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First night out after a year out in game.
After going regularly for three years and going from being to scared and insecure to talk to women to going out and getting blown out for about a year to pulling some really hot chicks. I stopped going out due to illness (probably due to going out so much and lack of sleep).
Getting motivated to go back out regularly has been hard, before the motivation to do this was easy as I wanted this so bad. Now the motivation isn't as strong.

First night out it took a while for to get the first approach done. The first approach was a cute women walking along, I stopped her told her she was cute got really physical she was smiling and seemed to like me. It was a loud club so couldn't really talk to much so was only a short interaction. Next few women I talked to went pretty much the same and got blown out by a hot chick at the end.

Need to start approaching more, just making throw away comments as I walk around the club.
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#1

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Second night out.
Still taking me too long to do my first approach.
Did six short approaches tonight, none of them really led any where.
Points for future nights.
Talk to the first set of women of the night, starting from leaving the car.
Approach the hot sets early, don't use the excuse of I will approach them later when I am in state. This never happens.
Don't try and force state.
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How long was your break? 
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Third night out after just over a year out of game.
Drove nearly 150 miles to go and meet up with two wings who I used to go out with when I was living in Manchester. Two really great guys, who I actually see as friends rather than wings. I knew these guys would help me out and be honest with me plus I new I would have fun with them. They had recruited another two guys who were also awesome and really good fun. When I met up with them as we always do we give each other a big hug, which is awesome for getting the positive emotions going.
1. Ran up to a woman who I later discovered was on the phone and properly freaked her out. Only one solution go and get the next one ASAP.
2. Really hot 19 year old with her friend, walked up to her as she was walking towards me and picked her up. Got a bit to physical too quickly so loosened up and moved in harder again later although she was smiling she was leaning back so let her go and went back in again and got a kiss on the lips. Tried for the make out but couldn't get it.
3. Older group of women I talked to as there wasn't many sets to talk to, talked for about 15 mins.
4. Tried to stop two women walking down the street and got too physical too quickly and her friend freaked out and started pushing me and calling me a weirdo. This really didn't affect me which was a super positive.
5. Talked to a women in the q for the bar (water only) after a few minutes her boyfriend stormed in. Befriended him but then lost the woman as she moved on in the q.
6. Talked to one woman in a group of men and women and here friends separated us and tried to talk to them and befriend them but they were too defensive and she was quite shy.
7. Talked to an older larger woman on her hen doo. Nice sometimes to just chat to women you have no outcome to and can just chat and be friendly.
8. Talked to two women who looked like they were going to be bitchy, but they opened up strait away and were really friendly. 2 points from this set. 1/ You can never ever predict what is going to happen before going in. 2/ Should of burned this set to the ground, was too friendly with them and let them leave with a whimper.
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4th night out.

Got my first approach done quicker today, none of the sets lasted long.
Need to start to plough more.
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5th night out.

Struggled to get the first approach in tonight despite feeling really good on entering the venue, especially after only one hour sleep from previous night.
The interactions are becoming longer and I am getting more relaxed in set, quiet happy with the progress tonight.
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Sixth night out.

Started out as a tough night, took a long time to start to feel comfortable in the bars and clubs. Had to really dig deep and do some tough sets. Starting to enjoy the process of going out again.
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Seventh and eighth night out.

Missed Thursday night as I went out for a meal with work friends, which also has fucked my diet up as I have just eaten pizza and chips. This annoys me as I really don't mind eating healthy food but I am constantly being offered junk food and people just don't get it when I tell them that I don't like eating shit. The pizza and chips was my own fault though as my mind now thinks well I eat junk food yesterday so might aswell have some more today and start my diet again tomorrow.

Any way last night was a toughie but was good fun, took me a while to talk to the first woman but after that started talking to women regularly just the interaction were not lasting too long need to start ploughing through more. This was what I was really good at before the break.

Tonight got my first kiss close and a number close and nearly got a second kiss close. The Kiss close was a nineteen yearold hottie. I decided tonight to focus on thee goals only.

