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One of my favorite parts of boot camp is RSD Book Club timezzz.
I give a suggested reading list for what I think will help clients most after program, and inevitably the conversation dives into some intense introspective “inner game” talks.
When suggesting each book, there is a specific order in which students can reinforce the concepts they learned on program best, especially as it relates to the new reference points and theory they learned over the course of bootcamp.
First off.
1. Blueprint Decoded by Tyler
The first thing ANYONE should do after taking an RSD bootcamp is rewatch Tyler’s Blueprint Decoded. I don’t care how many times you have seen it. One of the biggest benefits of coming on program is pushing through 3 days of intense experience and receiving about 6 months of reference points in that time span.
The material takes on a completely different perspective after program, and you get a whole new level of value out of the product. Also, much of the bootcamp seminar is based around concepts developed in the Blueprint, and it keeps you in that headspace long after program.
2. Ozzie’s section in Transformations
If the Blueprint teaches you, “You are enough!” and to stop striving to become a natural, you already are one, Ozzie is all about TAKING ACTION. Having that distinct gameplan on moving things forward and JUST CLOSE!!!
I’ve watched this section probably close to 25 times, and will probably hit it up just as many more to keep reinforcing that mindset.
Assume attraction, be willing to burn the set to the ground, abundance, and CLOSE!
3. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
Masculine polarity, core intent, dominance… It’s all about being on your path, and as a man, you can’t make the woman your path. You have your life purpose and the women are just a BYPRODUCT.
The concept ties in well for detaching emotionally from any outcome with a girl, how when you are on your path shit tests have little value, and ultimately how attractive it is to be on your path to the woman both while meeting her, and into a relationship.
*4. The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand
The asterisk is because I suggest this one so highly for younger guys, in their late teens to early 20s.
It’s great for anyone to read, but I think there is immense value for anyone just starting to make their way in the adult world.
One of the key concepts in this book is doing things for the right reasons. There are two characters, both architects, and one became an architect because it was “the right thing to do.” It’s prestigious, it pays well, people will respect you… He is doing it for others and not himself.
Then there is Howard Rourke who became an architect for a creative outlet. People try to put him down, say his work is crap, but he doesn’t do it for others, he does it for himself.
Ayn Rand is great at acknowledging other important concepts like society’s propensity towards reinforcing mediocrity, looking down upon anyone who tries to transcend social norms, and it’s ultimately just a great read.
5. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
If you are familiar at all with Real Social Dynamics, I’m sure you’ve heard of Ecky. This stuff is great for developing control over your emotions, embracing the present moment, and not needing anything external for your fulfillment/happiness.
Those are some great concepts to implement when interacting with women, and life in general.
I also really like The Power of Now, but think that A New Earth is more accessible and an easier read, and therefore a better place to start.
Sure there are a lot of “new-agey” spiritual concepts tied in with any Eastern philosophical writings, but if you can get a handle on the core concepts, it will DRASTICALLY increase your ability to build attraction with women.
6. Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins
If Eckhart Tolle is all about “stop striving and just be”… Tony Robbins is all about ACHIEVE, CONQUER, GOALS, and ACTION!!!
I suggest the actual book here compared to the audiobook format because one of the biggest benefits of Tony Robbins is how he incorporates exercises to make sure you start taking action right away.
7. Mastery by George Leonard
As you develop your “game” you run into various hurdles along the way. The cool thing is that the cold approach skillset is no different than any other skill you could learn, whether it playing tennis or the piano.
George Leonard talks about learning martial arts and the tribulations that you encounter along the way. It’s all about embracing the process and realizing that you learn the most on the PLATEAU.
Any skill does not develop linearly, it’s more like a stair step process. To realize that when you aren’t seeing results is when you are learning the most.
It’s like a tipping point process where you stay at one level, picking up new reference points until at some point you reach a tipping point where you quickly ramp up to a new level.
So stop beating yourself up if you aren’t progressing and seeing results. Embrace the process and realize THAT is when you learn the most.
