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Using the principles he teaches, Brad Branson went from an amateur with massive approach anxiety to one of the elite instructors for the largest international dating and pickup company in only 1 year. He combines a unique brand of ’chilled out natural vibe with matchless social calibration and laser precise physicality’.
Brad Branson is an executive coach for Real Social Dynamics, the international leader in pickup and dating advice.
Hey guys,
I’m in Toronto for a few days before bootcamp in Chicago this weekend.
I wanted to FIRST make the announcement that I am heading over to Australia and Asia for my first time in September!
Yay, so stoked. It’s like the last frontier of the world I haven’t visited yet, and with Alex off in Europe and America doing his hotseat, I finally have the opportunity to check out these distant lands.
So if you’ve been reading my articles from the other side of the world, and always wanted to take a program with me, now is finally your chance!
Here’s a quick schedule before getting into the article:
September 28-30, 2012: Sydney, Australia
October 5-7, 2012: Brisbane, Australia
October 12-14, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
October 19-21, 2012: Perth, Australia
October 26-28, 2012: Sydney, Australia
November 2-4, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
November 9-11, 2012: Auckland, New Zealand
November 16-18, 2012: Singapore
November 23-25, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
November 30-December 2, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
Today I got a vid that I recorded last week in NYC, regard an event that happened at the Hotel Gansevoort.
I was chilling out on the balcony, and happened to glance over and see this incredibly well dressed man, probably in his early fifties, drinking a martini, and gazing off towards Jersey and the river.
I didn’t really think much of it, other than the guy looked cool, and something I’d aspire towards when I was at a similar age.
But…
An hour later, he was in the same damn spot, still staring off into the distant, all by himself, looking all cool.
And it hit me…
Check out the vid to see my realization:
So there you have it, when I saw that guy, it brought back all those moments when I stood around, trying to look cool, waiting for something to COME TO ME, as opposed to being the man and taking action.
It reminded me of those periods where you’ve had a lot of success, and then you hit a plateau because you are afraid to take a risk and challenge that ego of being successful with women.
And it ultimately reminded me to stop being a douche, get out there, take a risk, and fuck shit up.
The only way you are going to grow is to constantly be challenging yourself and “leaning into your edge.”
This could be by hitting up hotter girls, forcing yourself to go out on those nights when you are tired and hungry, or even completely outside of pickup, things like blasting through procrastination to get shit done, or hitting that last rep in the gym.
I’ve said it before, it’s all synergistic, now get out there and ROCK IT!
I feel that the main reason guys have peaks and valleys in their game is the fluctuations between building up an ego of being successful, riding that wave, and then when it gets too extreme, they stop approaching, taking risks, and the plateaus forces a period of stagnation, until they decide to just drop the bullshit and take action again.
Is this your experience? When do you hit plateaus, and what is the best way to get out of them?
I’m in Toronto for a few days before bootcamp in Chicago this weekend.
I wanted to FIRST make the announcement that I am heading over to Australia and Asia for my first time in September!
Yay, so stoked. It’s like the last frontier of the world I haven’t visited yet, and with Alex off in Europe and America doing his hotseat, I finally have the opportunity to check out these distant lands.
So if you’ve been reading my articles from the other side of the world, and always wanted to take a program with me, now is finally your chance!
Here’s a quick schedule before getting into the article:
September 28-30, 2012: Sydney, Australia
October 5-7, 2012: Brisbane, Australia
October 12-14, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
October 19-21, 2012: Perth, Australia
October 26-28, 2012: Sydney, Australia
November 2-4, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
November 9-11, 2012: Auckland, New Zealand
November 16-18, 2012: Singapore
November 23-25, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
November 30-December 2, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
Today I got a vid that I recorded last week in NYC, regard an event that happened at the Hotel Gansevoort.
I was chilling out on the balcony, and happened to glance over and see this incredibly well dressed man, probably in his early fifties, drinking a martini, and gazing off towards Jersey and the river.
I didn’t really think much of it, other than the guy looked cool, and something I’d aspire towards when I was at a similar age.
But…
An hour later, he was in the same damn spot, still staring off into the distant, all by himself, looking all cool.
And it hit me…
Check out the vid to see my realization:
So there you have it, when I saw that guy, it brought back all those moments when I stood around, trying to look cool, waiting for something to COME TO ME, as opposed to being the man and taking action.
