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The Million Dollar Mouthpiece: Learn to Vomit

So in the last article we talked about why the words you use don’t matter when trying to build attraction with the girl.

You know, it’s very interesting because my verbal skills used to suck. I mean, they were shit.

But I got away with it.

That’s why I so deeply believe that the words don’t matter...
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 4:09 PM
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Excellent. You always make very practical articles which is a reason why i'm feelin your articles the most =D

Keep this shit up man it's awesome. thumbs up
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 4:45 PM
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Yes man very nice Article. Uh Baby I like It!! xD
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 4:54 PM
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i use this exercise all the time to keep my ideas flowing
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 5:13 PM
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Hurrah! Thanks Brad! :)
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 5:29 PM
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Hey Brad, isn't it social etiquette to not talk about yourself too much? I personally don't like it when I am talking about something and the other person turns it to be about themselves. This is also said in Dale Carnegie's how to make friends and influence people.

Is this a wrong mindset to have?
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 6:09 PM
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Changeling wrote:
Hey Brad, isn't it social etiquette to not talk about yourself too much? I personally don't like it when I am talking about something and the other person turns it to be about themselves. This is also said in Dale Carnegie's how to make friends and influence people.

Is this a wrong mindset to have?
Yeah I thought the same thing reading this.  But I think a little bit is allowed if you're EXPRESSING yourself and not saying it to IMPRESS her.  The intention to impress is definitely given off in your vocal tonality and body language, as well as how often you reiterate the same point.

I was at a bar last night talking to this kid and it was fine until he started to reacting to who I was and started gushing on and on about some mundane thing he did that he thought I would think was awesome.  I didn't react to him telling me so he just KEPT REITERATING IT to see if I'd respond.  It was pretty lame and I had to wait for him to shutup before I could change the subject.

I think the key also is to avoid the "me too" response.  If you just pick up on some "raisin" in her conversation instead of relating the entire story, then you are vibing and you build on that.  You can't always start a completely random "thread" after she starts talking because it'd definitely feel like it was coming out of left field and TOO random.  
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 6:55 PM
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  I've seen alot of Barfing pumpkins but, That one had something in it's eye!
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 6:57 PM
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I love how many pictures you use keeps my add ass focused on the article... the great info helps too :P
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 6:58 PM
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Hehe, sick.
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 8:14 PM
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Knowing this kind of shit is essential.

Nice work, Brad-.

Cutting threads/Wide rapport handles the RANGE of EMOTIONS in Alex~'s equation.

And YOU, yourself, fulfills the HV part of the equation. There ya go.
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 8:59 PM
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i know what u mean BUT ur not trying to make friends here, U WANT ATTRACTION not FRIENDSHIP.

and also, this is not talking a lot about ur self, this is vibing, she says something, u say something, she vomits, u vomit.
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 9:42 PM
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lol dude I love the pictures made me laugh through the whole article.
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 11:15 PM
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Firewater wrote:
I think the key also is to avoid the "me too" response.  If you just pick up on some "raisin" in her conversation instead of relating the entire story, then you are vibing and you build on that.  You can't always start a completely random "thread" after she starts talking because it'd definitely feel like it was coming out of left field and TOO random.  
I do he random thread thing all the time.   No one notices.  It seems weird when you first do it, but I've never gotten a bad reaction.  The frame is, I'm letting you get to know me.   
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 11:20 PM
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Be honest, did you look at a bowl of raisin bran and vomit out this article? Were you just like "Raisins, raisins... I love these little raisins, they keep this ceral interesting... kind of like those little facts in conversations that keep threads going... I should write an article and call those 'raisins'!"
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 11:21 PM
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brad, you always find the funniest pictures.
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Posted August 14th, 2009 at 11:38 PM
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This is just one way to break down what usually happens in a conversation...

Ultimately, as the interaction goes on, use calibration and it will be more like 50/50 with the girl.

But this is more for plowing and just being able to talk at a wall for 5-10 minutes until the set hooks, there is some sort of interrupt, or you run out of things to talk about
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 5:00 AM
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Talk at a wall for 5 - 10 min? does anyone practice that? if it has got ppl results, i would start it ASAP.
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 5:12 AM
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good article Brad. Very practical.

thanks for putting it up.
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 5:12 AM
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Definitely good. Doubt I'll ever have a conversation die out due to a topic going dry anymore. shades Going to practice
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 10:43 AM
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Yeah this is what I do all day. Open a wall and just talk to it for hours. xD I dont get blown out by them. I usually eject.

