We Love Brad
Did I say that I’ve been fucking rocking out lately?
Seems to be a recurring theme…
Yet the truth. Damn.
After a solid 2 years involved with the RSD crew I’ve finely honed my skillset and there are certain lines that I seem to use over and over again.
Now, don’t get afraid and be all “OMGEEE, he’s giving me routines and lines!”
It’s not like that. But the thing to look at is WHERE they are coming from. How my actions and what I say project my inner head space.
I want to go through each phase of a given pickup, and point out some key phrases that I almost use in every interaction, and how it can highlight some of the internal head spaces that you should be cultivating.
Starting from the approach.
My faves would have to be the old classic “You’re cute.” Or the forced situational openers I talk about in the article on how to open.
Although lately I’ve really like the true nonsense openers, where I’ll just go up to a girl and be like “Plaid shirt! You’re wearing a plaid shirt! Hi, my name is Brad.”
Now what does this say about me trying to impress the girl? I am literally saying the most obvious, basic thing in the world. I just DON’T CARE. And she feels this.

What does it say about me if I don’t care? I am coming from the higher value frame. High value=attraction. Cool.
The BIGGEST thing to remember, over and over I reiterate it, is USE BREAKING RAPPORT TONALITY!
Seriously guys. It is so important. It is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING for conveying your value right away.
I have seen guys with REAL shitty inner game, but if their tonality is spot on, they can still get it done. Like major success, so start paying attention to your tonality.
After the opener, I’ve noticed another thing that I will do fairly regularly.
I am pretty much traveling all the time, always on the road, and it makes a good conversation starter.
Now remember, you don’t want to fall into interview mode, so STATEMENTS NOT QUESTIONS.
I’ll usually use the city or nationality. Let’s say I am in Sweden.
ME: Hey, I’m Brad. Who are you?
HER: Sarah
ME: Cool, you know what… You look German.
HER: No, actually I’m Dutch.
Now this gives me one of those raisins to branch off of and the conversation flows. It works out really well for me because pretty much anywhere the girl is from I have already been there, so I have a lot to talk about on these types of topics.
But what it really comes down to is that travel is my favorite thing to do, and my favorite thing to talk about, so it’s a really easy way for me to get talking about something I am interested in.

And you see how by using statements, it is again coming from the high value frame.
Another one that I use a lot is with the whole age thing.
Super old school. You almost get asked your age in every single interaction. If I am kind of at a loss for words for whatever reason, I’ll throw out.
ME: Hold on a second. Let me guess how old you are… You look about ___
Whatever, it gives me an opportunity to get a new thread going and also an opportunity to take a step back and fully, unapologetically check her body out.
Then I’ll guess.
What happens everytime? She asks me then… What’s my response?
HER: And how old are you?
ME: Guess.
Again, super old school, but it turns a 2 sentence interaction into a 5 minute long piece which is slowly giving her more and more reference points of the type of guy I am until the set hooks hard.
The big thing to realize when you are talking is not that what you say is getting her to like you more and more, it is the fact that you are just being consistent.
More specifically consistently cool. Or consistently conveying high value traits.
You know how attraction for men is like a light switch, and women it is like a volume knob.
They just need to spend enough time with you, gather enough cumulative reference points of you speaking with good tonality, good body language, not reacting, going in your head… enough that she sees you are consistent in your actions, and she can trust you to leave together.
Other ones I like:
I almost always fall into the sarcastic frame of being shy. I’ll be physically manhandling the girl but at the same time be like,
“Yeah, I am just a shy boy from the Midwest, please don’t take advantage of me.”
-as I physically man handle the girl, and she is like
“You most definitely are NOT shy!”
It disengages her logical mind and keeps things playful. And I think it is funny as hell because it is so obvious that I am not shy.
Self amusement boyzzz.

Another one I have pretty much trademarked:
“You don’t even want to know what I would do to you.”
I use this little bad boy every time I really want to amp up the sexual energy, especially in a verbal direction.
Almost every time she will ask “What would you do to me?” and it gives you the green light to get super explicit. Although as most of you have seen from some of my youTube videos, some times it catches you off guard and in that example I go all lame.

Also another one that I’ll use pretty consistently is the “Hey what are you up to later?”
It is just a great little line for figuring out the logistics for her for the night. Does she need to get up early, where is she staying, who did she come here with?
