Brad Branson

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Hey guys,

I’m in Toronto for a few days before bootcamp in Chicago this weekend.

I wanted to FIRST make the announcement that I am heading over to Australia and Asia for my first time in September!

Yay, so stoked. It’s like the last frontier of the world I haven’t visited yet, and with Alex off in Europe and America doing his hotseat, I finally have the opportunity to check out these distant lands.

So if you’ve been reading my articles from the other side of the world, and always wanted to take a program with me, now is finally your chance!

Here’s a quick schedule before getting into the article:

September 28-30, 2012: Sydney, Australia
October 5-7, 2012: Brisbane, Australia
October 12-14, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
October 19-21, 2012: Perth, Australia
October 26-28, 2012: Sydney, Australia
November 2-4, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
November 9-11, 2012: Auckland, New Zealand
November 16-18, 2012: Singapore
November 23-25, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
November 30-December 2, 2012: Tokyo, Japan


Today I got a vid that I recorded last week in NYC, regard an event that happened at the Hotel Gansevoort.

I was chilling out on the balcony, and happened to glance over and see this incredibly well dressed man, probably in his early fifties, drinking a martini, and gazing off towards Jersey and the river.

I didn’t really think much of it, other than the guy looked cool, and something I’d aspire towards when I was at a similar age.

But…

An hour later, he was in the same damn spot, still staring off into the distant, all by himself, looking all cool.

And it hit me…

Check out the vid to see my realization:



So there you have it, when I saw that guy, it brought back all those moments when I stood around, trying to look cool, waiting for something to COME TO ME, as opposed to being the man and taking action.

It reminded me of those periods where you’ve had a lot of success, and then you hit a plateau because you are afraid to take a risk and challenge that ego of being successful with women.

And it ultimately reminded me to stop being a douche, get out there, take a risk, and fuck shit up.

The only way you are going to grow is to constantly be challenging yourself and “leaning into your edge.”

This could be by hitting up hotter girls, forcing yourself to go out on those nights when you are tired and hungry, or even completely outside of pickup, things like blasting through procrastination to get shit done, or hitting that last rep in the gym.

I’ve said it before, it’s all synergistic, now get out there and ROCK IT!

I feel that the main reason guys have peaks and valleys in their game is the fluctuations between building up an ego of being successful, riding that wave, and then when it gets too extreme, they stop approaching, taking risks, and the plateaus forces a period of stagnation, until they decide to just drop the bullshit and take action again.

Is this your experience?  When do you hit plateaus, and what is the best way to get out of them?
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#1
J Dilla R.I.P.

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 What up B, thanks for the article, appreciate it old buddy old pal

P.S your a funny dude, I lol'ed quite a few times in this vid
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#2

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Haha fuck I know this feel.

Brb go out with friends and spend the night standing somewhere looking all cool INSTEAD OF TAKING ACTION.

Do you want to look good or do you want to get laid?
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hey Brad,

Love the idea of what you talked about. Yesterday i had my own experience of where I let the glory die in the moment of glory. Earlier this week I had my first night out at a club of actually approching multiple sets and hooking and getting rejected, etc... and yesterday I got on the bus and a chick I had the biggest crush on about 4 or 5 years ago walked onto the bus. I was kind of in state but I hesitated to approch cuz this girl was like my one-sided love affair kind of thing in my past and it brought up a lot of emotions for me that were just insane and I started to go into an altered state altogether. but she was infront of me standing, and my friend called me on the phone, and naturally in a command and challenge and fun tonality i was like "HEYYY WATS UPP", and as soon as I said that, this girl like fully turned around to look at me as if I said it right to her, and I wish i had said that to her just in that tonality lol cuz it worked so well,  anyways i had a fun chat with my friend on the phone and like KNEWWWW 100 percent i could open her and talk, etc I was well dressed, i smelled fucken awesome anddddddddddddddddddddd I didnt do it even though I stayed on the bus a couple of stops further then I needed to. I couldn't get hard even though I checked her out she wasn't attractive to me anymore, and that sucked because being horny would have made it easier to apporch, or maybe it was juts my own deeply embeded approch anxiety lol but This girl didnt look anything like she "used to", and I wasn't even sexually attracted to her vs some of the girls I hit up at clubs who are fucken gorgeous and make this girl look malnourished and like weakkkkk... but still, in that moment, i got cocky, and didn't do it, and thinking back, my life would have been better if I did do it just to get some closure if nothing else... I just wanted to  stand there and show of how great i was by the vibe i was putting out and pretend i was better then her and even though she was getting helplessly sucked into my vibe and i had that moment of clairty and I saw that, i didnt do shit... Afterwards i i got off the bus i had very strong emotions and felt like i shouldn't give a fuck about being cool and hold on to that to rely on the fact that im cool to get good feelings and just take actions and generate anything anywehre with anyone... I had that realization so fucken vivdly bro, right after i got off the bus, becaues deep down i realized i acted like a fucken idiot...Now i have regret lol, but if I see her again. FUCK THAT, im gona DO IT! and other shit, even though it might fuck up my vibe, cuz i realzied the more i try to protect a certain vibe in myself, the more it just diminishes, vs just being proactive and inviting in new experiences... 

