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Using the principles he teaches, Brad Branson went from an amateur with massive approach anxiety to one of the elite instructors for the largest international dating and pickup company in only 1 year. He combines a unique brand of ’chilled out natural vibe with matchless social calibration and laser precise physicality’.
Brad Branson is an executive coach for Real Social Dynamics, the international leader in pickup and dating advice.
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What up guys,
So it’s been a LONG time since I’ve been posting up articles on the regular, and it’s good to be back.
I’ve been through some serious shit the last few months - matured a lot. No need to get into the dirty details, but as usual when drama ensues there are usually women involved.
I’ve had some great new insights into the whole dating process, especially more of how the relationship actually goes down, and how to make that as healthy as possible.
I’m going to leave a lot of this stuff to Tyler to talk about, because his upcoming relationship book is fucking AWESOME when it comes to explaining a lot of the paradigms you go through during the initial stages of a relationship.
What up guys,
So it’s been a LONG time since I’ve been posting up articles on the regular, and it’s good to be back.
I’ve been through some serious shit the last few months - matured a lot. No need to get into the dirty details, but as usual when drama ensues there are usually women involved.
I’ve had some great new insights into the whole dating process, especially more of how the relationship actually goes down, and how to make that as healthy as possible.
I’m going to leave a lot of this stuff to Tyler to talk about, because his upcoming relationship book is fucking AWESOME when it comes to explaining a lot of the paradigms you go through during the initial stages of a relationship.
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subx
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im agreein with ya, plus you got the rest of your life to be married/in a relationship with some chick....
SAMPLE THE GOODS WHILE YOU CAN
GuitarZan
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Thanks for the article and being 110% raw with what you were going through. I know you have read a lot of Tolle. Haha remember A New Earth?
Was it good that you went through this woman needing phase? Maybe
Is it good that you are on the other side now? Maybe
Lol, seems crazy but I have the same problem of always needing a girl around or in my life. Each needing phase diminishes though and eventually I think we all get to the point of abundance and of being content with just being in our room or wherever we are in the world NOW, content with ourselves.
All the Best.
Fingerman
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Axle
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Talks about how I think in order to really have a strong reality you should be single... It's open for discussion :)
T Got-em!
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This article really hit home for me because 3 months ago I broke off a 6 year relationship and moved to a different city. Since I've been here, I've been in 3 one-month long sem-relationships, even though I've told myself that I want to be single and stick with the hunt. My friends would always tell me I could do better, but my response was that I was just gonna keep them until a better girl joined my team. Now I realize that I've been wasting my time and energy trying to focus on building shitty "interim" relationships instead of building my new social network and building myself. I don't think you're article could have come at a better time for me.
Cheers
- T -
Drama
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- Zach
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Good to have you back.
The Duck ✘
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The work I am putting in through all this traveling, all these life experiences, and girls… :) It is all for when I do find that special one, and I’ll know EXACTLY how to make it happen
Further expanded, it includes that all the work I am putting into my own life, is all for when I become a father with the responsibility for my son or daughter. Because ultimately, that's one of the biggest gifts you give to this world - Offering immense value.
All the best.
Pilgrimage2012
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anyway, great stuff!!!
Alexander~
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dude i have these bad dreams of one day having dinner with a potential 'the one' girl friend and daddy brings out all my articles and confronts me... do you have these nightmares as well?
where are you now and where are you travelling soon?
As the year draws to a close the numbers game is getting competitive... who will be the RSD champion? Brad or Alex or Ryan?
Alexander~
De Reet Sap Ram...
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and I also like the iceskaters haaa
lee-vi®
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EXACTLY.
Welcome back.
Zappa
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i'm in my first relationship atm. when i first pulled her, five months ago i was on fucking fire. i felt very good, hit the field A LOT and basically wasn't giving a shit about a certain girl at all (i was feeling good either way).
now, slowly this relationship emotional turmoil thing gets to me. it's very hard to break up with her because she's a really good girl and it would hurt her and also me a lot, but i feel that being in this relationship hinders me to evolve as much as i'd like. man.... painful times ahead
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~cavalheiro
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Yes, it's all I'm about now, coz my mindsets are one, and my reality physical are other.
I'm ending university, paying stuff that i like to study to make my own desired life style.
BUT, here in Brazil society tends to criticize and tease who do that. I don't watch TV but there was some chode tv character dude who was playing this stereotipe.
Anyway, I like ur article.
