Yo, what's up?
My current sticking point is getting aroused. I've had a couple times in my life where I was so turned on with a girl that shit was was easy. But now that I go out regularly, I don't get that arousal in the club. (It may be the second-hand smoke?)
I know that I don't have a testosterone problem cause I get ridiculously horny during random times in the day, but never when I want to at night. I'll be talking to a girl in the library and get a boner, but not while grinding with a girl at night. Also, when I get home after a night, I get horny thinking about the girls I was previously dancing with at the club.....
So I figure the best way to solve this is to keep escalating with a girl even if I don't feel it. Literally, just go through the motions until my body catches on.
So tonight, I was at this bar/ dance club. I've been going there every week about six weeks. I started talking to this hot redhead. I said, "I like your hair." She smiled. I said," My mom has red hair, thats probably why I like it." Then, I put my arm around her and just focused on trying to display my intent, even though I wasn't horny. I said stuff like, "Your so sexy, your an 11 out of 10, I'm so ridiculously horny right now, its insane." I did this while pulling on the seam of her pants stroking her side and lifting up her shirt. She just stood there and talked and made no attempt to stop anything.
Then, I psyched myself out and stopped talking to her and shortly after, left the club. So, now I know. I should keep escalating and try to turn myself on. Because right now as I'm typing this, I'm thinking about how hot she was and I'm getting horny thinking about her body. If only I had this mindset while I was with her.
So next time, when she just stands there. I'm gonna keep escalating and go further and further , with the purpose of making myself hornier.
Cause this is some BULLSHIT.
Until next time,
Hey, whats up.
I went to a club. Talked to some girls in line. Talked to a dude in line. Went in club. There were hot girls, many guys. The music was O.K. I talked to a chinese dude some. Then I went to the bar. I got some water. I talked to 3 chicks. I wanted to dance/grind. She laughed, said she had a boyfriend. All three girls said they had a boyfriend. I said I was a raging homesexual and have a boyfriend tool. I said I like to have five dicks in my butt at once. I went to the dance floor. I danced some. A hot girl passed in front of me. I said, "Hey girl, let's dance." She started grinding on me. It didn't last long. (I started strong, but then got too weak, rather than making out with her and grabbing her ass). I danced more. I saw a dude I recognized and talked to him some. I gave another dude I knew a high five Some other stuff happend but I don't remember. I talked to some other girls but it was too weak. They like sex, I guess, not talking. Then a fucking hotass redhead came up. I hesitated to approach. . Another dude approached and started groping her and making out with her. Then I left.
So, I lost my virginity. I am emotionally overwhelmed and feel fairly horrible and uncomfortable almost every day (and also relaxed). I almost passed out at work this morning due to lack of sleep and an extremely sore dick so I had to leave early as "sick". hahahahaha I'm doing everything I want to do. Losing my virginity was awesome. It was soo good. I ended up fucking her for over 1hr and 1/2 and again in the morning. I still don't know where I'm going from here. I guess I'll just keep doing what I'm doing. Ugghhhh. This is the shit.
O, and I didn't do anything fancy. I kinda knew her and she randomly texted me a few days ago. Like after months of not talking. And years of not talking before that. She said she wanted to hang out. I teased with her some and sent her a picture of my abs (she sent a picture of herself). I said I wanted her to come to my dorm to study. She said Ok. We met up at my dorm but I was so tired from training and lack of sleep that we just messed around for a couple hours before she left. Then, a couple days later I went to her dorm to hang out and fucked her and slept over. Damn.
There was some shit that I easily went through by remembering RSD stuff and applying it haha. Like, "Why are you a virgin?", "I haven't got around to it yet." And "You just want to to lose it with me because I'm easy." "No, because I feel a connection with you." Etc. And also, never mentioning sex, but just "to study" or "to hang out". It smoothed things over alot.
