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Hey Diamondog, I'm wondering how to talk to girls at parties. Is it easier or harder than
cold approach in day game, bars and clubs?

She'll never detect you if you read this blog entry.

Great question and great news! It's easier. If you and she were both invited, then it's far less of a cold approach. Obviously, a birthday party is better than a party for a nation-wide organization with 100,000 members. The more familiar the members, the easier it is. And unlike social circle, you're not stuck with the same 3 or 4 girls every time.

So here are 7 tips for how to talk to girls at parties:

1. The opener usually doesn't matter in cold approach. Here it matters even less. If someone isn't introducing you, just ask how she knows so and so, or what's her involvement in XYZ organization, etc, or “great party we're having!” and make a toast. You get the picture.  idea

2. Transition like you would elsewhere. After the opener, you want to talk about something else, or it will turn into a job interview. Not fun at all for either of you. So instead talk about anything else, including how long you've been in the city, fun clubs to go to, etc.

3. Her friends are less likely to pull her away, since it's a party and not a public event.
She might even be there by herself. Isolation should be easier.

4. Move her around like anywhere else. This builds compliance and a sense of familiarity.

5. Be social like anywhere else. Figure out if you think there's a chance for an extraction. If not,
take down her number and go socialize with other people, including other girls. It's not a crime for you to talk to other girls. It will actually cause her to respect you more. It's called social proof, meaning that other people like you as well.

6. When you go talk to other girls, you will have already warmed up by talking to her. You can even bring her into conversations with others girls. This is called merging. See #5 above about social proof. However, it will make her jealous and not in a good way if you get other numbers in front of her. Tact is important.

7. If you think you can't extract her home, extract her to a private setting. Be quick. Don't soil anyone else's clothing if it's a coat room. You know what I mean.  wink

Thanks for inviting me to the party!  teeth

So there you have it. Seven tips on how to talk to girls at parties, so you bring home a goody bag. Post any feedback you may have here, and how you used these ideas when closing in Field Reports.
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