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I've started to notice a bit of natural confidence in myself when I'm out. When I think about what I'm doing, I'll generally just stand there and over analyze absolute bullshit, but if I just let myself run on auto pilot and have fun I'll meet girls and pull numbers. But I noticed that when I'm talking to a really attractive girl, like a 9 or a 10 from my view, I'll be doing fine and then I start acting like a clingy again. Not in the sense of how bad I used to be, but still enough to lose any ground I might have gained with them. It's not even a conscience act, but on a subconscious level I clearly don't believe that I have the ability to be successful with that attractive of a girl. I'm just stoked I noticed it, because now I know what to be wary of when I'm out in the field.

Well that's all I've got for now, peace out RSD,

-Blanco
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I've started to notice a bit of natural confidence in myself when I'm out. When I think about what I'm doing, I'll generally just stand there and over analyze absolute bullshit, but if I just let myself run on auto pilot and have fun I'll meet girls and pull numbers. But I noticed that when I'm talking to a really attractive girl, like a 9 or a 10 from my view, I'll be doing fine and then I start acting like a clingy again. Not in the sense of how bad I used to be, but still enough to lose any ground I might have gained with them. It's not even a conscience act, but on a subconscious level I clearly don't believe that I have the ability to be successful with that attractive of a girl. I'm just stoked I noticed it, because now I know what to be wary of when I'm out in the field.

Well that's all I've got for now, peace out RSD,

-Blanco
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December was really the first month where I saw some progress. I didn't notice it at the time but looking back upon it, I approached more girls, got more numbers and went out with more girls than I can ever remember doing so previously. I still get approach anxiety but I try my best to just ignore it until it goes away and then I seem to be on point. I still have a lot of what you rsd folks would call newbie tendencies and I still get attached to girls for no good reason, very easily. But at the same time it's not nearly as bad as it used to be, and believe me when I say it used to be very bad. One thing I'm starting to get better at is picking up on when girls are actually into me and not letting it have an effect on my additude or personality.

I just need to keep going out and talking to girls and I'm sure I'll be where I want to be in no time. This is my year for growth in all aspects of my life especially in relationships with all people.

Happy new years and much love RSD, I'm sure I'll have some questions pretty soon, so keep reading.
-Blanco
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I feel like the way I've been writing on this website makes it seem as if I'm only looking for a relationship. But that's not exactally true. While I would have no problem being in a relationship that is not what my goal is at this point. Like I've said before, I'm a very inexperienced guy and never been in a relationship. However, my goal is not a relationship at this point in my life. I graduate college next fall and I'll be leaving for either St. Petersburg, Moscow, or Prauge about a month after that to teach English. What I truely desire is to get this whole lack of confidence in my ability to talk to women taken care of before then. I figure as long as I put in work, I'll get it taken care of.
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So I've now gone out with this one girl a couple times, and I had one from a class invite me to go with her and a couple friends to Vegas today. These are small events, but I know as long as I keep working hard I'll get where I want to be. I occasionally notice the desire I have to revert back to older behaviors (super clingy / not confident). But the fact that I even notice them now is a big step for me. When I'm with a girl, I can generally maintain a presence mind and just go with the flow. But it's when I'm not with one that I notice myself kind of daydreaming about where these VERY introductory relationships will go. I'll generally snap myself out of it pretty quick though. It's nice that I'm beginning to see progress but progress is slow. Because progress is slow I just need to have patience with myself and know that I will make mistakes, and not to stress myself out over those mistakes. I figure as long as I keep talking to girls and keep pushing the envelope I'll be balling hard in no time.
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I haven't been going out to bars so much lately, so I've been mainly approaching girls during the day. I'm pushing myself to talk to more and the more I talk to the easier it gets for me. But the problem I'm having right now is that I'm having trouble getting more than just a quick blow off. I've noticed that when I know where I'm trying to lead the conversation, I'll get there even though I'll stumble or trip over my words. But in trying to just get myself used to talking to girls in a calm fashionable manner, when approaching a random quickly without much forethought I'll sound like a bumbling fool and they'll stare at me like "what is this guy talking about?" Would it be a good idea to have not set routines or lines (I don't like routines), but rather to have certain endpoints to keep in mind as a place to lead the conversation? If so what would be some good examples of that?
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I was in the library today studying for an exam, and a cute girl sat down a few desks from me. At first I didn't think anything of it, but about an hour in I realized that I should go talk to her. I put it off for about another hour before I finally just couldn't study anymore, I was too busy talking shit to myself because I hadn't already made my way over there.

I went over as boldly/calmly as possible asked if she still had a lot of studying to do? And it was too late she'd just finished up, I realized this before she even said anything. But I continued to ask her if she wanted to grab a coffee anyways and she seemed to be regretful that she couldn't (Her ride was waiting for her outside). I went back to my seat and packed my stuff up to go get a cup of coffee and we ended up walking out of the library at the same time. Had a little bit of a conversation as we walked down the stairs and it was going well, but I didn't push for a number or anything, and proceeded to walk into a locked door as we were exiting the building. She was telling the truth about her ride, which I was kind of shocked about.

I don't have the best game in the world because I've never really put myself out there. I'm 21 years old and I've never had a relationship. I'm over it and putting my best foot forward. This story may seem like nothing to some of you people, but it was a big step for me. I figure as long as I keep talking to girls and working on being a better person, I'll get it down.

- Blanco
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