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So Diamondog, I've decided to put on my big-boy pants, stop trolling on the internet and meet some women. What are the different ways to flirt?

I'm proud of you for making the effort. Perhaps you'll retire from trolling altogether. I don't know your age, but I can guarantee you won't be getting any youngerthumbs up

With that said, there are different types of flirting, depending on where you are at the time. For example, one approach may work better in some circumstances than in others. But certain basic principles always apply. You always want to remember your purpose for why you are communicating with her. You are a man and she is a woman. That doesn't mean to immediately start groping her. It just means show some confidence, and try being a little edgy with your conversation. Here are seven ways to flirt successfully:

1. Initiate the conversation. She likely won't initiate with you. Most women don't have much practice approaching guys. Your opener doesn't matter because you'll want to transition off of it quickly, so the conversation does not wind down immediately.

2. It is perfectly normal for men to approach women, so have a normal conversation. Time is your friend because it reinforces the idea that you are an attractive guy with whom she is choosing to spend time.

3. It is so normal for you to be talking to her, that you should expect her to introduce you to her friends, if you approached her when she was alone. If you are new to flirting, you will likely gravitate towards women who are seemingly alone. But they usually aren't. Her friends are less likely to try to pull her away if she introduces you to them, as opposed to you hoping that they never show up.

4. That is why it is so important to learn her name. If it is loud, ask her to repeat it and spell it if necessary. Use it in a sentence. If you think she forgot your name, ask her if she remembers that your name is [                ]? Act playfully impressed that she remembered. You might be wondering why her name is so important. You could read How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie, but take my word for it. If you've forgotten her name, it affects your credibility, as if you don't think of her as a person, you just randomly approach women and spout gibberish to them. Okay, she's right, but don't make it so obvious.  wink

5. Or instead of spouting gibberish, you could talk about the things that are important to you. That way you'll be animated when you talk to her. The content of your words is less important than the energy behind them. Remember, what you feels, she feels. If you feel bored, so will she. If you're animated, she's more likely to pay attention and contribute to the conversation.

6. Don't worry about your looks or money. If you have too much money, you'll be more likely to brag and exaggerate, which make you look insecure. She's a regular person. She's not famous. There are so many good-looking guys who are not getting the girls they want because they feel entitled to get them with no effort. But these guys don't realize that their looks are not all that unique.

7. Therefore, you are enough as you are. Follow this advice, read rsdnation a little and go try flirting. Your results will be unpredictable, because there is an element of chance to all human interactions. Therefore, don't spend too much time learning theory and techniques, in the hopes of avoiding rejection. You'll learn a lot more by actually going out and trying it. How do you learn a foreign language? By staring at the textbook, memorizing vocabulary? No, you EVENTUALLY become fluent by actually speaking it. By being willing to make mistakes.

So there you have it. Seven ways to flirt successfully, instead of trolling on the internet. Post any feedback you may have here, and in your own Field Reports.
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