Also, I changed my approach to the game for now since my last posts from "approaching" to "just trying to be normal and do what a normal person would do". This mindset works for me for now, because I'm in a college and am lacking basic social skills. So, I'm still pushing my comfort zone, but not by going out and approahcing all the time, but basic things that I kinda skipped over in my childhood. I still approach (wherever I am) and go out but it is natural and very casual, not clawing girls at clubs. But more like having fun, and indirect openers. I'm also heavily focusing on working on my personality, being more outgoing, happy, singing and dancing in public or work for self-amusement, being a positive guy no matter how fucking tired I am, and importantly, BEING MY SELF . I'm doing this because I'm young, I'm in college, I lack basic social skills and honestly can't handle advanced stuff yet, and I'm setting my life up so that in a couple years, I will be able to live in a big city and really get into the fucking grind of game.
P.S. Right now, I feel kinda weird about posting this but I feel I owe it to you guys and RSD for helping out
So I went on a day 2 with the Japanese girl from the last post... kinda. We were gonna go to a karaoke night at a gay (nonjudgemental?) bar. It took me a while to find her to pick her up but we went to the bar. Then it turns out she forgot her ID and we couldn't get in so we just called it a night cause it was getting late.
Everything went fine. I hugged her and stuff when I first saw her and was just joking around and vibing. I feel like I'm still giving less fucks and stuff. Kinda sucks she forgot her ID cause the karaoke bar looked fun... I wanted to rip out some Queen songs. She said she'd do it next week and this time, won't forget her ID. Anyways, this was my first legit day 2 (with just another girl) and I've never been to a karaoke bar or been out with Japanese girl, so alot of firsts here. hahaha
So, I went on my first day two with a girl I met a couple weeks ago. We'd being texting back and forth some and I invited her to go to a club. She ended up inviting me to go out to a karoake night at a gay bar with four of her girl friends. So, I went cause I've never done this before (go out with just five other girls). I rode to her place and met her and her cute friend. (2 7's I guess). I set the vibe right by just talking some and joking some and making it fun. Then we picked up her three other friends and things went fine (2 cute chubby chicks and a Japanes girl who ended up being very cute with her glasses off). Everyone was talking and laughing and having a good time. Then we drove to the club. It ended up not being karaoke night, but drag queen night at the gay bar. So we went in the club and people were waiting around... I'll finish this tomorrow.
Alright, now it's tomorrow. So we're waiting around in the club on the dance floor, people are waiting around cause apparently a show is about to start. I dance some and talk and just set a fun vibe. I'm joking and showing them some pictures on my phone and stuff (This might sound like an obvious normal thing to do but I suck... so I'm putting it in). Then the show starts and it ends up being drag queen night at the gay bar, which was unexpected to me. I watch the show and tip one of them $1. One of them was going around groping people and slapping girls titties during her/his show. It was hilarious. Then they left and the music came on and it turned into a dance club. So were dancing but the club wasn't very crowded so I got a little stifled. To try to unstifle myself I had a girl take a picture of me with a drag queen. The drag queen kissed me on the cheek and left lipstick on me. Then it was back to dancing in a circle of girls. I kept fighting getting stiffled. I tried putting my arm around the girl who invited me to dance with her twice, but she smiled and didn't want to (she has a boyfriend in another city). I tried to do the same to her friend but she smiled and didn't want to either. I think this is because I wasn't in enough state while trying to do it, so it wasn't just a casual, funny thing if she danced with me. I was vibing with the Japanese girl the best by talking about Japanese music videos and trying to do their dances with her. I started getting stifled, just kinda dancing in a group. Then I thought, " You know what, fuck it. There's no one to really approach here, your in a group full of girls, you don't give a fuck about what they think of you, your here, dancing. What at this moment, is lacking." ( That's a Zen line). So then I just started having fun by myself dancing and literally rose my state by just dancing and having fun. Which in turn led to them having more fun. And I just did my thing and didn't give a fuck. Around 1:30, the girl who invited me wanted to leave and the other girls didn't know why. (She was texting alot the last 1/2 hour we were there). As we were leaving, I put my arm around the asian girl and hugged her and she took a picure of us. ( I did the stereotypical Japanese peace sign thing). We were talking and vibing and I got her number and she put mine in her phone. On the drive back, I just felt chill and was joking around. The girl who invited me wasn't talking much, at all. We dropped off the 2 cute chubby chicks and Japanese girl cause they wanted to eat. Then they dropped me off by my ride and I went home.