I am gonna make this concept really one of the major focuses of my game... Fuck being cool... And just DO IT :) dispite whatever.... cuz i realize now how you can just feel good or even great and not do shit... im still gonna be cool best i can lol, but not try to save it by being passive  or rely on it in any way for good emotions or validation of others... FUCK FUCK FUCK :) i get it this now better then I did before :) 


Thanks bro :)
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Dude, those fluctuations because of the ego of being successful is so ON POINT.

I finally just accepted it as a normal process of the game, like for every couple of weeks of pimping like a boss i have one or two which i suck (btw how much i suck has been decreasing over time) and when "i get over myself" and build enough motivation/drive/leverage on myself i start hitting shit up hard again and good things start to happen.

NYC seems very cool, i´d like to go there soon.

Thanks for the insight
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like it how you obviously unconsciously anchored leverage and negative emotions to not taking action. awesome!

i don't think that every plateau is caused by the "i'm successful with girls" ego, altough it is the reason in a high percentage of the cases i guess.
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I had that ego preservation shit when I went out with a couple of friends and two girls last saturday. The girls loved me and I was a chapion in their eyes so when I saw a girl I liked in this club we were in I simply couldn't approach her and risk the image I have built with those girls. The girl I wanted to approach was an easy target and if I was alone I believe I would had a lot of success. I did approach the girl after a 10 minutes of hesitation but it was so weak I was disgusted by myself. She didn't even acknowledge me and then the funniest thing was how I tried to hide I approached her at all. I kinda started dancing and then started moving to the bathroom while dancing. It was probabily the chodest thing I did in a year. Never doing that again.
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 I was actually wishing Brad would post more about pick up ego because he keeps alluding to it in other videos.  Open up RSD and there it is.  Brilliant!
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Nice!

Yeah I've had similar experience where I see a guy who looks super cool, initial impression is "Wow he's super cool" but then a few seconds later realize that it's irrelevant because nobody else gives a fuck and he isn't willing to put himself out there or talk to anyone.

Tyler
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 For me, the best way to get over plateaus is to go to a Hot Seat. Haha.
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I know this feel.
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Tyler wrote:
Nice!

Yeah I've had similar experience where I see a guy who looks super cool, initial impression is "Wow he's super cool" but then a few seconds later realize that it's irrelevant because nobody else gives a fuck and he isn't willing to put himself out there or talk to anyone.

Tyler


What do you mean nobody gives a fuck? Maybe he's enjoying his free time by himself;he is content. It's ironic because for me I'm into doing my own thing and not to Bragg but me being positive and happy just naturally sucks girls into my reality like a vacuum lol

;j

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Great video Brad.  It's funny because alot of my friends and even my brother do what you were talking about in the video. 
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Lol Alex... brad get fucking chirped you pretty boy fag instructor, who helps men game and self actualize better... thaaanks.  Really tho, great vblog dude, keep it up xD
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damn... this is the post i needed to see. Thank god for the slap in the face. Need to remind myself that i am still learning... and its true.. i suddenly think that im the shit with women.. and dont want to risk anymore. Fuck it.. need to get back in action
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 haha ur coming to Australia!!...Fucking brave mate! I cant promise you that i/ll be able to back you up in most fights. Shit is fucking crazy down here whole fuck! Especially on the Kings Cross in Sydney. That shit is an Underbelly hotspot..
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Alexander once again with a perfect display of illogicality
Alexander~ wrote:
 ha, pretty boy faggot wearing abercrombie coming to australia fresh after the USA beat us in the olympics.

Seriously... make sure you're wasted on Bundaberg Rum, use an australian accent and you use pliers to give your self a haircut before you come.

You will be in a fight... espcially in Brisbane.