1. Open the first woman or women I see. Opened the second.
2. Run through the club pretending to be a cow. Not very impressive but did it, had massive fear of being chucked out by the bouncers
3. Approach unattractive women. These woman have always intimidated me more than the hotties. I think it is an EGO thing not wanting to get blown out by a fatty. Got two fatties in.
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Going to start a daily blog on here of the actions I take each day for the next three months. This is hopefully going to provide me with accountability.
Goal 1. Go out three times a week and approach at least five women per night, spending one night a week doing challenges. Realising that I have to delay gratification to get what I want.
Goal 2. Eat only healthy food, consisting of Nuts, seeds, fruit, veg, Quinoa, berries, whey protein, porridge 85% chocolate (100g max per week), water and green tea. This can only be broken when out for meals with friends or eating round peoples houses.
Goal 3. Go to the gym or for a run at least five times a week.
Goal 4. Morning routine every morning, this will consist of Meditation, reading or listening to positive material and exercise when possible.
Goal 5. No masturbation for 3 months.

The results I hope to achieve from this is to fuck 3 hot chicks, run 10K in 45 mins and do 50 press ups. There will unfortunately be a short break at the beginning of October when I am going on a meditation retreat.

This started on the 1st August but has started to slip. Only went out twice this week due to going out with work colleagues Thursday night for a meal. Hoping to go out four times this week to make up for this. Diet has slipped due to the meal a fry up last Sunday because some friends came to visit me, which has lead me to eating more junk food i.e. cakes and chocolate. Haven't been to the gym this week due to hamstring injury although could of gone and done weights, which also was a factor in the diet going astray. The other two goals are still going strong.
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Monday 19th August

Had about 3.5 hours sleep last night not really felt tired today. Realised I need to be louder and more energetic on my approaches today. Noticed how what you focus your attention on can really determine your state today. After a good night out on Saturday I was really looking forward to going out again later this week, then all of a sudden I started feeling fear to going out as I noticed that I was no longer focusing on pulling women and having fun but instead started to focus on going out alone and walking round the club like a loser. I immediately started to focus my thoughts on going out having fun and hot women and started to look forward to going out again. Noticed this in the club on Friday as well.

So the goals, goals 2, 4 and 5 are going good. Managed to eat only healthy food (although did have a cup of normal tea at a job interview today). Did morning ritual and no masturbation.
Did not go for a run today partly because I didn't have time (had a two hour job interview after work and want to get at least 4 hours sleep tonight to get up and go to the gym in the morning) and partly because of a recovering hamstring injury.
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Tuesday 20th August

Woke up late this morning and didn't make the gym so I had to go after work when it is packed and you can't get on certain kit. Managed to get my work out in and eat to my diet today (turned down a choc muffin at work). Had a little rest tonight and watched TV for about 1.5 hours as tomorrow, Thursday, Friday will be pretty much sleep (4hrs max each day) work, PU and gym oh and food. Still at this moment I am looking forward to it. So the plan for tomorrow is get up at 2 eat porridge, sunflower, pumpkin, flax, chia seed and protein shake, do morning routine, get to gym for about 4 leave at 5.30 eat a quinoa, berry, spinach, nuts salad with protein shake. Shower go to work get home from work at about 5 go to sleep wake up at 10 do morning routine, eat breakfast as above, shower leave at 12 arrive at club for about 12.30 and leaving time will depend on how busy it is (probably about 2, 3 if it is busy). Get home and rest/ sleep depending on how tired I feel, meditate, eat, leave for work at 6. Wash rinse and repeat for Thursday.
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Wednesday 21st

Just a quick write up today. So I can get some sleep.
Went out tonight, got another make out tonight. Hot teen.
Got to approach more and I blew myself out of set twice tonight when it was going well.
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Thursday 22nd

Planned to go out tonight but slept through my alarm. Feeling really pissed off at the moment.
Just got up at 1:00 and went to the gym. All the other goals are going well, been really strict with my diet, doing morning routine and been to the gym 3 times this week.
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Friday 23rd

A tough night tonight, had a drink poured over me and shoulder barged by a woman.
But got through the night and am happy that I did the approaches and kept going.
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Saturday 24th