Glad to see u're back, bring all those 'use tonight' posts"
p.s. cool video of urs at youtube 'she: but I really gotta smoke... are u come with me?' ;D
Tom Whale
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Yo Ho Ho
n8dog24
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Also I think being single and patient goes along with that whole "not giving into instant gratification." I also think that while you're single you should spend a lot of time getting clear on what it is you really want in a girl ie: qualities, values, interests etc.. That way when she comes around your RAS will pick it up right away and ultimately the relationship will be a lot healthier because she will have the qualities you're looking for and relate to, as opposed to just some girl you're attracted to and don't really relate to.
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Alexander~
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Hows that for being single and not giving a fuck?
Thanks for writing good shit for us Brad. I use what you taught, and teach every day.
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Thanks for the article and being 110% raw with what you were going through. I know you have read a lot of Tolle. Haha remember A New Earth?
Was it good that you went through this woman needing phase? Maybe
Is it good that you are on the other side now? Maybe
Lol, seems crazy but I have the same problem of always needing a girl around or in my life. Each needing phase diminishes though and eventually I think we all get to the point of abundance and of being content with just being in our room or wherever we are in the world NOW, content with ourselves.
All the Best.
I am having amazing results and I think part of it is because the girls don't feel any place of lack in me. I'm just looking for fun, and I also have a HUGE screening frame towards new girls that make their way into my life for an extended period of time.
Which they can feel for sure...
Brad-
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Long story...
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- Zach
There is something to be said for guys that never get in relationships too, you need to make sure you are able to do that so when the right girl comes along, you'll know how to do it.
It's a fine line...
Brad-
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The work I am putting in through all this traveling, all these life experiences, and girls… :) It is all for when I do find that special one, and I’ll know EXACTLY how to make it happen
Further expanded, it includes that all the work I am putting into my own life, is all for when I become a father with the responsibility for my son or daughter. Because ultimately, that's one of the biggest gifts you give to this world - Offering immense value.
All the best.
Brad-
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- Zach
Exactly the same here but 40 years old. Also, rather than becoming more attractive and centered etc, the opposite is happening and my world is crumbling. So it's certainly not 'inevitable'.
That guy is only getting better with age.
I'm not there yet, but I've met multiple really cool older men on program. And this is the life they live.
Drama
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You are either evolving or devolving. Progressing or regressing. There is no standing still. I am talking about the guy who is continually working on himself, the guy who is building experiences in his life, becoming more conscious...
That guy is only getting better with age.
I'm not there yet, but I've met multiple really cool older men on program. And this is the life they live.
The girl I met is amazing...absolutely the most incredible girl I've ever known, but I have this really subtle fear of getting into a relationship. It isn't because I've never had one before, but it's because I'm afraid to step away from "the game." Jeffy says it will always be waiting for you, and I believe that, but I feel like I'm being beta. What do you think? I know a relationship would be a great step for me, because I do need to learn how to have one.
How do you handle going out when you have a girlfriend? I know if I don't sleep with other girls, then the girl I'm seeing wouldn't care if I went out to the bars and flirted with other girls. Any advice?
Thanks for the replies Brad,
Zach
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Long story...
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Long story...
Benny
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I have a question for you. You wrote:
"There will always be a better girl. Always a better match. There is no one special girl, and you can’t spend your entire life waiting for that perfect one to come, because it is inevitable that you will always find someone better if you look hard enough, wait long enough.
So at some point you just need to hunker down, not settle, but when you find someone that you are really interested in, don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and put 100% into that relationship and enjoy life."
How can you truly invest 100% in a relationship knowing that there is someone better out there? I think that has hampered me in the past. I get a good thing going with a girl but know that this is just one step to a better girl. I am then not 100% fully committed to her, it shows (subconciously or not), nothing progresses, we break up... then later on I realise how great a chick she was and the endless cycle repeats with another one.
Is there an end?
cheers
Benny
HowBoutNo
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Embrace loneliness, do not run from it.
Sorry for giving advice as opposed to commenting on the article. I like the patience part... in a way, progress is inevitable, as long as you wait for it, instead of chase after it.
The Rev
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Ive never had the desire to always 'have a girlfriend prescence' in my life. Every since i was 13 years old getting blowies in the movie theatre and behind the middle school, girls would get so upset with me because I would never commit and stick with just her. Im a massive flirt. Girls in my life hate it.
Its a personal flaw i have. But i can really relate with what your saying, because although we are on different ends of the spectrum, its kinda the same in many ways. Maybe one day ill gain some perspective and grow up.The grass is always greener on the other side, thats just how ive always viewed it. Not the best perspective to have. oh well.
I feel ya tho. Rock on to you, and merry christmas. Sounds like you have a great year in 2010 ahead of you.
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thanks for the post.
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