Seriously just randomly clicked on a vid about him showing his house, and the guy actually has a lot of books. Apperantly he likes to read, and not only about muscle building if thats what you think. I know reading books is good, like 1 hour a day reading but now Im definatly gonna do it. If a guy like him, who is spending so much time on his sport becuase he is a professional can make some free time to read, I definatly got no excuse.
Self doubt = root of all evil. Trust youruself in your faculties/yourself and you will have confidence..circle of influence bigger/circle of concern smaller
Use 1 week period to chill out after a 8 weeks of hardcore gaming. It helps getting myself grounded again, and forget about pickup. Not take it so serious anymore, then go in with fresh courage. It also helps to let your new reality crystalize out.
Things that helped me a lot recently: focus on not giving a fuck, everybody loves me, not putting girls on a pedastal, and be real, just open and talk.
+ taking right action at work/gym/learning transfers to daygaming.
Did some sets, also 2 sets but I will be honest, I bitched out for most part. Although the feelings I have through my body are much better. Not thinking/no hesitation/action based, not reaction based/not giving a fuck/self validation. And most importantly, show that I have balls and do the hardest sets. I will go daygaming in some hours again. Putting myself in difficult situations hard sets, its fun.
Important approach first girl Isee, otherwise Im fucked and pussy out the rest of the dgame session.
Being social and not selfconsious is working great. Went to the doc in my old town, and met a mother of an old friend + his sister, which I only knew as a little infant. Now shes like 17. I am really awesome actually, I just need to keep practising being social.
Its like some little test for yourself where you stand right now, that doesnt lie.
But..... I said wants to LOOK cool. There are only a few people here and there really cool. Like really really cool, but most people are not cool. They are just trying to look cool. Buy cool clothes, dont say much only when you have some cool shit poppping up in your head. Dont act weird, only act cool. Look these people try to LOOK cool, but they arnt cool.
They are the same as some beginner at rsd who practices game, and gets blown out everytime, and tries to be social in the bus, at college etc but is not spot on like his vibing is off and he is not congruent yet, being that cool guy.
When I started I was got the feeling that I was becoming a super weird dude, because I tried all these things at which I was not congruent to yet. But Now I realise, that a lot of people arent really cool, but only try to look cool. Most guys cant even walk up to a girl they dont know. Not saying Im better then them, but definatly not worse.
Or I see a journal with only 4 approaches, or I see a journal with lots of approaches and they all go well, except 1 or 2 blowouts. Now I get a lot of blowouts learning this stuff.. and I think its normal if you push hard and keep on hitting set after set. Just wanting to let the new guys know that its normal, and that you have to keep going. And not thinking that its no use to keep hitting up those sets because you will get blown out anyway.
Listening to much to tolle has fucked me up. His teachings are good, but I mistook having no ego with having no identity. I tried to be completly blank, not identifying with anything. But...unconciously I still indentified with bad things, while I conciously downplayed the good things cuz that was ''ego''..
Reading the blueprint summary again, I realize that this identiy I have for myself is holding me back big time. I cant act outside of this ''so called identity'' cuz it feels weird etc. I know psycho cybernetics has some exercises to improve your self image so Im gonna check that out. Also Im visualizing what a cool person would do, and act along that. Mb then I can get out of this shithole Im in right now. Its like batman deep down in that pit, and trhying to crawl out, geetting mass blowouts. And fall back again.
But I worked out today, went pretty well considering I went out last night.
Identity is everything in this game.
I feel that I use the memory of that good feeling deep inside, that high after a hard approach as fuel for approaching. Especially at the start of a session, me wanting to experience that feeling again makes me step over that initial hurdle and makes me approach. Als I have noticed that my RAS shifts out 90% of the girls as not hot enough/grumpy when I dont approach within a couple minutes. I use this also a stick behind the door, cuz I know when I dont approach in the first minutes, my ras will focus all girls out and I find myself walking around without finding any ''good girls''.
Work on julien's fundamentals:
1. get that good feeling from taking action. Should I do it or not do it? ALWAYS DO IT, this will cause the good emotions. NOt the reactions. DOnt focus on reactions but on following your own intentions.
Be yourself, be loud take up space be outrageous, and assume that people like it. Dont be the permission boy, a man has one thing that makes him a man and thats his FREEDOM. The freedom to do whatever he wants, the freedom to go for what he wants no matter what. That he is willing to die for it.
''From julien's new video''
(being social in your day to day life, not just say hi or good day but keep conversations at the busstop, line at the supermarket, whatever.)