come. My aloofness was stemmed from my fear of fucking up but I wasn't nervous so te vibe was goin upward. I teased her on some stuff she had made popcorn and was watching some dumb Korean show on her laptop that she wouldn't let me see..I'm like wtf? She starts fiddling with the laptop cuz we were supposed to watch a movie...yeah.
I just start to rub her and get myself turned on. Rubbing turns into kissing her back turns onto my putting her on hers.
Noteworthy lay report:
First time I got laid off cold approach, and first time having AE since 2010
Thank you rsd