Got up this morning had breakfast, did morning routine, went out for a jog and then went and did some day game. First approach took a long while to get in and the outcome wasn't the best, my mind just went blank after the opener. 2nd approach she walked of without even talking to me. 3rd approach she talked to me for a couple of minutes and got physical with here, but she was married. 4th approach tried for an instant date but had to settle for the number. I have text her already as she is going to venise for two weeks.
Went out for the night was late getting out as didn't get back from day gaming until late first club went to they had a band on so I moved onto the next club. 1st approach opened she was receptive but I left too early. 2nd approach was Lithuanian and she couldn't understand me. 3rd approach ignored me, 4th approach talked to her for a while then her boyfriend came, joked with him for a while. 5th approach was talkative and I got physical but I let her leave too soon.

Positives. 1. Went out day game and night game. 2. Starting to get comfortable in set. 3. Went out and managed to forget all about the bad night last night. 4. Sets lasting longer. 5. Taking action when massively under slept.

Take aways. Need to approach more, next Saturday need to go to a club and approach every girl. Plough through more.
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Saturday 24th

Got up this morning had breakfast, did morning routine, went out for a jog and then went and did some day game. First approach took a long while to get in and the outcome wasn't the best, my mind just went blank after the opener. 2nd approach she walked of without even talking to me. 3rd approach she talked to me for a couple of minutes and got physical with here, but she was married. 4th approach tried for an instant date but had to settle for the number. I have text her already as she is going to venise for two weeks.
Went out for the night was late getting out as didn't get back from day gaming until late first club went to they had a band on so I moved onto the next club. 1st approach opened she was receptive but I left too early. 2nd approach was Lithuanian and she couldn't understand me. 3rd approach ignored me, 4th approach talked to her for a while then her boyfriend came, joked with him for a while. 5th approach was talkative and I got physical but I let her leave too soon.

Positives. 1. Went out day game and night game. 2. Starting to get comfortable in set. 3. Went out and managed to forget all about the bad night last night. 4. Sets lasting longer. 5. Taking action when massively under slept.

Take aways. Need to approach more, next Saturday need to go to a club and approach every girl. Plough through more.
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Sunday 25th

Had a nice easy day today, did my morning routine and then just chilled watched a few films and read a book. Was considering going out tonight but decided against it.
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Monday 26th

Did morning routine and a few other choirs today, but mainly took it easy.
Still on track for all my goals, although only went to the gym 4 times last week and probably will this week due to a hamstring injury. So only doing weights.
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#18

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Thursday,

Not posted last couple of days due to being to busy, so just got back from the club.
Found tonight easier to do approaches, but I am still leaving sets to early, getting friends pulling women out of sets a lot. Need to be more persistent. Went out Wednesday night and was the same story, nearly pulled a really cute woman but as I was dragging her away one of her friends pulled her back and I lost her. I tried to find her later on but couldn't.
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 Hey dude, respect for getting back into game after a year. I only just got back into game myself after dating for 6 months. Can't help but feel a bit lost. This is the second week I have been out. Any chance your in London?
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#20

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Sunday 1st September.

Went out Friday night and started to see some good progress, started to get my mouth moving better without filtering my words and started to see the attraction build. I think I could of pulled towards the end of the night nut she wasn't that hot. I ended up leaving her to try and find a hotter woman but I didn't even end up approaching again. I have been trying to work out what my motivation was for leaving her, whether it was to find a hotter woman or because I was scared to lose her. I ended up going home and having a wank at the end of the night. Trying not to do something for three months is fucking difficult as it only takes a few minutes of unconsciousness or whatever you want to call it and you can fuck up weeks of work. Not that overly disappointed with myself though, as my diet is going well, although I did eat a small piece of pork pie on Friday. Oh my life is going to end.