It reminded me of those periods where you’ve had a lot of success, and then you hit a plateau because you are afraid to take a risk and challenge that ego of being successful with women.
And it ultimately reminded me to stop being a douche, get out there, take a risk, and fuck shit up.
The only way you are going to grow is to constantly be challenging yourself and “leaning into your edge.”
This could be by hitting up hotter girls, forcing yourself to go out on those nights when you are tired and hungry, or even completely outside of pickup, things like blasting through procrastination to get shit done, or hitting that last rep in the gym.
I’ve said it before, it’s all synergistic, now get out there and ROCK IT!
I feel that the main reason guys have peaks and valleys in their game is the fluctuations between building up an ego of being successful, riding that wave, and then when it gets too extreme, they stop approaching, taking risks, and the plateaus forces a period of stagnation, until they decide to just drop the bullshit and take action again.
Is this your experience? When do you hit plateaus, and what is the best way to get out of them?
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J Dilla R.I.P.
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Join Date: 06/30/2012 | Posts: 132
P.S your a funny dude, I lol'ed quite a few times in this vid
Sick-Cunt
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Join Date: 01/30/2012 | Posts: 180
Brb go out with friends and spend the night standing somewhere looking all cool INSTEAD OF TAKING ACTION.
Do you want to look good or do you want to get laid?
SEAN PUA
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Join Date: 11/08/2010 | Posts: 84
Love the idea of what you talked about. Yesterday i had my own experience of where I let the glory die in the moment of glory. Earlier this week I had my first night out at a club of actually approching multiple sets and hooking and getting rejected, etc... and yesterday I got on the bus and a chick I had the biggest crush on about 4 or 5 years ago walked onto the bus. I was kind of in state but I hesitated to approch cuz this girl was like my one-sided love affair kind of thing in my past and it brought up a lot of emotions for me that were just insane and I started to go into an altered state altogether. but she was infront of me standing, and my friend called me on the phone, and naturally in a command and challenge and fun tonality i was like "HEYYY WATS UPP", and as soon as I said that, this girl like fully turned around to look at me as if I said it right to her, and I wish i had said that to her just in that tonality lol cuz it worked so well, anyways i had a fun chat with my friend on the phone and like KNEWWWW 100 percent i could open her and talk, etc I was well dressed, i smelled fucken awesome anddddddddddddddddddddd I didnt do it even though I stayed on the bus a couple of stops further then I needed to. I couldn't get hard even though I checked her out she wasn't attractive to me anymore, and that sucked because being horny would have made it easier to apporch, or maybe it was juts my own deeply embeded approch anxiety lol but This girl didnt look anything like she "used to", and I wasn't even sexually attracted to her vs some of the girls I hit up at clubs who are fucken gorgeous and make this girl look malnourished and like weakkkkk... but still, in that moment, i got cocky, and didn't do it, and thinking back, my life would have been better if I did do it just to get some closure if nothing else... I just wanted to stand there and show of how great i was by the vibe i was putting out and pretend i was better then her and even though she was getting helplessly sucked into my vibe and i had that moment of clairty and I saw that, i didnt do shit... Afterwards i i got off the bus i had very strong emotions and felt like i shouldn't give a fuck about being cool and hold on to that to rely on the fact that im cool to get good feelings and just take actions and generate anything anywehre with anyone... I had that realization so fucken vivdly bro, right after i got off the bus, becaues deep down i realized i acted like a fucken idiot...Now i have regret lol, but if I see her again. FUCK THAT, im gona DO IT! and other shit, even though it might fuck up my vibe, cuz i realzied the more i try to protect a certain vibe in myself, the more it just diminishes, vs just being proactive and inviting in new experiences...
I am gonna make this concept really one of the major focuses of my game... Fuck being cool... And just DO IT :) dispite whatever.... cuz i realize now how you can just feel good or even great and not do shit... im still gonna be cool best i can lol, but not try to save it by being passive or rely on it in any way for good emotions or validation of others... FUCK FUCK FUCK :) i get it this now better then I did before :)
Thanks bro :)
El_Diego
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Join Date: 07/29/2009 | Posts: 117
I finally just accepted it as a normal process of the game, like for every couple of weeks of pimping like a boss i have one or two which i suck (btw how much i suck has been decreasing over time) and when "i get over myself" and build enough motivation/drive/leverage on myself i start hitting shit up hard again and good things start to happen.