Alright, so this is the first time I've ever done something like this. It went well. I set the vibe right meeting everyone and while we first got in the club. I got stifled on the dance floor, but literally forced myself out and back into state by realizing it doesn't fucking matter and just enjoying myself. Or by going to find something fun/funny to do. This was probably the first time in my life I felt totally comfortable and was just vibing and joking around with a group of girls. I'm giving less of a fuck. And I got the Japanese girls numbers and am going to set up a day 2 with her later.
Haha,unlucky number. Actually today wasn't bad. I went out to go to a bar/ club and actually met a couple friends on the street. We talked some and they asked if I wanted to join them and I did. We were joking around and decided to try out this club that had salsa music blasting and all these hot latino girls were going in. We ended up waiting in line for a long ass time cause we didn't have tickets, and they were being dicks about letting us in. But we talked to alot of people in line. Then we decided to go to the bar/club I originally intended on going to. We went in and literally within five minutes one of my friends got kicked out for trying to order a drink. Me and the other friend decided to stay and things were starting off well. I approached a cute girl on the dance floor who was with a group, but vibing with us a little. We started grinding and she seemed in to it. She was grabbing my leg and squeazing it and stuff. I turned her around and hugged her some and was talking and she was smiling. Then I said, "Come here girl" in a miscalibrated way in order to dance with her some more, and that turned her off. Then I tried to get her to dance with my friend and she did some, but didn't want to anymore and brought over one of her other friends to dance with my friends. My friend (D-Man) was drunk and we danced together some and he danced with a few fat chicks cause it was funny. I approached a cute indian girl and talked some and put my arm around her waist and shoulder. It was going well but then her boyfriend came up and hugged her from behind and she the expression of, "yeah, I have a boyfriend/date here." I danced and did some more approaches but they didn't go over well. One approach I made I clawed a girl walking by and she stopped stepped back, and looked at me smiling. Then she frowned and walked off. Some other approaches I didn't get much past saying, " What's your name?" or "Do you want to dance." I did a couple claws and a couple two-sets where I opened and put my arm around her waist. Another approach on the dance floor was going fine but I didn't have high enough energy and the girl was all into dancing by herself. She ended up getting successfully opened by another guy a few seconds later who was dancing and having more fun. I talked to some dudes, one I recognized from last time was there. I danced with and talked to him some. Some guy gave me a high-five after he saw me approach a girl. I was actually vibing with him some when he pointed to an attractive girl dancing next to me and shrugged. I opened her (she was in a group of two guys and girls grinding eachother) by putting my arm around her waist and we started grinding but she didn't seem that into it. I tried to turn her around and lead her to another part of the bar to talk but this just weirded her out and she joined back with her group. I made a couple more approaches and danced some more and then called it a night.
I opened about 8 sets this night. A positive was that the first girl was actually going really well, but I was just miscalibrated. Also, with the girl I was grinding with who didn't seem that into it, I wan't sure what to do. Maybe just keep grinding or try to escalate while grinding. I just tried to isolate cause I've never done that before. With the other sets, most opened well but then quickly dropped off. I didn't feel in state like I did last Sunday. I'm getting more comfortable dancing by myself between sets and having fun. Also, I'm starting to give less of a fuck.