I went out day gaming Saturday with some guys I met last week. I still feel a little shitty after it as I feel we are not on the same wave length, as one of them walks around with us giving advice but never approaches as "he has a girlfriend" and the other just walks around saying "hi" to everybody to "keep his state up" but then never actually commits himself to actually talking to women, unless they stop and talk to him. Anyway I know I shouldn't about other people and concentrate on my own actions, but 1) it feels better to actually write these things down and share my feelings and 2) How do you know what advice to take and what to ignore, I suppose that the only test is to try it and dismiss what doesn't work and keep what does. Any way the advice I got from the guy with a girlfriend is don't go in too high energy as sometimes my interactions fizzle out after about a minute and I can sort of see where he's coming from but I tried going in lower energy and had trouble stopping sets. I guess I just need to keep trying and using this as positive feedback and recalibrate each time, while still going in high energy sometimes and being aware of losing the energy. Right now this feed back I can see as helpful and it has really helped for me to write this down, its amazing how just writing your concerns down can do for you. Now the other guy was giving me feedback such as you look "like a beggar and unconfident when approaching and pointed out that on one set which I re-approached I was gesturing with my hands that I was begging for them to stop. Which was true and I can now spot that, but he was saying in a way that was quite negative and I was getting all butt hurt like a when I was getting this feedback, as he was saying I didn't look confident, which was true. God that has really helped me getting all that stuff down on LCD paper. I also realised that I was approaching women with the attitude of if this goes bad my whole life will be affected bullshit.

One last point was that I didn't go out Saturday night and was a bit butt hurt about that as the motivation is starting to slowly wear. Just need to conscious of this, but have still been out three nights and one day this week so far.

This too will pass.
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Sunday 1st

Went out and did some day game today again. I think I wanted to get rid of the feelings of rejection from yesterday and also get back on the bike so to speak.
It took a while to get the first set done, but you can't use the approach all method in day game.
I managed to approach 4 sets one mother and daughter set which
I usually avoid. Approached one cute 18 year old but freaked out when she got embarrassed and my mind went blank. It got really awkward and I left I know I should of kept in their but in the moment you just loose all composer.
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Wednesday 5th

Got home from work today went strait to bed got up at ten ready to go out tonight. I have ended up procrasanating and not gone out tonight as its too late. The reasons for procrasonating are 1. Got a job interview after work tomorrow so don't want to get there fucked. 2. Not sure if its a student night tonight and need to sort some fake ID out. Right so the plan is to got out tomorrow night no matter what. Now the question is am I being to hard on myself. Been to the gym three times this week, went for a game of snooker on Monday and went to a NA meeting last night or am I slowly letting this slip. The plan for the rest of the week is to go out tomorrow, Friday and Saturday night plus Saturday day.
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Friday 7th

Went out last night only did 4 street approaches as club was too busy to get into.

Just got back from Friday night out had a fun night but started slow due to me being tired from only getting 3 hours sleep. Really struggled with AA early in the night. Not sure whether to go to the gym now or go to sleep.
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Saturday 7th

Went out and did day game today, the first two sets were just short ten second interactions. The third was a woman from Germany who was going to back to Germany next week tried to get her to come for a day two but she was too busy. Talked to her for about fifteen minutes.
The fourth woman wasn't very receptive but seemed quite young so didn't push it. The fifth was two women who I talked to for about five minutes tried to number close one but she had a boyfriend.

Went out of the night opened some guy/girl sets and then moved to a loud busy club were I opened some sets but just couldn't get into a talkative mood and was being really weird.
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Monday 9th

Just got back from the gym after a good rest day yesterday, where I spent the day relaxing and wanking (moments of weakness). I have been laughing a lot about how pathetic my night was on Saturday. The plan was to go and try and approach every set in a bar/nightclub, this didn't happen as I got terrible AA. I walked into the first bar and after a minutes hesitation opened the first set by the door, I opened with is this the best bar in town. I spoke to them for a few minutes without really transitioning from the opener (one guy, one girl). Next I approached two guys standing at the bar, with the same opener and again chatted to them for a few minutes without really transitioning. I think this was the problem, I was trying to force the interaction rather than just letting it flow. I then approached two girls who were part of a larger group of guys, this didn't last long and then I approached two more girls which lasted a couple of minutes. I then moved next door and the place was just packed so that you could hardly move. I ended up standing around for a while (getting in my head). When I finally approached I was just freaking the women out as I was so outcome dependant on getting a good reaction from the women that it came of super weird.
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Monday 9th