NYC seems very cool, i´d like to go there soon.
Thanks for the insight
Mountaineer-~
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i don't think that every plateau is caused by the "i'm successful with girls" ego, altough it is the reason in a high percentage of the cases i guess.
Count_
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Portlandia
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Tyler
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Yeah I've had similar experience where I see a guy who looks super cool, initial impression is "Wow he's super cool" but then a few seconds later realize that it's irrelevant because nobody else gives a fuck and he isn't willing to put himself out there or talk to anyone.
Tyler
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broccoli
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Alexander~
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Seriously... make sure you're wasted on Bundaberg Rum, use an australian accent and you use pliers to give your self a haircut before you come.
You will be in a fight... espcially in Brisbane.
Best wishes,
Alex~
fanny45
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Yeah I've had similar experience where I see a guy who looks super cool, initial impression is "Wow he's super cool" but then a few seconds later realize that it's irrelevant because nobody else gives a fuck and he isn't willing to put himself out there or talk to anyone.
Tyler
What do you mean nobody gives a fuck? Maybe he's enjoying his free time by himself;he is content. It's ironic because for me I'm into doing my own thing and not to Bragg but me being positive and happy just naturally sucks girls into my reality like a vacuum lol
;j
Chrispy bacon
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vasco1610
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Seriously... make sure you're wasted on Bundaberg Rum, use an australian accent and you use pliers to give your self a haircut before you come.
You will be in a fight... espcially in Brisbane.
Best wishes,
Alex~
vasco1610
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This video just serves to confuse some people. My first philosophy teacher taught me this: "a rock is a rock" - that's the truth. When you start dissecting, and saying a rock is formed of minerals and atoms and the atoms are linked in this way... you're just getting further away from the truth. A rock is a rock.
Revelation... what Brad is saying on this video has been said many times before by many other people.
Cool is cool. Being cool is good.
But it's obvious that standing around doing nothing is going to accomplish nothing.
Tyler once said, stuff we put out on RSN nation front page are the most groundbreaking concepts we come up with. "It's for advanced guys". He probably also said that sometimes they mix it up and basically they say whatever the fuck they want to say at the time cause that's what they do. But this video made it seem that sometimes they release stuff just for the sake of it, to keep the page active or whatever.
Why do I care? Probably I'm living too much out of RSDn lately and I get angry if I don't get my fix!
I think I'm gonna leave this for a good couple of months at least
TOOBAD
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Tyler
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I've actually had similar experiences to Brad where I see a guy who I initially admire, and then later sense that the guy CANNOT approach anyone and is living within his own world more than having fun with people or getting laid.
Brad revolts against this because he's had that experience where the idea of "Do you..." fucks him over from getting laid, not even by a 6.
I've had similar experiences as well.
I remember when I was younger being out in Europe, seeing guys I thought looked soooo cool (like in yatching cities) and later realized it's just a circle jerk and there's no point in them even being IN PUBLIC cause they won't remotely talk to ANYONE.
You gotta RE anchour those feelings to "Hell yeah I'm cool as fuck but I also talk to random people, and talking to people is cool..." Not just chillaxing feeling cool and never talking to ANYONE cause you're in STATE / EGO PRESERVATION mode of how cool you are.
(I also have friends who look POPULAR AS FUCK at their TABLE in the club, or even who have their own limosines and girls with them, but NEVER EVER GET LAID cause they're just trying to preserve that image. PATHETIC!!)
So I dig the video and got good reminder out of it. Kinda reinforced to me that it's COOL to approach and get rejected, cause it's better than the alternative of laying back looking fly.
Tyler
This video just serves to confuse some people. My first philosophy teacher taught me this: "a rock is a rock" - that's the truth. When you start dissecting, and saying a rock is formed of minerals and atoms and the atoms are linked in this way... you're just getting further away from the truth. A rock is a rock.
Revelation... what Brad is saying on this video has been said many times before by many other people.
Cool is cool. Being cool is good.
But it's obvious that standing around doing nothing is going to accomplish nothing.
Tyler once said, stuff we put out on RSN nation front page are the most groundbreaking concepts we come up with. "It's for advanced guys". He probably also said that sometimes they mix it up and basically they say whatever the fuck they want to say at the time cause that's what they do. But this video made it seem that sometimes they release stuff just for the sake of it, to keep the page active or whatever.