This stuff works and I got results fast. Before I was like "I ran out of things to say". After BC with Brad "Bibitibabiti". Just let it flow. Girls love vommitting. 
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 12:41 PM
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Invisible raisins are also good. e.g.
You: "I used to go fishing but now I'm to busy with work"
Her: *uses a raisin* "Oh, what do you work with?"
You: *use an invisible raisin* "I like flowers. Colourful flowers. Yellow ones. Sometimes red ones too."
Her: umm... okay?

Gets me laid.
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 2:05 PM
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this article reminded me of my bc big time, both the experience of the bc and mianly the lessons i learnt!

im off to a party now, so gonna be vomitin (words) all night ;)
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 3:30 PM
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I'm gonna start practicing those exercises in my mind asap when I have nothing to do (ie at work).  I've been consciously practicing vomiting in the clubs though.  My new favorite phrase is "You know what I want to talk about?   BLANK."  And I literally say the first word that comes into my head.  Yesterday it was trapeze artists.

Awesome stuff.
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 6:56 PM
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I learned how to always have something decent to say when I merged by years of musical improv (blues/jazz sax) with socialization. The idea is you have a tempo, a beat, a key and space to fill with whatever comes to mind, and if you do it confidently and with solid sound, no one notices a wrong note or two, if you're completely immersed in enjoying your solo. The moment shit comes into your head, you just blast it out for the world to hear, and if you stop to question whether it will sound right, then you've probably fallen behind. And usually, its the raisins of sound that evoke ideas in your mind of what to play. 
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 7:50 PM
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 i remember one time i vomitted pink cus i had pepto bismol

nice pumpkin pic, i keep sending it to people
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 8:55 PM
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AlexOfTheVikings wrote:
Yeah this is what I do all day. Open a wall and just talk to it for hours. xD I dont get blown out by them. I usually eject.

This stuff works and I got results fast. Before I was like "I ran out of things to say". After BC with Brad "Bibitibabiti". Just let it flow. Girls love vommitting. 
You cant close a wall, it wont even give you its number. but maybe i just dont enough intent. time for more field testing i guess
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Posted August 15th, 2009 at 10:38 PM
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Brad makes vomit cool.
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Posted August 16th, 2009 at 2:07 AM
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"I learned how to always have something decent to say when I merged by years of musical improv (blues/jazz sax) with socialization. The idea is you have a tempo, a beat, a key and space to fill with whatever comes to mind, and if you do it confidently and with solid sound, no one notices a wrong note or two, if you're completely immersed in enjoying your solo. The moment shit comes into your head, you just blast it out for the world to hear, and if you stop to question whether it will sound right, then you've probably fallen behind. And usually, its the raisins of sound that evoke ideas in your mind of what to play. "

Cool, as a musician this really clicks with me. I'm thinking about what if feels like to be doing a solo in the zone, just letting it flow through your fingers... I imagine the ideal emotional state for conversation is very close to this. That pure flow, where everything that comes out is magic...
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Posted August 16th, 2009 at 1:45 PM
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this is great material right here.
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Posted August 16th, 2009 at 5:49 PM
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Got me thinking, I pretty much developed the vibe for when the girl is into  me and no read conversational skills. So if the girls into me itll happen but if the girl isnt feeding em with interest itll just turn akward, same works with beign good at socializing with dudes.
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Posted August 16th, 2009 at 7:44 PM
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talk to the girl about RSD, tonality and conversational anxiety, then you're REALLY expressing whats on your mind lol
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Posted August 16th, 2009 at 8:37 PM
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Brad- wrote:
This is just one way to break down what usually happens in a conversation...

Ultimately, as the interaction goes on, use calibration and it will be more like 50/50 with the girl.

But this is more for plowing and just being able to talk at a wall for 5-10 minutes until the set hooks, there is some sort of interrupt, or you run out of things to talk about
Great of you to clear this up.  I know that I had used this whole word association thing in almost EVERY conversation I had not too long ago because it felt like a great crutch to lean on. 

Then in a fight my ex made a comment that I was sometimes difficult to talk to because she would be saying something and then I would just spin off into a new conversation about myself.  After she said that I started noticing myself doing it and how often times it could kill the vibe of a conversation.