Best wishes, 

Alex~
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It's not cool to be cool. Watch out guys if you're out there trying to be cool by being cool, that's not cool. People will sense that your coolness is not cool because being cool is only cool when you are not cool.

This video just serves to confuse some people. My first philosophy teacher taught me this: "a rock is a rock" - that's the truth. When you start dissecting, and saying a rock is formed of minerals and atoms and the atoms are linked in this way... you're just getting further away from the truth. A rock is a rock.

Revelation... what Brad is saying on this video has been said many times before by many other people.
Cool is cool. Being cool is good.
But it's obvious that standing around doing nothing is going to accomplish nothing.

Tyler once said, stuff we put out on RSN nation front page are the most groundbreaking concepts we come up with. "It's for advanced guys". He probably also said that sometimes they mix it up and basically they say whatever the fuck they want to say at the time cause that's what they do. But this video made it seem that sometimes they release stuff just for the sake of it, to keep the page active or whatever.

Why do I care? Probably I'm living too much out of RSDn lately and I get angry if I don't get my fix! 
I think I'm gonna leave this for a good couple of months at least
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Make sure you wear a bulletproof vest when you're in the X mate - don't want to piss off the wrong people - it's a jungle out there
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Yeah you may be hooked on the really advanced concepts.

I've actually had similar experiences to Brad where I see a guy who I initially admire, and then later sense that the guy CANNOT approach anyone and is living within his own world more than having fun with people or getting laid.

Brad revolts against this because he's had that experience where the idea of "Do you..." fucks him over from getting laid, not even by a 6.

I've had similar experiences as well.

I remember when I was younger being out in Europe, seeing guys I thought looked soooo cool (like in yatching cities) and later realized it's just a circle jerk and there's no point in them even being  IN PUBLIC cause they won't remotely talk to ANYONE.

You gotta RE anchour those feelings to "Hell yeah I'm cool as fuck but I also talk to random people, and talking to people is cool..."  Not just chillaxing feeling cool and never talking to ANYONE cause you're in STATE / EGO PRESERVATION  mode of how cool you are.

(I also have friends who look POPULAR AS FUCK at their TABLE in the club, or even who have their own limosines and girls with them, but NEVER EVER GET LAID cause they're just trying to preserve that image.  PATHETIC!!)

So I dig the video and got good reminder out of it.  Kinda reinforced to me that it's COOL to approach and get rejected, cause it's better than the alternative of laying back looking fly.

Tyler
vasco1610 wrote:
It's not cool to be cool. Watch out guys if you're out there trying to be cool by being cool, that's not cool. People will sense that your coolness is not cool because being cool is only cool when you are not cool.

This video just serves to confuse some people. My first philosophy teacher taught me this: "a rock is a rock" - that's the truth. When you start dissecting, and saying a rock is formed of minerals and atoms and the atoms are linked in this way... you're just getting further away from the truth. A rock is a rock.

Revelation... what Brad is saying on this video has been said many times before by many other people.
Cool is cool. Being cool is good.
But it's obvious that standing around doing nothing is going to accomplish nothing.

Tyler once said, stuff we put out on RSN nation front page are the most groundbreaking concepts we come up with. "It's for advanced guys". He probably also said that sometimes they mix it up and basically they say whatever the fuck they want to say at the time cause that's what they do. But this video made it seem that sometimes they release stuff just for the sake of it, to keep the page active or whatever.

Why do I care? Probably I'm living too much out of RSDn lately and I get angry if I don't get my fix! 
I think I'm gonna leave this for a good couple of months at least
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Thanks for the post Brad and Tyler for your comments ...you cleared things really up for me this time!

I basically had the issue when I go to places where I am the king and the girls just love me - which is kind of a circle thing where I am the cool guy... Than I change venue and be the same as before but it has a totally different effect...and nobody actually cares and I am ignored - nothing happens and I actually have to take action to make things happen. 
Its also the moment where I try to stay in my comfort zone the most and its initially the hardest moment to push over it. But this is only because I try to achieve the same level I had in the last venue even its not happening in the new one - and this actually fucked with my mind for a long time. NO MORE!
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SEAN PUA wrote:
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Haha, yeah dude, you just gotta go for it sometimes.  At the risk of looking like a lame ass, you'll totally be happier with yourself, even if it blows up if you take action.
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El_Diego wrote:
Dude, those fluctuations because of the ego of being successful is so ON POINT.