Just got back from the gym after a good rest day yesterday, where I spent the day relaxing and wanking (moments of weakness). I have been laughing a lot about how pathetic my night was on Saturday. The plan was to go and try and approach every set in a bar/nightclub, this didn't happen as I got terrible AA. I walked into the first bar and after a minutes hesitation opened the first set by the door, I opened with is this the best bar in town. I spoke to them for a few minutes without really transitioning from the opener (one guy, one girl). Next I approached two guys standing at the bar, with the same opener and again chatted to them for a few minutes without really transitioning. I think this was the problem, I was trying to force the interaction rather than just letting it flow. I then approached two girls who were part of a larger group of guys, this didn't last long and then I approached two more girls which lasted a couple of minutes. I then moved next door and the place was just packed so that you could hardly move. I ended up standing around for a while (getting in my head). When I finally approached I was just freaking the women out as I was so outcome dependant on getting a good reaction from the women that it came of super weird.
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 Sunday 15th

Honesty.

RIght now I haven't been out this week once.  I think it all started on Tuesday, when I ate a whole box of chocolates that I had bought for someone or perhaps it started Sunday when I spent the day relaxing and wanking.  Why are good habits so easily broken yet bad habits so hard to break, guess its just getting into a real hardcore routine.  Resistance is hardest when your closer to the finish.  Any way Tuesday I ate a whole box of chocolates then went to a NA meeting (just started going to these again and really recomend them to anyone who needs to drink to have a good time) this was good.  Then Wednesday roles round and I don't go out because it is mainly a student night and I haven't any student ID, I have been trying to sort some fake ID out for a few weeks now, but it has proven quiet difficult.  More to do with having the time to sit down and get photos, signature scaned in and form printed off.  So Wednesday night I don't go out, Thursday night I decide not to go out as strait after work tomorrow (friday) I am meeting a friend for a drink and then going for a meal afterwards and as my wing doesn't text me I don't go out Thursday night.  Friday I go for the drink and meal get back home and meditate and I am feeling absolutely fucked.  I decide I will got out and just get my 5 approaches in as quickly as possible and come home.  I decide to have a quick power nap of twenty minutes which I wake up from 5 hours later (now too late to go out).  This has sort of fucked my weekend up and I now start to think, I moght aswell just leave it this weekend and then end up not going out all weekend.  I am now worried that come next Wednesday/Thursday night I will tell myself that I am going on a retreat in two weeks time so I might aswell start back up then.  So the plan is: tomorrow; go to a NA meeting, Tuesday down my Dads for his birthday, Wednesday chill, Thursday night out pimpin, then weekend away hopefully meeting up with a few old wings, Friday night pimpin, Saturday day pimpin, Saturday night pimpin, Sunday day pimpin and possibly Friday evening day pimpin.

Just hope I can keep to this and don't make bullshit excuses.

Pimpin
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 Friday 20th

Managed to get out tonight which was a big plus as I was worried that I would make excuses and especially after my wing cancelled on me.  Only stopped out for an hour did five approaches, one k close one number (number flaked but I think she accidentally put the wrong number in).
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 Saturday 21st

First set was a street set walked along with them for a few minutes.
Second set was Mixed set stayed in there talking bollocks for about 10 mins.
Third set was a hot woman in a group of 3 talked to her for about ten minutes, she seemed bored but kept in there.
Fourth set got a soft slap in the face for telling her that her home town was shit, continued on for a few minutes later then she lost interest.
Fifth set was a hot woman who seemed really into me but then her boyfriend came who was really friendly.
Sixth set Hot indian woman missed the oppertunity for the kiss and left it too late.
Seventh Hot half indian half english woman who blew me off after a few minutes.

Good night just feeling tired now.
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Sunday 22nd

Had a good night tonight lots of sets and had fun.  The blow outs didn't effect me.
Was thinking about not going out tonight aswell.
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