Lastly, when going for the pull a lot of times I’m trying to see where the girl’s buying temperature is at, see how ready she is to leave with me. So if I am getting ready to leave, I will usually say something like:
“Oh my god, this is probably the last and only time I will ever see you, that is so sad?”
With obvious sarcasm, and at the same time I am staring her fucking down hardcore, full BEDROOM eyes. This is a good gauge to see what they are down for.
Sometimes I’ll get a “Why are you leaving, I want to stay with you.” That’s obviously a good response.
Other times I’ll get a “Well take my number! Let’s do something sometimes!”
Now remember, this can look a little weak, like verbally it looks a little chode, but you have to realize how ALPHA everything else I am doing is.
It’s playful!
The amount of alpha/high value/leader/unapologetic tendencies I project in a given interaction allow me to go in almost under the radar, more for self amusement than anything else.
The “CHODE TO EXPLODE” technique.

I’ll come in like the normal nice dude, and when that shit hooks I’ll fucking pull her hair and bite her neck. Then say I am shy, and frazzle her brain.
So they go hand in hand I guess…
Enjoy.




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Rick Grimes
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oneyeardeep
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Awesome post. Me/Tyler/Jeffy were talking about your carefree attitude.
I'm all done with major tests, almost 100% free the month of April, and ready to hit my stride.
I'm also moving to a Studio somewhere close to Hub 51/English in Chi Mid June. I'll be hitting u up.
""Another one that I use a lot is with the whole age thing.
Super old school. You almost get asked your age in every single interaction. If I am kind of at a loss for words for whatever reason, I’ll throw out.
ME: Hold on a second. Let me guess how old you are… You look about ___
Whatever, it gives me an opportunity to get a new thread going and also an opportunity to take a step back and fully, unapologetically check her body out."
Haha. Did this on BC yesterday.
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btw 3 weeks and i have my bootcamp anniversary :P
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I use this little bad boy every time I really want to amp up the sexual energy, especially in a verbal direction.
Almost every time she will ask “What would you do to me?” and it gives you the green light to get super explicit.
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That shit...so fuckin funny :D
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except mike is taller,
and he makes more money
and mike is more athletic
but Brad gets girlss.... wait, so does mike
on second thought, brads cooll, but i still want to be like mike :]
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I really gotta practise my BR tonality... my friend got a nano so hopefully I'll start recording my audio soon.
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1.
What do you consider good body language?
2.
When I ask this I always communicate neediness, I don't know how, but girls always tell me they are doing something else, lol. It sucks bro. How do you handle when they lie to you like that?
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3.
How do you know you have hooked enough that allows you to change from nice to touchy?
I know you were once a forum dude like us, so I guess you know where we are coming from when we ask these questions.
1. Good body language mostly comes from your headspace, if you feel high self worth, you are naturally gonna take up more space and be relaxed... I would say the only big one is no leaning in, other than that, just be expressive and relaxed.
2. Yeah, I could see how that one would come across needy from a certain headspace, you must ask it in a way that you are just seeing what her plans are, not from the frame of "Hey, what are you up to later, care if I join?" Maybe say you have cool shit going on first, or actually have cool shit going on, so she doesn't feel the outcome dependence attached to it.
3. For me the set hooking is somewhat of an intuitive feel, but more than anything, it's when she starts adding to the conversation, like 50-50 style...
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I use this little bad boy every time I really want to amp up the sexual energy, especially in a verbal direction.
Almost every time she will ask “What would you do to me?” and it gives you the green light to get super explicit.
A few days ago I told some girl that I wanted to rape her in the alley, but we couldn't cuz we were in Dubai and it's illegal. Haha, and I actually meant it.
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I don't particularly believe in this.
but the article is great.
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These lines are most effective when you actually scream it at girls the minute they catch your attention. As expected, the more obnoxious you are about it, the better it works
Actually, I think were at the bar that night with Nick. I remember sarcastically joking with my buddy that I should teach you my "pink shirt!" opener for your program. Good times.
The "I'm shy" frame is a classic as well.
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I've always wondered how you use breaking rapport without sounding like a dick. When I do it I get kind of a brow furrow and I look kind of like I'm interrogating them haha... Can you put like an audio example up or something? Anyway, appreciate all the practical articles and straight-to-the-point tips. There is no mental masterbation in your articles, which is why I like them so much. Thanks bro!