I finally just accepted it as a normal process of the game, like for every couple of weeks of pimping like a boss i have one or two which i suck (btw how much i suck has been decreasing over time) and when "i get over myself" and build enough motivation/drive/leverage on myself i start hitting shit up hard again and good things start to happen.

NYC seems very cool, i´d like to go there soon.

Thanks for the insight
Yeah, over time you see the plateaus coming and you know more quickly how to get out of them.  You smooth out the troughs...
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Mountaineer- wrote:
like it how you obviously unconsciously anchored leverage and negative emotions to not taking action. awesome!

i don't think that every plateau is caused by the "i'm successful with girls" ego, altough it is the reason in a high percentage of the cases i guess.

Yeah, I'd say earlier on in your development, it's definitely NOT the successful with girls ego, but once you get to an advanced level where you start to go on "runs," those are more often the ego type of sticking points, but yeah, there are always other reasons too...
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Portlandia wrote:
 I was actually wishing Brad would post more about pick up ego because he keeps alluding to it in other videos.  Open up RSD and there it is.  Brilliant!
Glad you enjoyed it.  :)
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fanny45 wrote:

Tyler wrote:
Nice!

Yeah I've had similar experience where I see a guy who looks super cool, initial impression is "Wow he's super cool" but then a few seconds later realize that it's irrelevant because nobody else gives a fuck and he isn't willing to put himself out there or talk to anyone.

Tyler


What do you mean nobody gives a fuck? Maybe he's enjoying his free time by himself;he is content. It's ironic because for me I'm into doing my own thing and not to Bragg but me being positive and happy just naturally sucks girls into my reality like a vacuum lol

;j

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What I was trying to say was that, yeah, it sucks girls into your reality.  But it's the girls I don't wanna be talking to.

I don't need another 7, and the 9s aren't gonna be coming up to you unless you're a celeb...
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Dude this is awesome! Exactly what I needed to hear right now
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Couldn't help being reminded of that old guy, Bad Bob, that Tyler once talked about many, many moons ago except, Bad Bob, if I can remember, was old and suave, BUT picking up younger left, right and centre.
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I had plateaus like this where I would still approach like crazy but I would fail horribly when it comes to run the train for the end game. It can come in many forms.

I remember seeing you a few times in field when you were just sitting there staring at the air LOL! While other instructors like Julien where macking hoes left and right.

I just assumed you were tired and wanted to chill, I did not know was any of this.
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 Bitches be crazy -> Aussies be crazy
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Holy shit! Brad can really chow down a salad!
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 I relate to this so much and understand what you are saying about loathing those cool guys because I also used to be one. Not only was I one but I still from time to time slip back into it. And when I do nothing good ever ever happens, I get frustrated and end up looking like a douche bag bar hoverer.

Also, what you said about cyclical periods of ego. I am currently going through this. I was in Romania about two weeks ago, and was killing it. I hooked up with one girl on Friday night, and had another one Sunday afternoon. After we met two hours later at four in the afternoon I had her back in my room. Then went to Bulgaria, hooked up again after a couple of days. So was feeling pretty good (even though I felt the girls I was getting were not really the caliber I wanted), but now I am in Turkey and have stopped approaching as much and slip back into this place of ego and saying "yea I'm the shit" and getting nothing done. Moral of the story, activity creates results. No matter how tight your game is if you don't go out and approach absolutely nothing is going to happen. PERIOD. 

Another point of frustration and sticking points:
I am way better looking than most of the girls I am hooking up with. But I have all of this reference experience of being rejected by the super hotties so I think I naturally gravitate to the sevens because my experience has shown I am less likely to be rejected. I hate this, time to step it up again and break through this sticking point. 
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This helps me realise why I sometimes find it so hard to approach; trying to preserve my 'image'.  It really is stupid and its what most people do in our society.
Thanks Brad
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Nice to meet you,an How are you
my name is Alicia i want to know you so please
i will like you to contact me true my email box so that i will
tell you more about me(aliciacole1988@yahoo.in) and sent you my lovely pictures you will love to see my dear
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#35

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 Wow that really hit home. Although Im taking a lot of action right now, you can always push more. 

Btw to tyler:  let this video see after guys finish bootcamp. Seriously after bootcamp you feel on top of the world all girls liking you and shit, and I stopped taking risks because I didnt want to damage that pimp image of myself.
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Great Article and the bounus:


1st Place Winner:: The Looking lke actor Judge Rynhold from Fast Times at Ridgmont High Contest
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not doing free tour or hot seat in Brisbane?
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 thanks for the share
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