It is also a great book for recognizing your learning style –hacker, obsessive, dabbler, and how to overcome the hindrances of each and reach mastery in any skill.
8. Personal Development for Smart People by Steve Pavlina
This is one of the best signal-to-noise ratio self help books I have ever read. No fluff, each sentence holds a lot of value, and ties in nicely with a bunch of other self actualization stuff we talk about.
The value in this book is that he synthesizes concepts from many self help materials, everything from proper eating, to time management, to spirituality, to money management and incorporates it into simple and easy to understand concepts.
The first half was great, although I don’t think the second half was as action packed as the beginning.
Check it out.
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So there is the list I usually provide, and in THAT ORDER. Some other great books that I usually also add if you are an active reader, all of which I gained a great deal of wisdom from…
7 Habits of Highly effective people by Stephen Covey
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand
The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman
Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk
I give a suggested reading list for what I think will help clients most after program, and inevitably the conversation dives into some intense introspective “inner game” talks.
When suggesting each book, there is a specific order in which students can reinforce the concepts they learned on program best, especially as it relates to the new reference points and theory they learned over the course of bootcamp.
First off.
1. Blueprint Decoded by Tyler
The first thing ANYONE should do after taking an RSD bootcamp is rewatch Tyler’s Blueprint Decoded. I don’t care how many times you have seen it. One of the biggest benefits of coming on program is pushing through 3 days of intense experience and receiving about 6 months of reference points in that time span.
The material takes on a completely different perspective after program, and you get a whole new level of value out of the product. Also, much of the bootcamp seminar is based around concepts developed in the Blueprint, and it keeps you in that headspace long after program.
2. Ozzie’s section in Transformations
If the Blueprint teaches you, “You are enough!” and to stop striving to become a natural, you already are one, Ozzie is all about TAKING ACTION. Having that distinct gameplan on moving things forward and JUST CLOSE!!!
I’ve watched this section probably close to 25 times, and will probably hit it up just as many more to keep reinforcing that mindset.
Assume attraction, be willing to burn the set to the ground, abundance, and CLOSE!
3. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
Masculine polarity, core intent, dominance… It’s all about being on your path, and as a man, you can’t make the woman your path. You have your life purpose and the women are just a BYPRODUCT.
The concept ties in well for detaching emotionally from any outcome with a girl, how when you are on your path shit tests have little value, and ultimately how attractive it is to be on your path to the woman both while meeting her, and into a relationship.
*4. The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand
The asterisk is because I suggest this one so highly for younger guys, in their late teens to early 20s.
It’s great for anyone to read, but I think there is immense value for anyone just starting to make their way in the adult world.
One of the key concepts in this book is doing things for the right reasons. There are two characters, both architects, and one became an architect because it was “the right thing to do.” It’s prestigious, it pays well, people will respect you… He is doing it for others and not himself.
Then there is Howard Rourke who became an architect for a creative outlet. People try to put him down, say his work is crap, but he doesn’t do it for others, he does it for himself.
Ayn Rand is great at acknowledging other important concepts like society’s propensity towards reinforcing mediocrity, looking down upon anyone who tries to transcend social norms, and it’s ultimately just a great read.
5. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
If you are familiar at all with Real Social Dynamics, I’m sure you’ve heard of Ecky. This stuff is great for developing control over your emotions, embracing the present moment, and not needing anything external for your fulfillment/happiness.
Those are some great concepts to implement when interacting with women, and life in general.
I also really like The Power of Now, but think that A New Earth is more accessible and an easier read, and therefore a better place to start.
Sure there are a lot of “new-agey” spiritual concepts tied in with any Eastern philosophical writings, but if you can get a handle on the core concepts, it will DRASTICALLY increase your ability to build attraction with women.
6. Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins
If Eckhart Tolle is all about “stop striving and just be”… Tony Robbins is all about ACHIEVE, CONQUER, GOALS, and ACTION!!!
I suggest the actual book here compared to the audiobook format because one of the biggest benefits of Tony Robbins is how he incorporates exercises to make sure you start taking action right away.