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Every interaction just light up like a tourch.
Its almost a year since bc,
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"Girl, look what you are doing to me, I just came out to hang out with my friends and you had to come out looking like THIS!"
I'd prolly say something like
"Mmm.. You're fucking hot girl, you don't wanna know what I'd do to you."
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I've always wondered how you use breaking rapport without sounding like a dick. When I do it I get kind of a brow furrow and I look kind of like I'm interrogating them haha... Can you put like an audio example up or something? Anyway, appreciate all the practical articles and straight-to-the-point tips. There is no mental masterbation in your articles, which is why I like them so much. Thanks bro!
As for what you are doing wrong, keep everything the same but with a playful smirk. That is how she knows you are being playful instead of a dick.
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MidWest Representin' Yo
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I've always wondered how you use breaking rapport without sounding like a dick. When I do it I get kind of a brow furrow and I look kind of like I'm interrogating them haha... Can you put like an audio example up or something? Anyway, appreciate all the practical articles and straight-to-the-point tips. There is no mental masterbation in your articles, which is why I like them so much. Thanks bro!
As for what you are doing wrong, keep everything the same but with a playful smirk. That is how she knows you are being playful instead of a dick.
Rich~
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what I realise with BR tonality is that it's more about BEING BR with your whole self as opposed to "doing BR tonality"
Like, you have to actually internalise the headspace of interjecting dominantly, being a vacuum and putting her on the spot. It cant just be " execute downward sloping tonality..."
But yeah, its fucking powerful. cheers for the reminder.
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I knew "seeking rapport tonality" was "wrong" but I wanted to be high energy and I knew I should be smiling -- so I projected seeking rapport [twirling my hands around, raising my eyebrows, like I'm in an infomercial]
Once I scrapped routines and my self-image as a "pick up guy", clearing my head, meditating, expressing and not impressing, thinking simplistically, not giving-a-fuck playfulness/curiosity -- I found myself naturally projecting BR and hooking girls like mad. Shit's real! After a makeout or when things start heating up, girl will usually say something like "I thought you didn't like me at first!! OMG!" and they're all happy.
It's male/female polarity. Someone above mentioned "being the vacuum" of attention. I like that. Conveying the fact that you're not going to respond to just ANYTHING because she's a hot girl. You're worthy of her deep interest, and she's going to please you in some way to get that interest in return. [[***but be careful! don't trick yourself into acting all too cool for school, I used to use this mentality as an excuse NOT to approach girls ]]. Throw the desire out there, be cool, let her invest her value.
Personally when I'm in a solid, effective BR/NR zone, I am truly not giving a fuck, I am feeling like a man's man. Owning my body and the flood of emotions running through me. Like LISTENING to her, but not HANGING ON to every word....just letting her words hit me...her facial expressions affect me, etc... just being cool, bouncing it all back in some raw way when something she does hits its mark in me. As long as I can handle that, she gets sucked into my world. BR attitude is the polarity to her femininity, or her desire to EARN a real man and grab his attention.
(I had to work through a lot of misconceptions surrounding BR since Tim's Natural video, and clearing that ONE thing up had a tremendous effect on my polarity as a man).
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"Hi..my name's brad and I like talking to random strangers......girls girls girls....girls girls girls....girls girls girls....girls girls girls....YOU!" and the hottie just snaps to you...
"i like words"
lolwtf
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"Girl, look what you are doing to me, I just came out to hang out with my friends and you had to come out looking like THIS!"
I'd prolly say something like
"Mmm.. You're fucking hot girl, you don't wanna know what I'd do to you."
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I've been doing some research on my own regarding self esteem, confidence and being naturally BR type.
After a few months of reading, browsing the net and trial and error I estabilished my own set of habits that helps me maintain high self esteem and be NR/BR all the time.
To be very brief, I did 3 things:
1. Stopped drinking alcohol (I used to get really drunk and screw things up)
2. Stopped masturbating (if you don't believe it makes a difference try not to do it for let's say 2 weeks)
3. Started to keep myself busy all the time, which involves:
a) seeing my friends (social interactions) almost every day as opose to jerking off alone in my room
b) setting goals for the next 10 years and working on achieving them step by step every day
c) taking up a hobby
Point 3 is simply HAVING A LIFE
Besides that I go out regularly (3-4 nights a week) but in my opinion that's not enaugh. You can't be a NO LIFE type of guy, playing WoW, masturbating to the net porn and every time you go out just fake you're cool, interesting guy.