I think as an initial plowing technique it could work great, but it is necessary to remember that there is a certain time and place to use this type of talking.
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Posted August 16th, 2009 at 9:03 PM
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great article brad. Thanks for sharing!
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Posted August 17th, 2009 at 12:49 AM
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Like this?
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Posted August 17th, 2009 at 1:51 AM
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This is beautiful. Practicing this will get me through my sticking point. This is worth more than gold to me. So practical it should have been obvious but I wouldnt have thought of it on my own. thats why Im here. Keep it coming.
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Posted August 18th, 2009 at 2:28 PM
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Brad, this is old-school Juggler stuff.
It's the second/third-ish article you write quoting concepts from Charisma Arts, did you read their books?

I'm asking because I was interested in a bootcamp, and apparently the lucky instructor that comes to Athens is you (Papa dixit) so I'm really curious to know more about you.
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Posted August 18th, 2009 at 6:46 PM
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In conversation I use an improv concept called "Yes And". Basically, you never deny what anyones says. You use whatever they say and build on it. So if you're on stage in an improv sketch and your fellow actor says "It's raining." you would never say "Not it's not." You would agree and raise the stakes like this: "Yeah. Damn! That was the biggest flash of lightning I've ever seen!"

This works great for conversation b/c once you train your mind to respond with the "yes and" method, you always have something to add to the conversation, and often times it's funny too. Same with congruence tests. You basically agree with whatever false assesment has been made and then take that assesment to the next level. I've turned many tests into laughs this way.

One time I was telling a story about a wedding in Cancun on the beach and I tripped over my words and it made it sound like the wedding was held in the water. Someone called that out, and I just said "Yeah, actually the wedding WAS underwater! The bride and groom were in scuba gear and there was this awesome moment where the groom shot the ring over to the bride underwater, like in slo-mo." Which was complete bullshit but it made for some laughs. At this point you can take that anywhere you want. It creates laughs, shows you can roll with the punches and creates that "Pinball of Positivity" that Natural Tim talks about which is so awesome for building attraction.
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Posted August 19th, 2009 at 9:00 PM
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 you know brad, when we first met you barely had to say anything to hook girls, they werre so mesmerised.
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Posted August 19th, 2009 at 9:02 PM
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 haha though, come to think of it, there were plenty of times down winneapolis way where there was some less than metaphorical vomiting. Winneapolis, the home of miller... and Brad-.
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Posted August 22nd, 2009 at 2:00 AM
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It seems that girls only care about what you say with your eyes.
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Posted September 14th, 2009 at 2:24 AM
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haha I love the images used in this post.
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Posted September 17th, 2009 at 10:16 AM
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I got a lot more value out of this post after taking program with you.  I played the "vomit game" on the drive back from Chicgao.  It is really fun and helped me transition into role plays as well.  Now I need to go try it out in field!  I can't wait until this weekend man.

- Zach
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Posted June 3rd, 2010 at 12:37 AM
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Great article, I will work on it but it is harder obviously in the high pressure/anxiety situation of talking to a girl, but practice will reduce that.
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Posted June 24th, 2010 at 7:34 PM
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do u say random shit without any raisins?
Like your hair is black.
My leg hurts i don't remember when it started.
this is getting annoying...
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Posted September 17th, 2010 at 1:14 AM
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 So fucking helpful, thank you!
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Posted December 16th, 2010 at 7:06 AM
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Props to Brad on this article. I think its very good and will help us alot in the field. Verbal communication i think is an important pasrt of the game and if you can master this aspect i think your game will improve. It should help me cuz sometimes i just run out of things to say.
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Posted December 16th, 2010 at 7:06 AM
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Props to Brad on this article. I think its very good and will help us alot in the field. Verbal communication i think is an important pasrt of the game and if you can master this aspect i think your game will improve. It should help me cuz sometimes i just run out of things to say.
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Posted February 11th, 2012 at 6:33 AM
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Girl: I'm thinking of getting my belly button pierced. My parents dont think it's a good idea but I'm dead set on it.

Me: Hmmm... That is strange because I ALSO have a belly button. I like to put nickels in there because it's cold and feels nice. And yes the occasional asparagus.

Girl: Well that's nice... i guess... 0.o

Me: (Displaying dominance in the situation) NICKELS? COLD? ASPARAGUS? I GAVE YOU 3 RAISINS AND THAT'S ALL YOU HAVE TO SAY,  BITCH?!?!
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Posted June 24th, 2012 at 10:23 PM
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still have trouble vomiting takes me a while to find something to say about a raisin or it comes out weird.Any suggestions please?
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