Why do I care? Probably I'm living too much out of RSDn lately and I get angry if I don't get my fix!
I think I'm gonna leave this for a good couple of months at least
Platzhirsch
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Join Date: 08/23/2009 | Posts: 67
I basically had the issue when I go to places where I am the king and the girls just love me - which is kind of a circle thing where I am the cool guy... Than I change venue and be the same as before but it has a totally different effect...and nobody actually cares and I am ignored - nothing happens and I actually have to take action to make things happen.
Its also the moment where I try to stay in my comfort zone the most and its initially the hardest moment to push over it. But this is only because I try to achieve the same level I had in the last venue even its not happening in the new one - and this actually fucked with my mind for a long time. NO MORE!
Brad-
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I finally just accepted it as a normal process of the game, like for every couple of weeks of pimping like a boss i have one or two which i suck (btw how much i suck has been decreasing over time) and when "i get over myself" and build enough motivation/drive/leverage on myself i start hitting shit up hard again and good things start to happen.
NYC seems very cool, i´d like to go there soon.
Thanks for the insight
Brad-
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i don't think that every plateau is caused by the "i'm successful with girls" ego, altough it is the reason in a high percentage of the cases i guess.
Brad-
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Yeah I've had similar experience where I see a guy who looks super cool, initial impression is "Wow he's super cool" but then a few seconds later realize that it's irrelevant because nobody else gives a fuck and he isn't willing to put himself out there or talk to anyone.
Tyler
What do you mean nobody gives a fuck? Maybe he's enjoying his free time by himself;he is content. It's ironic because for me I'm into doing my own thing and not to Bragg but me being positive and happy just naturally sucks girls into my reality like a vacuum lol
;j
Chrispy bacon
I don't need another 7, and the 9s aren't gonna be coming up to you unless you're a celeb...
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I remember seeing you a few times in field when you were just sitting there staring at the air LOL! While other instructors like Julien where macking hoes left and right.
I just assumed you were tired and wanted to chill, I did not know was any of this.
ChinaBoy~
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champ
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Because some guys have it sooooooo easy when it comes to girls man. Damn. Too easy. Too too easy. Its sad to me how a guy with his shit together or who is rich or poor even is "lost" and is sad about it. Sometimes I wish I didnt feel sad for them because sometimes it fucks with my head too much sometimes. Especially when the girl Im with acts mean to them or anyone. Or when a girl is really sweet to me but is mean to a guy just cuz hes fat or looks/dressed like a bum/loser. It fucks with my head cuz I cant blame girls though. Its not just girls alot of guys do this as well. Not everyone is like that but alot of people are. It is what it is. It's like being mad because the sky is blue. I'm over it already.
That article was very "touching" and deep and helpful. Damn the Australians be threatening u already. Hopefully youll be allright out there. Maybe u can get some of Alex's homeys to get yo back LOL. Take care of yourself.
JohnnyCanada
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naes
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Also, what you said about cyclical periods of ego. I am currently going through this. I was in Romania about two weeks ago, and was killing it. I hooked up with one girl on Friday night, and had another one Sunday afternoon. After we met two hours later at four in the afternoon I had her back in my room. Then went to Bulgaria, hooked up again after a couple of days. So was feeling pretty good (even though I felt the girls I was getting were not really the caliber I wanted), but now I am in Turkey and have stopped approaching as much and slip back into this place of ego and saying "yea I'm the shit" and getting nothing done. Moral of the story, activity creates results. No matter how tight your game is if you don't go out and approach absolutely nothing is going to happen. PERIOD.
Another point of frustration and sticking points:
I am way better looking than most of the girls I am hooking up with. But I have all of this reference experience of being rejected by the super hotties so I think I naturally gravitate to the sevens because my experience has shown I am less likely to be rejected. I hate this, time to step it up again and break through this sticking point.
Bossco
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Thanks Brad
aliciaa11
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my name is Alicia i want to know you so please
i will like you to contact me true my email box so that i will
tell you more about me(aliciacole1988@yahoo.in) and sent you my lovely pictures you will love to see my dear
Full_intent~
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Btw to tyler: let this video see after guys finish bootcamp. Seriously after bootcamp you feel on top of the world all girls liking you and shit, and I stopped taking risks because I didnt want to damage that pimp image of myself.
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1st Place Winner:: The Looking lke actor Judge Rynhold from Fast Times at Ridgmont High Contest
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