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16 MARCH
8 approaches
1 close
7 blowouts for various reasons
Some particular reasons:
- Approaching without conviction
- The approach lacked enthusiasm and belief
- Mumbled at beginning without getting to point and when you did get to point, you had already killed the vibe
POINTERS FOR 17 MARCH
- Practice solo- Experiment with approaching
- Get attention and get to the compliment
- Talk slowly and give strong eye contact
- Remember all the successful sets

17 MARCH - SOLO
2 approaches
2 positive responses
1 instant date followed by number close
POINTERS FOR 18 MARCH
- Continue same as 17 March

18 MARCH4 approaches1 closeClosed a model todaySome flaws- 2nd approach was crap. Didn't go in with enough conviction. Chased her. 
- The conversation was very flat. There was no chunking when asking questions. 
- If you ask a question, go into depth. If you ask her about her job, ask her what she likes about it, what would she do if she had a choice etc.

19 MARCH DAY & NIGHT
5 approaches 
0 closes
SUMMARY
- Opened well with conviction- Quickly got to point.
- conversation was in depth rather than flat
POINTERS FOR NEXT TIME
- Continue to approach with conviction and get to point
- Go into depth of a topic, to show you're listening, chunk up and down
- Cold read her
- Talking from stomach up
- Slow speech 
- Triangle gaze
THINGS THAT REQUIRE READING
- Attraction game
- Being more playful and fun
- Teasing
- Push pull
- Qualification

22 MARCH
2 approaches
1 weak email close
Pointers
- Next time push for instant make out when she leaves

22 MARCH SOLO
3 approaches
1 instant date and close
- Spoke slowly and got to point when approaching
- Learn to keep eye contact
- Keep her gagging for what you're gonna tell by pausing
POINTERS FOR INSTANT DATES
- Ask about boyfriends and relationships
- What type of guys they like?
- What made her decide to have tea with me?
- Basically, make her qualify herself- Give her tasks, like, tell her find a seat, tell her to hold your jacket, tell her to take the drinks to the table etc. 
- Only pay for her, if you feel there is a good vibe.
OTHER POINTS- Create stories for different aspects of your personality

23 MARCH (SOLO)
1 approach
1 blow out
Notes
- horrible weather 
- no sets to approach
- was extremely tired and low on energy
Reason for blowout
- stuttered on approach (tired)
- used the word random 3 times
- spoke to fast and she couldn't undrstand
- not any coviction or meaning behind approach 
- also you lacked eye contact
- conversation was flat
POINTERS FOR 24 MARCH
- Continue as you were a few days ago
- If there are not any sets then drop standards to avoid being monged out and to keep state high
24 MARCH (SOLO)
10 approaches
1 number close
WHY SUCH A LOW RETURN?
- Not getting to point on open
- Come across like salesman
- Didn't speak Slowly and hold eye contact
- Wasn't dominant enough with approach
-  You just come across nervous in set. It puts her at unease.

26 MARCH (SOLO)
6 approaches
4 stopped
1 number close
ANALYSIS
- Opened very calmly
- Sometimes too much of a salesman vibe
- Spoke. Slowly and clearly
- Didn't triangle gaze
- Opened and got to point

29 MARCH (THOUGHT)
All those girls that you've approached directly and have responded positively by exchanging numbers or instant dating you, come on man they're into you. So show intent and escalate man!
NOTES SO FAR
- Get attention- Get to point with compliment
- Talk slowly
- Give eye contact and triangle gaze
- Make sure conversation isn't flat
THINGS TO EXPERIMENT
- Rapport - Try match their tonality, keywords, and body language
Example, come across like fast talking city boy yo career girls

30 MARCH (SOLO)
1 approach 
1 no close but random date and later close

31 MARCH
The reality post by Alexander from RSD explains why really hot girls flake me or ditch me.

6 APRIL Every girl has some kind of fantasy figure she desires on a subconscious level. It could be anything from a father, celebrity, teacher etc.6 approaches0 closes
WHY 0 CLOSES?
- 4 were solid sets but had boyfriends
- 1 just no interest from girl
- 1 was weakly approached with lack of interest from girl but flopped because of weak conversation 
POSITIVES
- Controlling of frame and leading of conversation 
- Good use of humour
- Bantering 
- Good use of world knowledge
- Not afraid to push limit
- Good use of pacing and anchoring in set
POINTERS FOR TOMORROW
- Approach 10 sets
- Approach with conviction
- Get to point
- Talk slowly and congruently
- Keep eye contact and use rapport techniques 
- Cold read
- Don't ask where is your accent from instead guess

8 APRIL
6 Approaches
0 closes
2 boyfriend interferences
2 lame English girls
1 married
1 long interaction but bf
POINTERS FOR NEXT TIME
Spend time solo
Widen standards
Get to point
Talk slowly Use eye contact and triangle gaze
2 SET American girls
One cold the other friendly
Great with comedy and being funny
Next time
Switch from comedy to serious obviously congruent to your topic
Ask them now they know each other or other ways dividing from cock block

9 APRIL
7 approaches1 email closeEnglish girls can be rudeThe only thing that needed change was the lack of conviction you were approaching withPOINTERS 
Approach with conviction
Complement specifically
Hold eye contact and triangle gaze
Walk away if they don't stop

12 APRIL 7 approaches 1 email close1 blowoutPOINTERS - talked a lot in set- REALLY GOT EXCITED IN SET WITH INDIAN HOTTIE
- Nice answer to Russian when she said I don't speak English 'neither do i'
- Needed to go in with enough conviction when approaching
- think of a pre frame
- Talk slowly
- Use the rapport sub comms
- Eliminate the where are you from
2 NEW THINGS
- Start to touch them in set
- Talk slower and pause and just stare
- invade their personal space

13 APRIL3 approaches
1 instant date and number close
All sets lasted longer than 10 minutes

15 APRIL3 approaches
1 number- All opened stopped and hooked
-Spoke slowly and confidently
- Deep eye contact
18 APRIL
5 Approaches
1 Close
Wasn't in the best mood today but still opened, I was angry because of my lack of follow up results recently, especially after some solid instant dates
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