I’m in the middle of some intense video editing, and thought I’d throw in this week’s video clip as well.

The end product is me chilling in downtown Chicago at the zoo with a SERIOUS faux hawk provided by the wind city.

So faux hawk aside, I wanted to breakdown the process of how to end bad emotions, in a way that makes you more aware of your life goals, and how to make decisions in the future based off of those life values/goals.

Check out the vid and see what I mean, Kablam!


Do Not Suppress!

The way that most people deal with their emotions is by holding them in, bottling them up.

Their girlfriend pisses them off, and instead of either calling her out in a constructive way, or changing their perspective of her actions, they bottle up the emotions, and start harboring bad anchors towards her.

“Why is she always like that?! It’s so damn annoying!”

They put up with the bullshit, and months or YEARS later, it culminates in an explosive freak out session.

That’s not good, m’kay?

What you want to do is TRANSCEND your emotions, not suppress them.

On the surface it looks like the same thing, but there is a drastically different process going on underneath.

As I’ve said many times, negative emotions are indicators that your life situation is in dissonance to your beliefs, and you can use these bad emotions as signals for change.

Back to the example of the bitchy girlfriend, when you start getting angry, what is the next step?

Not to hold in your angst, not to rationalize to yourself that you deserve the abuse, it’s to take action and tell her what’s up, or go find a new girlfriend.

But is action always the right answer?

Sometimes it might be you have a skewed view of the situation.

Again, in the case of relationships, communication is SO helpful here, because it’s hard to always be empathizing with the other person.

No matter how annoying and evil a person is, I think everyone deep down has good intentions. Maybe she’s worried about you leaving her, and because you always go out and party, she needs some affirmation you’re not going to leave her.

Maybe you are slacking off at work, and she’s worried about your long term goals.

I love how David Deida explains how your women is a mirror of your own life. If she isn’t happy, it’s probably because you aren’t living up to your full potential, whether that be at work, with your family, or with yourself.

By bringing the annoying behaviors into an open communication, you might find out WHY she’s doing what she is doing, and once your perspective shifts, the emotional energy fades.

Your Relationship with Yourself

But this post isn’t about relationships, well I guess it is, but also with YOURSELF.

When those negative emotions bubble up, look at how you are perceiving the situation. Look at what is under your control.

Can you change the situation? Can you change your path and start moving towards that at least?

Or is your thought process wrong, and you are stressing about something that isn’t even a big deal?

Use the techniques I mentioned in the article about extending the timeline, and aligning your decisions with your life goals.

Move to a higher perspective, step out of the emotion and see why it’s there, and what is the best way to move forward.

Look at your long term life values, and WHY you feel how you do, and how it correlates to those values.

In the process you will not only transcend the emotion, you’ll reaffirm your life values, making them clearer and more attainable.

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Damn Chicago was fun last week. I hit a new low. High? Pulled some 85lb. 4’10” yoga instructor on Saturday night. Lots of fun.

Yet, as I mentioned in the video, I did notice my chops are a little rusty, and with the Vegas Summit coming up, I gotta get on my shit.

I’m finishing up the new project I’ve been working on, we’re calling it Evolutions, more on that in a few weeks, but now I’ve got the free time to hit the clubs hard again.

Need to get out every night, not gonna happen in Milwaukee. Hahaha. Looks like I’m going to start spending more time in New York until Vegas…

I’ll see you on the dancefloor.