I actually had a fun night. I went to a foam party at a nightclub with my roomate. It was sick, the line was very long to get in and we got there early. It took like a fucking hour or something. I talked to a few people in line. We got in and went to the foam dance floor. (There was another dry dancefloor outside the foam one with better music.) The place was packed and getting more packed by the minute. Me and my roomate split up and I choded around for the first hour, just dancing by myself and literally choking under the foam machine pouring shit all over everyone. I didn't make any approaches. Then I got thirsty and went to the bar to get water. I found my roomate there. I drank the water then went back to the dance floor. I decided to try the claw. I did it and the girl smiled but said she had to keep going. I danced some and tried the claw again. I don't remember what happened but it wasn't good. Then again and it was not good. Then my roomate and I went to the "outside the foam room" dry dance floor with better music. My roomate prefered it there and was grinding with a chick. Then I tried a claw where I just put my arm around the girls waste. I did this to a cute girl and it worked and we started grinding. I asked what her name was and told her my name. Then I turned her around with her hand in the air and started making out with for about a minute or two. Then we started grinding again. Then she said she had to leave and left. Then I tried the claw a couple more times. One hot blonde girl looked at me, and said, " No". And danced away. WTF? Then I saw a girl sitting down alone on the side of the dance floor. I did the "Hand of God" for the first time and she took my hand but didn't want to stand up so I sat down and put my arm around her. I started talking asking her about why was she sitting down and shit and I asked if she wanted to dance and she said no (while smiling). So I just kept talking and put my hand around her shoulders or waist and said some shit about how I was a sexy astronaut and was moving to Nebraska tomorrow. I also straight up told her she was beautiful and too beautiful to be sitting alone or something. She was just laughing and messing around. Her friends came and she had to leave so she got up. I got up and put my arms around her shoulder and pulled her in and asked for her number. I got it and she said, "Text me." Then I may have done a claw again ( I tried it a total of 5 or 6 times) and then I danced crazy with my roomate to the really good music (Fucking Kanye West's Mercy and some other really good remixes) . Then I did my last approach of the day around 1:40p.m. and it was the best. I saw a cute redhead dancing with her brunette friend. Some guy approaced and started dancing with the brunette friend so I took the redhead. I grabbed her waste and said, "Let's dance." She started grinding on me. Then I said, " No, I didn't mean this type of dancing I meant like this." And I turned her around and she started frontal grinding me. Then I laughed and said, "No, like this." And I backed up and we started dancing just in front of eachother. Then I said, "Haha, I'm kidding. Come here girl, let's do this the real way, let's start from the beginning." And turned her around again and started really booty dancing with her. Then I turned her around and held her around the waste and said, " Let's make out." She laughed and seemed like she wanted to but she said, " I have a boyfriend." (I think he was in the club, I'm not sure.) The other dude fucked up I guess and the brunette didn't want to dance so the redhead chick left me and danced with her friend. Then my roomate wanted to leave and the club was about to close so we headed out.
So, I learned I can do some shit when I'm in state. I've never done a makeout like that before and it really put me in a good mood. I've never really used the claw before and I've never tried the "Hand of God". So I'm glad I tried the claw alot. Also, the hand around the waste worked better for me than the claw (below the elbow). Although, the claw did open really well at first and every girl stopped, kinda stepped back, and look up at me. Also, now that I think of it, I've never gotten a number from a hot girl in a club before. So tonight was a good night.
Finally, when I said, " Come here girl" I think of Julien and his tone and it really works well while talking.
I wrote two sob stories and then deleted them. Bottom line: I'M BEING A PUSSY. Now, I must sleep.
I went to the club around 11. My goal was to make five approaches and so I did it. I approached a girl in the street. Her shoe was untied. I told her and said she's gonna fall as a joke and she laughed. I talked to the cashier lady in front of the club and made a stupid joke and she laughed. I went in the club, then talked to two girls standing near the wall. I talked to them some for a couple minutes. Then I said i was gonna get a drink ( I got water) and went to the bar. I talked to two girls at the bar. And some other girls afterwards. I don't remember these sets cause they didn't go well and I got little-to-no reaction. I talked to one last girl who turned out to be in a group of people but she just had her back turned. Again, little-to-no reaction. Then I left the club.
My goal today was to approach five sets and I did. So I won for today. With my first set that was going well, I could/should have stayed in it longer and then I would have at least had people to go talk to between sets or dance with them or something. The other sets started kinda OK, but died down very quickly. My open was soft and then it just died down. My last set was just shitty. I didn't talk to any guys. The music was loud by the time I got in, and I didn't project my voice enough to cut through. Also, I'm not sure if I had my fake-ass smile up. Therefore, I need to keep going out and approaching.
Went to club. Talked to a few girls in line. Got extremely stiffled in club. Approached once. Nothing happened. Got more stifled and stood around for about 1/2 an hour. Left club.