7. Mastery by George Leonard
As you develop your “game” you run into various hurdles along the way. The cool thing is that the cold approach skillset is no different than any other skill you could learn, whether it playing tennis or the piano.
George Leonard talks about learning martial arts and the tribulations that you encounter along the way. It’s all about embracing the process and realizing that you learn the most on the PLATEAU.
Any skill does not develop linearly, it’s more like a stair step process. To realize that when you aren’t seeing results is when you are learning the most.
It’s like a tipping point process where you stay at one level, picking up new reference points until at some point you reach a tipping point where you quickly ramp up to a new level.
So stop beating yourself up if you aren’t progressing and seeing results. Embrace the process and realize THAT is when you learn the most.
It is also a great book for recognizing your learning style –hacker, obsessive, dabbler, and how to overcome the hindrances of each and reach mastery in any skill.
8. Personal Development for Smart People by Steve Pavlina
This is one of the best signal-to-noise ratio self help books I have ever read. No fluff, each sentence holds a lot of value, and ties in nicely with a bunch of other self actualization stuff we talk about.
The value in this book is that he synthesizes concepts from many self help materials, everything from proper eating, to time management, to spirituality, to money management and incorporates it into simple and easy to understand concepts.
The first half was great, although I don’t think the second half was as action packed as the beginning.
Check it out.
-----------------------
So there is the list I usually provide, and in THAT ORDER. Some other great books that I usually also add if you are an active reader, all of which I gained a great deal of wisdom from…
7 Habits of Highly effective people by Stephen Covey
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand
The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman
Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk
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In my opinion I wouldnt watch the blueprint after bootcamp. in bootcamp you guys only give a bare minimum of principles because otherwise it is too much information and you guys say we should only focus on what we learned in bootcamp the next 3 months. So when you watch the blueprint afterwards you get bombarded with those x principles tyler speaks about. I told myself I am not going to watch the blueprint again after bootcamp.
Ozzie in transformations rocks, i am watching it all the time. can recommend it to everyone.
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"Taxes skew insentives, only the strong should survive, socialism is evil, blah blah blah blah blah"
Repeat for 4,000 pages
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I just bought A New Earth on ebay
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http://denisdutton.com/baumeister.htm
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"Look at me, Im Faust:
and im a big jackass"
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I also have Power of Now on my iPod, and have listened to it like 167 times.
Ecky's where it's at.
Dick Gallo
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I also have Power of Now on my iPod, and have listened to it like 167 times.
Ecky's where it's at.
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The audio version of the power of now is awesome. I plug it into my ears at least once a month.
The nice part about it you can just check that shit during times when you do routine shit like eating breakfast etc.
A New Earth is also a great book, it's power of now times ten or something.
I would also recommend Loving what is... by Byron Katie and the three laws of performance by Steve Zaffron and Dave Logan. A lot of the stuff in that one are inspired by the ideas of Werner Erhard, one of (if not the) first teachers of transformation.
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Great post, dude.
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I don't really agree that her philosophy was 'extreme'
"My philosophy, in essence, is the concept of man as a heroic being, with his own happiness as the moral purpose of his life, with productive achievement as his noblest activity, and reason as his only absolute." -Ayn Rand
She herself said she lived her life by her own philosophy so I wouldn't call it 'inhuman' - I think anyone could take something away from her books.
In addition I'd like to say that 'Mystic Cool' has been an interesting book I've been reading lately. It deals with a lot about how our inner brain works, the three major parts and how they interact with each other and mainly about Fear and how it creates the stress in our lives as well as how to deal with it. A lot of it can be applied to gaming I feel. Although I knew a lot of the information already, I found the part about how our brains can be rewired especially interesting.
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http://www.amazon.com/Breakthrough-Rapid-Reading-Peter-Kump/dp/073520019X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1246158592&sr=8-1
i recomend this very much
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If I would only read one book, this would be it.
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Sure, there are good sides to Rand if you see her as an inspiration to life your own life to the fullest and so on, but the widespread distaste for her generally comes from the extreme egotism often seen in "Randists" - they use her, partly rightfully, partly not, as an excuse for dispensing with charity, kindness and generosity towards society and for promoting a brutal society where the individual is everything.