Before taking on these new behaviors I used to fell like I don't deserve a hot woman. Now I'm like "Let's see if you're good enough for me and maybe I'll give you a chance to enjoy my company tonight"
I'm not going to explain it in more details now cause I'm working on an article about it (for another forum in polish) but I'll try to translate it later so maybe I can help someone.
Take care ;-)
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I've been doing some research on my own regarding self esteem, confidence and being naturally BR type.
To be very brief, I did 3 things:
1. Stopped drinking alcohol (I used to get really drunk and screw things up)
2. Stopped masturbating (if you don't believe it makes a difference try not to do it for let's say 2 weeks)
3. Started to keep myself busy all the time, which involves:
a) seeing my friends (social interactions) almost every day as opose to jerking off alone in my room
b) setting goals for the next 10 years and working on achieving them step by step every day
c) taking up a hobby
Point 3 is simply HAVING A LIFE
Besides that I go out regularly (3-4 nights a week) but in my opinion that's not enaugh. You can't be a NO LIFE type of guy, playing WoW, masturbating to the net porn and every time you go out just fake you're cool, interesting guy.
Before taking on these new behaviors I used to fell like I don't deserve a hot woman. Now I'm like "Let's see if you're good enough for me and maybe I'll give you a chance to enjoy my company tonight"
[/b]Boom. I've basically come to the same conclusion... I think that's the 80/20 of self esteem. Especially when your goals/hobbies are really born out of your values.
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I don't particularly believe in this.
but the article is great.
Specifically, 95+% of interactions are not going to be 15 minute bathroom lays. And if they are the girl is going to not remember it next day because she was so drunk. And if she does remember it she'll regret it. Makes you feel good about yourself, huh?
Fact is, to get REAL attraction takes patience and consistency, like Brad says. That is, just being a cool person with little or no outcome dependence. Not being afraid to say the 'wrong thing', to tease her, to be familiar and fun. Just being cool, unreactive, but expressive and responsive. She may not be flicking her hair and pouting at you in the first 5 mins. But over time she will start to FEEL that you are the real deal. Quality women - women who know themselves and don't want a cheap ONS have this baked in. They will not be sucked in by temperature pumping routines - they need to see a lot more evidence of your core quality before they'll invest in you.
Great article, Brad.
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James!
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Tim is AMAZING!
and Brad is AWESOME!
but they are each their own badass, and have their own definite styles.
I learned everything i could from timmy, and he got me laid, now that i been studying brad's shit, I've got a harem.
Thank you Brad, love your style.
I've been using your "you have no idea what i want to do to you right now" and EVERY FUCKING TIME it leads to glory.
I can't get over how just being my chill self gets the girls horny as.
Brad you opened my eyes to a new style of game. Woooosh.
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The leaning in is probably a big deal I need to work on because I'm tall.
Lean back instead of forward if you feel you need to get down towards her. I sometimes feel like I'm limbo dancing through the club...
If they hook, just squat down or use your height as an excuse to grab a seat if they're seated. And if they're not use it as an excuse to lead her somewhere where she can stand higher than you, or to sit down with you, make a point of how adorably tiny she is, and *lift her up* and tell her it's so you can talk face to face. As long as you're smiling and non-threatening, a lot of girls love being lifted by the waist... I've had girls get turned on by it.
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The leaning in is probably a big deal I need to work on because I'm tall.
Lean back instead of forward if you feel you need to get down towards her. I sometimes feel like I'm limbo dancing through the club...
If they hook, just squat down or use your height as an excuse to grab a seat if they're seated. And if they're not use it as an excuse to lead her somewhere where she can stand higher than you, or to sit down with you, make a point of how adorably tiny she is, and *lift her up* and tell her it's so you can talk face to face. As long as you're smiling and non-threatening, a lot of girls love being lifted by the waist... I've had girls get turned on by it.
I call it the tiger paw, you grab the girl behind the neck and pull her into you as you lean in to tell her something.
Lean in without physicality. creepy
Lean in with physicality. dominant
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