Rand is extremely political, and a spokesperson for a form of capitalism that died out in most of the world in the 1800's because the social conditions that resulted from the lack of government involvement gradually caused widespread outrage. People *died* in the fight to get away from the kind of de-regulated social darwinist society she desired. *That* is why she's seen as inhuman by a lot of people. Her ideas on personal development and for people to strive to be their best, on the other hand, are non-controversial.
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Considering some new extras...
thanks Brad.
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Great article. I've just started listening to A New Earth on audiobook... Fountainhead has been sitting on my shelf waiting to be read for a while now.. I will get to it this summer! :)
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The politics is irrelevant. The importance of being a leader, being decisive, having standards and sticking to em to the bitter fucking end is not.
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Ha you didn't forget :)
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lol, I got that, it didn't help
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Btw. social darwinism has nothing to do with Ayn Rand :P ...Social darwinism is just the result of misrepresenting the theory of evolution.
[Just had to correct that.]
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Blueprint: Awesome
Ozzie's Transformations speech: Awesome
Eckhart Tolle: Awesome
Steve Pavlina: Awesome
Tony Robbins: Extremely outdated. While Awaken the Giant Within was amazing for its time, it requires you to build attachments and aversions in life to make progress, rather than removing them, which I feel is the best way to go about things. Tony Robbins has you develop a sexier, more powerful ego, but still a larger ego anyway. He has you come up with reasons to think you're cool, instead of saying you're cool because you are. I think anyone will grow past him if they keep moving.
Ayn Rand: Didn't finish a book but noticed all the "good guys" in Atlas Shrugged were workaholics, looked down on others as inferior, and generally weren't even that happy anyway. You see lines about the woman hero like "Her work was all she had or wanted," and even the happy rich successful people see the rest of the world as peons. That said, I didn't finish the book.
That being said, take value where you find value. There was a time in my life where I probably wouldn't have been ready for Eckhart Tolle, and maybe I'm not ready for Ayn Rand now.
I recommend Sedona Method as the "how to" be in the place that Eckhart Tolle talks about.
--Dan
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I'd also recommend the books of Nancy Friday if you still have limiting beliefs that 'girls don't like sex / fantasize about sex' ;-)
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Oh, and about Ayn Rand's workaholism in main characters... that to me is the theme of "I know what I want and I go for it. Work is my goal, but if it's something else for you, then whats important is that you pursue it with the same dedication I pursue work."
It's "the ability to let that which does not truly matter slide". It's the old put 80% towards the 20% that you want most or whatever. Rand's characters didn't try to do everything, they picked a few things and did them wonderfully. Work just happened to be that thing for them.
I'd also recommend Count of Monte Cristo to any youngsters - or even oldsters, because it's essentially about a grown up KID who gets knowledge, techniques, theory, and then returns to the game as a man, but too cold of a man. It's like when nice guys read all this stuff they become these bad boy stereotypes they may be successful at getting women, but it's not their best. Then at the end, he finds the right spot in the middle. Amazing beta-> asshole alpa - > genuine alpha man story.
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I'm excited to watch Ozzie's part on Transformations. I haven't watched Transformations for a couple years and I missed a lot of value from it in the past. I was in the "watch everything before going out" mindset.
A New Earth is an excellent read. I've read it twice and will continue to come back to it. The Fountainhead is a brick, but definitely a book I need to invest time in. I'm only 21 years old, so the subject of the book will have a great impact on me without a doubt.
Mastery sounds great too. I'll have to check these books out from the library or hop on amazon soon. I'm going to knock out the Blueprint first! It is so powerful and hella long.
- Zach
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THIS IS LIKE RECIPE FOR A SUCCESSFUL AND HAPPY LIFE !!!
This list + enough practice = success not only with women but in many other areas. It is so clear and simple ;) Once you have internalized those principles only god can stop you (with a lightning or something :D:D)
If anyone hasn't read any of the books DON'T HESITATE AND GO AHEAD
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